Moving on in life after a serious romantic relationship can be an ordeal from which you might take a while to recover. All the same, learning to grow beyond the pain of losing that person can open up new possibilities and facilitate your healing. Very few people find their ideal match without concentrated effort and some measure of resilience, after all, breaking up is an unfortunate reality of life until you find your mate.

METHOD ONE: REMOVING REMINDERS
Delete methods of communication. This includes phone numbers, chat logs, and emails. It might hurt you to do this, but leaving yourself the option to call your ex in emotionally weak moments can be indicative of dependent behavior.
• It may also be wise for you to block your ex's number/email, to prevent any unwanted surprise contact.
Get rid of physical reminders. Discard all of the special items that remind you of this person. Get rid of the things that remind you of your love. Some articles that can make a breakup especially difficult: clothing, jewelry, photographs, and gifts.
• You don't have to throw everything away, but you may need time away from these items before you can fully move on. Why not box up any items that remind you of your ex and put them somewhere out of sight and mind?
Make plans for special days. When your anniversary rolls around, or when there's a holiday that reminds you of your ex, make plans with other friends to take you mind off times you shared with your one-time lover. Did you and your ex watch movies every Monday? Call up a friend and make sure you have replacement plans for Monday night while you readjust to single life.
• Organize a party, outing, or dinner among friends to fill a lonely night with laughter and good times.
Sever the social media lifeline. Seeing your ex gallivant around with someone new might make your heart ache and complicate moving on. Even if you have hopes of maintaining a friendship with this person down the road, understand that you may need time and space before you allow your ex back into your life
Say goodbye in your own way. Some people find writing a goodbye letter, where you can summarize all your feelings and the hopes you had for the relationship, to be a useful tool to aid the healing process. You don't have to show them the letter, but the simple act of writing your feelings down on paper can bring you closure you need
• Another technique you may find beneficial is confessing your feelings to this person in your head. The simple act of releasing bottled emotions can speed the healing process.
METHOD TWO: LETTING GO
Give yourself time and understand that this too shall pass. These words might be difficult for you to swallow, and maybe even sound insensitive. Breaking up is tough, even if you're the one that left the relationship. But it's important to acknowledge that life goes on and that the pain you are feeling is a natural part of the human heartbreak and the healing process.
• Each person takes a different amount of time to process strong emotions. Respect the time you may need to process this emotional change.
• Though healing is an individual process, some studies assert it may take you up to 11 weeks before you finally feel free of the potent emotions associated with your romance
Start a new project or take up a hobby. Even if you aren't particularly talented at it, the distraction provided by something new will help you turn your thoughts from your ex. Now that you're out of that relationship, it's time for you to rediscover what makes you happy and do it.
• Exercise and enjoy associated mood boosting benefits.
• Use art as therapy, which may be especially helpful if you are still uncomfortable expressing your feelings in words.
Raise a pet or a plant, as having a living thing depend on you can lessen your feelings of depression
Join a group. You can volunteer in the community, participate in a book club at your local library, or enlist in an intramural sports league. The camaraderie of a new group can be a source of strength through a hard breakup. Some groups or group activities to consider.
• Community gardening groups
• Community clean-up
• Local sports teams
• Tabletop gaming groups
Learn to distinguish between the imagined and the actual. Sometimes, post breakup, it can be easy for you to only think of your past lover in a way that is more perfect than is possible. Try to identify where you've allowed yourself to believe something unrealistic, like when you tell yourself that you'll never find love again.
• Think about your ex in terms of the positive, past tense feelings you used to have. Separating what was from what is can change your negative feelings for the better.
Hold no resentment. Despite everything that's happened, bring yourself to truly forgive your ex. If possible, go up to the person and tell him/her that you have been deeply hurt, but you forgive them for any negatives, both those perceived and real. This will help you to let go, and relieve you from the cycle of negative emotions so common in breakups.
Use your logic to beat the blues. If your ex wasn't the best partner, getting over the breakup should be easier. Even though you might be hesitant to tarnish the good memories you hold precious, it can help you to focus on the healthier place you are in. In what ways can you now grow now that you are out of your relationship? Looking toward these can go a long way toward helping you feel better.
• In the event your ex is genuinely a good person, be happy that you had the opportunity to meet. Remember that everyone that comes into our lives can be a potential teacher.
• Keep the faith. It's easy to become bitter or fall into negative patterns, but remember, that will not make you happier. Allowing yourself to feel your feelings does not mean becoming a slave to them. Reexamine your personal philosophy. Are you the sort of person who gives in to negativity? Will you allow your ex to exert this emotional control over you even after your breakup? Recognize your own emotional responsibility in the matter; you won't be able to blame your ex for your heartbreak forever.


METHOD THREE: MOVING FORWARD

Learn from your former relationship. Remember that there is always love to give and there is much we can do to enrich our lives. Talk yourself through where you were before the relationship and the ways in which you've grown throughout your time together. The powerful connection between learning and memory and the mood benefits you'll receive from acquiring new knowledge will assist you in getting over your lost love Ask yourself:
• What would I never have done before this relationship that through this relationship I could accomplish?
• What were some strengths of my ex-partner? Did I learn from these or develop these in myself?
• What did we accomplish together that I could never have accomplished by myself?
Make a list of things you have always wanted to do. You've probably had to put some goals on hold, prioritizing your past relationship over your personal desires. Once you are done with the list, you will not only see how much life has to offer, you will also have some goals to work toward in the near future.
• Contemplate trips you could afford on your own but not as a couple; now might be the right time to book a trip!
• Enroll in a class that you didn't have time or energy for while in your relationship.
• Try a challenge, such as entering a local chili cooking competition or a photography contest.
Don't stay home. You don't need money to walk down your street, look at the sky, and enjoy a book or sunrise, or other simple pleasures that life has to offer us. Also, a change of scenery can have a powerful impact on your mindset; the first step you take on your walk may be the first step toward a better mental state.
Meet your friends, both old and new. Or go out with the goal of making friends. In any case, the happiness of your friend-group could positively influence your own mood A good way to meet like-minded people is to join a club related to your interests. Studies have shown that being with friends and people of a similar mind can:
• Calm you
• Increase your sense of belonging
• Increase perceived self-worth
• Assist in overcoming challenges
Refrain from talking about your ex-love. This can turn into a sore point among your friends, who might find your repeated laments too negative to be around. Take some time to acknowledge the support of your friend-group so they don't get burned out helping you process your loss. Try saying things like:
• "I know this breakup's been especially bad for me, and I'm sorry about venting to you all the time. You've been such a good friend through all this. I'm so thankful for your support."
• "I wanted to thank you for forcing me to go out the other night. I was mopey and a little depressed, but a night out was exactly what I needed."
• "You've been so patient with me through all this. Thank you. Without you here to listen and give me advice, this would've been so much more difficult for me."

Surround yourself with positivity. It may be encouraging for you to put positive quotes in visible places around your home. Or maybe you should plan a viewing marathon of a show or movie that never fails to improve your mood.

Talk to an expert or trusted adult in serious cases. Many people struggle with difficult breakups. These can be a huge emotional shock, and you might need the emotional support of a professional or someone more emotionally experienced to reach a place where you can heal. A psychologist, an older family member, a friend or a school counselor can guide you through the process. Talking it out can help you release the stress, gain advice, and build your self-esteem.

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Nigerian Pidgin is an English-based pidgin and creole language spoken as a lingua franca across Nigeria. The language is commonly referred to as "Pidgin" or "Brokin". It is distinguished from other creole languages since most speakers are not true native speakers, although many children do learn it at an early age. It can be spoken as a pidgin, a creole, or a decreolised acrolect by different speakers, who may switch between these forms depending on the social setting. Variations of Pidgin are also spoken across West Africa, in countries such as Sierra Leone, Equatorial Guinea, Ghana and Cameroon. Pidgin English, despite its common use throughout the country, has no official status.

Variations
Each of the 250 or more ethnic groups in Nigeria can converse in this language, though they usually have their own additional words. For example, the Yoruba’s use the words Ṣe and Abi when speaking Pidgin. These are often used at the start or end of an intonated sentence or question. For example, "You are coming, right?" becomes Ṣe you dey come? or You dey come abi? As another example, the Igbo’s added the word Nna also used at the beginning of some sentences to show camaraderie. For example, Man, that test was very hard becomes Nna, that test hard no be small.
Nigerian Pidgin also varies from place to place. Dialects of Nigerian Pidgin may include the Warri, Sapele, Benin, Port-Harcourt, Lagos especially in Ajegunle, Onitsha varieties.
Nigerian Pidgin is most widely spoken in the oil rich Niger-Delta where most of its population speak it as their first language.
But other people speak pidgin differently and in their own ways all over Nigeria.

Relationship to other languages and dialects
1. Similarity with Caribbean dialects
Nigerian Pidgin, along with the various pidgin and creole languages of West Africa share similarities to the various dialects of English found in the Caribbean. Some of the returning descendants of slaves taken to the New World of West African origin brought back many words and phrases to West Africa from the Jamaican Creole (also known as Jamaican Patois or simply Patois) and the other creole languages of the West Indies which are components of Nigerian Pidgin. The pronunciation and accents often differ a great deal, mainly due to the extremely heterogeneous mix of African languages present in the West Indies, but if written on paper or spoken slowly, the creole languages of West Africa are for the most part mutually intelligible with the creole languages of the Caribbean. The presence of repetitious phrases in Jamaican Creole such as "su-su" (gossip) and "pyaa-pyaa" (sickly) mirror the presence of such phrases in West African languages such as "bam-bam", which means "complete" in the Yoruba language. Repetitious phrases are also present in Nigerian Pidgin, such as, "koro-koro", meaning "clear vision", "yama-yama", meaning "disgusting", and "doti-doti", meaning "garbage". Furthermore, the use of the words of West African origin in Jamaican Patois "Una" - Jamaican Patois or "una" - West African Pidgin (meaning "you people", a word that comes from the Igbo word "unu" also meaning "you people" display some of the interesting similarities between the English pidgins and creoles of West Africa and the English pidgins and creoles of the West Indies, as does the presence of words and phrases that are identical in the languages on both sides of the Atlantic, such as "Me a go tell dem" (I'm going to tell them) and "make we" (let us). Use of the word "deh" or "dey" is found in both Jamaican Patois and Nigerian Pidgin English, and is used in place of the English word "is" or "are". The phrase "We dey foh London" would be understood by both a speaker of Patois and a speaker of Nigerian Pidgin to mean "We are in London" (although the Jamaican is more likely to say "We dey a London". Other similarities, such as "pikin" (Nigerian Pidgin for "child" and "pikney" (or "pikiny", Jamaican Patois for "child", akin to the standard-English pejorative/epithet pickaninny) and "chook" (Nigerian Pidgin for "poke" or "stab" which corresponds with the Jamaican Patois word "jook", further demonstrate the linguistic relationship.
2. Connection’s to Portuguese and Spanish dialects.
Being derived partly from the present day Edo/Delta area of Nigeria, there are still some leftover words from the Portuguese and Spanish languages in pidgin English (Portuguese and Spanish trade ships traded slaves from the Bight of Benin). For example, "you sabi do am?" means "do you know how to do it?" "Sabi" means "to know" or "to know how to" just as "to know" is "saber" in Portuguese and Spanish. Also, Pikin or Pickaninny is from the Spanish and Portuguese word "pequeño"/"pequeno" to mean "small".


Nigerian Standard English
Similar to the Jamaican Patois situation, Nigerian Pidgin is mostly used in informal conversations. However, Nigerian Pidgin has no status as an official language. Nigerian Standard English is used in politics, the Internet and some television programs.

Source: - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nigerian_Pidgin

My community secondary school better pass this so call university

The beginning of every romantic relationship is usually filled with
fun and excitement. With time the fun and excitement seems to wane in most relationship. And many of such relationships end up breaking up. Making
a relationship last requires an amount of
work or effort from the couple involved.

Here are a 5 major things that make a
relationship last forever.

1. Mutual Enjoyment:
In solid relationships people spend time together just for the joy of being together. What they do is not of significance. They just enjoy each others’ company. Unfortunately the busyness of life causes us to forget what a joy can be when two people that truly loves each others’ spends time together. When a
relationship deteriorates to the extent that couples begin to avoid or detest
each others’ presence such relationship
is heading for the rocks.

2. Mutual Respect:
How do you build mutual respect? It is when you don’t let obstacles or circumstances become more important to you than the relationship. It is when the pressure is on and you still treat them with patient and kindness rather than feeling resentment toward each other. When the relationship is struggling and you’re willing to work to preserve it. Couples who have mutual respect for each other are always appreciative and grateful for having each other.

3. Shared Experiences:
In a solid relationship the partners celebrate each other successes and go through challenges together. Relationships are built on shared experiences; when you do things together you are creating the kind of foundation that will last a lifetime.

4. Communication:
Communication is important in relationships. It provides the opportunity for couples to share interests, aspirations, concerns etc. Many times clear communication is all it takes to clear an impending argument or misunderstanding in a relationship. No matter how well you may know each
other, the two of you are not mind
readers. There is still need for constant
and clear communication.

5. Trust:
Trust is the bedrock of every solid relationship. It means placing confidence and faith on each other. According to Ralph Waldo Emerson, “The glory of friendship is not just in the outstretched hand or the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship; it is in the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him.” Couple should strive to earn each others’ trust and maintain it. Reciprocity: All relationships experience ebb and flow. Sometimes one person is the primary giver, sometimes the other is. But a solid
relationship will always be two sided.
Friendships are like bank accounts. You
cannot continue to draw on them
without making deposits. If either of you
become overdrawn or it stays that way
too long, the relationship won’t last. You
can’t assume the other person knows
that you love him or her. Say it! Show it!
It makes a whole lot of difference. Make
effort to show each other love in ways
that you know would make each other
feel loved on a regular basis.

mutiply:
This is so educative, thanks OP.

thanks

Self-confidence simply is a positive feeling about yourself that comes
from knowing who you are and what you
can do. It is such feeling that makes you
believe “YOU CAN”. When you are self-
confident, it positively impacts every
other aspect of your life like career,
relationship etc.

Here are 10 ways you can develop and
boost your self-confidence

1. GROW YOUR MIND WITH KNOWLEGDE:
It all begins in your mind. Confidence is
basically a state of mind. How well
you’ve developed your mind determines
the level of your self-confidence. You
may have heard that knowledge is
power. What we feed our mind on
influences how we see ourselves and the
world around us. Our self-confidence
leaps when we know that we know.
Expose your mind to positive and quality
sources of knowledge.

2. GET RID OF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS:
Thoughts that make you feel that you
are not good enough, a failure or nobody
will ebb your self-confidence. Be mindful
enough to identify and recognize when
these negative thoughts are trying to
take hold of your mind and replace
them soon enough with positive
thoughts and affirmations. This may not
be easy at the beginning but the more
you try to counter these negative
thoughts the easier it becomes. Do all
you can to have a positive mental
attitude all the time.

3. DISCOVER YOURSELF: Find ways to get
connected with your true self and grow.
True Self-confidence is rooted in who
you are. We all have something that we are good at. They are referred to as our strengths. Discovering these strengths helps your take pride in yourself, appreciate your worth and significance and consequently boosts your self-
confidence.

4. CONTROL YOUR FEARS: Self confident
people are not necessarily fearless. The
difference is that they always give
themselves a reason to act regardless of
their fears. Don’t forget that the best
way to deal with fear is to act. The
reason we allow fear paralyze us most
times is because we are good at pointing
out the negatives with little or no
consideration for the positive side. Think
more of what you stand to gain by
getting out of your comfort zone and
taking that bold step.

5. FORGET PERFECTION: If you are the type that think of doing things perfectly and feel less of yourself when you think you have not or cannot reach that
“perfection”, it’s time you had a rethink.
Perfection is not the same as excellence.
The key is doing all you can at the
moment and improving on it next time.
Mistakes are part of the learning
process. Don’t allow the mistakes of your
past to frustrate your present performance. perfectionism will only get
in the way of your self-confidence.

6. Stop Imitating And Comparing
Yourself to Others:
Comparing yourself
to others is a sign of inadequacy. When
you compare yourself with others you
are likely to become self-critical. We all
have specific abilities and strengths.
Focus on becoming the best you
can be. It takes an enormous amount of
energy to be who you are not. Accept
who you are and stop comparing yourself
or imitating others.

7. SET PERSONAL AND ACHIEVABLE GOALS:
It shouldn’t be about just setting goals.
Learn to set goals that are achievable
and develop the discipline to get them
accomplished. Being able to set goals
and realize them can be a boost to
your self-confidence. However, not
having any meaningful goal you are
pursuing or being unable to achieve your
goals can affect ones self-confidence
negatively. Do something you can be
proud of.

8. Hang Around Confidence-Builders:
Hanging people who are always
pessimistic and negative is a bad one for
your self-confidence. Hanging around
confident and successful people; those
who have successfully done or are
successfully doing what you intend to do
will inspire and boost yourself-
confidence.

9. Help Others: There is a sense of
fulfillment and satisfaction that comes
when we know that a life is better
because of something we have done. It
helps you appreciate your significance
and value to others. This can be a great
boost to your self-confidence.

10. Dress Like A Winner: We should give
attention to our looks (Mind you I am not
talking about getting a plastic surgery).
You may not have known this, but the
way you dress somehow affects your
self-confidence. This is because the way
you dress affects the way you feel about
yourself. When we are well-dressed we
feel better, energetic and comfortable
with ourselves and others. I can
personally attest to this. However, I think
it is all about your mindset. If you think
you are well dressed then you are but if
you think you are not you are equally
right.

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damseyl:
Op who told you guys don't want to marry virgins, en?

See his tin like roasted plantain

I myself don't bloody care about virginity

Totally agreed with Ogun and Kano, as for the I dunno because I haven't go there in recent times.
Seen is believing

Beauty is in the eyes of beholder

Nairaland is not there while you are kicking the rOnALdO

What's happening here?

SEEMESEEMEO:
I stay in abuja, though most if my friends have plans to leave this city once the coming elections approaches but I intend to stay because I feel the FCT is safer than other cities in the country, if you have a contrary opinion, pls share, where would you be during the coming elections and where do you think is the safest city/state to be, your opinion matters.

Sambissa

INDUSTRIALFAN:
Was at the KFC stand at shoprite in Lagos when I saw these underaged girls forming sexy :X and one of em had this awkward hairdo.... It was soo long it could sweep the whole of Lagos mainland.... See picture below..

Looku Looku

The guy must be a Yoruba, because I heard that they produce the dirtiest slap in the world.

Vickybee:
Gosh! Anita is so cute.

The patient dog eat the fattest bone but that doesn't mean we should cling to a broke ass with no future.

Then you will end up choosing the wrong guy

richol:
far better than north

Lies

yinkus4u2c:
what is sex pls

Pull ur pants let me show yuh

Doesn't sound realistic at all. By the way I am from katsina and I never heard about this untill today, now and here in NL

Orijin is working.....

Kindly note that GSM came to existence in nigeria in 2001

You are an idiot, lunatic

OREMUSSANCTUS:
Huh, see dem. Dey shld not allow yerima to catch dis one oooo. Before he will give her wad d prophet muhammed(54) gave aishat(9). For dose dat don't get it, d prophet penetrated aishat at dat tender age . Yerima mite wanna do d same!

yuh must be stupid idiot.

This is the reason why I always shout APC!!!!!! #Change

Every ladies does the number 6, 7 and 9

The project is amazing am on that route last month, I really enjoy traveling on it but this alone does not qualified him to second term.