₦airaland Forum

Cashmadam:
To be safe, pick the lowest monthly salary reflecting on the payslips and statement you will provide. It is better to under estimate than over estimate. Your sponsor can provide payslips and bank statement. If payslips are not available for whatever reason, then bank statement should be okay.

Thank you so much cash madam. When looking at monthly expenditure part too, checking her 3 months statement she spends like 60k from the account but one month as low as 10k due to having money spent from other source apart from the salary, I wasn't sure if putting the average which will appear lower won't be an issue.
Also is it better to fully sponsor or say she will be contributing a percent too?
This is for a young person coming to write OSCE exams

What do one input please in a situation where there is little difference in salary paid every month like 3k difference, how does one know what to input where the visa form asks how much one earns after tax. For example if salary one month is 296,400 and another month 300,800, it fluctuates based on deductions. Also, does a sponsor need to provide payslips or bank statements is enough?
Thank you

Mariangeles:
I've always felt African women marrying white men, and going to live with them in their country is a huge risk.
You cannot predict white people.

You cannot predict humans. It is harder to do background checks of someone living in another country though especially since she was so careless she didn't even meet the man's family

I was shocked as a new nurse when I heard pt's plan post surgery can eat and drink

Please stay single for the sake of one innocent woman. Continue to enjoy your escapades, marriage won't change you

Continue looking for soulmate old man

Your marriage is whatever you make of it wherever you are in the World. There are lots of beautiful marriages in the same abroad doing well, you even have more disposable income to treat your spouse, go on vacations do lovey dovey away from the stress of work. Many marriages are shams even before leaving the country just using sellotape to patch it. Both parties have to work to make it work not in African Society where we are conditioned to put the burden of making marriage work only on the woman while the 'head' of the home can do whatever he likes.

They will never learn
Irresponsible he-goat behaviour that makes every female around them unsafe they still take to saner society. Everything female around them must be seen as a sexual object. I am just hoping his wife is the main applicant and not this irresponsible old man

Fearurcreeator:
A man you build with wont treat you this way. I say it to you . When be say na ready made una want so he will treat you like trash , and again to those crying mother inlaws , when their own to marry them.dey worse pass mother laws... People wey naturally wicked. You don't know them until the position for power you go fear.

Like men who their wives feed don't abuse the wives. Where is Osinachi today and the he goat she was building with.
People are terrible and kindness is not defined by wealth or being wretched

What percentage of women were involved in this so called research enough to generalized it for a whole state?

So she is supposed to remain unmarried or what?
If case was reversed would you expect your loving and caring dad to stay single?

Futuristica:
She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

She has divorced you in her mind long ago and is all set to go. You don't threaten your spouse with divorce it makes no sense cos you give them the strength to prep for life without you. Try all means to make the marriage work, go for marriage counselling as needed but don't threaten divorce especially repeatedly unless it is something you really want.

The brand of weed this man smokes is very potent

Some men are so silly, same you will cry women only want riches when you will still shame the ones that stood by you when you were broke when small change starts to enter your hands

But they should marry single fathers? idiots

Feelings of lust

Since you have more time on your hands than she does. Support her in looking out for a new job. Send out her CV in your spare time. I am sure she also hates having to work almost every day of her life, that kind of work isn't even good for her health and she has to come back home to continue to work as a mum and wife, chores and being expected to present for sex when she is being worked to the bones. If your work is enough to cover all the bills and pay her salary to stay home you can explore that option too while she looks for a new job with better work life balance. Or if you can set up a solid business for her ( not one you will expect her to contribute to the bills from while it is still new though)

Spursy:
My wife can not try that.

You can't be my wife and be acting some of these Roles we see in Nollywood movies

Then don't go and marry an actress or one that acts the kind of roles your dislike. Simple

These he-goats never learn
Every 3 months a new one must show face like they don't read the news so they can change their ways even if they have been doing it in a country with no laws

We like titles too much
What's the need for everyone wanting Dr of stuffs? Not supporting the residents fighting for nonsense, no profession has a claim to the title. But then they end up making students spend more years in school for no reason.
Our people too like title, Oyinbo sef even consultant will introduce himself as Mr/Miss

Something you should have gone to Agidigbo instead so they can be called out. Keep disturbing yourself with police and welfare

Kwara state with their useless salary scale.

So he kept hitting her head on the wall till she had a brain bleed in the name of unique sex? Werey said it wasn't violent but she broke head, broke neck, he must be mad not to see she was injured

The idiot did not remember his children before humiliating their mother when his brain is inside his small head. Very useless fool. From sources he sent his wife's nudes to his side chick laughing at her about her being fat and unattractive
Later they will claim men are logical gender
As if sense comes with what is between ones legs

Since they are in Ibadan, go to Kokoro alate so they can be called out and made to gbenu si mic

Are they blind?

Mttcheew. No be you agbayas destroy the country for the ones to come.

The groom is still a child
My mother my mother all over the post. The bride dodged a bullet.

I only pity the poor little girl. Women should keep staying with Goats just to bear Mrs. Our RIP don finish

Very greedy. The good sum of money he earns as a Dr isn't enough.

See the child they are spending money on

Kobojunkie:
The "do what works for you" mentality is to blame for the current state of poverty in Nigeria, with over 170,000,000 Nigerians living in abject poverty and that number projected to balloon to over 300,000,000 before 2050.

What is made obvious by these facts is that it is time to re-educate the Nigerian girl and woman, to cause them to realize that they are responsible for lifting themselves and their children — many generations after — from poverty. As a matter of fact, what is clear is that the generational curse of poverty, which so many are afraid of, is caused by women who are raised in poverty entering into marriage agreements without first conquering poverty. Yeah, the ones literally most responsible for spreading the curse are the women.

Consider a case where a woman from a poverty background is impregnated then abandoned either before marriage or after— it does not matter how long the marriage lasted— by her lover. She is left to fend for her child and is unable to provide it the best life possible as a result of her poverty situation. She might try to work hard at that point to escape poverty, but the fact that she has another mouth to feed and cater to will always limit her abilities at success. The vast majority who find themselves in these situations not only never escape poverty but are likely to raise children possessed by the poverty way of reasoning and processing life, leading to repeat of the same patterns in their own lives.

Sorry not reading this. Bye