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Romance › Re: Battling Shyness by Heebucun(op): 7:48pm On Oct 06, 2014

This should be an interactive thread.
If u know the cause of ur shyness just mention it and someone can answer it or
U could just follow people's lead on how to overcome shyness.
Here are a few of my list on how to battle shyness will discuss others later
1)Don't worry about saying the perfect thing

Instead of searching for the perfect turn of phrase, just work on saying something to keep the conversation going.
If you’re too hung up on every word you say, then you’ll be much more likely to lapse into silence or to stumble on your words. Just keep talking and don’t overthink it and you’ll be much more impressive than if you say almost nothing for five minutes and then tell the perfect joke

2)Come up with a few topics in advance so you feel less nervous.

If you want to feel less shy about talking to girls or in a crowd then one thing you can do is to come up with some ideas for things you could talk about in advance in case you run out of conversational material. In the moment, you may be too busy being in awe of the girl’s cuteness or the population to come up with anything to say or the So, make a quick mental list of just three or four things you could say to her before you start talking. This will make you feel more confident when you go into the conversation,

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 7:30pm On Oct 06, 2014

Junki04:
this is me here...bro from another mum..lol

Dottune:
Lol so we plenty, I hope to overcome my own soon sha, my new Lecturer Heebucun, never start to teach me. BTW how u dey bro?

https://www.nairaland.com/1936243/battling-shyness

Romance › Battling Shyness by Heebucun(op): 7:20pm On Oct 06, 2014

This is a countinuation of my other thread.
U can check it the other thread;
https://www.nairaland.com/1912423/how-bring-shy-guy-out

An introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness.

Shyness is the tendency to feel awkward, worried or tense during social encounters, especially with unfamiliar people. Severely shy people may have physical symptoms like blushing, sweating, a pounding heart or upset stomach; negative feelings about themselves; worries about how others view them; and a tendency to withdraw from social interactions.
Most people feel shy at least occasionally. Some people’s shyness is so intense, however, that it can keep them from interacting with others even when they want or need to— leading to problems in relationships and at work

Since we are clear now.Let's continue

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Romance › Re: Ladies, How Much Love Do You Have by Heebucun(f): 11:34pm On Oct 05, 2014

MORNDEW:
she was the one who went away. She had her flaws bt i was ready to marry her i believe one day she will realise that Love is greater than religion nd i always pray its nt too late then. Not all guys are bad ok.

Going by what u said she showed u 100 percent love.u could just have done something extraordinary like changing your religion to appreciate her but did u?I know all guys are not bad.cooking,washing,standing in line for your boyfriend should not be used to measure love.

Romance › Re: Ladies, How Much Love Do You Have by Heebucun(f): 11:30pm On Oct 05, 2014

MORNDEW:
she was the one who went away. She had her flaws bt i was ready to marry her i believe one day she will realise that Love is greater than religion nd i always pray its nt too late then. Not all guys are bad ok.

Romance › Re: Ladies, How Much Love Do You Have by Heebucun(f): 11:01pm On Oct 05, 2014

MORNDEW:
well we went our different ways due to religion. Which i did my best in trying to convince her. Bt sadly she never reasoned the way i did.

Bottom line is u still departed.ask any girl they will tell u of love gone sour.most girls have been hurt too bad they change their attitude towards love.av seen cases of a guy having 4 gf's.all of dem cooks,wash and all dat.if one of the girl founds out don't u think her thinking towards love will change?

Romance › Re: Ladies, How Much Love Do You Have by Heebucun(f): 9:50pm On Oct 05, 2014

Just a question Morndew.that girl u are talking about did u marry her?

Romance › Re: Know Your Lover's And Your Enneagram Type by Heebucun(f): 6:20pm On Oct 05, 2014

MizMyColi:
I'm glad it helps.
Happy Holidays

Same to u.

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 6:15pm On Oct 05, 2014

Dottune:
Eyaah hope it has been good? When will you be thru or are you thru?

Almost tru just dat some has bin shifed.can spare some time on NL.yeah it has

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 6:14pm On Oct 05, 2014

Dottune:
Eyaah hope it has been good? When will you be thru or are you thru?

Almost tru just dat some has bin shifed.can spare some time on tym.yeah it has

Romance › Re: Know Your Lover's And Your Enneagram Type by Heebucun(f): 6:13pm On Oct 05, 2014

MizMyColi:
Okay, check out these links.
The first one is your stongest type - how you see your self
http://www.enneagram.net/type6.html

The second one is your next strongest - how you relate with others
http://www.enneagram.net/type4.html

The third is your least used type - mostly describing your thinking.
http://www.enneagram.net/type1.html

Expecting feedback.

Oh I understand better now.
Tanx for the personality test links,it makes me understand mysef better now

Romance › Re: 7 Types Of Guys Women Can't Resist- You Agree? by Heebucun(f): 6:12pm On Oct 05, 2014

BraniacX:
jedi padawaan heebucun,
u must let to let go of all wordly desires and let the force flow through you and bring clarity to you
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You must find your center(number) in the force(list) and then use it like a true jedi.

Hahahahahahahaha!
Hahahaha!

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 6:09pm On Oct 05, 2014

Dottune:
where have you been? I've not been able to start my lectures with you like you promised

It is exam oh

Nairaland General › Re: Things You Should Never Apologise For On Nairaland by Heebucun(f): 11:52am On Oct 05, 2014

Never apologize for ur opinion.

Romance › Re: Know Your Lover's And Your Enneagram Type by Heebucun(f): 11:34am On Oct 05, 2014

Mizmycoli is this thing correct?when I clicked on the link on ur first post(type 6) it shows self confidence failure which aint tru but the test result itself dint show self confidence failure(am lost?

Romance › Re: Know Your Lover's And Your Enneagram Type by Heebucun(f): 11:28am On Oct 05, 2014

MizMyColi:

Does the result resonate?

What's your trifix?
That link doesn't work.

trifix is 6w7, 4w5, 1w9.

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Romance › Re: Why Do Ladies Rarely Do The Talking. by Heebucun(f): 11:14am On Oct 05, 2014

Guyz can be confusing.if we talk too much u say we are talkatives.we don't talk u call us dumb.sincerely we don't get

Romance › Re: 4 The Ladies: Light Or Dark Dark Skinned Guys Which Do U Prefer (poll) by Heebucun(f): 11:09am On Oct 05, 2014

Black is beautiful.

Romance › Re: Know Your Lover's And Your Enneagram Type by Heebucun(f): 10:55am On Oct 05, 2014

http://www.enneagramquiz.com/results.php

Romance › Re: 7 Types Of Guys Women Can't Resist- You Agree? by Heebucun(f): 10:39am On Oct 05, 2014

daben1:
pokenoser! You're just seeking attention

Slow poke.oh no vex Oooooooo

Romance › Re: 7 Types Of Guys Women Can't Resist- You Agree? by Heebucun(f): 7:21am On Oct 05, 2014

daben1:
no!

What she should have asked is;Do you have sense.na onli dat question fit ur reply

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Romance › Re: 7 Types Of Guys Women Can't Resist- You Agree? by Heebucun(f): 7:17am On Oct 05, 2014

urcutecrush:
The ONLY guy I won't RESIST is someone who has all dis personality together.what am trying to say is dat i will fall head over heels for a guy who is understanding,flexible and can adapt.if a guy understands u veri well he will do all of dis should the need arise.am I making sense?

Most intelligent comment so far.If u ask them what dey want in a girl u will see dem listing tins but instead of dem to learn from the post nah bashing.so it is wrong for a girl to desire all this qualities in a Guy?as for me I can do without the foreigner stuff but the rest of the six is owk.I won't settle for Too less than I deserve.

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 6:58am On Oct 05, 2014

emmygr8:
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nice threa!
How about How to stop being shy?
that's for a shy Guy , especially when it's about dating babes, especially an introvert type ?

Am going to create a thread on dat later.sowie for d late response.bin busy with exams

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 6:47am On Oct 05, 2014

wizhaywhy:
Hmmmm abeg kme use me do xperiment o. But if u fail chai u go see my blue eyes

but no b all of us feel thesame way as u hve stated above.

Explain the differences dear

Romance › Re: The Wooing Challenge 2014 (ladies' Edition) - Ladies Choose Your Men. by Heebucun(f): 11:20am On Sep 30, 2014

suxxman: We plenty naa.

Is Mrcork chosen undecided

no offiense embarassed

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Romance › Re: The Wooing Challenge 2014 (ladies' Edition) - Ladies Choose Your Men. by Heebucun(f): 11:11am On Sep 30, 2014

Who make I woo now undecided

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 3:10pm On Sep 21, 2014

Dottune: Hmmm.... True, one thing I know for sure is Shy guys or girls are actually not Stupid, sometimes they are actually the Dangerous. BTW can I follow you, so I could receive more Lectures

Tanx.ur welcome to wink

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 8:59am On Sep 21, 2014

Dottune: Probably cause we don't have to actually open our mouth to talk to you or look a girl in the eyes

Is it that hard looking someone in the eyes?I hate having conversation with people that can't look into my eyes.Its a sign of lack of confidence.anytime this happens I had just device ways for them to do so.saying things like am going to miss u let me sEe ur face and bam I got my eye look or better still i had ask them jokingly is there dirt on my face?there are many things u can say if u have closer relationship with the person.things like I love it when u look into my eyes,it makes me feel loved or it makes u look more confident.I hate it when Ladies thinks shy Guys are stupid and vice versa

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Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 11:48pm On Sep 20, 2014

snakebeat: What if after doing all these things and discover d guy is battling with one contagious STD, that's why he decided to keep calm,not because he's shy, what will u do?

See imagination o shocked

Temigrace com ansa cheesy

Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 11:44pm On Sep 20, 2014

Some guys are actually shy actually but on here(nairaland)they are veri bold!Y the change in character?

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Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 7:34pm On Sep 20, 2014

And finally!shy guy can somtimes be cute but he might just not be into you not shy
After doing all this and no positive change.learn how to respect yourself and WALK AWAY.

Signed
#TeamBoldGirls

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Romance › Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(op): 7:27pm On Sep 20, 2014

6)Ask about his interests
.Ask what he likes to eat or what sports, hobbies, or movies he enjoys. Once you find something in common, ask him if he’d like to get together some time to pursue it. Shy guys can be very interested in you, but petrified to make the first move. It is very easy to open the door to a common interest by asking about food, hobbies or other fun activities. When you hit on something you both love, you will instantly become more bonded as similarities are a key way of cementing connection between people. It is easy, then to make the first move and ask about doing the activity together.
This is a good litmus test that will show if he is interested or not. When you're opening the door that much, if he does not respond and make the date, chances are he is not into u

7)Try writing notes.
If either of you love to read and write, exchange notes or meet online and chat with text. It moves a little more slowly, so it gives you both time to compose your thoughts and it gives you both a chance to throw out anything that seems to come out wrong.
cool

Touch him gently or even give him a mini massage
.Making physical contact actually releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone, so he may feel closer and start responding to you immediately through the power of touch. Gently grasp his arm or relax him by giving him a mini neck or shoulder massage. This relaxes him so that he is less up-tight and fearful. In addition, making physical contact often opens the door to him making an affectionate gesture towards you later on—where he holds your hand, puts his arm around you or kisses you.
Ask permission first, and make sure he's open to that sort of attention. A mini massage might be considered too forward or intimate in some circles.
9)Make the first move yourself.It's not illegal or even off limits, and it may come as a great relief to a guy who's a bit reserved if you ask him out. You don't have to call it a date if you don't want to. You can also be the one to broach the subject of romance, or to give (or at least offer) that first kiss or hug. Spell it out when you're ready. Some guys don't catch hints, no matter how many you drop, but don't give up.
10)Bepatient, and don't rush things
He's not going to change overnight, and there will likely be vestiges of his shyness for some time to come. Hurrying may only intimidate him, so as your relationship grows, suggest the next move, but try to take his pace. Work to build a trust that will make you both confident with yourselves and with each other when you're together.
Be aware that he may seem awkward around you at first. Be persistent and compassionate.

Source:wiki

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