Trying to push out Rochas abi @op

By the straps on their wedding gowns

I didnt want my thread on the frontpage. I just needed the opinions of the peeps in this section.

Its been interesting reading all the comments here. But then I might need to clarify some things;
I am not stingy in any ramification of the word
I am not tough on money issues, I am a spendthrift so I absolutely understand when someone is a lil extravagant with allowances.
My wife is not a housewife cos she aint done with school yet. she s on IT.
And when I said there was money in the house, I mean money she had complete access to spend as she deems fit.

What I do not understand is the lie; not accepting that she took it when she knew very well I would take her word for it and beam my searchlights elsewhere.
I just do not understand the purpose and its obvious no one here knows. so I guess I would just have to ask her.

Thank you for the responses.
@chaircover
you ve made valid points. as for asking to account for how much she spends, thats so not me. I only tend to raise eyebrows if some money that was meant to last a particular period does not get to that time. she has free use of the money even to the point of been termed extravagant.

as per cutting of allowance, i do not intend to. was just asking for opinion

Gudintent: Has she told you why she was doing that? How come you keep so much cash around, whatever happened to the bank?

Not condoning stealing.

that s exactly what am trying to figure out. dont know why she does it knoking someone else might take the fall for it?

as per banks, its just the way am wired

@babyosisi

nice way you put it. i have never been addressed as stingy. and if you had read my post very well, you would ve seen where i mentioned having enough money in the house that os within her reach.
what am trying to understand is why shes doing it ; obviously not of lack of of it

Dey there dey sleep on top transformer.
you know what to do

Dfew

This isnt a single ladies bashing thread. it also serves to expose one of our many societal ills. it hapens to the guys (married and single) and vice versa the ladies. but we cannot at any instance apportion bame on one party while the other seems innocent. cos for any proposal to be valid, it takes two willing people. no man whether married or not in our present society actually forces a man to date him or have an affair with him vis the ladies. so whichever we swing let it known that it was exactly what we wanted at the time.
Nobody holy pass

Tashamania:

I refused to be vexed, for candy's sake o!
But warn all dem married people here. They should stop hating on a chic. Especially coogar (whose gender am yet to confirm. My bad, if it is a girl though) and our baba agba, biolabee with granny, tpia. Let them leave me alone

And for pete's sake, this aint my thread. why the attacks? Popularity, innit?

it seems you ve seized this thread to launder whatever notorious image you ve got. this thread is not about you so taking it personal says a lot about your intentions.

platinumricky: Lemme guess, the op belongs to the 'DYY' group...

which is

armyofone:

one question for the OP , maybe she saw you in such places in the past collecting your money ?

Do you mean like been in a hotel it wasnt in a hotel she came to collect the loan.

tpia@:


if you collect nookie in lieu of money, na you be maga o.

which kind yeye "show of appreciation" be that.

there's nothing wrong with her bringing the money to you in full view of the public, or is she a spirit who must not be seen in daytime?

haba i wasnt a maga before, cant be one now.
she paid the principal but wanted the 'appreciation' inside the hotel room.

andromida:

So you are saying a girl that you don't know and does not care about your wife and kids,has no stake in your marriage and has loose morals should help you be faithful to your wife and kids who you care about and are priority in your life. Lets say a girl reads this and repents there will be others who are worse than she was out there so you keep telling the girls don't tempt me,i will fall. Sorry the responsibility is yours and your wife's only not the sissies.

How can you ask a random stranger to be responsible for your weakness?

You can't ditch this even if you try. Its hard for folks like you but this is the reality its like saying "satan you know i want to be holy please don't tempt me". Am i missing something? is there a girl on this forum you are appealing to because......

tBeen faithful to ma wife is my responsibility and no sissy is gonnamake me unfaithful if i dont want to. but this does not in any way change the fact that this os a regular occurence in our daily lives

debrief08: Well poster, its a choice, like I said the girls have nothing to loose, you married man has a wife and kids looking up to you.
Its your choice just be prepared to live with the consequencies that come with getting involved in that lifestyle, you an adult, no one can force you to do what you don't want to do.
I can ee Biolabee is right, goodluck with your thread

i do not wish to use temptation as justification for infidelity in men. A little encouragement on the part of these girls wouldnt hurt. Majority of us believes and respect the sanctity of marriage but all of us aint that strong. we would want to be left alone to take care of our family. Yes the man has more at stake but the girl does too. so whiile i strive to maintaim my vows, sissies should also know that leading another into temptation carries its own punishment

andromida: Since the beginning of times there has always been and there will always be loose women and men with little or no morals nothing new there. So the reason for this post will be (i am guessing here) that you are a very decent man weighed down by the excesses of single women in the society who are after you despite your wedding ring firmly in place. Are you advising Single women to stop being loose yes i guess? or is this a red alert for married women to shine their torch light on the uselessness of single (oh some) gals? You cannot convert all the ladies to decency even you know that? Or are you trying to tell your wife the great favor you are doing her by being faithful?

Especially when you are young and successful? The older successful ones must be walking about with shields to deflect the singles then.

Ruin their future? or ruin you and your wife and kiddies happiness. Na you go get tension for house na by the time you are always whispering and deleting text messages and wifey is resenting you and the atmosphere at home becomes sour sotey childen are always crying when they see mummy and daddy quarreling dey deceive yourself instead of you to advice yourself or come up with a profitable post on maybe how to resist temptation as a married man you are telling confused women when they see your ring to stay off.

I didnt come up with the bolded. It is a quote from a previous thread.
I guess you misunderstand

@debrief
u've spoken well.
The reason why most men might swing to the left is because they can afford it both in terms of cash and time. they can afford the time on account of many trips which could serve dual purposes and the cash is another tying altogether.
these girls do not go after the average man, they deal with the men who paying school fees and other house expenses isnt a biggie to.

Whether it is a revenge post or not, the truth is that this is what happens in our society.

They are everywhere. Mostly subtle moves I'd definitely recognise for what it is (heck I was once in the game) to the overtly brazen gestures and expressions.
I cant remember how many times I'd had to remind some of them am married and so couldnt call them or recieve their calls especially at the odd hours. Even with a ring permanently on ma finger anytime am out and a ring mark you cant miss when it isnt there, they'd flirt around you with those coquettish moves(especially when you are young and successful) that even a blind man knows what it is.
Just yesterday, a colleague that took a loan from me to execute a job in a show of appreciation invited me to her hotel room to pay the interests. Guess weare supposed to pray there.
It takes a lot of control for a guy to be faithful to a gf talk more of a wife, please do not make it impossible. when you girls see us with our ring, it means we are really trying to make it work with our wives. Its not wrong to appreciate us but do not tempt us before we 'ruin your future'.

P.S: This is not common to all girls. There are still decent ones who treats with us with such decorum who wouldnt (or appear to) be inclined to any affair once the guy is hooked.

Am currently planning a wedding and would want to hire a limo. The ish is that I don't know where or how much it will cost. Any suggestions