zoeycherie:


Please do not allow a stranger diagnose you online. Psychological blah blah blah. Have you asked yourself why a supposed humble millionaire like him is still single and unable to maintain a long term relationship?

Nobody holy pass my dear. You've set your standards. Keep improving yourself and open yourself to possibilities. You can never go wrong by setting a standard to avoid mistreatment and abuse.

All the super women breadwinners and build-a-man women, how market?
For some of them, after more than 20 years of marriage, the man is still in foundation stage because he refused to grow up.

It will be all right. I wish you well.

LMAO

[quote author=Adem20 post=84582543][/quote]An ambitious man to me is someone who knows what he wants in all aspects of life and does all he can to go them. He has purpose, he is driven. He seeks counsel from mentors, he takes risks. That passion keeps him going and wakes him up daily

CSTR2:
What do you have to offer?
I didn't see anything special in what you listed as selling points.

You are not even a virgin. And you are average looking too.
And you also don't have a well established career from what you said.
What do you have to offer for all those high standards?

The man that fits your criteria is a hot cake.
You are not the only woman that wants him.

So what do you have to offer that others don't.

what does such a man want? I have laid my cards on the table and have nothing to hide. If he says want he wants we can go from there.

adanny01:


When a brand becomes too expensive than its alternatives, the brand spends more time on the shelf.

Even though an iPhone is the best phone maker, Samsung beats it in several ways by being more affordable and less restricted.

You are not the only girl with a virgina. Others are less restricted, less pricey and will get more dicks.

When 2 people decide to get married, it is not the number of dicks she had or virgina he bleeped that determines anything.

What am saying is that sex is not a reward for your partner, it is a desire you want to satisfy yourself first and your partner second.

Someone like me will refuse sex from you because of the strings attached. Its even worst if you want the conditions met before sex.

I think you are trying to force destiny in your favour and you are trying too hard. I think looking for a particular type of man is a bad idea. The way to go is determining if the guy you are dating is the particular type of man. If the guy you are dating is half the man you expect, compromise should be considered. If along the way, you had sex with all the guys you dated, its not a crime.

sex is high risk and low reward for women and not pleasant for all women. That is why faking it is almost second nature to so.e women.

I am not saying i don't like sex, i don't regret being sexually active. I am not in a relationship, and do not see the point sleeping around.

adanny01:


When a brand becomes too expensive than its alternatives, the brand spends more time on the shelf.

Even though an iPhone is the best phone maker, Samsung beats it in several ways by being more affordable and less restricted.

You are not the only girl with a virgina. Others are less restricted, less pricey and will get more dicks.

When 2 people decide to get married, it is not the number of dicks she had or virgina he bleeped that determines anything.

What am saying is that sex is not a reward for your partner, it is a desire you want to satisfy yourself first and your partner second.

Someone like me will refuse sex from you because of the strings attached. Its even worst if you want the conditions met before sex.

I think you are trying to force destiny in your favour and you are trying too hard. I think looking for a particular type of man is a bad idea. The way to go is determining if the guy you are dating is the particular type of man. If the guy you are dating is half the man you expect, compromise should be considered. If along the way, you had sex with all the guys you dated, its not a crime.

sex is high risk and low reward for women and not pleasant for all women. That is why faking it is almost second nature to so.e women.

I am not saying i don't like sex, i don't regret being sexually active. I am not in a relationship, and do not see the point sleeping around.

uscofield:


No woman would say ill about herself.
Here are some guides:

I met this lady when i was squatting with my pal (just after NYSC), had no job, no money and no house of my own in the new state of abode. Managed to get a teaching job and same day of the job, my things were thrown out of the house by my pal.
My plans was to marry a girl from a rich home, with good education and well spoken, but what can i do when i don't have a job. Had so many of the girls around but none looked inward to see what i could become tomorrow.
They girl I met (waec holder with incomplete result) picked me up with her little cash, paid for a room for me and asked me to start life from there at no refund for the rent.
I asked the girl to enroll for waec which she did and passed. same year, she gained admission into the higher institution. Two months into the classroom, i got a job. I supported the girl financially and ensured she got the better part of her education.
Two years later, It was time to settle down, i met some of the girls (they are not aware of my present status) for marriage, they declined my proposal with flimsy excuses.
Most of the girls are not married till date. The one i craved dearly for died few months after her wedding (God saved me from her).
I called the girl that gave me shelter when i had non, asked for her hand and she accepted.
Five years in marriage and still counting, I am wonderfully blessed. Blessed with my own property, a car, two wonderful boys, professional certs., and now nursing the dream of leaving this country.

This is a true life story. Completely true.

Here is the advise:
She wasn't my class, not in my league, not from rich home but i saw some qualities in her that can keep you going. I moulded her into what i wanted (a graduate, a mother, and a working class).
No one prays for less in life but God is the ultimate planner of our lives.
You can't see all you deserve in a man but you can make the man what you want. Men are soft and easily yield to the desires of their partners when they get the needed support from her.
Make sure you have the right attitude to hold a man (no turn monitoring spirit when he is away).
Give someone a chance because you can't truly know what a man is made of until you have his heart and vise versa.
Remain nice to others even if you don't have interest in them, they can be your guests during events. They can also change their lives just because of your attitude towards them.
Remain focused on your dreams.
Poor man today can/may never be poor tomorrow.
"Hand to mouth"guys today can become CEOs of tomorrow.

I wish you the best.

that's so inspiring, maybe i am being arrogant. I will try to be nicer.

Pufpuf:
You seem to have standards, for expecting such qualities from your man too.
Meanwhile, your expectations tally with mine except that I’m a doctor.
I wish you good luck.

Are you writing PLAB or USLME

CCC2:
Since your Virgina requires investment and commitment, why no take it to Allen at night. There you will find many committed investors.

That's not the kind of investment i am looking for

Obito555:
I pray u met the right man just like I pray I met the right woman too

Amen

Timileyin1234:

U meant no insult. Why didn’t u put question mark in that ur sentence

i thought i did. I.am sorry once again

healthserve:




We both know ourselves. By now you should see it clearly i know who you are. You see how i pushed for your thread to move to front page for wider audience.


Accept my counsel, accept Christ, denounce those issues, seek a prophet.

" The answers you seek, God has them, i told you in the past, i'm repeating it here again "


Find God, Find Peace !

thanks

helpnigeria:
I don't reply anything on nairaland becos there are a lot of crazy ppl out there. but for you I can tell you for free what you are doing is the way to go if you wanna end up with the right guy.

Thank you

Timileyin1234:

I didn’t quote u, don’t f*cking quote me.
U won’t achieve all those things in ur life. Idiot

i meant no insult, sorry if i offended you

kponkedenge:

How can I reach you?

sent you a dm

Ferdinandu:
Ask your father and your uncles whether they had those standards when they were in their early years. Check whether your brothers and maybe cousin brothers of marriageable age had those standards. If they all have them, continue your quest, if they don't,then you need some introspection. Are you not setting up an unattainable standard that will keep unhappy all days.

my mother had those standards.

Pufpuf:
You seem to have standards, for expecting such qualities from your man too.
Meanwhile, your expectations tally with mine except that I’m a doctor.
I wish you good luck.

i am one too, and come from a family of one. I just want to break that monotony we are known for

Azmanaty:


Ugly girls do shit the most. U are one of them

thank you

yettymuse:
If you raise a standard, then be sure you match same standard. You want a man with a car, good apartment, gainfully employed etc.... Do you have a car? Do you pay your own bills? Do you have an apartment to yourself??

The pu..s!y market is saturated now and only good pssies with good head gets a great spoil!

....start by upgrading yourself with your own money....(it’s a lot of work trying to upgrade with a man’s money)... I’m not talking Instagram-kinda upgrade... then every other thang will fall into place!

i have these things.

Timileyin1234:

U want to mingle with a feminist. I pity ur life, with all criteria this geh put up there, she can’t find

what is unattainable in my criteria? won't you achieve all these things at a time in your life.

JayPeeOham:
Cc:

Harlequeen,

You only talked about ur Dad, sorry to ask, but what about ur Mom?

Something tells me she has the best advice to give you in this regard. Maybe you should go talk to her or what do you think?

she is just slightly concerned that i am not married at 25 or seeing anybody for now, but she wants me to choose a good partner first of all. She tells me to do what i can and be smart about it.And she wants me to manhunt in the house of the lord.

Beosten:


Few weeks to her graduation, I resigned from my job. I knew I couldn't raise a family with that job because it was hell of a job. I was doing it to save something and pay her fees. When I resigned against her wish, she left immediately. She called me a lazy man who doesn't want to work but want to eat. She thought life ended when I resigned.

I can't pay anyone's fees now in a datin relationship. I can only do that now for the sake of charity.

Man, that's tough.

princefunmmy:

Wow that's serious! well, I can't give any advice because I'll misjudge you as I've not had conversation with you. you'd be fine las las... live one day at a time, open your mind and maybe if you take your mind off it. the right guy might walk in

thanks

zexy2030:

This is actually the perfect time, to enjoy your marriage while you r young, 27, 28 isn't bad too but getting a suitor maybe quite difficult as your climb higher in your career, real men though not financially equated to your status feel intimidated, while fuvck boys dare but u can smell that from far all they want is ur pussy(if u r d type, dey may get 2u), then career guys too majority are selective(they consider themselves to be alpha male, they can get any woman, with their money and they are serious flirts).
Now to find a man that suits you, firstly,
At every level in life we meet suitors that appears to be perfect. I will advice to get into the circus of ambitious men(your spec) and that happens as your grow your career and catch your dream man where do you find your spec? 1. Online? no or maybe.
2. Social gatherings : weddings, burials, naming ceremonies, churches, tuition centres, camps
3. Art galleries and museums
4. Sport centres
But what works most for many these days is referral. Feel free allow him do what he wants, except sex, if u r dat disciplined anyways
...about sex? Men love sex honestly and it's just standing by your principles and be transparent with him. Call him for events go out together its fun, sex is just physical activity but never sweeter than a lovely companion.
As the guys notices you call him for social events and mostly allows him visit you in a public places you work or earn a living, by his observations and secret investigation about your chastity.. May never demand for sex. Men only ask for sex when your chastity is in doubt...that's mostly from what they hear compared with what u tell them or what they investigated about what u tell them..then trust is built. In all be yourself, never change due to environmental, or historical past..and if u must give him sex, engage him with subtle creative activity( I bet, your guy will love you more for intelligence than sex)
That's my little submission, though more
Though I'm still single. Not yet in any serious relationship...now just preparing for a good home. Maybe we should meet.

thanks

healthserve:



Let's keep staying away from each other please.


Thanks

i never said i was going to stay away from you

luminouz:

How soon are you guys closing up for the year? 20th?



There is something about this thread,guess who OP is o!

oya guese

healthserve:



The Op has deeper psychological issues bro. Don't bother. Nothing here or counsel from here would easily work. Some problems cuts deep into psychological, spiritual levels, not to forget deep flawed logic that leads people on a self-assuned path of safety till it cost them more than they realize. This isn't someone you can influence easily as they'll see themselves as hardly wrong, and yes not open to make needful corrections to lead a happy life!



Trust me I know this one. This is purely a psychological issues with the possibility of deeper spiritual background issues and then the obvious " habit " issues, habits that has been applied for so long that has formed the basis of how they apply themselves to life, hence they won't see their actions as wrongs cause over time it has evolved into their embelmic-actions

thanks for your input,could you clarify on this.

healthserve:
While the title of this thread states I don't know what my problem is, has anyone observed that the Op has answers to almost every comments on here. How can one have the answers to their issues and then still don't know their problem!

Guys, stay woke. If the Op comes to the intuit phase knowledge will make itself her guide. For now, I struggle to agree the Op is ready to make adjustments/find out what her problem is. Allow me recommend a professional therapist as someone to speak with ....


Cc Dennel GrabHisballs


And BTW, so many people will get to their destinations without having anyone standing as their messiah in their lives.

i sincerely thanked some people for their advice, i didn't answer everyone. I also did say that if anyone had questions or clarifications, that i would answer them and that is what i have been doing. People have given conflicting advice here. It's just discussion. That i am answering people does not mean i am not processing their feedback. Stay woke.

dennel:


He tried every humanly possible tns to get her back but she was alrdy broken n chosed another path...

Do you even know that when we fixed seeing the bad out of anyone you’ll be blindfolded to the goods?! I think dts one of your challenge now; the first Tn dt will help you is resetting your mind

he didn't try every humanly possible thing. He only thought she was good enough for him when he was broke and homeless. How.about coming to get her when he made it. Acrimony is the sad ending that wait for any person who plays the role of come up woman.

dennel:



Always know dt people will get to their destinations with or without anyone seeing his/herself as their messiah; I think you need more of Jesus right now

BUT THEN,when you forget the people that made your journey worthwhile, what type of person does that make you. A flaky person.


Let's not lie that man was a hobosexual.

dennel:



Good... but rembr there’re guys who re just setting their plans n ambition; I mean you meeting them when they’re not buoyant yet but setting their lives: seen the movie Acrimony before? Let’s forget his worst side spending the woman money n let’s fig out how he was working so hard on the engineering tns n focused; he was broke, broken n at the same time loved... check out the ending story, the whole faults rested on the woman... he never changed all thru

So I’m saying, you need God, you only need an ambitious, balanced n cool man (you won’t c his interest and ambitions from afar), get to know him, be sure he loves you n you love him too...

Table turns; you don’t know! Guys cruising Benz today may become beggers tomao while the broke n broken today wud be in a G wagon supporting the old rich nigga you all are running after today...

God n wisdom is highly needed in situations like this bcus this is an issue dt can may or destroy life! Pls be wise

you only see one side of the argument. Remember that acrimony was a very controversial movie, and i do not think her character was wrong. What that man did is enough to make any woman run mad. The man was just not loyal,he didn't see her as worth fighting for when he made it and to add salt to injury, he took their dreams and bleeped it with the same woman who he cheated on her with.No matter how focused he is, taraji's main mistake was financially assisting and feeding a full grown man for 20 years. This only accentuates my point

But i will take the rest of your paragraph to heart

Biingoo:
I swear if I catch that op for tight corner eeh! Na to shift her small womb go sure pass

you sound like a rapist

zed7:

Actually, there is a thin line between high self esteem and narcissism. Whilst we think we are the best thing to sliced bread, others may just see us as shíít and avoid us. Learn to be a bit humble, respect all irrespective of whether he is your spec or not.

My elder sister worked in a multinational, was doing good, pretty and all but kept looking for the right man like you. She was very friendly with this semi educated guy who admired her so much. One day he told his cousin about her. He introduced them and he ended up being her dream guy. Even 'fuckboys 'have their purpose.

Do not drop your standards but also realize that sometimes what is good for us is not always what we think is good for us. You are young, don't put pressure on yourself. Just enjoy the company of guys casually. To be honest, I can boldly say you don't understand men yet.

A question to ask is, the people we want, do they want us in return? The best gifts sometimes come in unattractive packages. Stay safe.

thanks