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Hello peeps. would you tell your friend you caught his/her partner cheating ? what if they are the kind that  believes their partner could never cheat on them , What would you do? are you going to look over it and let your friend find out, or you will feel guilty if you don't tell him/her whats up and does that makes you a bad friend?

do you have experiences from the past with the same issue how did you handle it/ or how would you handle it?

@ Joichi

   Hey  how r u?  Mehn take it easy on yourself,  some  People here just talk and don't feel,  so you have to ignore the not so nice comments,
Why is everyone acting like they don't have guilty pleasures? and to the people that feel is not a true story. I see a lot of sincerity and anger in her post. Why would she make up such a story. My advice to you is this.   At the end of the day you wanted opinion and advices, you got the positive and the negative. which simply is the same   feeling you had/have before coming on Nairaland. Do what is  best for you,   "The only person you should never disappoint is yourself".

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rampagain:
y do u ask?

thank u

_Queenisha:
Then why are we wasting our time advising her ?
she's getting her money's worth
why is she complaining ?

this post sef!

ppl are saying this and that, but don't you think at one point she made it seem okay for him to ask her for money? I mean maybe she was carried away with the sex part, she wants him so bad she didn't care about what she has to sacrifice for pleasing her. And now i think she can't take the burden she created for herself, now its hard to move on after realizing she just can't keep up ( so its a complicated story), did you ever asked how the whole "buying his family things just to prove big girl", Thats what she tried to portray and she got caught up in the games. You can't blame either of them, They knew what they both were doing !

davidylan:
lol men don't seem very comfortable talking about stuff like this. I only know one uncle who doesnt mind spending time to talk about his marriage . . . only he's an old school fellow.
This thread is more for the women . . . havent learnt much besides that word "compromise".

you havn't learned anything        oh my Gawd,  you must know a whole lot then! and men don't feel comfortable talking about anything but games, sports. cheating, etc anyways!

_Queenisha:
@ Gucci did you see the other one about a woman who actually caught her man in bed pants down with another female
Not all marriages are good and some are worse than others.
Sadly women in Nigeria have to deal with so much and most of the ones in unhealthy marriages stay because of lack of finances and soceital stigma as do many women all over the world esp the lack of finances part.

whoa i havn't read it yet! that gotta be difficult , how does she deal with it.

Another thing is money! is it advisable for you and your partner have the same account? if you have a personal must he knows, vice versa

Brash!:
welldone big girl!
BRAVO

thanks small boy!

_Queenisha:
@ gamine,this is just one of the several from unknown names.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-165735.0.html#msg2728916

@queenisha!

whoa thats crazy. i wonder how she would handle the situation

joichi:
@ Gucci_Babe, thks girl
@ jay bee, thks alot. Tis r d sort of comments that encourages people 2 post threads on tis site. unlik IDIOTS lik,
i refuse 2 mention names. anyway, its not lik i'm that much in love but he fills a void & is sort of a substitute until i find som1 else (more seriously). Tink whatever u lik or call me whatever u wnt but tis is simply how i feel. Lik i said earlier, he feels absolutely nothn (as far as i'm concerned) collectn from me. Datz what drives me nuts d most. He's alwayz bin that way even before i got d job, though he is supportive, tolerant & oda tins including satisfyn my sexual nids.
But in my books, luks 2 me lik he's my gigolo & i'm a sugar mummy. I do lik him (don't think i love him, if not i don't think i'ld b tis distressed), but lik i said, financially, he's not mature, not ambitious, not what i would wnt anyway because people think i'm a slave driver & tend 2 expct more from people.
Moreover, if i decide 2 dump him jst lik that, wldn't he assume i'm jst feeln pompous because i hv a job & he doesn't?
& no i'm not a banker but hv a good job that i'm proud of. Pays me enough 2 so i can't complain. What i'm complaining about is hvin 2 share it wit som1 i call "my man".

you welcome hun! thats why i stated its complicated then what everyone thinks. Cause i bet you thinking what if you dump him today and finds a good job tomorrow, then you lost the benefit you invested in him and so on, but always remember "you" come first, anything that takes away from your happiness you need to move away from it, regardless of circumstances!

@BRAsh

You G AY ass shouldn't be on the thread, look for a thread with info on "Gay Marriage" Only a B itch will act like you do, go F uck yourself. f ucking ass hole!

brash

my thread *sowieee**,

Brash!:
u sef sabi sista-woman?!

what is with you and sistawomen sef?

God!

idupaul:
mumu thread

don't say that, if she is mumu, she wouldn't come out and say its bothering her,  no one is above mistake. love is blind.

@ poster

No one knows your relationship more than you.  Even if you are going to help a man, he should be the kind that is so ambitious and always feel bad attimes to ask you for things.  ( NO real man wants to be fed by a woman) On the contrary he seems to enjoy taking from you,.  its more complicated than it sounds. Use your head not your heart!

Gamine:
No nairalander will come and say

this n that is wrong with their marriage.

Everyone wants you to believe its all smooth sailing on the Caspian sea.

really??

Brash!:
una just dey scare person with all this marriage talk!

tell me about it! so far you don't have anything to worry about, seems like men are favored!

yeah! this is very good convo o, any more experiences? im sure not every one has it that easyy ( heard couple of shocking stories)

lovely

wth

Ruby_Pearl:
I'm not saying money will hold him down. . . .but she's rich. She sends money home to take care of his family and him.
She's a good wife, she takes care of her children.
She's filing for his papers
She's doing everything a wife can do and more.
I don't think he'll do anything stupid to lose her.
Men are not that stupid, even if they pretend to be.

I am not trying to say he is cheating. But that situation happened to my aunt, they grew up and went to the same uni in Nigeria, they were much in love. she comes from a wealthy family. After her father stopped her from going abroad for any reason because they were well off. Her so called husband, got an american visa. she stole money to pay for his visa, his plane ticket in short she always looked after him financially. before he left she got pregnant for him and they both wanted the baby and he was as desperate as she was, he left for the first year they were coping. after a while she stop hearing from him,. no one knew his where abouts, later she discovered he has married someone else in america and also impregnated her. its a long story!