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MrPresident1:
And I insist to you once again that you understand nothing.

Lol.

I like your consistency. It is not easy 😂😂😂😂

MrPresident1:
Because you don't understand anything

Name one problem Nigeria has that god solved last year.

Just ONE. I dey wait

MrPresident1:
Shey Nigerian upside down no tire you ni?

God has never been able to solve it 🤷‍♂️

MrPresident1, I thought you predicted the world would end many years ago and now here you are making predictions for a new year.

Peak fooling

😂😂

Hopefullandlord and hardmirror, come and see una friend

Walk away bro.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

UnfairLife7:
You're not in anyway better than any single person provided you're not feeding them. Who i am shouldn't be your concern

I am human and not a bitter sadist with bad energy

Konji dey worry you 😂😂😂

UnfairLife7:
let's assume you're married. Are you in anyway better than single guys or ladies?


some of you Nigerian men will never cease to amaze me

With that mentality, she will definitely die single.

You're a male feminist, right?

BABANGBALI:
Sey wahala go ever finish for this our bulaba country so? 😳😳😳

She will probably die single

fineboynl:
I have been wondering why does my stew don't turn out well no matter how I tried the reason is that I use too much tomato paste due to due to tomoto cost during buhari administration.

This Xmas I just decide to use full tomotos and eliminates impurities like tomato paste. And the stew turns out great 👍. So it was clear the tomato paste products have been the curprit all those while.

The problem now is that how would one cook a pot full of stew with pure tomatoes on a normal day? now that a painter of tomatoes is above 5k.

Whenever you use tomato paste, make sure you use crayfish. It will help eliminate the bad taste

I give am belle 😎

jojothaiv:
My immediate brother.

Sorry to hear bro. This life sha 😔

jojothaiv:
I hope he's back home soonest.

Reminds me of Tayo, who went missing on the 26th December, 2006 and up till now, we only hang on straw of hopes but to be honest with myself, I've let go of the past...

Who is Tayo?

Noodles + Sausages + fried eggs

HardMirror:
thanks my chairman. Hahaha. True economy is funny. But don't worry all that is sorted too. 😉

As a boss 😎

Congratulations bro.

Twins in this economy 🥵

HardMirror:
I am now a proud father of a Set of twins. A boy and a girl, perfect combo.

Remember I am an atheist, so no need to say any prayers if you want to congratulate me. God did not do it. Good things happens to everyone and anyone not just people who believe in a god. And bad things can happen to everyone and anyone even if you believe in a god.
2023 has been my best year. A job that pays me in $$$$, A wife that is a jewel and a set of twins. What more can I ask for.
The best women are the ones who don't make noise online. Love you plenty plenty my lovely baby.

Cc lordreed hahn hopefullandlord seun make una come rejoice with me

oxiide22:
I never chop good food since APC hold sway.


Look at what I eat

0211206511
Gtbank

Shine12
Sir Rontolo

Hahn

I no too guide but I sent you 1k.

Just manage am

Wifey's first attempt at cooking wanche(Ghana rice)

Iamdbull:
Dbull on this one!!


That's why am avoiding most companies begging me with huge amount to be their ambassador, their credibility is more important to me than the millions am being offered



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q27magJz5UM?si=Nl03jde441qKPUZQ

You are airforce1 should collab

Kharol1234:
only you?

Nah. Me and wifey

Bring your spoons 😋

SeriouslySense:
Revenge for not answering messages

I hope you will be in that same situation where you have to answer messages you cannot answer.

Common, are you that pikinish.

Not everyone has energy to be answering many messages, i remember when there was no phones, there was more peace, now you have to answer phone messages faa

And do you know how many other tasks, somone has to focus on, without needing distractions.

You misunderstood me.

The woman has been helping the op and his mom and now she has gone quiet.

The op has now forgotten when she was kind and nice and is even saying "I can now afford to send her money".

I was referring to the op.

He is now so quick to want to pay back her disrespect without considering that she might her own challenges and life to live while conveniently not putting her past good deeds into consideration

Cooolme:
I have a stepsister living abroad, the daughter of my mom. She's been there since childhood, raised by her father, and has become independent.

Despite the physical distance, she has been supportive, particularly to my mom. Although she occasionally sends money to my mom, it's never quite enough for her.

I share a unique bond with her; we've always been close, even during her visit. The last time she sent me money was during my 100 level when things were tough. However, my focus shifted from financial help to maintaining a connection with her.

Recently, I noticed a change. Since July, she has been snubbing my messages, a puzzling behavior considering I don't seek financial assistance. I've made it a point to check on her regularly, something she mentioned our mom doesn't do. At my level now if she needs money I can even send for her but her recent attitude has totally changed my mind towards her. I'm contemplating blocking her and ending contact, as it seems that's what she wants.

It's a challenging situation, and I'm curious if anyone here has experienced anything similar.

"Gratitude is a burden. Revenge gives pleasure"

richeeyo:
Some girls only aspire to be a wife and nothing more, they have no dream of theirs

They are not supposed to. Women were created for marriage

insidelife22:
Good morning Fellow brethren, I was born in a very religious family, when I was small I enjoyed attending church. I sometimes even slept in the church (back then it was allowed by our church).

In 2010 I went to stay with one of my aunts, she was Catholic, so I started attending Catholic Church with her. Then in 2014 I left and have been staying on my own since then.

To be honest I have not been to Church more than five times, the last time I went to church was in July 2018, don't know why but that's just it.

Going to church is a futile endeavor

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

Focus on your husband and baby.

Do your best to raise your child with the love you never received.

Let all adults handle their own problems abeg

Lamanii22:
Okay so uh… I have been reading a lot about men complaining about how their wives wouldn’t have sex with them after having kids…. The truth is… sex is harder to have after birthing a baby or more babies, it’s even more harder to feel aroused when you have a toddler to care for, a baby that wants to feed all time, the lack of sleep you get, doing the cookings, making the house clean….

Men please pity your wives too, try to be discipline your p***s….. it’s not easy on the woman too… thank you…

That's why married women should advocate for side chicks.

When the wife's kpekus is tired, the side chick.can take over.

omooba969:
Overload but quite inviting. Surely you guys would be sweating while leveling this mountain.

Thankfully Nepa gave us light so the ac cooled down our heads

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Do DNA tests on your kids.

Get cctv installed in your house.

Don't let her know.

Thank me later

UselessBuharist:
Na 419….. if the lady stayed longer dem for ask her to bring money to clean the stones

Yeah, normal wash wash levels

Rice, spaghetti, dodo etc