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Na so God create that guy. Let him be. He's disabled. Isn't is fault. Enrol him in sports school. He'll do it better.

femeritus:
The specified tyre spec for my car is 195/65 R15 but I'm thinking of changing to 205/65 R15. Will this have any significant impact on my car? Plus can someone explain the difference between 195 and 205.

Don't try it

myself13:
At 51?
Pussy vhat has been smitten to smithereens.
hm.You sure say the Pickin wey she go burn go still geh prick or vjay? Hm. Afuwa m anya!

Why do we have a lot of senseless people on this forum these days? You're talking about someone's wife in such a disgusting manner. Seun please do something before people like this drag this great forum to the mud.

Happy hour

justwise:
Congratulations!

Hello Mr. Justwise, how can I get your contact?

princeking2:
As a product of 5 boys. Permit me please to tell you something you may do
1. Enforce rule in your house. Guys are difficult to deal with. Be forceful. No insults, no foul words, no leaving duties for the other person. Just make rules but be flexible. You understand naa.
2. Give respect always to the eldest and assign responsibilities to him.
3. Always make it clear in the house that a senior is a senior by rebuking them when the younger insults, or hurts the senior. Take side with the senior when he's right and rebuke/punish him when he's wrong to create an impression that you love them all.
4. Always buy things for everyone, if you buy for one and leave out the other, jealousy will soon start.
5. Commit them to God. If you are a Christian, let them understand that life is spiritual and their actions are accountable. Don't say they are kids, they will understand better as kids.
Finally, keep talking, keep shouting, keep doing it.
They will become your pillars tomorrow.
God bless.

God bless you for this bro, you just open my eyes.

Exactly the same issue in my house. I don't know what to do. I don tire. Na 3 boys God give me.

The younger one (second born) too troublesome, if your take him to the bank, eatery, etc, he'll scattered everywhere, people must notice him. He's just 2years old.

This boy needs every support he could get

Daboomb:
A lot of immature people have adviced you to beat your Dad (which is what l suppose you really want to hear) but before you do, l want you to ponder on one thing:
You have other grown-up brothers from the other wife of your father.
Can you beat those men as well?
What if you beat your Dad and one of them bigger brothers decided and beat the hell out fo you for beating "his own Dad"?
What if two or three of them even team-up and beat sheege sense into your head, can you handle that? Dont forget that he is not your own exclusive Dad, others wont fold their hand and watch you kill him for them

Because you are stronger than your Dad 'now', you think that gives you the license to take laws into your hand, not minding that you are placing a "curse" on your own head? Think about it for a minute, just one minute.
What is good for the Goose, is also good for the Gander.

Now, let me x-ray what you wrote, and hold you to account by your own words.

*Your Dad pays the school fees of everyone else, except you! What does that say of you?
*The other children side with your Dad! What does that say about your own character?
*You say your Dad "barks"! What does that say about you, as a son?
*You say your Dad 'causes rift' between you and your other siblings! What does that say about your personality and behaviour in the family?

The above clearly shows that you are a PROBLEM CHILD otherwise, your other siblings will not side with your Dad (at least not all of them).
For your Dad to refuse to pay your own school fees while paying for others, even a 30yr old, shows that he is a responsible man but you are just disobedient child of the family and you think using your mother's situation as an excuse, will allow you to get back at your Dad.

Generally speaking, let us assume your Dad and mother do quarrel a lot and being a man, he would definitely have the upper hand (no man will keep beating a woman, if she is not fighting back, over and over again. It is against the laws of conflict. Just think about it).
A good child will try to get to the root of the matter and try to "make peace" between the two, not take sides and want to beat one-up, for the other.
For your Dad to have lived with your mother for 21yrs, means there is something good about him and something good about your Mum...but differences do develop in all marriages and since a ship cant have two captains, without sinking, one of the parents must adopt the "sheep attitude" if the other has adopted a "goat attitude". But if yoru Dad is the Goat and your Mum also decides she wants to be a Goat, then they have to slug it out physically - That is a matter of choice for each of them.

Again, a sane child would have solicited the help of other older siblings, to amke peace in the marriage but a wayward one like you cant think along that line. You are just itching to beat up that old man, for all the anger you have bottled-up inside, against him.

But let me assure you of a few things:
- Karma is a bitch, beat up the man (assuming he is helpless), then watch what happens to you in future, even if you claim you wont touch your wife, it could just be a neighbours son that would pay you back..... but surely, you will get paid back with better 'interest'.

- If you beat that 'old man' up, there are "things" that the older generation can do to 'stronger young' men like you, to teach them the lesson of their life (you have made your self the 'enemy within' and would be treated as such).
Dont blame anybody if you become paralysed or run mad very soon.

- Your other older sibling, especially the Males, are watching you closely (they may not have said anything now) but the day they hear that you lay hands on their father, that is the day they would teach you a good lesson in life.

My advice for you, since it appears you are beyond redemption, is to move your Mum out of the house, to a house you rent for her outside so that she can be Queen and authority in that place.
While l dont support spouses getting physical with each other, especially older people, l think 21yrs is enough time to study and understand one's spouse and their 'temperament'. If by now, they still cant live together peacefully, she should seek alternative accomodation and leave the "mad man" alone to his madness.

God bless you sir.

prechbills1:
the person that has been giving your mom money for food, gave you and her shelter is now a modafvker right?

I guess you can only say this nonsense on social media

Bro. Stop wasting your time replying these kids. One day they'll become a father and understand better.

Beey:
Some comments make me mad.Like this one.Is there a reason good enough to beat a grown woman? Is she his wife or daughter? Were you there when his mom was running her mouth like you said? Gosh, these kind of comments just piss me off.It's like you are saying for his dad to get respect he must beat his mom up.Respect is earned & can't be obtained through force.Either you protect your mom because leaving her to be beaten up is betrayal in itself, or have her consider separation from your dad until a solution is found.

I see accumulated anger, bitterness and frustration from that man's angel. No sane man will start hitting his wife without reason. When you're frustrated, little things will start annoying you even when you should overlook it.

They've completely destroyed that man's ego, the only way he know he could get it back is by violent, he's not like this before, I'm very sure about this. They turned him to monster so they have to enjoy it while last. (note, I hate people that beat their wife ill never support such act) but imaging this boy telling his father he'll beat him up (to his face).

Don't be sentimental when you're commenting on issues like this. Bible says 'Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land... '.

He pays all of his children's bills expect for this arrogant boy. I've said this before and I'm saying it again, two wrong doesn't make a right, if the man is angry, let the woman be calm.

You want to beat your father up? Go ahead, one day you'll marry hence you'll understand better.

Tell your mum to stop running her mouth and keep quite when necessary. Your dad isn't a mad man, he can't be beating your mum without reason. Two wrong doesn't make a right. One need to be submissive to another.

Congratulations op. You seems happy. Sorrow will not end your marriage. You'll not regret. Amen

If you can leave with it, go ahead, if you can't, walk away. You're not gonna die. You did nothing wrong, she betrayed your trust, she'll be the one to face the consequences.

deliciousgeh:
This is a delicate issue. Stop the quarrelling for now and solve the issue with serious prayers and seek counselling. Try not to take the issue to your pastor or parents. Take your wife out, spoil her, then have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her the dreams, tell her you love her and won't divorce her but ask her to explain y you always have those kinds of dreams
. let her know you were hurt by the lies she told but that you are willing to forget it all if she can totally open up to any other secret she might be keeping. Please be very gentle with her o.

What kind of advice is this? Pls op, ignore

Oga, your wife doesn't have iota of respect for you. You cause this, it's your fault. It is not too late anyway, you can make amend.

You expect woman to reason the same way you do, women love man that command respect, you don't force it, you just make it happen, you're acting like a pu.sssy to your wife and she sees you like one.

Start from here, whenever you're talking to her and she's busy pressing her phone, take the phone from her and smash it on the floor. Pls don't ever raise your hands on your wife.

If worse comes to worse, let her go. The only weapon you have as a man is ability to walk away. You're emotionally stressed. Don't call her. You

eyeview:
Personally, the first question i ask whenever i see such situation is this: Didnt you see these signs when you were dating or where you blinded by something else or where you one of those who think they will change in marriage?

Stop asking this dumb question? You can date for 10years and still not get it right in marriage. Never compare marriage with dating.

You don't know what to do? Chai. Some men can fall hand sha. This small issue you don't know what to do. Bringing small issues as this to social media is uncalled for. What da heck? Your wife is right, you're home doing nothing, you're not gonna do it for ever, just during your leave.

This's is the right thing your ought to do without your wife even call your attention to it. You're married now you need to make sacrifices to keep your home.

This's your family for crying out loud. Oga, don't let your wife remind you tomorrow before you take her to her shop. What nonsense.

That man should congratulate himself. He's one lucky dude. Send her packing and live your life. If you ever marry again, you're a big fool.

No sane man will start hitting his wife without reason. Women, Pls learn to control your tongues, stop provoking your husband to anger.

You'll call your husband 'useless man' and compare him with another man and you expect him to love and care for you more?

If you want sweet marriage, learn to respect your husband and stop nagging him to death. Husbands are humans too, they have emotions.

Seems you still love your wife, but you've let this issue linger for long '4months separation' chai. Call and tell her about your decision for reconciliation, her response would determine if you should go ahead or not. But whatever the outcome, don't be desperate, if she doesn't want, let her go. Goodluck

This's how people put asunder to marriage. They'll begin to put pressure on this man and he'll start thinking there's another motive for the court marriage. Let him be. Court marriage does not guarantee your happiness in the marriage. Your marriage is still very young, don't cause problem in your marriage. Think woman, think.

Onechancearmy:
Strictly for the mature of mind. Only fools will fail to appreciate that the beauty on display here is greater than anything you will see in the instagram account of the typical sleazy slay queens.

Guy, nothing beautiful about burnt skins. I love their boldness though.

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Before

Women always claiming the victim. Op, marriage needs a lot of sacrifices and commitment, without perseverance, you can't stay in marriage. Mind what you say to your husband and control your tongue. His people can't hate you for no reason, they are not mad people, you must have done something to warrant such maltreatment. To be sincere, your husband isn't mature enough, calling your parents all the time to report you. And allowing third parties to interfere in your marriage. To bad of him.

But you need to take charge, he's the one doing the begging whenever you moved out, do the begging this time around, there's a reason God connected both of you, Don't allow issues like this to ruin your marriage. Think about your daughter and your unborn baby. They need fatherly care and love. Don't commit murder by aborting that baby, who knows who the baby will become in future.

Pls work on your marriage. May God see you through.

May 2006, the day my elder brother was butcher like a ram. Turned out they killed the wrong guy after the killers confessed. They informed me about his death on phone, I almost ran mad. The guy I love so much. His killers are dead now.

We wey dey drive automatic no go understand this.

They'll return. IN JESUS NAME. AMEN

I'll do it. Send me WhatsApp msg

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