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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by rawe45: 10:37pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
thesicilian: mehn...right now my wife is screaming... 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by alsudaes1(m): 10:40pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
bebanky: It's actually my younger son who does same to his elder sister, while her own elder sister exerts her seniority on her, which now leaves my beautiful angel in the middle |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by PqsMike: 10:40pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
victorian: Lol....whats his present predicament and how old is he presently |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Otedollaryen: 10:42pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
PurestBoy:Slow him down by adding codeine to his diet. |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:45pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
grafixdon:As a product of 5 boys. Permit me please to tell you something you may do 1. Enforce rule in your house. Guys are difficult to deal with. Be forceful. No insults, no foul words, no leaving duties for the other person. Just make rules but be flexible. You understand naa. 2. Give respect always to the eldest and assign responsibilities to him. 3. Always make it clear in the house that a senior is a senior by rebuking them when the younger insults, or hurts the senior. Take side with the senior when he's right and rebuke/punish him when he's wrong to create an impression that you love them all. 4. Always buy things for everyone, if you buy for one and leave out the other, jealousy will soon start. 5. Commit them to God. If you are a Christian, let them understand that life is spiritual and their actions are accountable. Don't say they are kids, they will understand better as kids. Finally, keep talking, keep shouting, keep doing it. They will become your pillars tomorrow. God bless. 4 Likes |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by charlesazeh(m): 10:47pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
Otedollaryen: Momma pikin...did thread ain't for kids.... Sometimes just be quiet and read that way you can be able to learn...even if you never born today soon you will.....if you can contribute then do and not stubid mention.. 3 Likes |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:50pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
Childofdoom can relate |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by grafixdon: 10:53pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
princeking2: God bless you for this bro, you just open my eyes. 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by jaxxy(m): 10:53pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
saintade01: Lol reminds me of myself growing up. I did almost same thing. Bullied my elder brother just because he was cool headed and calm. He dare not take my toys... U can't watch them fight u have to correct the younger one and make him see he can't behave like dat. If need be spank him. With time the younger will understand his place and how to behave. |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
grafixdon:Thank you too. 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by victorian(f): 11:09pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
PqsMike: When he was done with his youth service, he started bullying my mum in her old age. Anytime I come back from work, I find my mum in her room crying that what has she done to deserve this kind of son. I will be so pissed and very angry. Cos this woman is frail and old already. What's wrong with this guy! I will calm my mum down and ask her what happened, she will tell me, that he brings ladies to the house and the ladies will come to where she's watching TV jejely o and he will come to the parlour and change the station she's watching saying his gf will prefer another station and she will look at him with shock, are u OK? He talk rudely back to her, and that she should go back to her room infront of his gfs. They end up exchanging bitter words and the girls will. Leave with embarrassment. After calming her down, I will go to his room and quarrel with him. Do u want to kill this woman! Our own mum again! And u know how frail and old she is! After shouting at him, he will say get out of my room! I will leave then go back and console mum. One day she had an heart attack cos of his bullying and wahala. And she died 10mins as I and neighbors were rushing her to hospital. Infact she died in my arms. I was so distraughted. On the day we buried her, at night. She came to my dreams and lunged at my brother that he killed her. Trying to strangle him in the dream.. I tried removing her hands from his neck. I did eventually and dragged her outside the house, she then slumped in my hands, saying he killed me.. He killed me. I was crying as I held onto her tightly, then she slept in my arms and I woke up! I confronted him, he said its a lie! Enemies are confusing my thoughts abiut him. I just shook my head as I kept crying.. So After her burial, after selling her houses and sharing everything she owned immediately , cos he wouldnt let me rest about relinquishing her property papers to him. He even trhreathened my life sef. So we sold everything. I told him the day he was itching for her property papers, that so it's because of mama houses, u were so troublesome and wanted her dead! No wonder! uv succeeded in killing her. He said am saying rubbish. He just need the houses sold! Last last sha, we sold everything. He squandered his share, with drugs and women then ended up in the village.. He's not himself anymore. Sometimes he talks to him, while he walks. He's like in a trance. I brought pastors, even alfas to pray for him, they all said he has been cursed by our mum on her dying day and he will suffer for many years before he gets himself back again and nobody can deliver him until the curse has run its course and duration. So he's just there sha. A shadow of himself but alive and kicking. One day the spirit of mama will set him free. Rest in Peace mum. It's a curse to give birth to a bad child. And don't ever over pamper your children. It has terrible repercussions in the future. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by victorian(f): 11:09pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
He's 33years old nw.. And still in his trance. |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by duketunde: 11:10pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
This just same as my 2 year old son and his 5 year old brother. The 2 year old is first to get outta bed then kicks his brother and tell you want to wee wee on the bed ehn..I slap you now. D drama no get end o. Surely they will grow outta some of this, overall they're best buddies saintade01: |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Walphem(m): 11:22pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
My mum trained 5 boys and anytime i look at what my son does now. It becomes scary how she coped.and we were all trained in a Godly way and everyone is quite successful. An envy of the community and all 5 children still dont have a girl yet...we still have boys as the grand children.the coincidence is quite funny 2 Likes |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Rukkydelta(f): 11:25pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
Please encourage your older son to stand up for his right. I once experience something like this when growing up was around 7/8years old then my cousins normally come for holidays. And I have this cousin sister that I'm 2months older than anytime she hits me I will start crying cos I was the gentle and quiet type until a day came when my mum and aunt scold me for being a weakling how can my younger one be beating me so she came and hit me one day. I beat her mercilessly that day she cry a river it was my mum that came to her rescue. From then she started respecting her senior 2 Likes |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by AxceX(m): 11:36pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
victorian:Your story is really touching My condolences 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Spidermon: 11:37pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
saintade01: enrol your 1st son in Taekwondo. his character will greatly benefit.The younger son can enrol later 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Offpoint: 11:38pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
saintade01:Abeg let them be jor, the world ain't a place for weaklings, no room for weakness. let the younger keep kicking the older aZz one day he'll will be push to a limit and he'll fight back really hard... then the younger will know his place and boundaries. don't interfere |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by pretty16(f): 11:57pm On Apr 13, 2018 |
saintade01: Ha! My own case is different. I have 3boys. The older is 5+, while the younger is 2+ and the 3rd is a few months. My first and 2nd are always at it. The younger will sometimes look for trouble, but the older gives it to him, and let's him know, boy! I am the boss. Am older than you, so sit your butt in one place. Am always bothered, cos I don't want them to fight and drag for stuff all the time, but ppl say boys will be boys, that they will out grow it with time. The older one most times likes to Bully his younger brother, and for that he gets an ass whooping. Most time I flog, I shout and they behave. Thanking God the Holiday is over. Its been a long 2weeks " I think you need to keep setting them straight. Letting the younger one know the older is boss, so that he will have respect for him, So it doesn't get out of hand in the future. 3 Likes |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Platony(m): 12:08am On Apr 14, 2018 |
It's fun for me wit my 3 boys..... D tin is,.. U will be nagging most tyms n canin too is very necessary. Though, na der mummy dey suffer am pass. But, it's fun anyways |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Platony(m): 12:12am On Apr 14, 2018 |
pretty16:Same here, my eldest is 5, younger 2 den d 3rd, Jst a few months old. D older Broda most times let go of tins to d younger bro. 2 Likes |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by PqsMike: 12:14am On Apr 14, 2018 |
[quote author=victorian post=66690899] Wao.....this is serious ...I really learn from this Hope he get well soon May your mum soul Rest in Peace. Be strong ma'am 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by chineduemmao: 12:15am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Ishilove:i have a 2 year old and am just imagining having a word with her...lol 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Ayokunlemi96(m): 12:16am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Op, hi. I pray your children will grow to become kids you'll be proud of, amen. We are three boys too, I am the one in the middle. Big brother is two years older while kid brother is six years younger. I used to fight my big brother when I was small too, over every little thing and my big brother would hardly fight back. He saw me as someone to be protected or loved or something, we would play all sorts of and when it came to fights, he wouldn't engage. I could remember when I was 4 or 5, dad bought us toy guns that used batteries, such that when you squeeze the trigger it would make gunshot sounds. Somehow the naughty in me wanted to know what made the sounds, I dismantled my gun and assembled it back, couldnt find what I was looking for and lost what I had. The sound stopped working. I became a mockery amongst our friends, the whole play group migrated to my brother's camp, so much bitterness came over me. Following day, as we were returning from school, I left my brother who would always hold my hand from school home (school wasnt far from home, both within an estate), and ran home, took his gun and smashed it. Brought us both to the same page. Evening time, time for play, his gun wouldnt work, everyone knew it was me, my mum told him I did the evil job, hoping he would beat the evil out of me, but he didnt, he merely looked at me and moved on. He never fought me back. And when we grew up a liitle more I still refused to know my place, I would engage him in fisticuffs, my mom would see us and never seperate us, he started beating me back to back anytime we fought. Painment that I had was terrible, I would brew another fight and still get whooped. The last fight we had I was in Jss2 and he in Jss3, he beat my ass in the room, I went to the kitchen to pick the pestle to destroy his head, mom saw me as she was in the kitchen but didn't flinch. As soon as I came out of the kitchen and headed for the room, my dad ran to take the pestle from me. I think we had one silly fight after that, he beat my ass, I turned water on his bed to hurt him but my mom made me sleep in the wet bed overnight. It will continue, the older boy sees the younger one as a companion, friend and naturally exudes love towards him but the younger one sees the older as a threat (strange stuff). To support this, my big brother wasn't scared, he was never a coward, he would fight anyone who tried to beat me, like real fight my mom would beg him to leave the person (as the story was told to me) and he once jumped down from a decking when he was 7 or 8. He told me to jump, I refused and he dared himself to it, broke his right foot though, the evil in me was once again happy. We were never scared (except for ghosts) and he never cowered (except against me, out of love). Currently, my older brother is like my little daddy, I can't even mention a quarter of the things he has pulled for me. During our teenage years, I would think I was wiser and this nigga is just dumb, but on the contrary, he so depth, understanding and analytical. I respect him more than I will ever respect all A.P.C chieftains put together. I dropped all of my shenanigans after my teenage years. My advice to you is to always make them know what is right, in due time they will adopt the measures. Policing, enforcing and persistent reprimanding will not do any good. My dad beat both my brother and I four times or so, little brother, twice. We turned out good, I bet you. They always told us what was right to do, they showed us by living it and God gave us the spirit of discernment to distinguish. My dad's immediate younger brother acts same way to my dad too and I know other bros too but in the end, we succumb to the guidance and leadership of our older brothers. So guide your wards and always pray for them. God be with you and yours. 6 Likes |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by chineduemmao: 12:16am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Lexusgs430:am suggesting allowing kids be kids they will grow up someday. 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by charlesazeh(m): 12:24am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Otedollaryen:. From this your response it's clearer to me that you be momma pikin, what do you feed those mouth with? Feeding bottles or spoons... grow up and understand that I don't pick fights here.. i hardly talk here because of immature like you... |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Ishilove: 12:48am On Apr 14, 2018 |
0monnak0da:Heh. Was your account hacked? |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by vicfy(m): 12:56am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Make him start adding "Bro" to his elder brother's name. Its an old trick dt still works.. It all depends on d parents 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by victorian(f): 1:19am On Apr 14, 2018 |
[quote author=PqsMike post=66691929][/quote] Amen and amen.. Thank you 1 Like |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by victorian(f): 1:20am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by otipoju(m): 1:41am On Apr 14, 2018 |
saintade01: Secretly teach him some moves or enroll him in taekwando class. |
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