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Broke guy. You don't have money you are inviting someone to eat out. Should have let the FFO girl know his budget.

Naira land is nau the hospital you are supposed to go to. You better take yourself serious and go for appropriate treatment before the sti gets complications

She will need a driver as well

No you are still a young man continue to work and save . Maybe 50

And what's your own business with that. Na you set the trap for am? Don't move on with your life.

Congratulations. Behaving like sex starved he goat. Thinks it is Nigeria where they make jokes about sleeping with secondary school girls.

He is irresponsible because he knows you will do it

Hmmm.

Remark the writing please, you could be lucky and it will increase

40 year old mummy's boy, it is well with you

UnconventionalT:
No
It was a genuine relationship that lasted two years here before they moved. The lady and her family hid her long term fiance from my friend, he didn't know about the other guy till after they landed in 🇬🇧.

Na wa o.

Godaloneisable:
Elders and dependants especially male I need your advice please.

I'm a dependant who is also working in uk. I appreciate my wife cos she spent over 70% of the funds we used while coming to uk and also took care of home for 2 months before i got a job. I was lucky to get a good job in Manchester 2 months after I got to uk which is a midlevel role in my career path as a systems engineer. My wife has refused to do anything at home cos she claims she wants to rest and I should be grateful that she brought me here. This is leading to serious arguments cos after paying rent, bills and food I'm left with almost nothing infact I had to borrow in the last 2 months because I bought some home appliances in our newly rented apartment.
Right now, I'm so confused because it's more like I am just working to spend and her money belongs to her strictly and she means it. I am careful cos I'm bound to her visa and I am even begging her to take just bills but she refused. This has been on for over 7 months and i can not boast of 2k savings even with 49k salary.

How do I manage this? Just confused tbh cos she's also working full time even grossing more than i

Thought Manchester was a low cost city, wondering how it is difficult not to have savings on a 49K salary, some combined household salary is not even up to that. Not supporting your wife though. Spouses need to be supportive of each other. Just wondering how much your wife earns and if she still has loans she is repaying from the travel expenses or maybe paying for child care. Anyway you have to sit with your spouse and discuss a viable financial plan if truly you are struggling to save from your salary, one person cannot shoulder all bills and unable to save with all this wahala in this UK.
While at it continue to support your family please, I believe she will step in if thinks you are struggling. You can cut down on frivolities and spend within your means so you can save.

Children have a wild imagination, she might just be making things up

Nigerians inhumanity to themselves. We will all still blame the government when the average Nigerian does more evil to themselves. What has warranted the hike in price now?

I am sure he was not their first victim, thankfully he was their last. Acquiring wealth from the death and cries of another human, wicked souls.

Let the poor woman go and go and marry those ones bugging you up and down for sex. Keep deceiving yourself and being in denial that you have erectile dysfunction which needs to be sorted for this marriage to work. I am sure you don't want her to start trying her 'tight' body with other men to see if they can keep erections with her. You can start from seeing a Dr, a urologist preferably so they can find out what the cause really is, could be related to your hypertension , avoid Viagra if you love your self

He is a loud mouth, yes but his interview is not what brought about UK's new moves on dependant visas. They have that mapped out already, this soliu elenugboro man was just unwise enough to fall into a trap set by the interviewer.
The UK makes loads of money from international students, they know not all the students even non-nigerians are coming to spend loads of money in their country just for a paper.

Pele OP. I dislike the idea of spouses using sex as a weapon, settle whatever the issue is causing hurt and have make up sex, when she said she was unhappy I hope you showed concern to try and find out why. Sex is beyond physical especially for women. But also not to call to check up on one's spouse that travelled even if there is a fight is somehow . It is well with you

Kobojunkie:
Women!

It is the same women. When they say women are the enemies of women. We need to do better

One will hear some women's stories and you wonder who are raising these yeye, egomaniac and wicked husbands. God bless the good husbands and wives out there

You don't have sense. Why did you contact her in the first place since you already moved on? Oniranu. Go and do what you planned to do

She is sick in the head

You are doing the renovation for your brother to benefit, know this and know peace. Since you leave all the rent to him, it makes sense for whatever money that comes from that to be used in fixing it. Unless you plan on starting to take a share of rent too after the renovation which you need to discuss and make clear to your brother and have a clear cut sharing formula for it ,cos he might think you have dashed him your share of your inheritance.

Won ti gbewa ni handicap

So he believes the d***k thinks for them in short. No self control follow the whims of the d**k, stronger gender

Mindlog:
Were they truly "happily married" while still in Nigeria?

The Nigerian environment tends to subsidize a lot of unhealthy marriages and then tagged a "happy marriage".

A lot of things need unlearning but some are stuck in their ways... one said it was emasculating doing the dishes.😆😆😆

That reminds me of a draft dissertation of a Nigerian Psychology postgraduate student, I read and it was really insightful as it focused on the breakdown in marital relationships of some Nigerian migrants to the UK as the focus.

The project detailed how the UK system hits hard on Nigerian husbands who are so high on control and submission as the UK system deflates these. The researcher also brought up the demystication of income which counters many threads here that advocates a man should not let his wife know how much his income is but here in the UK, the wife knows it before it even reaches the man's account and the system forces the couples to be more open about their finances and they are forced to make joint decisions as it forces accountable leadership on husbands as against the lordship status, they "enjoyed" in Nigeria ....d person write many, many for the dissertation.😆😆😆😆

God bless you.

This is shocking

DJ YK

How do you mistakenly impregnate a woman. Are you out of your senses?

It is well. Second position said he did not lose, third position sef dey one side saying he wants to reclaim mandate. Baba Bala bulu you do this one. Everyone go dey alright last last.

And they would have been happy when they gave birth to the he-goat. God abeg bless us with good children no matter the gender

Why would you want to look like cubana chief priest?