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Yankee101:
No

There’s plenty of time ahead for ex when you get married

This is the time to develop a lifelong skill and education and get closer to God to guide and help make your future brighter.


Every sex is like spiritual marriage. You’re taking in the bad luck and demons of your sexual partners

@Bloommax: LISTEN TO HIM, HIS ADVICE IS SOUND AND REASONABLE.


ANYTHING, WITH GOD IS FROM GOD.


WE LOVE GOD, EVEN THOUGH WE NOT PERFECT.

toobusy:
........At the mention of virginity, y'all think it's just a woman thing,let me disappoint you a little, aren't no woman buddy.

VIRGINITY IS A WOMAN THING BECAUSE NATURE MADE IT SO.


A MAN CAN BE INEXPERIENCED DUE TO LITTLE OR NO SEX AND THEY MAY BE MORE IN POPULATION THAN WOMEN.


THE WOMAN IS DESIGNED TO START HAVING SEX EARLY AND FINISH EARLY.

SHE HITS PUBERTY BEFORE HER MALE COUNTER-PARTS.

Bloommax:
Wonderful evening to y'all.

I just discovered Nairaland few weeks ago and I've read so many informative things and people's story. Some get advised and some get bashed when they drop their stories here, I hope I wouldn't.

Let me cut to the chase.

I'm 19, I'm a virgin and I'm a 300lvl student. I have a boyfriend that is 15years older than I am and he's sexually active. We met on online. We've known each other for seven months. We both love each other really well, even with the ups and downs that we've had in our relationship. This relationship is a long distance relationship. Now the thing is my boyfriend who is sexually active hasn't had sex for almost a year and lately he's been craving for sex. Sometimes I'll tell him I'm ready to have sex and other times I change my mind because of fear. I've been undecided about having sex. I thought about having sex with him maybe it'll make our bond stronger. He isn't married, he has no kids but he says he wish to marry me as soon as I graduate from the university. To be a virgin in a university isn't easy, there are temptations everywhere. Sometimes I get so tired of being a virgin and just want to have sex but other times I just want to keep it. One of my friends who is also my age had sex in 2019 and she has been sexually active ever since, she told me sex with males aren't really worth it, that if I'm ready I should try having sex with my gender because it's freaky.

I need advice please, should I have sex with this guy and hope that he'll marry me. Or I shouldn't and just be patient. He coming to meet me in two weeks time.

BABY GIRL, YOU ARE DOING WELL.


DONT LET THE OLD MAMA ON THIS FORUM MISLEAD YOU IN THEIR MISERY.


LIFE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING AND YOUR VIRGINITY MATTERS.


HOWEVER, KONJI NA BASTARD. I CANNOT SAY IF YOU WILL STILL BE A VIRGIN BY THE TIME YOU READ THIS RESPONSE OR IN ANOTHER MONTH OR YEAR.


IT WILL BE NICE TO SHARE IT WITH YOUR HUSBAND ON YOUR WEDDING NIGHT, IT IS THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN EVER GIVE TO HIM.


HOWEVER, MARRIAGES ARE NOT ABOUT VIRGINITY AND THAT IS TRIVIAL.



JUST AVOID BEING ALONE WITH HIM, UNLESS YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM. THAT MEANS ONLY BE WITH HIM IN THE PUBLIC AND OPEN PLACES AND AFTER THAT, GO TO YOUR HOUSE.


I DONT THINK HE CAN OUTSMART YOU AND IF YOU DO HAVE SEX, IT WILL BE BEACUSE U WANT TO HAVE IT, LIKE YOUR FRIEND ALREADY DID. I.E KONJI AND FUN


MY ANSWER TO WILL HE MARRY ME AFTER SEX?


IS SIMPLY, MARRY HIM AND THEN HE CAN Bleep YOU, IF EVER YOU DONT WANT TO WAIT. (SOLUTION)


THAT IS, IF HE IS THE ONE FOR YOU.


MY FEMALE COUSIN GOT MARRIED AT 18 YEARS TO A GUY MUCH OLDER THAN HER, YUL EDOCHIE DID IT AT 20 YEARS, IT IS UP TO YOU.



19 IS A MATURED AGE FOR DATING AND LOVE. THEIR ARE SO MANY ALTERNATIVE MEN OUT THERE TO PICK IN THEIR TEENS, 20S 30S ETC. YOU HAVE ABOUT 20 YEARS TO MENOPAUSE AND 5 YEARS TO YOUR 25 YEARS BIRTHDAY. IN ANOTHER 5 YEARS, YOU WILL BE 30 YEARS. IT GOES SO QUICK. SO U HAVE TO MOVE NOW. ALREADY 2022 ENDING.


ALTERNATIVE, TELL HIM YOU ARE KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR MARRIAGE AND WILL BE HIS GIRLFRIEND, UNTIL GRADUATION IN AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP. HE CAN CONTINUE BANGING HIS FELLOW USELESS GIRLS OR PEOPLE, YOU ARE NOT THAT TYPE OF GIRL AND A GOD FEARING CHRISTIAN.


DONT TELL HIM YOUR A VIRGIN, NEVER TELL A MAN DAT. ALWAYS LEAVE THEM ROOM TO GO, IF THEY DONT PLAY BY YOUR RULES.



P.S. STAY AWAY FROM LESBIANISM, THAT IS A DEMON SENT FROM THE PITS OF HELL TO DESTROY THE SOUL OF MAN KIND.


THEIR ORGANISATION IS CALLED LGBT, FLEE FROM THEM.


REMAIN BLESSED!

FromOuterSpace:
Girl, listen to me and listen very well.

1. You're 19. Not only should you still be a virgin at 19, but you should keep your virginity for as long as you can. You've only been dating this man for 7-months, and the fact that you're going back and forth about it means you're not ready, so don't do it. Even if you're sure about it, don't do it now or anytime soon.

2. You have no business dating a 34-year old. You're 19. Find a guy in his 20s to date, not someone 15-years older than you. Quite frankly, it's sickening of him to be preying after someone 15-years his junior. It's giving perversion and pedophilia.

3. You're asking if you should have sex with him and hope he'll marry you thereafter. Sweetheart, that is foolishness. A smart lady doesn't move like that. Why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free? Nigeria has enough single mothers already and many are in their 20s. Please don't become a statistic.

4. A man who loves you will wait until after marriage. He will marry you first, especially if you're a virgin. Point. Blank. Period. One thing I liked about my ex, even though he was a cheater (because I didn't want to sleep with him and why I eventually broke up with him and have no regrets about it) is that he never pressured me for sex and always said he would wait until after marriage. If a man has any ounce of love for you, that's what he will tell you and he most definitely will not pressure you for sex. No man who has ever truly loved a woman has asked her to sleep with him without/before marriage. That is not love, but lust.

5. The fact that he's having sexual discussions with you and telling you these things when your discussions should revolve around you finishing your studies or anything uplifting are enough to know this your relationship is lust-based and he's only pleasure-seeking.

POINT OF CORRECTION, WE LOOK AT IT FROM THE PERSPECTIVE OF STAGES OF LIFE AND NOT NUMBERS.


IN THE EYE OF THE LAW, AN ADULT IS AN ADULT, REGARDLESS OF AGE.


SHE IS AN ADULT, SEEKING AN ADULT RELATIONSHIP WITH A FELLOW ADULT.


HER CONCERNS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AGE BUT LOSING HER VIRGINITY. EVEN IF SHE IS 25, THE CONCERN IS THE SAME AS LONG AS SHE REMAINS A VIRGIN.





IF SHE HAD ALREADY BROKEN HER HYMEN, THIS THREAD WILL NOT BE OPENED. SO CALMM DOWN, THE YOUNG LADY IS ON THE RIGHT TRACK AND LUCKILY NOT END UP STATISTICS OF 30/40S YEAR OLD WOMEN THAT ARE UNMARRIED AND COMPETING WITH YOUNG BEAUTIFUL LADIES IN THEIR TEENS AND 20S FOR THE AFFECTION OF MEN.


A MAN THAT WANT CHILDREN WILL NOT LOOK YOUR WAY TWICE, BECAUSE YOUR PREGANACY RISK ARE HIGH AND OTHERS DEPLETED. ALSO, DATING IS BY ATTRACTION NOT MERCY.


RUN YOUR RACE ON TIME AND LEAVE STORIES. SHE IS ATTRACTED TO HER MAN, HE MAY HAVE MONEY AND HANDSOME AND YOUNG. Y SHOULD SHE NOT DATE HIM?



IT IS FUNNY, YOU DID NOT COUNSEL HER OVER THE LESBIAN ADVICE GIVEN TO HER BY HER FRIEND, BUT RATHER USING ABUSIVE LANGUAGE OF PEADOPHILIA AND PERVERSION THAT CLEARLY IS NOT THE CASE, TO MAKE A NO CASE.


AFTER THAT ADVICE, U THINK SHE LEFT HIM?



SHE IS STILL DATING HIM.


TAKE YOUR TIME ON THIS FORUM.


CC COCOCANDY.

Ireportlive:
Ipob like the guy above me won't be happy

i hope u dont commit suicide in 2023, when u wake up one morning and Biafra is gone.

Sudan also, saw nothing wrong in committing genocide in S.Sudan, until they woke one morning and S.Sudan is a country.

Funny thing is just like S.Sudan is oil and gas rich, so is Biafra. Envy!

Once Biafra exit, we have so much to teach our children about Nigeria, u will wish and beg for reunification but we can never forgive u people.

FULANI BOY SAY BIAFRA, 'UNA GO SUFFER'.



LOL




IDIOT IS STILL IN DENIAL THAT BIAFRA WILL ABANDON THEM WITH BOKO HARAM BY 2023.

maasoap:
Supports for these criminals and denial like this was what responsible for current state of the region. Only few of you doesn't support attacks on the security agents and facilities

BY THE TIME DEATH VISIT YOU IN YOUR SAFE ZONE, U WILL UNDERSTAND THIS IS NOT 1967.


U ARE NOT BEYOND OUR REACH.

GUN TO GUN NOW.


U SAY U BE SOLDIER, Y U COME DEY RUN LIKE CHICKEN. NAU?


FACE ME, I FACE U. COWARD!

MelesZanawi:
Biafrans will kill Northerners in the North? Lmaoooo
Remember the North feeds you wretches. It seems you want to die like your foolish fathers who fought those feeding you.

15 trailer loads of poisoned onions or tomatoes sent to you will end the war in 3 days.

So, wretched slave, watch how you talk to your masters.

KILLING NIGERIA SOLDIERS DEY GIVE ME HARD-ON.



IT IS ONE OF THE THINGS THAT MAKE MY PRICK TO STAND.


AS THEY RUN LIKE CHICKEN, WE GUN DEM DOWN.

.

LET ME SPELL IT OOUT FOR U SINCE U ARE VERY DAFT.


MEANWHILE, WE WILL CNTINUE O USE YOUR AM FOR TARGET PRACTICE AS THEY SCAMPER AND RN LIKE CHICKENS.

MelesZanawi:
Story. You want war? You will get war.
I hear you celebrate burials very well in your place. You will do plenty.

LOL!


U HAVE NO IDEA WHO U ARE TALKING TO, DO U?



WE ARE PREPARED FOR ALL EVENTUALITY.


DO U REMEMBERE THE PICTURE OF THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND CHILDREN GUNNED DOWN ON THE STREET IN ONITSHA OR U WANT ME TO POST PICTURES?


THE POOR BOYS YOU MURDERED WILL BE AVENGED.


MEANING, CIVILIAN FOR CIVILIAN.


WE ARE NOT AFRIIAD TO KILL U IN THE NORTH OR SW EITHER.

THE INNOCENT YOUTH MURDERED WILL BE REVENGED.



IGBO JEWS DONT FORGIVE SHISHI!



SOME PEOPLE NECK WILL BLEED FOR THIS YOUTH TO RIP!

Angelfrost:
Try and keep up... No sane mind ever supported or voted in APC or PDP.

Same way no one in his right senses will support hoodlums and lowlifes going about killing security agents in the name of Freedom fighting.

GUY, I DEY MY LANE.



NA MY OWN, I KNOW.



WE ARE NOW ON COMBAT READINESS.



IF WE CATCH ANY KOROFO, NA DIE HIM DEY.

MelesZanawi:
They killed 3M of you worthless pigs and it didn't end. If they kill 6M of you today, we won't even feel it. You are worthless.

THAT HURTS U MORE BECAUSE U A BLACK MONKEY COMMITTED GENOCIDE AGAINST FELLOW BLACK FOR YOUR WHITE MASTER BENEFIIT.


SAME WAY YOU SOLD YOURSELF INTO SLAVERY.


WHEN U WRITE THAT, SURE THAT IS YOUR FINEST WORK OF ART.

OTHER RACES ARE ADMIRING U FOR IT.


BOTTOM NIGGA WORLDWIDE

Angelfrost:
The annoying and irritating thing is that people like you will stay far away from the East and be misyarning online in anonymity.

The real people who have lost loved ones and livelihood, whose lives will never be the same in those villages continue to suffer the consequences... But, don't worry! Karma knows all our addresses!

Kanu, Simon, Emma Powerful, all the cowards that live far away while mongering a war they will never partake in will be visited one after the other!

U WANT ME TO COME AND HAND MYSELF TO YOUR TERRORIST GOVERNMENT?


DID U NOT VOTE BUHARI A KNOWN TERRORIST AND ISLAMIC STATE JIHARDIST?


NEXT IS SHETTIMA ANOTHER BOKO HARAM TERRORIST BOSS.


SORRY! IF U WANT ME, COME AND GET ME.

MelesZanawi:
Nigeria no get level but you are begging to be President. Foolish boy.

2023, NIGERIA WILL END, HOPE U DONT HANG AND DIE, THAT WILL BE A WASTE.

WE DONT WANT COWRADS THAT WILL RUN FROM GUNMAN AND SHOT INNOCENT UNARMED PERSON ON THE WAY IN OUR LAND.


IF U CARRY ARM JUST TO KILL UNARMED PEOPLE, U ARE NOT AN ARMY BUT A MURDERER AND COWARD.


FACE THE GUNMEN IN A GUN FIGHT, IF U BE MAN.


WE DONT WANT NIGERIA MILITARY IN THE SE REGION.


IF THEY MUST BE IN SE, THEY ARE LIMITED TO THE BARRACKS.


THEY MUST NOT BE ON OUR ROAD AND STREET KIDNAPPING PEOPLE.


NIGERIA MILITARY IS THE PROBLEM.

Coldie:
Gunmen attack soldiers, one soldier escape look for youth that has nothing to do with the attack and killed him.

This is extremely unacceptable

ALL THE PPEOPLE MURDERED ARE INNOCENT BYSTANDERS.


NO GUN MEN WAS KILLED.


NIGERIA ARMY ARE COWARDS AND ONLY STRONG AGAINST DEFENCELESS CIVILIAN.

ONCE U CARRY GUN, THEY RUN.


THEY CANNOT EVEN STAND AND FIGHT BACK.

MelesZanawi:
This illiterate say na gorillar war. Not only gorilla, na camel. Useless ipob pig.

Nigerian soldiers have signed up to die for Nigeria. I'll like to see how many of you wasted pigs are willing to die for Biafra.

IPOB AND PROUD BABY!


NIGERIA NO GET LEVEL WORLD WIDE. SHIT HOLE!

MelesZanawi:
Lol. By the time the army starts using helicopter gunships to attend to distress calls, you fools will enter bush at the sight of a military fatigue.

LET THE WAR START, THAT IS WHAT WE WANT.


Y U DEY TELL US, ARE WE AFRAID?

NIGERIA IS THE ONLY COUNTRY WHERE ARMY WILL LEAVE BARRACKS, WEAR UNIFORM AND BE HARRASSING CIVILIANS.

GO TO USA, YEAR TO YEAR, U WILL NOT SEE ANY ARMY.


GO TO UK, U WILL NEVER SEE ANY MILITARY ON THE STREET.


IN NIGERIA ONCE AN UPSTART DUNCE JOIN MILITARY, THE NEXT THING IS TO STAND FOR CORNER THEY COLLECT 20NAIRA AND BEATING CIVILIANS.



WE WILL KILL ALL OF THEM IN SE, ONE BY ONE.

onuman:
Unknown gunmen. But they tag Igbo people the Unknown gunmen, with objective to get the armed forces of Nigeria move in to do more mayhem in the east.
The gunmen that carried out Ondo State massacre were later unmasked. But it has been speculation after speculation on who the gunmen are who kill members of the armed forces in the east.

THIS IS A GORRILAR WAR.


STAY IN YOUR BARRACKS.

U COME OUT AND SET UP CHECK POINT, THEY WILL HIT YOU.


U DIE.



U ATTACK INNOCENT PEOPLE, TOMORROW, ALL OF THEM WILL FIGHT BACK.

U ARE THE PROBLEM.

SOON IF NIGERIA ARMY THEY RUN, LOCAL YOUTHS, GO GATHER THEM KILL.


SINCE THEY CAN GUN DOWN INNOCENT PEOPLE.


THE CHICKEN WILL SOON COME HOME TO ROOST.


WHEN U KEEP ATTACKING THEM, THEY WILL MOBILISE TO FIGHT YOU.


GUESS WHAT THEY OUT NUMVER AND OUT GUN U.

Sleekfingers:
They should keep supporting those terrorists....their region will soon be like the Northeast.....
Lots of their people residing in other regions are afraid of going home for Xmas....they are afraid of the monsters they created.....awon confused people.....
They are quick to blame buhari for their stupidities......

WHO SHOULD THEY SUPPORT?


FULANI TERRORIST THAT WANT TO STEAL THEIR LAND OR AFONJA SLAVE?



THE OTHER SOLDIERS WILL STILL DIE FROM THE GUN WOUND.



THEY MUST HAVE LOST ALOT OF BLOOD RUNNING WITH GUN SHOT WOUNDS.



TOORROW, LET THEM SET UP ANOTHER CHECK POINT, UGM WILL STILL KILL MORE.


THEY ARE NOT WELCOME TO OUR LAND.



LET THEM GO TO NORTHEAST. THIS IS JUST THE OPENING SHOTS, THEM DEY RUN, SOON THEY WILL HAVE NO PLACE TO RUN.

THE TERRORIST ARMY MURDERED INNOCENT CIVILIANS AND CLAIM THEY WERE THE GUN MEN.


WHERE IS THEIR GUN?


HOW DID THEY BURN THE VEHICLE, AFTER U KILLED THEM?



IT DOES NOT ADD UP.

THAT IS HOW A CHILD-MINDER LEFT A CHILD IN HER CARE TO DROWN AND NIGERIANS WERE BLAMING CHIOMA AND DEMANDING HER RELEASE.



Y , AM I NOT SURPRISE,IT IS ANOTHER ONE OF OUR SELFISH FELLOW NIGERIANS THAT HAVE SHAMELESSLY RELEASED THE COMPROMISING CLIP OF A SOUTH AFRICAN LAW MAKER.



THIS IS VERY UNFAIR TO THE SOUTH AFRICAN LAW MAKER AND TO FELLOW NIGERIANS LIVING IN SOUTH AFRICA THAT ARE ALREADY FACING XENOPHOBIA ON A DAILY, THAT IS COSTING THEIR LIVES.

cococandy, my female friend, found a new job and is leaving her teaching job in a month time.

cococandy:
You really think I’m this person?
Wow you’re slow slow. Indeed.

You think I’m in Nigeria running a cleaning company and recruiting models for events?
Indeed slow

Sorry she sees you for the perv you are. It doesn’t mean that’s me. It’s obvious to anyone who observes you jumping from thread to thread trying to make excuses for old men who sexually desire teenagers. It’s disgusting and it will always rub well meaning people the wrong way. If they call you out, it’s not cococandy’s doing. You’re just attracting that reproach to yourself

Now I’ll go back to ignoring you

TEENAGERS ARE WITHIN THE AGE OF DATING AND HAVING RELATIONS.

GUESS WHAT, IT IS NOT ALWAYS WITH THEIR AGE MATE, AS A MATTER OF FACT, THEIR IS ALWAYS SOME AGE GAP BETWEEN THEM AND THEIR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND, SO DO WE JAIL HIM/HER?

I'M A VERY REASONABLE PERSON, DONT GET IT TWISTED.

cococandy:
You really think I’m this person?
Wow you’re slow slow. Indeed.

You think I’m in Nigeria running a cleaning company and recruiting models for events?
Indeed slow

Sorry she sees you for the perv you are. It doesn’t mean that’s me. It’s obvious to anyone who observes you jumping from thread to thread trying to make excuses for old men who sexually desire teenagers. It’s disgusting and it will always rub well meaning people the wrong way. If they call you out, it’s not cococandy’s doing. You’re just attracting that reproach to yourself

Now I’ll go back to ignoring you

WELL, DO THE TEENAGERS DESIRE THE OLD MEN?

THAT IS NOT A CRIME BEFORE MAN OR GOD.

99% OF ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE BETWEEN PEOPLE OF DIFFERENT AGE GROUP.


99%

nenyewrites:
Pride of what? Sleeping with underage girls when your mates are inventing ground breaking technologies? What a slowpoke!

COCOCANDY, U DON RUN ABI?

READ THE BELOW AND COMPREHEND, THAT WAS MY FIRST POST HERE.

SHOW ME WHERE I SAID THE MOTHER SHOULD HAND HER DAUGHTER OVER?

JUST KEEP HAVING DIRTY DREAMS ABOUT ME, I GOT THE MAGIC STICK.

hammerT:
SOUNDS AS IF, SHE IS JEALOUS OF HER DAUGHTER BOYFRIEND.


A PERSON CAME TO KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND INSTEAD OF RECIEVING HIM LIKE A CIVILISED PEOPLE.


TELL HIM YOU ARE INTERESTED IN YOUR DAUGHTER EDUCATION AND IF SHE IS STILL INTERESTED AFTER GRADUATION, THEN NO PROBLEM.


RATHER, SHE IS SHOUTING AT HIM, NO WONDER MANY WILL JUST STAY FAR AND BE CHOPPING THE CAKE.

LOL NAIRALAND NO GO KILL ME.


WHAT A JOKE.


CCTV DON BURST THIS GIRL OWN.


SO MANY GUYS WEY DEY SICK, FROM HOSPITAL TO HOSPITAL, IS POISON.


THE VIRGINA PEOPLE FAVORITE WEAPON.