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That old woman, shooo..

LMAO, can't stop laughing....

hapydaddy:
Not bad at all...I also had a back my baby wen my wife was so so busy and he was crying.

See how back baby, daddy...

Simi why

What's the problem with people of social media

The person asking how the wife feels bout the car, what's his/her concern? Is he/she part of their family

Don't know just like this woman...

Guess they met each other there...

This girl don add flesh oo..

Fine girl...

I don't believe this...

2gb I'm okay

I smell sarcasm in the brothers comment though...

Who are those drooling abeg

All for the kpa...

Nice.

Na wa for this county oo...

Na by force...

jesmond3945:
My man as somebody with experience please leave the girl. A woman would never forget the man that broke her virginity. I am married but it was war. Continue with that girl and you will continue to fight for her attention.

Thanks bro, appreciate

dairykidd:
Its a different thing when both of u are on the same page.. There is nothing for u to fight for here brotherly. This girl is just having the best of both worlds & most greedy girls are like that. If u ever think she doesn't know what she's doing ur on a long thing... Its good to fight for what u love but when what u love is entertaining what ur fighting against then if ur thinking properly u would know ur the only one fighting for nothing.. OYO.
Save urself the trouble & let go of who doesn't appreciate u so that there will room for the one who does to come in.

Thanks bro

pacesetting:
That's the best thing to do in this situation. Talk to her and resolve the issue, either by letting her go or going on with the relationship (depending on your discussion.

Okay bro.. But that's after ignoring her for some days or what do you think sir?

kunleweb:
Forget her and wait for the calls to start rolling in. Dont pick it. i told you all to do already. For now, go watch Manga, download Japanese cartoons and watch forget her, you'll find plenty better than her if she leaves, take the risk by acting you dont care and this is the beginning step on how to regain control that's if you want her back. Also bear in mind the guy could be visitng because she didn;t take his calls

What calls' sir? And besides after then, what should happen next?

kunleweb:
Now's it panting, only 24hours. You better hold yourself before you get a cardiac arrest

You talking bout the time being, for how long do you think I should fix this bro? I've already fvcked up..

kunleweb:
It happened yesterday and you're pacy today You're such a good boy, just don't let her wound you finish

*sighs* that's why I'm here... What would you have done please?

[quote author=eph12 post=71480131][/quote]Please bro, I know I effed up by walking out and I'm ready to tackle the situation now. I'm intending to talk to the girl now as you advice, and talk to her what does she wants from me and if I could get a good response from her. I'll let her know to fix a meeting with the guy maybe her place or I don't know, and I think from there IL try to fix up what I had broken. Or what do you think?

Cc: pacesetting your response to this will be much appreciated sir

eph12:
You missed your opportunity to take charge. You should ask her what she wants from you and her ex when next she's able to reach you. There must be a reply, not some 'I don't know ' nonsense. Don't ignore her again

Why bro? After what she's done..

pacesetting:
I mentioned 2 options: talking to the guy or having a deep discussion with your girl. Actually, you will accomplish two things by doing both. You don't need to have an issue before you talk to your fellow dude.

Expantiate more...
Cos to me I don't have any business with the guy..

I know I shouldn't have walked out at that time but I was down.

pacesetting:
OP, you shouldn't have left the room when her ex entered. That was the best chance for you to actually find out the truth.

When the three of you engage in conversation, you will notice who she really cared for from her body language.

I've passed through similar scenario. Her ex came visiting while I was in her apartment, and 3 of us had awkward conversations. I found out later that she wanted to keep both of us for different reasons.

The truth is, your girl is still having a little connection with her ex, otherwise she wouldn't have allowed him to visit.

If you care for her so much, arrange a meeting with her ex. If you can't do that, sit her down and discuss with her. Then you can make your decision from there whether to continue or break up.

Do I have any issue with the dude?

eph12:
Earn her respect. This goes further than love in my opinion.

What's her reaction about that episode?

When she rushed back inside she started begging me to lemme know she was sorry and I was asking her what but she kept mute thinking maybe it was her dad or someone in her fam, but I found out it was the guy and so I decided to walk out and she came after me but I never looked back to her cos she betrayed the my love for her. And she's not called since the incident that was yester night I guess she had no light on her phone

eph12:
I realized long ago that jealousy, insecurities etc won't help you. Yes she may or may not be cheating but trust me, you can't live your life thinking about this forever. There will be some other issues with the new girl if you get one just because some ex won't leave your girl alone. Show the both of them that you're the bigger person. The girl will respect you unless she's a runs girl. I know this from experience

So now what?

eph12:
Stay and make the guy uncomfortable. Touching, pecking, kissing her in his presence while trying to have a conversation with him. Normal guys conversation and not trying to pry for information.

I guess maybe I haven't found myself in this kinda situation made me that decision. No vex if I fall your hand, it was kinda hard for me too to leave, once I just remember Life is too precious to be humping around a girl who doesn't need love is nothing..

kunleweb:
I'm sure you've already decided on what to do but only came here to seek validations. You're a good guy, it's obvious she has seen your goodness..aka softness.

Whatever you do, just make sure you don't make it easy for her to return, don't take her calls for weeks, avoid her for days, leave it going for two weeks minimum, let it worry and trouble her heart, do not go to her to be the one to apologise forming maturity or good man or none of those fight, make her heart worried, let the suspense worry her, after two weeks, release the break off the pedal gradually, but make her beg and fight for your love, ladies are close to men they fight for, make her see your worth by walking away.

Have self-value for your self, if your self worth and value has been threatened but you still want her, walk away, in that time, i even recommend trying other ladies, and make sure she sees you walking around with them, it'll make her heart get swollen, then she;'ll know how it feels. Only after she has fought desperately for you should you let her back in. Otherwise, don't let her in.


But as for me, any ex that walks through the door and you walk out as a man makes you a weakling. It wasn't your call to make to fight with the dude, that call was hers. She set up the meeting, don't let her use you as an alternative because whatever starts a thing sustains it. She has seen your good heart and is playing with it. If you marry her, note, whatever signs you see at the beginning marks how the journey will be. So, my advice is walk away, but then, i know lovewon't let you listen to sound advice. Posting this thread already suggests you've forgiven her. Leave her bro let her go get her hymen back from the stealer


Cc : LivingFree

You read my mind bro. Exactly what I had in mind to do, but the only part you didn't mention is 'she's gon pay'..