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Queerworld:
Sir my sister can't see an officer sir. She can't even see a whiteman talk more of an officer

Godfada how will u make your boy dash. Sir but jokes apart have never seeing u doing job before o. Even as a cadet corporal and cadet sergeant. I remember one time at junction u were the sergeant on duty and I was not dressing probably even with my 2 bars. Instead of doing job. U were dressing for me that day and advising me how koronge a cadet should look



Sir I doubt you it of u can make a cadet dash. Yourself and BSUO UE NWAMA. U were the Academy Mummy and now u r gone he's the Academy mummy.


Sir seriously I will miss u a lot o. I just reached ibadan now sef.

Permission sir

Queerworld:
Sir my sister can't see an officer sir. She can't even see a whiteman talk more of an officer

Godfada how will u make your boy dash. Sir but jokes apart have never seeing u doing job before o. Even as a cadet corporal and cadet sergeant. I remember one time at junction u were the sergeant on duty and I was not dressing probably even with my 2 bars. Instead of doing job. U were dressing for me that day and advising me how koronge a cadet should look



Sir I doubt you it of u can make a cadet dash. Yourself and BSUO UE NWAMA. U were the Academy Mummy and now u r gone he's the Academy mummy.


Sir seriously I will miss u a lot o. I just reached ibadan now sef.

Permission sir

Intrepid01:
Oga, your submission that Yoruba don't take family seriously based on three plus one examples is fallaciou!!!!....what an experiment? Using 3 plus one to judge a WHOLE TRIBE....Go to Oyingbo and many other areas in Lagos and see many Iya chinyere without a husband..ask them...Baba Chinyere don waka!..I know atleast 5 Igbo families in my area without a Father, will I be right to say IGBO TRIBE DONT TAKE FAMILY SERIOUSLY?......pls be careful the kind of statement you make on public forum

Ihebu4chelsea:
no sir I don't know where to get it. I will appreciate if you can help me out

jaymichael:
Soldier, from your narratives, I have drawn the opinion that you are a naturally good natured person. If you want to hear my honest opinion, I will tell you to move on but just keep Ada as a friend, no romance attached. I say this because I was in a similar situation. Mine was almost 6 years. The family that didn't know how she managed to survive since her father died, were the ones threatening to disown her if she ever bring a Yoruba man home as husband. She was someone I deflowered, opened her account for her, encouraged her and gave her money resit her SSCE, stood by her when she gained admission, did my best to be a Father, brother and friend to her which her people know. I had to move on when I couldn't overcome their blind bigotry and hatred for Yoruba people.
Ada's father one of the less obstacles, her Father's family may bring their own obstacles even if the father accepts or they will give you impossible conditions to meet before marrying their daughter. His thinking may be that this Yoruba strange wants to come inherit my properties.
Move on, Kole work.

Queerworld:
Ubanka.........arm of rubbish.

Ihebu4chelsea:
thanks boss. I appreciate

Ihebu4chelsea:
@op please can you help me secure admission in NDA it's very important please. 08166632634

donlucabrazi:
I see you having a very successful career in the Army. You have the right temperament

All the best in your career and love life

Queerworld:
So have forgotten her royal highness have carried on..... Sir and enof sarma go dey dia.

Queerworld:
U u feel u must comment ba?

When they say civilians are confused you people start throwing real confusion. When someone wrote advise me so so so. And the only tin u can write about is the error in his tenses usage


Pple like u dnt survive a day here coz na over sabi they bring cadet out and that cadet will end up dashing.



With all the GNS u know, I want to believe you are driving a rolls Royce. Or u r cruising a buggati



Confused pple

Queerworld:
U u feel u must comment ba?

When they say civilians are confused you people start throwing real confusion. When someone wrote advise me so so so. And the only tin u can write about is he tenses usage


Pple like u dnt survive a day here coz na over sabi they bring cadet out and that cadet will end up dashing.



With all the GNS u know, I want to believe you are driving a rolls Royce. Or u r cruising a buggati



Confused pple

Queerworld:
Sir they will just issue u lagos for total laluxing. Or borno.


One of your coursemates is crossing jack sword tomorrow. One highlander. Lt Abdulfatai or so

OLUWAcypris1:
he is Airborne sir

donlucabrazi:
Guy! you are no longer a teenager work on your written English. More so, now that you are an officer in the Army. I struggled to read all what you wrote up there!

No offence meant

Queerworld:
Sir I was just marking time for my arty man. Although they gave him pass yesterday so we are taking night bus today....... Sir how far with clearance?

OLUWAcypris1:
am married to an officer, we met when he was a cadet , initially my father was trying to make things difficult bcs he is the over protective type and am the first born, infact during break whenever I want to travel to go c my husband that time my daddy will instruct me strictly not to go to anywhere but for whr? before he comes bk from work I Don travel, when daddy saw that I was serious and really love my husband and saw the seriousness in my husband he just allowed us , Now we are married and everyone is okay,

Sir, what am saying now is that try to reach your gf hear from her if she is ready to fight for your love, nd know what the mum feels about everything,

Tribe has nothing to do with broken home, people marry for so many stupid reasons thats why most marriages don't last

All the best Sir

Greene66:
I disagree, most wolves lives in packs and hunt as a team.

Queerworld:
Sir HV emailed u. R u in CB too ur coursemates have been coming for clearance since Tuesday.

I didn't go home.

Greene66:
Wolf

The wolves are majestic and one of the most organised animals on earth. Smart, cute, and just too savage. I've always admired wolves since I was a kid... It's my love for wolves that makes me appreciate dogs that have the wolf look.

If I'm to be an animal, I'll be a wolf. Black Wolf.

Queerworld:
Morning godfather sir, and congrats sir how is clearance and officer cadre... Longing to becoming like you next 2 years I was in ur coursemates after party in old site and sir seriously I even saw Snr okeniyi in naval ceremonials. She's just too much too watch its actually an inspiration for me o. Sir am your homes wen I read through your story I immediately know you are the one because I always hear your voice call back then in Mogadishu batallion charlie company. For you to know I know her royal highness sir, her name starts with Charlie and ends with Echo. Her surname is foxtroit. Lolzz.


Oga sir I dnt know what to say o..... But like you said quarter master should have issued sarma for us anytime they issue khaya...... Sir I will send a email because I lost your line long ago

Permission sir.

lahit14:
@op, I feel ur pain, from everything I gather this ur Ada is such a wonderful girl, young prospective doctor with potential, my guess is she must be very beautiful, I need a favor man, am looking for a girl with charisma like this one to marry, am a young bachelor, very serious.... Pls i Beg u can u give me her number so that we can hook up, oh am igbo... I won't have that problem with her bigoted father.... Thanks... GOD will bless u

Marcelo290:
OP, I took my time to read your post word for word, and as an Igbo guy that I am, I would try to give you the best advice I can.

Firstly to be objective, the tribalism that exists between these two tribes shouldn't be written off, but while some of us became enlightened and educated and see beyond ethnicity, others would find it very hard, most of my tribesmen see Yoruba's as weak, lazy, cowards, Women beaters, yahoo yahoo (It's a perception which doesn't define the whole Yoruba people) and all that. Their opinions may be built on personal experiences but most of the times, just some hear say stories.

Coming to this your case, Ada is the first and only daughter of the man, you wouldn't blame him much going by the perception I had explained earlier. He wouldn't want to see his only daughter suffer, he is very insecure and afraid of uncertainties, he had already envisaged how he would hand over his lovely daughter to a well deserved Igbo man, how the traditional wedding and all our cultural rights would be made, so he wasn't happy atall, he would obviously reprimand the daughter about trying to bring shame to the family and lineage, trust me I know all these.

My family was once entangled in this same scenario when my cousin sister found love outside our tribe, every trial to convince her fell on deaf ears, her parents were all sad, they viewed it as selling off their pretty daughter, but the girl insisted and the man himself showed commitments and promised to treat her well, after everything said and done, they are happily married today. Some men are autocratic though, but with the help of the mother and girl (If she loves you wella) and your show of commitments, things could change.

Don't listen to people who tell you to leave her, I perfectly understand your story and I'm affirmative that things could change if you truly love her and she does too, call her, sit her down and reinstate your love and commitment to her, it wouldn't be an easy ride, but stand your ground and be confident, you guys would definitely tell your stories someday if the marriage is successful and it would help to salvage this tribal situation amongst these two great tribes. Try winning her mom and other family members over, her dad may be sad and resilient at first but would fall back to accept when he sees every other person has accepted adding to the commitment you show.

It's a good thing you didn't tell your mom, atimes we get to fight for the one we love, all the best brother and congratulations! don't forget to invite me when the time comes, treat my sister well o

kimbraa:
You often used "You know Igbo men, or trust Igbo men" If I may ask, what are Igbo men like?. This is the 'Tribalistic' undertone I sensed in your narrative. That being said, nothing good comes easily. If you truly love her, you've got to prove that by being patient with her father. Since she's an only child, and too young for that matter, he'd give any man that comes headache first.

kimbraa:
You made lot of sense but keeping his distance from her family will seem he isn't serious. The girl's father was only being a father and father in-laws don't immediately embrace their son in-laws on first meetings. Op will have to earn her father's affection by consistent visitation and how well his daughter is treated. When he sense seriousness in the guy he'll give his bleesings. Again, it's not as if the op intends marring now so as a man whose daughter is still young and has all the time, he may be guiding her.

From the op's narration there's also an undertone of a tribalist 'cause how he described Igbo men.

JONNYSPUTE:
Op if the truth must be told,u caused it. First u don't go to somebody's compound Nd park ur car in the only available car park left,that' shows u were arrogant ( don't blame u thou.it was ur first car)Secondly u tried to argue with him when he was saying all those rubbish,u should ve only said am sorry sir Nd kept quiet. But all ope is not lost,try to go back there,talk to his wife Nd ur gf,establish a r/ ship with him Nd let him see who u really re. Just win ur gf Nd her mum to urside Nd u re good to go.

Young03:
person only child....you won't understand

Point 1 is that 60% of everything the man said is true, he have witnessed many that's why he's certain in his speech


All u need to do is just keep the communication going in between the mother n daughter.

They are the one to change the mans ideology but I don't see the man allowing his only daughter marry a Yoruba

nuggarito:
I thought soldiers are men, bro gather morale work this out. She's yours and don't be afraid because an ordinary man is depriving you of what you want. Everything dey your hand soldier

muller101:
Op pull out. This country is not one I swear. A friend of mine from the East wanted to marry a Yoruba lady . But the girl's dad was telling my guy how the igbos are bad , dealing in drugs and all manner of crap. But this same man married 2 women. One in the village the other one in ibadan. For me I consider myself a Nigerian before my tribe.