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Romance / My Husband Hit Me by Happytravels: 5:22pm On Apr 18

My husband is extremely caring and loving. He tries his best for me. And I try my best for him. I am a white lady and he is Nigerian. I take care of him and he always talks so fondly of me to all his friends and everyone around him. They tell me he truly loves me like crazy and that he would do anything for me.

But today I saw a side I never did see before. I found some casual flirting online from his side.on his phone. I became mad and angry. I I put his phone down forcefully. But thank God it did not break. I then shut myself in the bathroom with my husband's phone to look at it more .. he broke the door to get in. Because I would not let him in. He yelled at me alot and was very angry. He then threw the phone at my face and really hurt my nose... But after some time he cried and begged that I please stay. That he truly loves me and is shocked that he would ever hurt me. That he has never hurt a woman before in his life .. he begged and held me tightly so I could not leave and would not stop saying he loves me and that it was not his character at all. I have been with this man 2 years online and 5 months in person. We married so I could stay here with him and gain residency and help him. One day raise a family. He was very shocked and hurt by hurting me. I and I felt bad with my attitude that provoked him to such extreme. Never in my life expected this from such a gentle man who is so loving towards me and kind.

Should I forgive him and forget about all this and apologize? Or should I leave?

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Travel / Re: I Am Told I Am Dumb If I Marry A Nigerian Man by Happytravels: 9:23am On Mar 26

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Travel / Re: I Am Told I Am Dumb If I Marry A Nigerian Man by Happytravels: 9:16am On Mar 26

ednut1:
🤣🤣 this is how you will end up

Already told him from the very beginning that I am moving to Nigeria where I am currently. And that he will have to settle here with me, or leave. He had no problem settling here with me and no intention to leave to another country. Orthough he likes the idea, he does not mind staying in Nigeria or whatever I choose to do. If he ever decides that he wants to live outside Nigeria, I told him he can exit the relationship at any time. He currently does not want to do that. I don't want to go home because It is to expensive to live in my country anymore and people are becoming homeless so quickly there

Family / Is Lights Out In Lagos? by Happytravels: 9:07am On Mar 26

Were is the lights/power out in Lagos right now? sad

Anyone know when it will return? MTN also down I heard

Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Recently Cheated On Me, Please I Need Advice by Happytravels: 12:57pm On Mar 25

scanner1000:
Please I need advice right now

My girlfriend of 5 months recently cheated on me.. 17/03/2024 on Sunday was the most heartbreaking day for me. On that fateful day when I was going to my parents side for some important things, I stop a vehicle and as I enter behold" I saw my girlfriend inside the vehicle too, I told her were she was going to but she said she was going to see her uncle, so I believe that instantly. After we got to the bus stop, I wanted to take direct vehicle to my parents house when she called the supposed uncle on phone who directed her to enter same bus going to my parents side, that's when I ask her I would love to see ur uncle since we are heading to same direction.She started feeling uncomfortable and open up she was going to see a guy she met on facebook.. I was so angry and but kept cool. when we got to place we drop off, the guy wave to her across the road. she left me and go with him to his house and guy is already taking herbal drinks.. I felt let down, insulted and heartbroken.. That night she beg me she is so sorry and the next day she said she can't go to work. when I got to her work the next day I learnt from her colleague who said she over heard her telling her bestie on phone that she went to sleep a guy place and her friend should help her on her duty that day..

On Wednesday she came my to place begging and kept lying that she didn't sleep there until I was force to call the guy with her phone and I acted like her brother and he happily said to me that she slept there..

Since den I don't know Wat to do to her.. I really love her but she broke my trust and she lie too much.. she later said she doesn't know why cheating do enter her and dis has cost her in her previous relationship. she went spiritual and was told she has dark spirits which possess her not to stay with one man..

I'm confused right despite she has begged me some part of me is still hurt and I lost her trust

PS.. she have deny me sex for more than 2 weeks for no reason.
we recently have quarrel because of her still communicating with her ex bf.
she has been complaining about money money recently before all dis happened.

Please Any mature advice

I never looked outside until my fiance started cheating on me and always looking at other women. Then I started to look outside. Also, he did not provide for me. I started providing what little money I had to him. And up until that point, I was very loyal to him. But there is only so much a woman can take. He was dismissive to my emotions and never admitted when he was wrong. He had big ego and never communicated. Always ran away from issues. Always blaming me. It was not good. Then finally I left for a guy who could give me what I needed. A woman won't cheat unless she feels she is not getting something in the relationship she wants from you. Maybe as her what made her feel that way. Ask her what you can do so she is not lacking and looking outside. It is not about sex why women cheat. It is either money, lust, their man is cheating, they don't feel "heard", are blamed or shamed, or abuse etc. Maybe you are not showing her off enough or paying enough attention her. But find out why.

Travel / Re: I Am Told I Am Dumb If I Marry A Nigerian Man by Happytravels: 9:08am On Mar 25

ShenTeh:

Yes. Chances are that you are being played.

Nigerians are generally a very lovely and adorable people but unfortunately many bad eggs exist amongst us. The path of finding an interracial online love is highly coveted in Nigeria too, which is why it is being exploited for romance scams by the criminals amongst us.

I particularly believe that that you are being played by these criminals based on your statement that that individual is a public figure, which is one of their modus operandi. One way to burst this is to do a reverse search: conduct an open Google/public domain search of this 'public figure' and contact them through their often publicly listed social media handles. The first thing you would notice will be the subliminal disparity in what you find and what you know.

Don't let it get into your head just yet. Conduct your own due diligence and you would find the truth that you seek. One example of checking this claim is to search this public

That said, there are millions of honest and awesome great single Nigerians and you will find them everywhere if you search earnestly.

My mistake. I didn't mean that he is famous or anything. Just that he is popular on social media. Like he has many followers on tiktok. But we video chat a lot and I have met his parents and siblings on video too.

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Travel / I Am Told I Am Dumb If I Marry A Nigerian Man by Happytravels: 7:41am On Mar 25

I am a white lady who is 30 years of age. I am going over to see a man I have been talking to for some time. He treats me very well. My ex of two years was Nigerian too. No huge complaints, but we really just did not match and we wanted different things in a relationship. So we moved on. My sister's husband is also Nigerian. And they have a child together.

But when I ask other expats and travellers, I'm told that it will always end in a mess and that these men just want to scam me ..

This man helps provide for me. He has never asked me of money like my ex did. He is always there for me and communicates very well. He is very mature and wants a family and marriage if we feel that we are a match together. Even if I decide to live in Nigeria, he is okay with that and not moving anywhere else . He also told everyone online that he is interested in me. He even posted many videos of me. Because he is very popular online (he has many likes on tiktok and followers). But I talk to him daily on video calls and his family and friends also on video call. We can talk all night.

But I am told he is going to kidnap me or hurt me, or steal everything from me ... Everyone laughs at me in my home country and tells me I am a idiot. I'm not sure why. I know there are scammers and yahoo boys in Nigeria. I know this very well. I know what dey be like. I don't feel he is one. But as soon as I say "Nigerian" they say I am being played :/ is this true for every man tin Nigeria though? Hmm

Also I am also told I will get kidnapped in Nigeria when I go to visit :/ that I will always be in danger in Lagos .. this scares me

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Romance / Re: Did I Make The Right Decision To Leave My Fiance? by Happytravels: 11:01am On Mar 24

GodHimself:
Yes.

Make sure you’re with the right person before you start “enduring”.

I advice you draw up a realistic (sensible, non-delusional) list of what you want in a man, based on your new found wisdom, and trust that life will arrange for you to meet such a person sooner than later.

If you don’t learn from your mistakes, you’re bound to repeat them.

Thank you. Yes I just want a few things. I am not picky. I just want someone to answer my calls, be understanding sometimes, and not go days without a reply. Someone who is not looking at every woman that comes his way. Someone who can provide for a family. Because I am 31 now and I have no time to wait to birth a child. He was 31 too, but he could not provide for a family.

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Romance / Re: Did I Make The Right Decision To Leave My Fiance? by Happytravels: 10:57am On Mar 24

AsomStructures:
You'll still see something u don't like in the new guy, It's just a matter of time... Anyways do what u think it's best for you. Like someone said up there He'll be fine. Move on

Yes no one is perfect. I accepted him for who he was. But he could not give anything back. We only spoke once a day and most of the time would not pick his phone. Sometimes days until I hear from him. Just to many things that made me feel really bad. I was always crying.. I know me and this guy will have some disagreements but at least he is trying. I felt like I was the man in the relationship. I did everything.

Romance / Re: Do Nigeria Girls Spend On Guys? by Happytravels: 9:21am On Mar 24

I spent $3000 on my ex husband of 1 year. I know I am crazy. I am a expat from Australia. I given him everything he wanted. But I had to leave because he was not treating me well and another man was. So I left. But I felt so bad because he is going through heartache too.

Romance / Did I Make The Right Decision To Leave My Fiance? by Happytravels: 9:15am On Mar 24

I left him because he cheated on me twice online within 1 year, and was very distant from me. Any little problem he would turn his phone off and not reply. Sometimes I was hurting so much, yet he would still ignore me. Any small problem I tried to talk about, he would just tell me I was a headache and then he would stop talking to me again. But not just that, all year he did not have job. I even give him what little money I have for his mother and himself. He asked for money and told me it is very hard to find job in owerri or Lagos and he won't make much. If I did not give him money, he would have no food. I felt bad. We were getting married in two weeks time, but I was just over his treatment of me. He did not do things I wanted in a man. He said he would get himself together when he would move in with me, but I don't know. In the meantime I met someone who was everything I wanted. A good job, a nice place, always communicated with me, always make me feel happy. I had to make a decision to stay with my fiance (soon to be husband) or leave for this guy who is much more my type of man.. so I left my fiance of 1-2 year.

Nothing was changing much with him. And he would not listen on his to keep a woman happy.
I am very heart broken about this. And his sis told me she does not know were he gone. He left her house and went "crazy" she said. I don't know if he is trying to hurt himself or not. He told me yesterday that he tried to end his life. He begged he would change. But he said he will change many times but never does. I feel so bad and worried for him. But he did not care much for me when I was suffering so much and even wanted to die because of his mistreatment. I am hoping he will not take his life. I hope he is just hurting now. And I am hurting too. But sometimes you cannot change someone who does not want to be a better person. Who hurts you daily. And cannot be the man you need.

Do you think I made a good or bad decision?

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Religion / What Church Services Go All Day Until Night? by Happytravels: 6:00pm On Jan 06

My friend told me she goes to church all day on Saturday. It starts at 9am and can go anywhere from 4pm to even 8pm.

Lately she gets home around 9pm and says there are extra meetings she attends. But I don't know any services that go this late. I asked her what service/religion but she didn't specify. I am just curious what religion or church's have this time table because I finish work at 3pm and thought maybe this be a good service for me to attend in the evening..

Family / Re: Husband Sleeps In His Mother's Bed by Happytravels: 5:24pm On Jan 06

He is 31 and he lives with family right now. His mother is also married. I'm not sure why her husband doesn't sleep in the bed either. My husband has a big coach to sleep on but he doesn't use it. She also walks in when he is on the toliet and talks to him even though he is nude. I'm not saying anything sick is happening. That is not what I am implying. I just want to know if it is normal in Nigeria or not

Capernum:
Is he your husband or your boyfriend?

If he's your husband, it is definitely awkward not only here but it all cultures.

For him to be your husband, we can safely assume he should be in his home and be man enough to provide some basic items like adequate bed, if his mother is staying with him.

But is he still living with his parents? If he is, it is still abnormal too. Ain't there enough mattresses? It's all shades of wrong.

Give us more information. Don't let anyone here blackmail you with soft emotions of you coming in between him and his mom.

When a man is married, it is not expected to ever sleep with his mama on the same bed. Is he poor? Is the mama poor? why are they together?

Family / Re: Husband Sleeps In His Mother's Bed by Happytravels: 5:22pm On Jan 06

Capernum:
Is he your husband or your boyfriend?

If he's your husband, it is definitely awkward not only here but it all cultures.

For him to be your husband, we can safely assume he should be in his home and be man enough to provide some basic items like adequate bed, if his mother is staying with him.

He is 31 and he lives with family right now. His mother is also married. I'm not sure why her husband doesn't sleep in the bed either. My husband has a big coach to sleep on but he doesn't use it. She also walks in when he is on the toliet and talks to him even though he is nude. I'm not saying anything sick is happening. That is not what I am implying. I just want to know if it is normal in Nigeria or not

But is he still living with his parents? If he is, it is still abnormal too. Ain't there enough mattresses? It's all shades of wrong.

Give us more information. Don't let anyone here blackmail you with soft emotions of you coming in between him and his mom.

When a man is married, it is not expected to ever sleep with his mama on the same bed. Is he poor? Is the mama poor? why are they together?

Family / Husband Sleeps In His Mother's Bed by Happytravels: 8:18pm On Dec 31, 2023

Is this normal? My husband lives in Owerri state and one night he was mad at me because his mother got upset that he was texting me late while in bed.

Turns out he was sleeping in the same bed as his mother. I don't know if this is common practice in Nigeria because I am from a western country, so this is not something we do in my culture.

Is this common in Igbo/Nigerian culture to share beds with family?

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