Sweetplum:
There more to this story. Wish we can hear from the babymama

Person wen go don put leg for outside so,Life man need to be wise in woman aspect

Sweetplum:

Malnourished boy, I can help you. Don't die as a wasted soul. Eat food

Are you an idol worshiper?,run oooo����

Stawner16:
Reading the previous comments gave me mixed emotions because at a point in my life, I could relate to those experiences. Loss of a loved one, financial problems, big wins, depression, elevation... list is endless. To those reading this with a heavy heart, don't give up on that life you've always dreamt of. As long as you've got life inside of you, you're not finished yet

Love and kisses to you for this

Faber:
Thats my way now. Who love help. In my new neighbourhood, I now buy my stuffs at one particular supermarket. The owner, a woman is building trust in me. I buy stuffs there only in the evenings, when she is usually around. She will tell me to go with the items and bring the balance much later. I have done that on 5 different occasions and returned the balance at exactly the time I promised her, this have been on for sometime now. This week I began familarizing with her very ugly, fat daughter of 20yrs. She now knows my house, she saw me one morning coming out with my friends and was happy cos my house makes sense die. Omo I am doing all these things cos I will be needing a loan, around 5 million to set up a farm next year. I got intels that she helps big men in the hood with loans. She is a top ranking officer in a bank up town.

Life na Compass����

Women with their problems and wahala,I choose to be a lone ranger ooooo,I no want die of BP

SisterFire:
...how do u feel causing pains to women?
Tell me ,How do u feel?

Feels great, women una get head?

omolasho:


Before I will list out your remedies, I would like to say that your woman elopes because of the following;
1. See finish; she has lost almost all respect for you by involving third parties and not hiding to your advise and instructions.

2. Finance; both of you are unable to manage your financial challenges maturedly.

3. Abuse; you both exchange psychological and physical abuse over the years.

REMEDY 1
Your emotion; your first adversary now is your mind. It's worried that you will not see your son again, another guy will be sexing your wife, she would get more care from other guys than she got from you, your son will be at the mercy of others, She would villify you before people. Oops calm down your mind! The best thing to do now is to do nothing.

Still trying......

Deep and very very true I'll be sharing my WhatsApp digits, I'll be forever grateful and indebted to all who wish to help,my self esteem has been hurt probably 0.0001%, this lady used my weakness against me


How am I suppose to move on, now I believe all women are like that, selfish and exploiting, I've been bruised badly.

franchasng:
He doesn't need to delete it because no matter the complains and whining guys do online and even offline, whenever they are ready to marry, they will still pick a wife from one of our ladies, unless he wants to end up as a gay



I used to bash Naija ladies in the past too, but more exposure and experience have taught me better. These things are normal all over the world.


Any man that has the opportunity to travel around some cities of the world will realize that it is not just Nigerian ladies that love men for money, its worst in developed countries.


In countries like The US, an average black guy can never get a young hot white blonde until he makes it big in entertainment or sport.


It is the nature of women all over the world, and the reason Al Pacino said:


When you get the money, you get the power, and when you get the power, the world is yours.

I. Life at least make person get money

MufasaLion:


Now, you just confirmed my suspicion. This is the problem someone like you always have in marriage, because you all always marry the ladies that are perceived to be "slay" instead of those that slay and still have intellectual capabilities, hardworking, honest, ambitious etc. Sadly, you lots are intimidated by them and go for the ones you can subdie, buy their love, attention etc with money and material things.

Many of you just date for fun and don't have proper and intellectual conversations during when you're dating, and most times, unwanted pregnancy is the reason y'all end up together.

You've made a mistake, if you feel you can take care of the boy, you should involve the cops or some NGOs. Although I don't think the boy should be in the custody of either of you because none of you have what it takes to raise a child that will see virtue in being upright, honest, non-toxic, legal etc.

I wish you well and I hope you right your wrong.

I tried begging the mother, just imagine she's telling me if the child grows, he'll know his father.

Nemesis0147:
she made you turned your face from family?
Well,I pray you heal fast but learn your lesson.

Family all we gat....your wife or girlfriend is not family!!

From your post,you are down.

Breakfast well served......you will be fine

I cry almost all the time, shit is this how it is?

Lastlook:


After reading your post. I burst to laugh, it hurt me for you but you gotta let it all go. Same experience here, mine is even worst. But see me now, found the right girl. she is willing and read to grow with me. Give me advise, business orientation, forcing me to invest instead of wasting money on flashing things. Come and tell my babe you earn $1 or 360 naira, she will be happy and want to know more and how it can be increase. Life sha.


Let me narrate for you my ex-gf. I saw this girl online, on Facebook before i gain admission into a university then around 2012/2013. I love her so much even without us knowing each other yet.

That prompt me to registered to the same university, that means she senior me with a year. OK, that is fine by me, no worries. Lucky for me, I was given an admission to a lovely course lower than what i put in for but no problem by me. Got a mission to accomplished.

To make the story short, I got this girl lastly, Same year in the university, I gave her everything. Sorry to mention this but just to calm you down:

I pay for the girl self contain house rent for 2 years means (3lvl to 4lvl)

She take extra course outside the four wall. Cost 70k per semester (paid for the 4 year)

To fix her hair - (5k to 10k within a week or two)
Monthly pocket money worth (50k to 200k ) depend on how things work for me for that month

Got her 2 different phone, Blackberry Z10, first phone in second year and third year - Samsung s8 plus new one (150k)

She said, she wanna start working to make money ( 200k per attempt for 3 times and failed )

Sometimes, if I feel happy or just to make her happy ( I will transfer 200k to her several times )

For a lady room in a university to be fined than guys own even better than mine. She had TV, washing machine, gen, many things a rich girl needed.

Some times she will request for some things like big money that I don't have, but I never said NO. I will go and borrow to the extend, I can the you, borrow me 30k, I will pay you 50k back, just to be able to get the money, but she never knew all this.

See many things, I can't mentioned that I did for her, if posted here, I need to be called a bastard. ( Not once, i have ever mention this to my friend, unless you are close to me, If you asked me, I will tell you, I am the one that break her heart, Just to have one peace )


Meanwhile she have another BF outside x2 older than me. I was the side boy haha haha for 3 to 4 years.

I run into a lot of shit, that i had to leave the school for a year, working to solve all the problems, I endanger my self with.

Lucky for me, I was making 30k per day then and got paid same day for a full year, I was using this money to pay off the debits. You wouldn't believe, she still call me and asked me to help her with 200k. I have the money but i said OK, I will send it in 3 days before that 3 days, I still send her 20k to be chilling down ahahhaahha.

So on the third day, I know, if I should send the money, I can't get it back again. I told her that, I was sorry, I couldn't get the money, that I am not happy, its hurt, that I couldn't get it.

When she asked for the money early, she said, we are going to have sex, all those sweet words. I said good, that am even missing her already.

So when i said, I don't have. She be like, I want to tell you something before, I be like what? She said, she is sorry, that she have a boy friend already.

I burst to laugh. I was laughing, I said, is she for real, she said yes, I said OK then, good luck.

I was happy and laughing because, God delivered me from her, from fake love, from dying, she is married, already have a baby.... Anyway I wish her best life and not once, i never think anything bad for her.

But God will reward me all my effort and time wasted when I thought, I found the right girl. (She even told my friend that, we are just friend from the beginning, and never had sex, that she is helping not to get dupe by those girls out there ) hahahhahaha, I can't laugh joor. Ladies eh, nawa for una ooooo.

Am in your shoes,all my Yahoo money,this lady blew it off,now am back to square zero�����,bro I will never love again

UnusualEmissary:
If you're genuinely suffering, I pray God helps you out.

Your write up dey confuse me somehow somehow

Emotional damages and depression has no cure, especially when you encounter damaged women,I mean women who had gone through series of relationship and pre marriage, just avoid them,those single with children worst

zarathustra:
If only you can calm down, get yourself together, focus on your job and hubbies this moment and it's torments will pass away. If you cannot do these things and let this moment define and dictate for you, you will be defeated.
This is all I can tell you. I have seen much worse scenarios and the men survived them by doing exactly what I advised you here. Do it and you will see how the table will turn.

Worst part is this lady just cut me off from my child,what is she going to feed him with lies,I need all help I can get not financially please please please please, because right now I don't know where to start am an emotional wreck

MufasaLion:
Kindly narrate what led to her action. This is a half-baked story. No reasonable person will advise based on what you wrote.

It all started with quarrels,even if she's the one that offends me I'll be the one to apologize,Omo this girl did a lot

1,) Advising and not agreeing I start a business, although Yahoo pays occasionally

2.) Turned my face from my family and that of my family from me

3.) Financially drained me

4) Eloping with a married man with my son, LOL

Definitely if I get back on my feet, I'll just adopt children and train them,women are so bleeped up

This isn't suppose to be out here,but I have seen others healed ,and I believe I can also,aside eloping with another man,even under my roof,and finally packing everything in the house,and allowing me to see my son,any form to contact her to no avail.

It's fine Sha���,Shebi wen man turn beast una go start swearing up and down,true love doesn't exist.

No insult I no receive from this lady,I agreed to the breakup,and insults,but putting my son in a tight spot not to partake in his life,women una do well, biggest lie of the century her mother and relatives say they don't know where she is,aside the emotional damages,debts incurred ND many more,I believe am still here,I can't just die like a guinea fowl,almost 4 months since I saw my son,poor boy,Shit happens I just pity any incoming lady,men also hurt and they do so more especially when love is involved.


How can one be so brutal to the extent of saying am not the father,if she was desperate for a child , infact let me just say God take control

Mature advise needed I don't want to go into any destructive behavior and am tired of crying

Broveens42:



I think the best advice is to find love within your soul before anybody.
Your advice sounds like my hostel mates in those who would go all out to buy shawarma for a woman but come back to the room to beg for garri and groundnut, even if there's no sugar. And Some would use salt with the excuse that too much sugar is not good for the system

Loving yourself and knowing your value, that's the point right there

ibechris:



Nawa...u need to rebuild yourself and be a better man...for sure, there are good women out there that will surely love u more than u have gone through.

God will help me fight and bring my Son to me

ibechris:




U are depressed yet u still want to be tough on women...how?

Most times we are the problem and not these women as we often mistakenly think...search yourself out and find out where u got it all wrong and amend.

Women are not the way u guys see them...most men would meet a woman at the club and expect her to be a wonderful woman when such a lifestyle can't be changed oversight.

I therefore say,where u meet her matters alot.

Good luck to u.

This one pass Club bro

gozzlin:
Apparently both of you did not divorce officially. She has no right to deny you access to your son.

Just sue her and seek a legal dissolution of the marriage and ask the court to grant you custody of the child. Even if the court grants custody of the child to her, the court will still grant your request to be allowed to see your son periodically.

Just try and remove the thoughts of your ex-wife from your mind. It would be difficult at first, but with time you'll get over her. If you have a fulfilling job, I think it's enough to distract you from being fixated on her.

There are many ladies out there, life goes on. Your happiness is not predicted on one singular person. Get that into your head.

I need to be tough on women

Ezemann:
I can be your pain. I felt the same when I separated from my girlfriend whom I loved so well. It was suicidal but everything is just about time, you'll get over it. The truth is after some time you will hate yourself for entangling with her. That's how life is.


Transfer your thoughts into productive things. Also, think about her bad sides of life, you'll forget about her sharp sharp.

By the way do you know of any anti depressants?

Graciousheart01:


She's even refusing me from seeing my Son

If not my Son ehn,and she's just being plain evil

Ezemann:
I can be your pain. I felt the same when I separated from my girlfriend whom I loved so well. It was suicidal but everything is just about time, you'll get over it. The truth is after some time you will hate yourself for entangling with her. That's how life is.


Transfer your thoughts into productive things. Also, think about her bad sides of life, you'll forget about her sharp sharp.

She's even refusing me from seeing my Son

Ezemann:
I can be your pain. I felt the same when I separated from my girlfriend whom I loved so well. It was suicidal but everything is just about time, you'll get over it. The truth is after some time you will hate yourself for entangling with her. That's how life is.


Transfer your thoughts into productive things. Also, think about her bad sides of life, you'll forget about her sharp sharp.

God bless you brother

Graciousheart01:
Lately I just got Divorced (separated) and moving on seems so hard, even while in the relationship I use to be sad all times,now I'm praying for God"s help,a friend adviced that my depression can be medically handled,tried killing myself twice last week,Is this as a result of the separation because I can't help thinking about her and my son,she just vanished into thin air, please and please nairalanders, have you passed through severe depression like this?

Why will I be thinking if it's not her no one else,why am I very sad?,why can't I be happy for once?, Sucidal thoughts all the time,am in Warri and I need serious help

Anyone else out there who can sincerely help,i.e without taking an advantage of someone, been depressed makes one vulnerable , I need opinions on how to start afresh God bless everyone

Lately I just got Divorced (separated) and moving on seems so hard, even while in the relationship I use to be sad all times,now I'm praying for God"s help,a friend adviced that my depression can be medically handled,tried killing myself twice last week,Is this as a result of the separation because I can't help thinking about her and my son,she just vanished into thin air, please and please nairalanders, have you passed through severe depression like this?

Why will I be thinking if it's not her no one else,why am I very sad?,why can't I be happy for once?, Sucidal thoughts all the time,am in Warri and I need serious help