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How to Bring a Shy Guy out of His Shell




It can be a little tricky to bring a shy guy out of his shell, especially if you're outgoing and don't know where he's coming from. However, if you want to make a shy guy more talkative and comfortable, you have to work on asking questions that catch his interest and on letting him know that you like him so he feels more open around you. There are many tactics that can work for making a shy guy feel more comfortable, but you should know that it's hard to truly change a person who is really introverted. Still, if you put in the effort, you can go a long way in bringing a shy guy out of his shell and having a great time with him anywhere you go.
1)See him when he is in his element.

If he plays sports, go and watch the game too. Be there as he finishes a marathon. If he is giving a talk, try to arrange to be in the audience. When a shy guy is in his element, he will be at the height of his charisma and at a high point of self-confidence; he will be "in the zone" and less nervous, feeling very good about himself. And this means he will feel empowered to make a move on you if he is really interested. Now, If he is a co-worker try to keep it simple. Say 'Hello' with a big smile when you see him. That will have him thinking about you. Try to keep the questions limited.

2)COMPLIMENT HIM.
Notice something about him or what he is doing that you really like and praise it with a specific and sincere compliment. For example, "That blog you wrote about going to Sicily was hysterically funny and made me want to go, too!" This helps to build his self-esteem in relation to you and will tend to get him to talk more about the topic. And it may even get him to show off a bit for you. It will certainly help him to stop obsessing about your attractiveness making him too nervous to talk to you!
If you choose his very favorite subject, be sure youwantto hear all about it. Even if you don't, be genuine and listen. You'll have your turn soon enough.
Be sure you make it clear that you're not only interested in him for his expertise.

3)Say his name a lot.
Give him a complimentary nickname. This indicates that you're noticing him and that he is important to you. He will be likely to bond more quickly with you when you use his name. Also, choose a complimentary nickname based on one of his qualities that you admire. For example, if he is into cycling, call him “Lance A.” This will get him to laugh and open up with you about his cycling experiences.
Make sure he's comfortable with anything you decide to call him. The best way to do this is to ask, simply saying something like: "Is it OK with you if I call you Lance A?"

4)Ask open-ended questions.
These kinds of questions will help a shy guy open up and talk about himself. And this will lead to him feeling known and being comfortable with you. Good examples include"
"How did you get interested in (your job)?"
"What brought you to live in the city?"
"How do you manage to train for a triathlon when you work full-time?"

5.Ask for help with something.
Men love to help women. They're wired that way, to find solutions. Ask him to fix your computer, your car, your bike, your door—you name it. He will enjoy coming through for you and feel much more connected to you as a result. Ask him questions about what he is doing. This will get him talking more. When he is in the "helper" role, he is much more likely to share with you and be less self-conscious in the process.
Ask him about something he's comfortable doing. Not all guys are Mr. Fix-It. Yours may well fix his own car by taking it to amechanic. If he doesn't know, don't embarrass him by expecting him to know

Happy birthday dearie.wishin u all d very best in life.have fun,get high and get laid.its all about u

ocman: WHEN WILL THE FIRST NAIRALAND PARTY HOLD?[/b] Thought it was a crazy idea of a party of nairalanders to hang out somewhere, n as the party progresses, we update our thread on how the catching ups and fun is going. Chai!!!....where are those great minds with crazy ideas like Ebuka etc. Anyway, make i head back home. It doesn't worth it.......................

U could just have open a thread for this

Galads: lmao, I had to check her pixs to see d fryn pan head. Na really small frying pan. Heebucun pls borrow me ur fryn pan head my fry my sunday chicken

MrCork: ... See yor head like fryn pan....is sit normal for u people ther in Nigeria to ansa qwestion wita qwestion?
. ..r u light skin....yes or know?... U mus br Nigerian!

Mr cork and mr dick.how is ur marriage going

MrCork: ...r u light skin?

I geuss dats a rhetorical question

bosun11: alright...how was your night ?

Blissful and urs?

bosun11: HEEBUCUN.....how old are you

Early twenties

If your not the one_daniel bedingfiels




Even fits my mood sef

Galads: b4 u big? Nairaland boiz day deceiv u shei? I pirry you o

No spoil market for me o.mak I sell well well

Galads: bro no mind me. I day beef her. I want send her packing from nairaland.

Lol.like u can mumu

malonephills: Alicia keys no one

Malone

Galads: beg the gods for smallies like you? I no need headache I prefer to sitdown sip my mineral for house. *small pepper na him pepper pass*

Imagine still calling me smallie.so am headache make I see u near my party I go bounce u out.

Galads: This op na mumu o. Which parry again? Hebukun! Hebukun! Hebukun! How many times I call you?

A birthday bash but u are not invited unless u goan beg the gods.girls go plenty o

Wiggle_jason derulo ft snoop dogg
Good kisser_usher
Jason derulo_trumpet
Jason derulo_marry me
Grenade

DarkFive: Why do gals offer Sex like it was for sale?

Maybe if guys stop buying then d gals will stop selling

Geuss cheating is in their blood
So why do guys keep girls they can't marry?you know you have a fiancee sombody u are ready to settle down with and u still go about breaking that girl's heart.the worst is if the guy is ready to get married in few month.
Have seen a case whereby a girl is invited to her boyfriend's wedding unkwoningly.Isn't dat too extreme?

StealthyMe: Well,ladies also cheat but then i think its the same thing we all do when we say we love God and still sin.....

So u mean guys can't do witouth cheatin as human can't do without sininng?

swaystunna: ..Nd who do they cheat with.GALS dat prolly have Boyfrnds dat have side chicks of wch the side chick has a Side guy who has a loyal girlfriend.

Here u go...

U dint answer my question.I meant WHY not who do they cheat with.
Cos my ex told me it was peer pressure and long distance that made him cheat.
I dumped d cheating ass.so why would you cheat?

This party is getting dull should we count point now?

My question:
Y do guys cheat?
Guys why do you cheat?

Sunkyphil: mayb cos of wat attracted d guy to such lady

Attraction is different from love.can't the guy just say am attracted to you instead of declaring love

dzeeny: wen yhu tryna chyke a gurl ...she actz like she dznt gv a sh!t bou yhu ..nd yet,gets jealous or even angry d moment she sees yhu runnin sh!t wiv her fwend or anyoda gurl...why is dah @gurlz

Have u ever gotten that feeling wen u were little that toy u don't really like but whenever ur mom wants to dash it out or ur friend plays with it u get overprotective.I geuss its the same thing

swaystunna: E.g U don't wanna date any gal yet,u jst wanna kip solo for a whl,buh u gat gals as frnds,asin u jst cnt play with thee gals or av a nice n funny conversation wit em witout em u knw,tryna cross d boundary.
faith(nt real name) has a boifrnd buh we always smooching n kissing anytime am around..I dnt js wanna take it further to avoid further complications.
Judith same tin
Jennifer same..asin jennifer case worst cause she openly asked me to date her,,dat we wld be cute together. Ha !!
The Question is Why do gals like complicating friendships,y won't they js let things be simple !

And y would u smooch and kiss another guys girlfriend or your friend.u are partly to be blamed from dis cos u gave dem sense of belonging.when ur kissing them y won't dey want to complicate issue?

Lovexme: Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder

Most of the girls most NL guys keep praising on here don't look that good to me




My question: Why do most ladies say 'No' when in actual fact they mean 'Yes'.?

Depends on the lady level of understanding.some girls don't even know what they want.ur d one dat will av to convince dem dey want u
And at u question.is it the asking out to date yes or the wanna have sex YES.explain better

Sunkyphil: can u date a poor niggar

Depends on what u mean by poor?poor in character:HELL no.Poor in plans:NO NO.poor in ambition;NO.poor in bed;NO.poor in wisdom:NO.poor in humour;NO.poor in MONEY?well if he have all of the above den YES YES

Y do guys declare undying love for a lady the first time they just met?Is that another trick?

xynerise: Why do ladies dress annoyingly sexy these days? Are they trying to attract the opposite sex or just to compete with the other girls?

When did dressing sexy become annoying
Well,we dress to look beautiful for ourself.
We dress to compete with other girls mostly cos if its to attract opposite sex then we would go naked.(Just saying)

agedmanng: Most guys? And you think that's the philosophy to conclude on all? Well, I'm Agedmanng and not most guys. I don't do alcohol talkless of seppe. Where in Ogun are you? I'm conversant with Ijebu ode and Abk.

Abk

100Cents: Since way una join nairaland, most of the old female monickers have disappeared into thin air. You send them mail, they even no dey respond again. Wonder if they resurface as clowns.

They saw fresher girls and they ran away.

Why are girls so insecure ?

Insecure can be in different ways.well most insecurities steems from childhoood where you have parent degrading their children calling them names.such child when grown will need people complimentin them to be sure about themselves
Or the lady hasn't discover hersef,her inner beauty.strength and all dat.
And lastly most shallow people are insecure needing attention alwayz.it can happen to a guy too