I just met someone, we got talking, its been cool all along. I got home late some days ago, video chatted her downstairs, because madam was already asleep upstairs. Lo and behold, i heard someone creeping from upstairs, wasnt too sure but she just showed up gbam! I cut the video call, she said who am i talking to and ish, I was like its a friend, she said why did u now cut it, said we were done talking. The whole thing turned into an argument, I said i have nothing to hide but she should understand how it feels like for me demanding that you are accountable for your movements while u left the kids at the hospital. To cut long story shot, when the noise became too much from her, i drove out and the next thing am seeing via text is " lets just stop deceiving ourselves" marriage with no trust will collapse, so you are deceiving me?

okoroemeka:
exactly my thoughts also,the only offending part of the story is leaving her kids in the hospital and planning to do photoshoot,what mother does that?only the hysteria of having her kids in the hospital is enough to make most women forget anything else but the well being of their children,also Mr op don't you think you are a little bit paranoid about your wife cheating to switch your call to video call to prove what?to know we're she is?from the story the woman is just irritated by your constant suspicion and monitoring.

If you are married, i bet that you wont say such, from your assertion that I requested a video call after several denial of her whereabout seems to me that you are clueless as to know what it is to be a husband who loves his wife. Irritated? Something must be wrong with u up there.

Guys, blv me its not like am reading all comments here, just digging into the real comments not just some women support women comments or some small pikin wey never
grow balls yet. I have some few points to clear the air here:

1: Majority of what I have seen here so far boils down to hack her phone, put a spy and so on and so forth,based on my previous statement that we have had series of
issues that points towards infidelity, so the issue of phone tracking even though i didnt make use of sophisticated software, she got to know so phone is not even
what I can use right now, she has upgraded from that. However I know if access is granted to listen to her calls, I def would get evidence.

2: I have done DNA 4 years ago, both kids are mine.

3: Yes there have been trust issues from wayback beginning from where i found out that she saved her main ex number as another name and lied
on her mothers grave that they never spoke where call logs showed otherwise amongst plenty other incidences

4: I understand people saying I would have calmed down when i found out she wasnt in the hospital, the thought of her hiding something from me wasnt what roused
my actions, but that she left the kids with the maid, some people here saying leaving kids with maid isnt a big deal, isnt this same nairaland where we
read stories of maids abducting kids? I can never in this life risk such.

Now let me give a clearer version of what gave me the intution that something was up. That very morning on this faithful day, she had called me she was coming home
to bath so she can go back, I was like bae, plz i will be coming down there now to represent you, then u can leave, she was like no her body itches that she cant wait
i was like oh well, I will call the hospital to ensure that they watch over the kids since they will be left with the house maid, lo and behold after hanging up with
her, 3 mins later she stepped in. I was like so u already left even before calling me, she was like yea i couldnt wait. Now for you guys saying she probably
didnt want to get me mad by not telling me she went home, what happened to calling me and say bae i need to quickly get home to pick my modelling stuff, come stay while
i leave, but hell naw she didnt. Now what sparked my major suspicion was that, guys I know this madam well, if at any point she was hiding anything from me, and I have evidence
that shes telling a lie, she will immediately own up and say ok i lied, in the situation that she was actually in the uber as of the time I called her n asked
where she was, I swear guys she will immediately tell me shes on her way home and will gladly take my video call.

But in this case, when i called her, she was in a silent environment, call it interrogation or whatever but i know what am talking about, then she hung up immediately, what sign
does that immediate hanging up gives? Shes rushing to quickly gather herself together and leave the scene shes at because she knows i will request a video call.
The second and third call i put through that she didnt pick goes to show shes taking more time to gather herself to leave the scene. Then next time she picks
and then says am in uber, call me now on video shows to me that the uber had picked her up, waited for her to get done and head to whatever destination she was heading
before she heads back to the hospital, and by virtue of not picking the video call in the uber means she knows def well that I will ask that she shows me the
enviroment where she was at, because she told me the uber guy already reached the house, because I called security and they said she has not come home yet. All shades
of lies came through that really stink harder than what I have never experienced before. Guys talking about evidence, to get evidence from a smart cheating or
secretive partner is really hard, most especially in this hard Lagos where u need to work hard day and night to survive. As of now, November trip on her app is deleted,while
september and previous months shows there which u cant do on ur own unless you contact the company to delete it, to me thats trying to avoid getting info from the ride, because it was the same cab that picked her up that also dropped her back
at the hospital. Marriage is something else my brother, at this point, I may need to get me a side chic that will wallow away these worries and pain i feel
whenever these type of incident come up.

Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.