gentleman82:
Repent now of your sinful evil ways to avoid spending your eternity in hell fire after you die. Jesus Christ love and warns you to repent and convert now to Christianity to avoid hell fire. Only Jesus Christ can save you by his death on the cross and his blood which washes away your sins, any other ways ( Islam, paganism, Hinduism, atheism, etc) can not save you. Be wise while you still have the chance accept Jesus Christ now and save your soul from hell. Be wiser than Satan and follow the one true God

that it is chua chua doesn't mean it is illegal, is it?

bpalace:
For my friend, bisola
State government job MO at 260k plus Chua chua and other earning amounts to extra 20k/ month could get higher. But Progression may be poor or slow in years coming.
Or
Federal government MO at 186k ...normal civil service career progression with promotions... Could get upto 400k in 6,years time
Every doctor wants to save money and move... So...

biko which state, hope it is not lagos. If you want to save and jaapka, go for state job. What are you doing in this country def.


More doctors are needed in state job abeg.

NoToPile:
The vibes I am getting from posts on this thread is that men no longer want to be providers.

exactly, they want to be parasites

rotadeco27:
It is better to speak in the only language they understand

they are becoming deaf to it

Swealy:
I have been having suicidal thoughts for 4 years now ,since my final year in the university
I am under 23 and have a good job and a great family but I always feel depressed and I don't know the reason.
I am just tired of life and everything overwhelms me, I sweat around people, my heart races Everytime,no friends, always feel left out.
I don't know what to do

try seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist. This is a serious issue

Dear nigerians!

Whosoever doesn't know that the health sector is a joke is obviously not a nigerian.

✓Frustrated and striking, overwhelmed health staff.
✓Inadequate medical facilities
✓Poor health insurance schemes hence people have to pay out of their pocket.
✓Brain drain

Tomorrow, resident doctors are going on a nationwide strike AGAIN.

This is what it means.

Resident doctors are doctors who are under a residency program where they STUDY and WORK to become a consultant in a specialized area of medicine for a period of 6+x years after medical school. They are usually found mostly in teaching hospitals/tetiary centers where residency programs are run. You can also find them in a few secondary centers if they run a residency program.

In Lagos State, we have 2 main tetiary centers, LUTH which is owned by the federal government, and LASUTH which is owned by lagos state. Tetiary centers are like that because they are the final bus stops for the ill. In theory, you're supposed to get the highest level of care there that secondary and primary health centers cannot handle. Resident doctors are the majority of the workforce (doctors) there.

What happens when resident doctors under the umbrella of NARD undergoes a strike?

For the average nigerian it's like this. Patients who usually frequent LUTH and LASUTH for their medical appointments will no longer be able to do so. Most of the patients already on admission will be discharged.

Those discharged patients whose sicknesses won't heal themselves with no where to go will flock specialist private hospitals if they can afford it, but most will find themselves in public secondary centers like general and military hospitals that referred them to the tetiary centers in the first place because they couldn't handle them.

Meanwhile more sick people will also troop into the same secondary facilities with no where else to go. Before long, the hospital becomes overwhelmed with patients, people begging for admission, but they will have to wait hours or even days before getting a bed space. Imagine a very ill person sitting and getting treatment on a chair, on a stretcher, on the floor, holding your drip because there are no drip stands or it being nailed to a wall. In no time, hospitals will start rejecting patients because due to lack of bed space even if it's an emergency. (All this happens on a normal day, but it increases tenfold during a strike)


The back log will even spill over into primary centers that have available doctors where the process will repeat itself the few available staff trying to see more than they can handle. It's like an epic spillover of the sick.

Then the average person that has 'malaria' but decided to treat it at the chemist but the treatment failed will join the whole fiasco.

This is why one will hear of cases of a sick person going from hospital to hospital and being rejected before giving up the ghost or taken to a traditional center/church/village to die.

So whose fault is it? The health workers, or your promise and fail government? Well fed dogs won't keep howling. HOLD YOUR GOVERNMENT ACCOUNTABLE!!

This is coming from someone who has lost family and friends to death during different strike actions.

Scam!!

Hi

Thank you very much sir,

Sent you an email already

DenreleDave:



Pm me... I am not collecting anytin from u..

I will teach u how to make sharwama...

What and what to do so as to gain patronage

Areas u shud be....


I once operated a shawarma joint for someone..

Pls nairalanders, come to my aid

It has not been easy for me during this lockdown.

I have been looking for ideas to start a business, and the ones that appealed to me is either a sharwarma/barbeque business or a restaurant/canteen business.

I don't know much about the business.

Pls i want to ask, is it viable? Because I don't stay in a populated area like abuja, i stay in Minna.

How much capital will i need to start a small scale canteen?

What materials, tools and equipment will i need?

Who do i need to employ?

How do i learn how to make sharwarma/barbeque?

I have just 100k

God bless your hustle as you give suggestions. Thank you

Pls nairalanders, come to my aid

It has not been easy for me during this lockdown.

I have been looking for ideas to start a business, and the ones that appealed to me is either a sharwarma/barbeque business or a restaurant/canteen business.

I don't know much about the business.

Pls i want to ask, is it viable? Because I don't stay in a populated area like abuja, i stay in Minna.

How much capital will i need to start a small scale canteen?

What materials, tools and equipment will i need?

Who do i need to employ?

How do i learn how to make sharwarma/barbeque?

I have just 100k

God bless your hustle as you give suggestions. Thank you.

Quinex:
I know you're joking but assuming you're serious, how can one person have 10 kids? You wan born a full community?

A football team, goal keeper is on the way

yettymuse:
So laidis laidis op don knack skin to skin ...laughing in premium tears

Haunt Barbara, I see you’re fighting your intuition, you’ll be soon

I don't understand. Pls could you shed more light?

factormatt6:
. Sorry about my past, I am not proud of it. I have friends and family members who influence me when I was much younger but I am a change person. I gladly marry her in two years, hope my financial goals will yield results. Thanks for your advice.

cococandy:
My advice to both of you if y’all are for real would be to figure out what you want to do with your lives first. And see if you both fit into each other’s life goals.
If not, don’t let any opportunities to find suitable partners pass you by. But not before you’ve done your best to make it work.

You’re both in a rut so to say. OP at 30 doesn’t know exactly what he wants to do and the girl is right to be worried. Baby girl while still young at 25 doesn’t mean you’re not mature enough to have stuff figured nor does it mean that you have time to wait until you’re older before you start figuring it out.

It’s not necessarily about making a good income (even though that’s important) but it’s also about stability and
a clear cut direction in life.

Thank you. We know that our visions align. But we will give it our all.

factormatt6:
. I put too much pressure on you, I take a lot of your time, I am truly sorry. After the lock down, a lot of things will occupy my time. Please bear with me. If you choose to be patience with me, I won't by anyway treat you with any form of disrespect. I truly love you. If you choose to let go,I won't take it personal rather it will help to make me a better person in future.

thank you dear. I'm sorry for making you worry.

yeyeosoronga:


Your wahala is too much.
You're confused about your career choice, you need advise on this
You're confused about your relationship sturvs, you still need advice on this
And you're probably confused about life in general.
Take a break man, and try to figure out your life before bringing someone else on board

it's not easy pls. Just be gentle with him

yeyeosoronga:
Is OP and lovergirl one and the same person?
What a great romance story on NL

No we aren't please. Just give us advice. Thank you.

Hello everyone,I'm the girl op is talking about.

This is another long epistle

A few months ago I created a thread stating my difficulties finding men and a lot of you had wonderful advice to give To get more background on the matter, you could peep at the thread.

After that thread, I decided to be open minded, and a few weeks later, I met op. We have hit it off, and things happened, and are still happening fast. Also, I am 25 not 30, that must have been a mistake on his part....no biggie

Now on to the matter. I never really expected to meet op. He is a wonderful person. We love each other no doubt. Now the issue is so complex, To be honest, I don't even know what's wrong with me for distancing him like that. This emotional thing is a real hassle

Our relationship is long distance. Op has had experience with something similar, I haven't, and let me tell you. It is hard, very hard.

Also, I think it may have to do with my personality. I can be reserved at times and quite the loner. Also, emotions are not something I am used to. But I do know this. Op is someone who has a similar vision to mine. I just wasn't expecting fate to deal me the card that it did.

Although factormatt6 is determined, he's just starting afresh. One of the fears I have, is building with a man and making sacrifices for a man, and can you blame me? I see a lot of women get burned for trying that and getting discarded. I grew up in a home where I witnessed my parents fall out of love because one sacrificed her dreams to stay at home, get a small job and look after kids. She was so focused on making sure she trained us well, that she was a mother first,while he advanced in his career to put food on the table. Once he started making it. He started seeing his wife as too behind, too fat, too unsophisticated,too histronic for him or to be seen with his stingy ass. I don't hate my dad, but I will call a spade a spade, I also have a cordial relationship with both parents and tired of being a mediator so I left them to fate. They seem happy with their arrangement. Now we are grown up, and she's almost finished with school but she's also getting older. They still stay married because they are used to each other, besides I don't think there's any other woman who would let my dad get away with the BS my dad does like my thick skinned mom. A loveless relationship where they are just flatmates and happy with themselves. Growing up like this has shaped my personality. I told myself that I will not make the same mistake of putting myself on hold for a man, or his children. That's why I'm career oriented. What if something similar happens to me in future. He loves me now, but people always change. What will the future bring?


When I met factormatt6, What shocked me was the fact that he's starting school again, but that will take some years to finish, then he also had to go for his master's and PhD, what if things don't work out as planned, does that mean I'll be feeding a man and being the breadwinner? That's emotionally exhausting. What if I end up being a surrogate mother to a grown ass man? I cannot wish that situation on my enemy. That's why I act cold to him. Op has a mommy complex and I told him to deal with it. He then asked if I could be like a big sister, that sent alarm bells to my head, and we argued about it

So I find myself fighting between my common sense and my heart. I am struggling to convince myself that I am making the right choice. This is in no way his fault.He seems to know this too. It makes me act in ways that makes him feel like I don't trust him. My cold, blunt, introverted and loner nature isn't helping either.

About the matter of an ultimatum, it wasn't really an ultimatum per se. I don't know. One of the first things, I told him was that I only deal with results. So, he needs to put his life in order. I was I won't mind waiting for him for only two years for him to structure his life so that we can both go to my parents and I will not be embarrassed to present him to them. We could then focus on our career and start childbearing when we are more stable. I know he wants to marry me, but I tell him we aren't ready yet. This causes me to put a lot of pressure on him.


I know he's trying and giving it his all, but it seems like I am fighting myself. The battle to not see other people, and keep my options open, he calls me constantly, and I call him at times too, but we can spend 2-3hrs on the phone, and it doesn't help that factormatt6 is a great conversationalist. At times, I just feel like I am not in the mood for conversation but don't want to put it across to him, so as not to hurt his feelings.

Also, Op can be very insecure, It was one of the things I have noticed about him so he can take somethings I say or do personally , he then starts to sulk, so I find myself watching myself so that I don't hurt his feelings . But I also feel like I am in a landmine with him sometimes. He's also an intense person and that scares me, I am more laid back. He can also be a monitoring spirit at times but it's cool.


Then to top it all off, is this terrible lockdown, we try to keep things afloat by chatting a lot. But I find myself feeling drained. I started the lockdown earlier than everyone else and staying at home,leaves me drained. I feel like I don't have the energy anymore to read, chat with him, or even go outside. I find myself feeling heavy. All efforts made by my sisters to make me leave the compound prove abortive. Here I am, unemployed when I am supposed to the working and gathering finances for our visions and I am stuck at home. I am even resenting my family members for taking it so well. My parents still go to work because they are in essential services but I feel useless and just want to be left to myself. I feel like a failure. I'm scared of failing. I'm scared of being poor, and I'm poor right now.

factormatt6 I'm sorry if I made you feel bad for asking for space. I love you. It's not your fault. I'll come round soon. I know the lockdown is affecting him too. I keep arguing with him to make new friends or talk to more people online. But it's hard to do so this lockdown. Guess I am being my paranoid, afraid and unreasonable self as usual. It's not your fault dear. I love you.

Logoobenz:
replied

thank you. Will do that straight away

mrpoul:
There is dis girl, that I meet in lecture theater, we sat down together, we chatted but it was concerning the lecture. After the lecture, I disappear because im this kind of very shy person, I didn't know what to talk to her aside the lecture. So I saw her on FB I added her and chatted her, up. It happen that evening I wanted to go eat in a restaurant, I told her she can join me jokingly. Surprisingly, she came, we talked but it was mostly about me and herself. After, we finish eating, I told her to come and know my place, but when she came I was nervous and she did not stay up to 5mins. I told her we need to go, dat her roomie maybe worried about her. The next day when she saw me in school, she was excited to see me. After then our communication sucks, I will call her and be asking all this boring questions, before I know it, sometimes she will see my chat and will not reply. Now I'm confuse, I don't know what to do again. I don't wanna lose her. what do u suggest I do from here? pardon my grammatical blunder.

just be honest and upfront that you are a shy person and like her. Your communication isn't the best, but ask her if she really likes you or not. Then proceed from there

ufotty2001:
Shiloh 2019 have started..

And so?

I cannot attend the same program as the people who own covenant university.

I believe in God o. But Christian are brainwashed set of hypocrites

oshorstan:



Hmmmm you are sounding like one very Useless girl in my office who has used her high standards to chase away every serious suitor. She's from Etsako. She's 29 and very spoilt. She wants her man to sponsor her PhD outside NIGERIA, cannot leave Catholicism even in Marriage, wants to be the dictator for the Man. No Husband family members seen , she wants to rule the Man, etc.


My dear, boys nor get work for Nigeria. We are just hustlers. It's hard for a Bigger boy to marry ladies from a poor family , except your papa na Ogbu or Top gun in society. Why not drop your standards a little , remember your age day go, your female calendar day count. The small girls day fine daily n they're wise, that's why they're getting married every Saturday to these hustling guys. Use your head, no time

i am not from a poor family,so scratch that

jimcaddy:
Your assertion reeks of hurt more than even pride. I think you are really hurt by your last relationship or previous relationships and now you don't even care anymore. Just do whatever that makes you happy. I cannot advice you because you have a mindset already that no one can change quite easily.

no, pls stop. Trust me when I truly say i am over it. Read later posts

Timbuktuo:


If this is your conclusion from the same Acrimony movies everyone watched, then maybe the kind of guys you’re looking for have been avoiding you.

This comment of yours is a MASSIVE red flag. You don’t have to agree, of course.

please show some empathy. What i said is what a lot of women took home from the movie. Let's just agree to disagree

Beverlyjean:


How many female billionaires do we hv in the world ?? 90% of female billionaires got their wealth thru family wealth which was created by the father ( man) ... Most women dint know how to manage or grow a business ... Theresa may was given an opportunity as pm but she cudnt manage that position.. next thing is that we blame men for our failing in life not minding the fact that there are more women than men I the world ... Women are groomed to believe that they are entitled to every good thing but will challenge the hard things of life ... Feminists have never talked about the number of women accepted in the army but will challenge payments in sports even tho male sports is more accepted and viewed than female sports ... But also forget that Serena earns more that alot of male tennis players ... The world is designed in such a way that money can only b made thru crowd acceptance ... Men can easily pay a woman to hv a child for him but how many women can do same ?? Men gain employment due to their true credentials but women gain more employment because if credentials dont work , bottom power will work ... Men dont feel as entitled as women ... Men are pressured to mk money first b4 being accepted in the society most times compared to women and that's y they hustle harder than us cos they know that's the only way to mk money for them... Men get intimidated when they see a wealthy woman , they hardly approach wealthy women for marriage ask Linda and Genevieve ... Imagine if they were men , they would hv married a long time ago with loads of women not minding to b second , third or fourth wife ... The truth is that men rhle the world and we should accept it , what we should b fighting for is for them not to take us forgranted ... Can u compare the number of men that hv made people wealthy compared to the number of people women have made wealthy ... Even if men should pass the mantle to us women, we will make a mess of it

i wanted to argue with you, but thought better of it. Okay then

Beverlyjean:


I'm not a feminist but a realist ... Most ideologies that women are begining to believe these days will most likely ruin us .... We need men more than they need us really ....

why do you say that last sentence of yours?

pansophist:






The quoted above only demonstrates the unrealistic standards girls set for themselves, pricing themselves out from the romance market place. Of course, you have the right to aim for high-quality men, but your aiming should be realistic with the situation on ground. You want a well-spoken, accomplished, high-quality man, ready-made man, that lives in Lekki, the kind that is also highly sorted after by lots of women, the kind of man that knows he has options and has less incentive to settle, is, in my view, unrealistic to aim for.

And after all these expectational qualities you wrote, I still didn't see where you wrote about your own contributions to his life. I do not want to think that you assume yourself to be perfect and that any man you picked should be damn lucky for having you in his life. It seems like you want a trophy husband, an exotic animal that you will admire every day for his accomplishments and high-powered lifestyle, you just love him for what he is, not who he is.

How about seeking a good man that will treat you right and grow with him? Do you think that such ready-made men you aim for will find you worthy when you haven't known them in their formative years and when they had nothing? You even said that whenever you see these men, you are not attracted to them, at this point, you need to come to terms with the realities on the ground that relationships are all about compromise. You cant have it all. There is not an equal amount of rich men for every girl, just as there is not an equal amount of stunningly beautiful women for every man.

At 25, I want to believe you should be matured to know that meaningful relationships are formed on the foundations of compatibility and altruism. Seek a man with potential, with honor, thas expresses healthy masculinity. A man that respects you and has good track records that are subjective to his circumstances, grow with him, and let your femininity complements his. Still expecting to sweep off your feet and tingling butterflies is temporary and fades with time before realities sets in.

well spoken, but i have tried potential and didn't like it. All men have potential,but can they make it kinetic energy and yield results?

Beverlyjean:


So because I don't support ur ideas or beliefs , I am a man ...lol... I am the only daughter with 4 bothers and I'm the last ... I hv more of male friends than women ... I know the way we women think and how men think as well... I hv seen life experiences thru my aunties ... Better wake up b4 u get lost in life ... Face reality and leave fantasy

in that case you areost likely the real feminist here