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ethicallyright:
kneel and beg him. Pacify his damn ego if you love him. Submit to him.

What kind of nonsense is this? You are just all over the thread trying to sound strong and smart, even when it's apparent that you're neither of them.

Thread owner, leave that man, he's not good enough for you.

Hathor5:
We don't breed in my family. I didn't know your family are dogs.

"Breeding" is not a derogatory word. It's the same thing as upbringing.

sassysure:
These are the small small signs we overlook and tomorrow, we say the person has changed. The signs were all there. They were never hidden. Babes ignore that overly possessive bros with anger issue because according to them, seeing their men act jealous is cool. It shows he loves you or is it the babes like this one who are only with you when the going is good but ready to ditch you when u are down?

We all know,

A guy once hushed his babe for suggesting he buy roadside petrol during scarcity.
That can't she see that his car is brand new car, 2hat does she know.......Now, the problem is not buying the petrol but the way he hushed her while worshipinh his car. Nevertheless,he still bought the same roadside petrol when he has no other available option left. An observant babe that don't want trouble will just quit that relationship but majority will not even give that conversation another thought afterall the guy is loaded and a big boy from abroad.
Tomorrow,when he start beating her blue and black for voicing her opinion , she will tell us he has changed. Really? Or she refused to see what was there before her.

Did you respond to this same thread or another?

@OP, run as much as your leg can carry you.

donuchris007:
. He is a simp so i get he can quit, men like us donate him to feminist community.

There is nothing wrong with feminism. Meanwhile, he said somewhere that he is an original alpha male.

BigDick70inch:
Girls sha!!!!

The fact that he forcefully bought her a fridge, just a few days after they started dating, according to information available, is not a reason for him to think that he has a right to quit the relationship whenever he wants. He promised her marriage, so he must fulfill the promise if he truly wants peace.

donuchris007:
. It seems you know more than us, tell us what she has done for him. If not used pussy.i don't have pity for any simp. Who will be in a right mindset and date funimqueen aka men are scum skippo

What do you mean by used pussy?

funmisticqueen2:
I think you are making a good decision Jaubdu. It's what's best for us.

No, he can't leave like that. He must fulfill his promise.

donuchris007:
. Oh so loving a used hoe is a must,you must be kidding me,I thought men are scum? Smh

Don't call a woman a hoe. Of course, men are not scum. He can't dump her, after all she has done for him, doing so is wickedness. He promised her marriage and he must marry her.

Jaubdu:
I am tired,I am in a fix and I want out.

Don't dare break her heart.

Anuoluwa1234:
So be it for you, as you wished me.. amen in Jesus name

Don't worry sis, no hard feelings. That's just to tell you that the theory is lame and you should not consider it as standard.

Anuoluwa1234:
One thing I know is, in every rumours, there is a trace of truth.. tho it might be 1%.. or less..
If u say he has never beaten u, no problem..
It doesn't remove a strand of hair from my body.. nor does it add to my account balance .
I wish u all the best in life

Let me use you as an example of your lame logic; I heard that you are a ghost and that you are spreading sexual transmitted disease to men through your prostitution business.

Ariza:
Sigh!

Perhaps if you assimilate sentences as fast as you respond,the bolded would have shown you how erroneous your submission was.

Op is to set boundaries the guy will be aware of! That isn't pretense.

However like I typed earlier,you are very much entitled to your opinion.

According to you: "People like that, you make them your friend but also set boundaries for them, boundaries they are aware of"


And I say only pretentious people will not say their mind boldly to those who offended them or unfriend those who offended them to the extent of holding grudges against them, boundary or not. Pretentious people are not to be trusted. Only pretentious people smile with others as friends and still hold grudges against them. Pretentious people are evil. Pretension is not wisdom.

Ariza:
That isn't pretense but wisdom .


However you are entitled to your opinion.

Wisdom my foot.

Ariza:
You owe that guy nothing anymore.Nothing! In the female world ,a pack of beverages,nice gowns and purse is enough to say "Thank you" and everyone moves on. I don't know why you have to take up a man's welfare because he has some influence in you getting a job. Will I ever understand the Men's world?


Sir, don't say anything to your friend.He will hold on to your words and use it against you in the future. People like that, you make them your friend but also set boundaries for them, boundaries they are aware of. Let him know you would have loved to help but your hands are tight.Anytime he ask for help, send him one third of the amount asked for after 2 or 3 days he make his request. You let people like that wear themselves out. Even if he report you to anyone, people will caution him themselves. It takes lot of patience and emotional intelligence to handle such people.But at the end, both of you will meet and smile. No fight, No quarrels just boundaries!

Pretension is not a sign of emotional intelligence. He has to say his mind to him like an unpretentious person.

phelonrays:
Love__ fake feelings accompanied by jealousy, hypocrisy, hatred, and Selfishness

Not a Saddist tho....

this is not true

Sixfeetbelle:
Stop replying her. Some people need the 'okay' treatment once they start acting ghetto.

I don't know who offended her but she has been throwing tantrums all over this thread

Riff-raff. Member of "I must belong". Okay.

cococandy:
And some entities have been swearing on their mothers graves that you’re me .

Anyway. I hope you’re having a good day.

Meaning what exactly?

doitforyou:
Lol what?? O dear, I didn’t know I was having a back and forth with a knucklehead.

Okay, I see you don’t have an answer to..

So, what good man doesn’t end a current relationship before he starts a new one??

When you do, let me know.

Hilarious.

That you cannot see my answer in the previous replies shown how foolish you are. A good man or woman on revenge can do it how ever they want, so he not ending his relationship with her as you assume before going to another one is one of such. The woman could have been dating herself all this while without knowing. Being good does not mean not having an ability to do bad to people who deserve it.

It did not occur to you that the woman may have wasted his time before telling him that she has a ten years old daughter for instance. Learn how to use that your empty head and bitter heart well.

doitforyou:
lol what ifs, really?

You’re hilarious.

All what you just typed isn’t in the OP, stay on topic. What we do know is that the woman heard her relationship has ended from multiple third parties.

So, what good man doesn’t end a current relationship before he starts a new one??

I know bitter people when I come across them, you are one. A good man can turn bad towards a bad woman who has pretended for long to be good woman and revenge in any way he wants, which maybe the case here. People like you who always try to play smart are the ones who usually end up like the woman in this story. You like to eat your cake and have it, but are quick to cry victim when served.

doitforyou:
You’re hilarious.

Is it a good man that strings a woman along for sex and housekeeping?

What happened to doing the right thing by breaking up a relationship before you start a new one?

You are the hilarious one here. Maybe the woman in this story is your type who likes to eat their cake and have it. If you take someone for a fool, it is their right to pay you back in anyway they want, which could possibly be the case here. The woman and man are the ones who know what truly happened between them, so there is no point taking sides in a case like this. Do not take someone for a fool, if you do not want them to treat you the same or worse.

I do not have time for nonsense, so engage your type.

izzou:
[color=royalblue] I'm no hypocrite

A man who can do this to a woman is wicked and heartless, and I won't paint him good because he's a fellow man.

And please don't give me any respect. It obviously won't do me any good both now, and in the life to come

Okay?[/color]

You are a hypocrite, that is it.

izzou:
[color=royalblue] You see those men category of evening newspapers?
Those ones that uphold their culture and tradition 100%?
Those ones that are very traditional?

Fear those men oh . They can date a lady for 8 years and pay the dowry of another one in just 8 hours.

Dem no dey marry for love oh.
If she can cook, fck, obey him totally, give birth to children (males are compulsory), have a submissive personality, and is presentable,they go marry you now now.

That said, any woman that gives birth to a man before he wifes her is stupid. She does not have sense.
I expect a single mother to know this, but I'm surprised she still repeated a past mistake

My advice?
She should just go back to where she came from. No need crying over spilt milk, talk more of the one wey the glass cup don scatter

Let her move on. And let her learn to use her sense before her heart in her next relationship[/color]

This type of comment is not made to offer real solution but to appear good before women. I do not give respect to men who take pleasure in painting their fellow men bad just to appear good, same as women who do so.

OP

Maybe, the man made a last minute discovery about something bad about the woman that made him acted the way he did. Marriage is a life journey, so anyone going into it has to be careful.

OP

Come and finish what you started.

Drfernandez:
maybe she pretended not to be like that when they were courting.

It is not possible, unless they did not court before they marry.

riches4me:
Pls nairalanders, I just want a general opinion on the best ways to treat a wife that has strong opinions about almost everything around the house. from the way kids should be trained to the cleaniness around the house when hers is to the level of OCD.

Didn't you notice that she is opinionated during the time you were dating her?

OlawaleBammie:
Familic issue is no no for me


Wait for those SS3's and Jambites to come advice u like they are doin Algeria...


Just wait, dey wil soon arive, they are probably stil busy throwing tantrums in romance section.

Petty people like you are not helping this forum. You did not care to offer an advice to the OP, yet you dissed those who may choose to offer her the advice she is seeking.

@OP

Your husband lacks good sense of judgement.

Mariangeles:
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Something tells me that I know you beyond here. What course did you study in the university?

ibkayee:
This is common with the ones with fragile egos, and we know that's a good portion of them

I don't think they hate it per se, I think they just prefer it to be regulated in a way that doesn't threaten them

How can a woman regulate it?

crackkhaus:
You're welcome.

What is your main handle?

Mrscrackland.

crackkhaus:
Well for starters, saying that you have a high self-esteem is self-appraisal. Going further to say you're hated because of it, screams self-doubt.

Both actions of self-appraisal and self-doubt are not things that someone with a healthy dose of self-esteem would normally engage in, unless they were deliberately trying to be funny or trying to incite a reaction from an audience.

Thanks.