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ONE: Get Started While You’re Pregnant

If you are still pregnant, it is normal to gain weight, but that shouldn’t allow you to throw caution to the wind and start eating chocolate cake for breakfast or a family-size bag of chips for an afternoon snack. You will have cravings, and you should indulge yourself from time to time, but prudence now pays back greatly later on. Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you can be a couch potato. Walk around the block once or twice a day. This will benefit you and the baby by getting your blood flowing and getting fresh air into your lungs.

TWO: Nature Gives Weight-Loss Advantages

Once the baby is born, there’s an immediate loss of 11-13 lbs. Breastfeeding will also help you lose weight, using up to 800 calories a day. And after you’ve allowed your body to recuperate (about 4-6 weeks) so that you can start exercising, a little bit of weight training will go a long way to helping you lose weight.
Guess what? You don’t have to join a gym or buy weights. Your baby is weight enough. Hold the baby to your chest and do lunges. Lunge behind the stroller as you walk. On your back, hold your baby above your chest and do presses toward the ceiling.

THREE: To Lose Weight Get Plenty of Rest

If your baby is sleeping, so should you. A baby’s needs can impose strange sleep cycles on adults and this can upset the metabolism and this makes it hard to lose pregnancy weight. Sleeping when the baby sleeps will allow you to avoid any long-term sleep deficits. That will keep your energy levels high and help keep sugar cravings for energy in check.

If you don’t get enough sleep, you won’t have the energy to keep yourself moving through your waking hours, much less want to work out or get your exercise.

FOUR: Consider Natural Weight Loss Remedies

Many ingredients included in weight loss supplements are not approved for women who are pregnant or nursing. Consider some natural weight loss foods that will stem your hunger or affect your metabolism in a healthy way. Not all of these may set well with you, but give some a try.

Taking lime and honey in water a couple times a day is a natural weight loss remedy.
Green tea has excellent properties that help weight loss. Drink it often during the day.
A cabbage dish once a day is good for weight loss – low in calories and high in fibre.

FIVE: Join the Company of Other Mothers

Misery loves company may be clue here. Not only good for moral support and sympathetic conversation, but you can also see what other mothers are doing that works for them. A mom who is on a second or third child can impart a lot of wisdom to a first timer.
Also, it might be easier to take up jogging or going through a video workout routine if you have some others in your situation doing it with you.

SIX: Sex Is Still Good

Every healthy woman knows that sex is good and a recent pregnancy should not forestall having an emotionally and physically good time. You will want to have healed enough, usually four to six weeks, so that there is no discomfort; but try to get back into the pleasure of things as soon as possible.
You will want to regain good control of your bladder and strengthen your pelvic floor and Kegel exercises will help with that.

SEVEN: Breast Feeding

Breastfeeding- Not Everyones magic weight loss pill
A magic pill this is not! It can work for some women but this tends to be when women have put minimal extra pregnancy kilo’s on. For some women due to post pregnancy hormones their bodies will hold on to a couple of kilos regardless of exercise and diet until they have finished breastfeeding.
I believe for breastfeeding to assist with weight loss it needs to be done for 6 months or more. Women who have exercised during pregnancy will lose weight quickly anyhow with or without breastfeeding.

EIGHT: Protein

Making sure you eat protein i.e. quality meats, eggs, full fat dairy and nuts, at every snack and meal post birth. It will not only help to produce better quality breast milk but protein repairs muscle tissue promoting optimal recovery.

NINE: Hydration

You need to drink a lot of water if you are breastfeeding staying hydrated also helps to clear excess pregnancy fluid left behind, your body can’t rid itself of all that extra pregnancy fluid overnight.
Keep hydrated to reduce fatigue, quench thirst and produce plenty of milk!

TEN: Limit Sugar

You may hear that you can eat whatever you want whilst you are breastfeeding and that breastfeeding by itself will help you lose weight, this is certainly not the case for everyone!
Yes you need extra calories whilst nursing and you should definitely not go hungry but it is no excuse to indulge in sugary foods in particular and over eat!

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Women often dress and look sexy because they know it attracts men. They do this because they want to maximize the number of quality men who approach them, and they don’t want to be rejected physically by whichever man they ultimately choose. Nonetheless, women typically want men to desire them because of who they are, not because of how they look

For some guys, approaching women can be the scariest thing to do. They feel a crippling fear whenever a thought of meeting a new woman creeps into their mind. They become petrified, they sweat like coke, and sometimes they feel that they’re about to shit in their pants.

Meting girls can be intimidating and scary as hell but if you know exactly what to say, you can do it with no sweat; the question “How to meet women” will be a thing of the past.

Below are some common places in which you can meet your partner.

1) In the Club

Approaching women in clubs is not only common but also encouraged, but some guys still scratch their heads thinking what to say

“Hi” – a simple “hi” can be very effective in clubs. The girls Know what you’re doing – you’re trying to pick her up. No need to make excuse for your desires.

“Cheers” – almost all people in clubs are holding a beer or some sort of drinking glass. Make it as a weapon. Greet them with an energetic “cheers!” combined with a gesture of toasting. You will be surprised how girls are so welcoming.

Clubs are the place where men and women hook-up so people know what you’re doing. You don’t need to produce a cute pick-up line. Just a “Hi” and a “Cheers” will do the trick

2) In An Eatery

One of the best places to meet women is an eatery. The girls are relaxed and not in a hurry so your approach must be thought-provoking and stimulating. Here are some examples.

“Excuse me, I know this is random but my friends and I are having a debate on whether who lies more: men or women. We need a female perspective.”

“Hi. I’m doing this social experiment. It won’t take more than 5 minute.”

The good thing about this kind of approach - it’s not threatening and it’s very engaging. Next thing you know, you’re talking to the girl you just approached for hours.

3) In Malls

Most of the time, peoples in malls are in a hurry or just busy in something that they’re doing; Girls especially. They take shopping way too seriously. Your approach must be a blietzkrieg. Go-in and go-out.

“Excuse, I know this may sound unusual, but I think you’re cute. I just had to say hi.”

“Hi, I’m just waiting for my friends over there and then I saw you. I think you’re beautiful. I’m wondering if we can exchange numbers.”

“I know this may sound random but I think you’re very interesting so I’m wondering if I can get you’re number…so I can text you.”

Confidence is the key to properly execute this kind of approach. She will be flattered and feel special. This is called direct approach – the lost art of romance.

4) In Bars

Bars are different from crazy high energy clubs. In this kind of place, your approach must be flirty.

“Shall we talk or continue eye flirting in the distance.”

“Did you invite all these people? I thought it’s just going to be the two of us.”

“I’ve been sitting here for more than 5 minutes and we’re not even talking.”

When approaching girls in bars, you must remember to keep it fun. You start with a high note to leave a lasting impression.

Approaching a random beautiful chic is not only easy, but also a lot of fun. Interaction with women is so dynamic you don’t know what will happen next– you could be rejected, friend-zoned, loved or desired - that’s the reason why it will make you feel so alive.


Meeting new women is a no-risk high-reward situation. What’s the worst that might happen? Rejection? What doesn’t kill you will only make you stronger

Being torn between two men is not something every girl desires when she thinks about love. Even though some people might think that liking two men at the same time can be quite fun, the truth is that you will only feel stressed and anxious and even incomplete until you make a decision. You will have to take a lot of things into consideration if you need to choose between two guys and sometimes, you might even have to trust your instinct. Here are Some helpful tips on how to choose between two men that will make your decision a bit easier:

Consider the Positive Qualities of Each Guy

One of the first things you should do when you need to choose between two men is to consider the positive qualities of each guy. Just think about what you like about them so much. Do they make you laugh? Do they have a good sense of humor? Are they in touch with their emotional side? Are they treating you respectfully?

Consider How Each Guy Makes You Feel

Even though someone may have a lot of great qualities, if you want to start a relationship with them, you also need to take into consideration how they make you feel when you are with them. Do they bring out the best in you? Do they make you feel like they are only interested in you? Do they challenge you and make you want to be a better individual? Do they treat you like a lady and make you feel special


Consider the Negative Qualities of Each Guy

Even though you may only see the positive things about someone when you like them, try to think about the negative things as well, especially if you have to decide who you really want to be with. Do they have a lot of baggage? Are they bossy or manipulative and they always try to get their way? Have they ever lied to you? Do they constantly get in trouble?

Consider How Each Guy Feels about You

If you have to choose between two men, you should also consider how each of them feels about you. Even if you might be tempted to go with the one who likes you more just because he is a safer choice, try to be fair and find out as much as you can about the feelings they have for you.

Ask Your Friends for Their Opinion

If you are in doubt and you don’t know who to choose, you could also ask your trusted friends for their opinion. After all, they are there to offer you a shoulder to lean on and to give you advice when you need it. Don’t ask them who they like better, but who do they think is better for you.


Weigh Their Similarities and Their Differences

You could make a list for each guy with all the things you like and don’t like about them. Basically, you could do a pro/con chart for each guy’s strengths and weaknesses. This chart might help you figure out who you really want, so give it a try.

Don’t Rush It

This is an important decision and important decisions take time, so don’t rush it. As long as you are not committed to any of them, you shouldn’t feel guilty because you are not betraying anyone. On the other hand, try not to drag it on too long. Think about their feelings too but don’t make a hasty decision

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When you really love someone, it's hard to keep your jealousy under control. You don't want them to leave you or figure out that they're happier with someone else, so whenever he talks to another girl, you freak out. However, your actions may make him shy away from you. He'll hate feeling like you don't trust him, which is why you should avoid doing these jealous things that men hate:

1. Checking Their Cell

If your boyfriend leaves his phone on the couch when he goes to the bathroom, do you grab it and read through his messages? If you do, then you obviously don't trust him. It's normal to ask him who he's texting when he's sitting next to you and even to try to take a peek at the screen, but you shouldn't feel the need to read through all of his texts and emails when he's not around. It means you don't trust him, and why would you want to be with someone you think would cheat?

2. Being a Boss

Some men don't mind when you tell them what to wear and what to eat, but they draw the line when you try to tell them whom they can and cannot hang out with. If you always yell at him for associating with a certain girl, then he won't be happy. Yes, your anger is warranted if the woman is an ex or former crush, but if she is clearly just a friend, hold back your anger

3. Constantly Calling

It's nice to call up your boyfriend once or twice a day to chat. However, if you're calling him every hour in order to eavesdrop on the background noise, your relationship is in jeopardy. If you don't trust him to tell you where he is, you two aren't going to last.

4. Curious Questioning

When he comes home from his friend's house, do you quiz him about what they did, because you don't believe they were actually together? It's fine to ask him questions out of curiosity, but you don't want to ask and ask until you find something you can yell at him for.

5. Intense Insecurity

Whenever he looks at another girl, do you end up crying? It's normal for humans to look at other humans, even if they're in a relationship. Obviously, if he's doing something inappropriate, you have a right to speak up. But if he's just smiling at your waitress to be polite, don't ask him if he finds her prettier than you.

6. Throwing Things

Some people throw things when they get angry. Others will destroy his phone and break windows. If you get violent whenever jealousy strikes, he won't want to be around you. Even if your anger is justified, try to keep things somewhat peaceful

7. Awful Accusations

If he's not cheating on you, he'll be upset when you accuse him of being unfaithful. One of the most important pieces of a relationship is trust, so if you show him that you don't believe that he's treating you right, he might end up leaving. Get your facts straight before you accuse him of something that drastic

If you really love and trust your boyfriend, you need to fight past your jealousy. If you don't, you could cause unnecessary drama

1. You're comfortable

You don't feel the need to apply makeup or dress up every time you two hang out. You could wear sweats and a old tee and he or she makes you feel just as sexy as you are!

2. You trust him or her

You truly know that there is no one but you. You don't need to check his or her social media or he's or her phone. You feel totally secure in the fact that he or she is 100% yours and only yours.

3. He or She makes you happy

From his or her cute emoji texts to the way he or she kisses you. You can't get enough of this girl or guy! If he or she makes you happy and keeps you smiling that's an amazing thing to have.

4. You're a better person when your with him or her.

The little things that drive you crazy don't seem so bad when he's or she is around. You find yourself with a better attitude and in a great mood more often. You are just an all around positive person because of your happiness with him or her.

5. You still have your own life

You're still the badass independent chick or guy you were when you met him or her. You still have girls or boys nights out and get your alone time whenever you need to. Though he's or she is amazing, you don't make him or her your whole world. You're just glad he's or she is a part of it.

6. You both have the same future in mind

Whether it's starting a family, moving overseas, or starting a business together. You both have talked about what you want and they are the same. That's one of the most important parts. Making sure your future plans go hand and hand together and that include both of you.

7. You don't try and change him or her

If you have a list of things you want him or her . You should feel comfortable with his or her flaws not trying to change him or her. Same goes for him or her. If he or she is constantly trying to change you then he needs to go. Unless it's endangering your own life of course.

8. He or She doesn't belittle you

No one should make you question your self worth. Especially a potential partner. A good man or woman will make you embrace all your failures not drown in them. If your guy or girl makes you feel good about yourself not matter what it's a good chance he or she could be the one for you.

9. He or She listens to you

He or She listens to all your hopes and dreams and the bad days you had at work. Not only does he or she listen he or she remembers what you said.

10. He or She loves you

Love is such an over used and underestimated word. But when he or she says I loves you, you know it's real. He or she loves you unconditionally. No matter what your hair looks like or how many slices of yam you have had he or she loves you. 110% of the time, he or she loves you. He or she shows it but the way he or she runs to your rescue when you are sad or hurt. The way he or she holds you at night and kisses you in the morning. The way he pushes your hair out of your face when you are talking to him and the sweet glances he or she gives you when you two are sitting in silence

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Step 1

Cover your penis with a warm, wet washcloth. Before ever performing any exercises to enlarge a man’s penis, make sure to warm the area. This can be done by either covering the penis with a warm washcloth or immersing your lower half in a heated tub of water. This should increase the blood flow to your penis and purportedly aid the efficacy of the exercises.

Step2

Grasp the head of the penis and perform a horizontal stretch, making sure that you do not cause pain, and hold for anywhere between 5 and 10seconds. Release the stretch.

Step3

Stretch the penis vertically, pulling the head between your thighs and making sure that you do not cause pain and hold for anywhere between 5 and 10seconds. Release the stretch

Step4

Stretch the penis vertically again, pulling the head up toward your stomach and making sure that you do not cause pain and hold for anywhere between 5 and 10seconds. Release the stretch.

Step5

Repeat the series of stretches until you have completed 10 to 15seconds repetitions of each

Step6

Grasp the base of your penis with your thumb and index finger (your hand should appear to be making the okay symbol). Firm the grip and slide your grasp forward until you reach the head of the penis. This movement should seem like you are milking your penis. Repeat this motion until you have completed approximately 100 repetitions..

Note

Do this daily for 5 to 10 minutes.


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frodobee:
A very necessary lesson for both sexes, especially this Chantelle I kissed two months back. I spent the rest of the day spitting nd brushed twice.

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Attention! Sit up straight and pay attention. Today’s lesson is on the matter of kissing. I wonder how many types of kisses you know?..Guess am going to get lot of bashes today..but hayhayhay am ready for it....

French Kiss

It might be the most famous type of kiss but it needs practice. The tongue is heavily in play but get it wrong and you could be swimming in saliva. Both mouths are open and the tongues dance together.

Spanish Kiss

Spanish is a french kiss but you bite the other person's tongue very gently mid way through

Single Lip Kiss

Cute and romantic, the single lip kiss is where the mouth of one party closes in on just the top or bottom lip of the other party – bottom or top lip - either works.

Butterfly Kiss

A seriously close up kiss - when you get close to the person's face and your eyelashes physically connect with one another.

Spiderman Kiss

One partner is inverted (or upside down)

Breath Kiss

Work to master this one. Inhale deeply and lock lips with your partner. Slowly exhale as they inhale, then inhale as they exhale. Tricky but very sensual.

Jawline Kiss

A firm kiss on the lower side of the face where it meets the neck. Can be given as a prequel to an earlobe kiss or before moving down the neck onto the shoulder or chest.

Neck Kiss

Intimate and erotic. Find out where your partner loves it best. Behind or just below the ear or where the neck starts to become the shoulder are often favorite places.

Prolonged Kiss

Lips are locked forever. It’s lips only and lots of lip to lip kissing, full of passion and raw emotion

Body Kiss

Soft kisses - and wherever you feel comfortable with mouth to skin contact

Vampire Kiss

Kiss like a vampire, deep on the neck of him or her, suck and bite the area. The head of the person being kissed is usually held back or to the side to expose the neck.

Earlobe Kiss

Can be one of the most romantic kiss types - the action of gently tugging up and down near the earlobes. Make it hot and passionate by using your tongue.

Angel Kiss

A delicate kiss placed on or near the eyes

Forehead Kiss

A simple show of affection. It becomes sensual if the head is held.

Air Kiss

No contact made and often accompanied by mwah mwah sounds

Biting Kiss

A lip is gently nibbled - works better on the bottom lip

Lean-in Kiss

May not seem intimate because the only body parts in close proximity are the lips, but its intention is clear.

Blow Kiss

A sweet gesture understood by everybody

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Eating Garlic will keep you healthy in health and illness free

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Every woman should be concerned with their vaginal health. If you don’t look after your most intimate parts, you put yourself at greater risk of urinary tract infections, bacterial and yeast infections, and various irritations, all of which can be painful, uncomfortable and unpleasant. To avoid these things that can be a real nuisance and disturbing to your life, there are foods that will help keep your vagina healthy.

Natural Yoghurt/Probiotic

Probiotics are something of a wonder food when it comes to maintaining the correct, slightly acidic pH levels within the vagina. We all know that probiotic foods such as natural yoghurt are good for adding good bacteria to your system and keeping your gut healthy, but importantly for us is that they also do a great job of warding off yeast infections which is something that many women have experience of.

Water

A simple solution but a very effective one, water is a substance that is required by the mucous vaginal membranes in order for them to stay in the best possible condition. In order to function, they need to stay extremely well hydrated and the easiest and best way to achieve that level of hydration is through drinking lots of water. Water also contributes to the vagina’s natural lubrication and can help to diminish any unwanted odors.

Cranberry Juice

The tasty yet acidic nature of cranberry juice is well known for its positive effects on the bladder, and the acidic quality that the juice adds to your urine helps to balance the pH levels of the vaginal area which in turns helps to both ward off or relieve the symptoms of urinary tract infections.

Fresh Vegetables & Fruit

Not only are fruits and vegetables an essential part of a healthy diet, but they are also very effective in maintaining a healthy vagina. Leafy greens such as cabbage, spinach and kale are particularly good for this, helping with circulation and therefore preventing any potentially uncomfortable vaginal dryness. Citrus fruits like lemons and oranges are also important for their high levels of Vitamin C

Garlic

Garlic is revered in the health sector for its antifungal and antimicrobial properties, both of which are helpful properties with regards vaginal health. Eating amounts of raw garlic has been shown to kill yeast, which can be an incredibly helpful result for women who are prone to yeast infections, and it can also help to ease the classic symptoms should you already be suffering from an infection.

Nuts and Seeds

Many different nuts and seeds including walnuts, hazelnuts, sunflower seeds and almonds contain high levels of Vitamin E, and this is great for vaginal health as it is Vitamin E that prevents vaginal dryness. Zinc is also abundant in these foods, and the essential mineral is vital in regulating our menstrual cycles, all in all helping to keep your vaginal health at a comfortable, manageable and predictable level

Sweet Potatoes

Not only are sweet potatoes a delicious alternative to traditional potatoes, they are also incredibly effective in the maintaining of good vaginal health. They are filled to the brim with Vitamin A, and this is a vitamin that contributes to making our uterine walls super strong, as well as encouraging the production of hormones that help us stay energized.

You might not have to alter your eating habits much as most of the foods that help keep your vagina healthy you should be eating as part of a healthy balanced diet anyway.

Your first love is always going to be special to you, no matter how old you are or how many people you date. It was your first experience with love and the memories of that’ll stay with you all your life. Some of them are good and some of them not that good. Some things you will never forget are:

The First Time You Saw Him or Her

You’ll never forget the first time you saw your first love. You’ll probably even remember where he or she was and what he or she was wearing. You may even remember what you were wearing or what you said the first time you spoke. It’s possible that your first love was someone you knew a long time before you ever began a relationship, too. In that case, you may have more vivid memories of the first time you felt interest spark between you.

The First The both of You Kissed

A memory that’ll never fade is the first time you both kissed. You’ll remember how you both were standing. You’ll remember exactly where you were. Most of all, you’ll remember how magical that first kiss was.

The Fun Times You Had Together

Your first love will always be a special part of you. After all, they captured your heart when it was young and love was new to you. You’ll have tons of memories of all the fun times and the laughs you shared. Those memories are special and are something you can pull out to enjoy whenever your spirit needs a lift. They can make you smile even on the worst days.

How Long the Relationship Lasted

Your first love could have been a schoolgirl or a schoolboy crush that lasted a couple of weeks or it may have lasted much longer. No matter if it was a month or a year, you’ll always remember the details. It won’t escape your mind how long you were part of each other’s lives. That’s something you’ll remember with fondness. You may not remember the specifics of other relationships you’ve had but you’ll remember this about your first love


Why You relationship with your first break up

The details of your first love breakup are firmly set in your memory. You’ve probably had the same experience. You know exactly when and where things went wrong with your first love. You may even remember it with a twinge of sadness when you think about it.

How You Moved on

For all of us that didn’t end up staying with our first love, and that’s the majority of people, you also remember how you moved on. Maybe you had a new crush or there was a new love interest in your life or an horrific experiences you got while with him or her or Your first love could’ve found someone else to pursue. It may have been that the relationship just played itself out. Whatever the situation, you’ll recall how you moved on with your life.

The Lessons You Learned

Lastly, you’ll never forget the lessons you learned about the time in your life that you shared with your first love. There’re a lot of lessons that you can take away from a first time love. You learn about your own feelings and how you should honor them. You take some baby steps into learning about romantic relationships. You also learn about the power of yourself and moving on.

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Trust is tricky. That's why it's so hard for some guys or ladies to enter relationships. We worry about getting heartbroken, about getting screwed over, and about failing as a girlfriend or boyfriend. However, you can't let these things scare you away from dating:

The Fear of Getting Hurt

When you put yourself out there, there's always a #chance that you'll get hurt. However, it's impossible to live a fulfilling life without taking risks. Besides, your close friends could stop talking to you or your cousins could cut contact with you, which can hurt just as badly as a breakup would. That's why you can't let the fear of getting dumped or cheated on scare you away from dating. Even if your heart gets broken, the happiness you felt while you were dating them will be worth the pain you feel during the breakup.

The Bad Relationships around You

It doesn't matter if your parents are divorced and all of your friends are in unhealthy relationships. You don't have to end up like them. You're your own person, which means that your relationships won't necessarily end up like their relationships. It could actually be a good thing that you're surrounded by such horrid couples. That way, you can look at what your friends and family have done wrong and make sure you don't make the same mistakes in your relationship.

The Idea of Losing Your Independence

You can be independent while dating, just like you can be dependent while single. Even though you need to form a close bond with your boyfriend or girlfriend and spend a decent amount of time with him or her, he or she shouldn't become your entire life. You'll still have other friends to hang out with, hobbies to pursue, and a job to attend. Your partner won't be by your side 24/7, so you can still consider yourself independent while you're in a relationship


The Thought That Every Guy or Girl is the Same

If your ex cheated on you, it's normal for you to be wary about other men or women. However, they aren't all the same. Sure, there are certain people who will use you and leave you, but there are others who will love and cherish you. As long as you keep your eyes peeled for red flags, you'll be able to find a guy or girl who would never dream of acting like your exes you have.

The Need to Put Your Career First

You don't have to put your love life on hold in order to land your dream job. Your boyfriend or girlfriend will understand that you have other responsibilities to take care of. He or she won't stop you from going to work or distract you from doing the best job that you can, so feel free to pursue love at the same time as you're pursuing your career.

The Belief That You Don’t Deserve Love

Don't assume that you're not smart or pretty or handsome enough for someone to love you. You're a beautiful woman or a handsome man, inside and out. You deserve love, just like everybody else does, so don't settle for a life alone if you'd rather be in a relationship.

The Worry That You'll Be a Bad Girlfriend or a Bad Boyfriend

If you've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend before, it could take you some time to get used to being in a relationship. However, that doesn't mean you're going to be the worst girlfriend or boyfriend in the world. Even if you consider yourself to be the most selfish person you know, you're going to be surprised by how sweet you act around your man or woman. The right person will make you act like the best person you could be.

Dating isn't as scary as it looks. It might be hard to believe that right now, but once you find the right person for you, it'll be easy to push your fears aside.

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The guy who makes you think he has many options.

He nonsensically reminds you of the hordes of women who are attracted to him to make you believe it is your job to please him and make him happy at all times, lest he finds someone new. He doesn’t want you; not only does he want a mirror, but he also wants a woman who is sure to chase her tail in circles trying to please him at all costs, no matter how high. Stay away.

The guy who wants to control your emotions.

If he says he’s going to call you at 7 pm on a Tuesday, but he does not do so until 10 pm the following day (or later), he is likely doing it on purpose. He wants you to be thinking about all of the possible reasons why he’s not contacting you when he said he would. He wants you kept on a short leash, and in his mind, this is one way to do it.

The guy who inconsistently keeps his word.

Though he doesn’t always come through, he goes far beyond the guy who is “just not that in to you.” But, he does so for the wrong reasons.
He’s into you because he needs to feel in control, and you are precisely the person who will fulfill that need if you do not run.
Or maybe he is, quite simply, someone who does not feel as though keeping his word is something he needs to do.

The guy who “seems” interested in the future.

The guy who appears really interested in marriage and children within the first month of knowing you and later his not interested in marriage and children again.

The guy who needs to control your physical space.

He’s the guy who barricades a door so you cannot leave a room during an argument until you have allowed him to talk circles around an issue he created. This is a guy who is used to being given opportunities to talk his way out of situations.

The guy who does not respect you, your boundaries or your physical space.

He’s the guy who does not leave your dorm/apartment/home when you’ve asked him to. The same goes for the guy who shows up to your home when you have explicitly asked him not to.

The guy who has something to hide.

He’s the guy who is not honest about who his friends are. There is no other interpretation for this.

The guy with clear control issues.

He’s the guy who goes out of his way to say and do things that annoy you. He needs to know that he can manipulate you successfully, and this is one small way to test it.

The guy who is a master manipulator.

Have you ever apologized for your “role” in his behavior? This is master manipulation at its finest.
Not only has he behaved poorly, but he has found a way to manipulate you into believing that his behavior is, was, and will continue to be your fault.

Sex is an intimate act, but it's not the only activity that will bring you closer to your partner. That's why you shouldn't rush into sex. If you're not ready for it, there are plenty of other forms of affection that are equally as sweet. Here are a few things that you can do to strengthen your bond with your partner without removing your clothes:

1. Holding Hands in Public

Unfortunately, sex doesn't mean much to certain people. There are guys who will sleep with any woman they see, but they'll only hold hands in public with a special someone. Holding hands might not seem like that big of a deal, but it means that your man is proud to show you off and wants to let others know that you're together.

2. Meeting the Family

Meeting your boyfriend's family is a huge step. It means that he's serious about your relationship. He wouldn't introduce you to the people he loves if he thought you'd be breaking up anytime soon. Meeting his family means he's in it for the long haul.

3. Giving Non-Sexual Kisses

There's a reason why so many women love forehead kisses. It's because they aren't meant to lead to anything. Getting a kiss on the head is sweeter than getting one on the lips, because it isn't meant to lead to sex or even a make out session. It's just to show you he cares.

4. Cuddling

Cuddling allows you to be physically and emotionally close to your partner. Even though your bodies are close together, you aren't touching in a sexual way. You're happy just to be cuddling.

5. Staring into Each Other's Eyes

It's difficult to stare into another person's eyes. For some reason, we view it as awkward, which is why we tend to glance away every few seconds during conversations. However, if you and your partner are so comfortable around each other that you can look lovingly into each other's eyes for hours on ends, then you have something special.

6. Sharing Comfortable Silence

Speaking of comfort, if you two can sit together without talking, you can consider it a form of intimacy. Silences are awkward when you're around acquaintances. They're only relaxing when you're with someone that you're completely comfortable with.

7. Sharing Secrets

Offering your body to someone is different than offering your secrets to them. After all, it's easier to kiss someone than it is to open up to them about your hopes and dreams. If your partner shares their deepest secrets with you, you must mean a lot to them.

8. Telling inside Jokes

You don't have inside jokes with strangers. You have them with your closest friends. And if your boyfriend isn't your friend, what's the point of dating him? Intimacy isn't all about doing sweet things together. It's about doing fun things, too.

9. Slow Dancing

Grinding is sexual. Slow dancing is romantic. If you and your partner are able to sway back and fourth to music, or even when the room is completely silent, it's an intimate act.
You don't have to have sex in order to be intimate with your partner. There are plenty of other ways to express your feelings and strengthen your bond.

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There are things men want from you as a lady but will never tell you that they do. I honestly don’t know why most men will not communicate their needs more clearly; it would certainly make things easier if they did. I think part of the reason they don’t is that they don’t think ladies need to be told. They really believe responsible ladies know these things about them but sometimes they just don’t. These are things men want from you as a lady but will never tell you:

1. Respect

Through much reading and research, I have learned that men desperately want respect from the woman in their life. If you are in doubt of this, ask your guy as a lady and see what his response is. This is one of the most important things men want from you but will never tell you. So, what does it really mean to give a guy respect? Simply put, it means that you give their thoughts, ideas, actions and feelings merit. It means that you think that he is important and you show it with your actions.

2. Admiration

Going hand in hand with respect is admiration. Guys typically love admiration, but there is a catch to this. It has to be sincere for it to work. Guys seem to have a radar to catch any insincere compliment you give them. But as long as you are telling him something you genuinely appreciate about him, he will be very pleased to hear it.

3. Companionship

Men like the companionship of the woman they care about. He may want you to just join him on the couch when he watches his favorite television show. The point is, he likes having you around and that is a really great thing. Sure, he needs his guy time but he likes spending time with you, too. So take advantage of that fact and find some ways you can spend more time with him.

4. Arm Candy

Men appreciate when the woman in their life takes time to look her best. You don’t have to be a supermodel for him to be happy. Just putting some effort out there to look your best is enough and you can trust that you will look great in his eyes when you do. Take a little time to apply some makeup and fix your hair before you see each other. Wear something he likes to see you in and watch when he notices the effort you made.

5. Encouragement

Men like and need encouragement. They like to know that the woman they love is in their corner, cheering them on. Your belief in them is important. They think that if you believe in them then surely they can accomplish whatever obstacles they are up against in their life. In return, you will find they are always in your corner.

6. Appreciation

Men like to be appreciated and it doesn’t take a lot to express this. A simple ‘thank you’ accompanied by a sweet smile can go far in showing you appreciate whatever it is they are doing for you. Maybe your guy took you out for a nice dinner or took care of some maintenance on your car. Whatever it is he is doing for you, appreciating the act will endear you to him. You will probably find that he wants to do more for you when you appreciate his efforts.

7. Recognition

Sometimes, men have to play many different roles and they do a lot for their friends and families. Take time to mention these things to the man in your life so he knows that you recognize what a good son, brother, friend, boyfriend, husband or father he is.Men rarely get recognized for all that they do for others and he's sure to appreciate the recognition.

8. Independence

Men love their independence. This doesn't mean that they want to be left alone all of the time, but they do like to be able to do things on their own without having to check in or be made to feel guilty. Remember to give your guy time on his own to hang out with his friends or just have some alone time.

9. Support

We all need a good support network and men are no different. When your guy says he's going to try to get promoted at work, support his efforts. Let him know that you're behind him all the way and no matter how far fetched the goal might seem to you, if it's important to your guy, he wants it to be important to you, too.

10. Desired

Even if you think he knows you want him, show him anyway! Men want to feel desired and when he doesn't feel wanted by you, it can get to his confidence. Flirt with him, let him know that you're excited by him and that you feel lucky to be with him

1. Seek a relationship out of love (not fear).

Fear-Based Motivations

Many people today seek a relationship out of fear. Reasons like not wanting to feel lonely, not wanting to be alone, not wanting to be left on the shelf, conforming to society’s expectations, appeasing parents’ concerns, wanting to be loved, wanting to feel “complete”, wanting to have a partner to “show off” to friends, and not wanting to be the only single left among coupled friends are fear-based motivations for a relationship.

However, in doing/thinking so, you attract fear-based people: partners who manipulate, partners who abuse you (not just physically but also emotionally), and/or partners to criticize you and take you for granted. After a while, you may feel you’re better off single than with these people.

2. Be your best self. (Change for yourself, not to get someone to like you.)

Many of us are guilty of restraining, changing ourselves to appeal to the other gender.

Attract Love by Being the Best You

When you have to alter or restrain yourself to get someone to like you, chances are the person was never compatible with your true self. You also enter a dilemma of whether to continue your fake persona to maintain the person’s interest (but live a lie) or reveal your real self to be true to yourself (but risk losing the person’s interest). Either way is a lose.

What you want is a partner who loves you as you and whom you can be your highest self with, not someone whom you have to project a fake persona around.

To have that, first be comfortable in your own skin. You can’t expect others to love you if you don’t love yourself first.

3. Seek love, but don’t treat it as a goal.

love isn’t a goal to be achieved. You can’t control when you find love and who falls in love with you though you CAN be proactive about making it happen.

Treat love as what it is — an all-encompassing, formless, timeless, and universal quality that defies time and space — and you will soon attract love in its highest form.

4. Realize that love is all around you.

As you seek love, don’t miss the love that is around you and that has always been there.

From your parents loving and caring for you, to friends showing care and concern, to co-workers supporting you at work, to teachers/mentors coaching you, to strangers lending a helping hand when you need it, to your higher self and spirit guides looking out for you since before you were born, you are surrounded by love every second, every minute and every hour of every day.

Don’t restrict your mind to just seeing romantic love. Recognize the love before you that’s in different forms. Embrace them all. And be thankful for them. If you don’t first recognize, accept, and appreciate the love around you, then how can you expect the universe to send more love your way? Only by doing so, will you show the world that you are ready to receive more love into your life.

5. Recognize that you are complete.

When you were born, you were blessed with a physical body to experience life on earth. From working lungs, to a beating heart, to an intelligent mind, to a working body, you have everything it takes to thrive.

Yet, we are often led to believe that we are incomplete whether through books, television shows, or romance movies. We are told that love is necessary to complete us. Unfortunately, this is unhealthy thinking which leaves us feeling like we’re missing something and causes us to yearn for a relationship ever so often.

6. Play your part in making love happen.

While you work on being your best self and living your best life, play your part in making love happen. Get out there and meet people. Attend social gatherings. Join interest groups. Date. Be open to being set up on dates. Don’t close off opportunities to meet new people.

7. Don’t hold constricted views on how love should be.

“I will only date someone outside of my workplace.”

“He must text me before and after each date to show his interest.”

“I will never go out on a date with someone who asks me out less than three days in advance.”

“If a guy doesn’t follow up after a week, he’s not within my consideration set anymore.”

Ever heard these statements before? I have, or at least a variation of them. Many people have expectations on how they want love to appear and develop. Unfortunately, these expectations can also hinder you from receiving love.

8. Nurture rather than terminate.

A nurturing mindset is one where you focus on the things you like (about the person), the potential of your relationship, and growing the connection with the person. You celebrate what’s there and work on building the connection further.

A terminalistic mindset on the other hand is where you judge someone by what you see, make early (usually negative) conclusions, impose expectations on how the connection should evolve, and shut it off on the smallest of factors. Here, you evaluate the connection by a preset (usually ridiculous) standard and you are ready to close off anything that doesn’t match what you want.

Naturally, a nurturing mindset is the key to both finding love and building successful relationships..

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Now “broken heart syndrome” (as it was creatively named) is nothing new. It’s not really thought to produce any real long-lasting health complications, it’s just a scientific name for something we all experience at one point or another, right? Maybe, maybe not. While most people do find the strength to move on, it seems that others strangely leap from broken heart syndrome into full-on physical heart issues.

Researchers say that 1 in 320 people who are at high risk for heart failure and 1 in 1,400 people who are at low risk will experience increased heart problems due to some kind of heartbreak. Specifically, grieving spouses are more likely to die of a heart attack or a stroke, which accounts for 53% of their deaths.

How does it work? First of all, a person who is grieving an intense emotional loss, be it death, severe depression, or just your run-of-the-mill bad breakup, is likely to not take very good care of themselves. They’ll get less sleep. They’ll neglect medication. They’ll neglect to eat, or they just won’t eat with any regard to health. Potentially, they might drink,smoke or even engage in some illicit acts or even more harmful acts. You see, the grieving process increases cortisol levels in the blood. Intense grief brings on psychological stress, increased heart rate, blood pressure, and clotting, and there you have a perfect recipe for a heart attack...This can actually lead to death or someone do some funny things to his or herself.

Breaking up is hard to do, is more complicated than one may think.

Our bodies not only get attracted to another human on a mental level but a chemical level as well. When that attachment gets broken our bodies will go through a phase of withdrawal.

Not only does our mind long for that person but the loss of the chemical connection literally sends a message to the brain or the brain sends a message to the body that simulates pain.

Breaking up or being dumped actually heightens the pheromone of passionate love in the brain circuits of both men and women. Withdrawal from this is like weaning off of a drug, that is why physical distance from that person is helpful in the breaking up process. The breakup triggers our fear of survival in the amygdala, this part of the brain that engages in worry and critical thinking or judgment. That is why some of the strange actions of a love sick person can seem so bizarre. In this state obsessive thoughts can take over, this is the equivalent of the rush of passion that one may feel in a new relationship. This same process happens in the negative sense over the loss of the person.

When love is lost men are three times more likely to commit suicide, whereas females tend to fall into a state of depression. Rejection, as studied in brain imaging tests, reveals that the same circuits in the brain that triggers physical pain also, triggers the same pain over the loss of a loved one. The studies show that the chemical shift from the high activity of active love becomes flat biochemistry of loss and grief.

Many times people do not understand that the loss of a marriage or relationship really can feel like a death.

Love can hurt, but it can also be the most wonderful gift, understanding that it is not always a conscious choice that we end up loving can shed some light on the very complicated feeling of human connections. We really do love as humans with our mind, body and our brain chemistry.

Is good we guide out tongue on what to say to some couples you know around you who have been married for long without kids,still struggling to have kids in there family..it is advice able we guide ourselves on our words of usage to them so that we do not tear them down in feelings with our jokingly words..

Here are some words that will not be too good to use on them

1. "Have you started trying yet?''

2. "You're so lucky you get to sleep in/travel/spend your money on irresponsible things!"

3. "You'll see when you have kids!"

4. "Oh wow, you must've partied HARD last night, right?! Gosh, I miss those days!"

5. "Being around kids must be like birth control for you!"

6. "Yeah, definitely have sex/enjoy your marriage now, because after kids, nothing is the same!"

7. "You think you're tired now? Just wait 'til you have kids!"

8. "You're so lucky it's just you two!"

9. "You just don't understand what love is until you have kids!"

10. "So. When ARE you finally gonna have kids?"

These days, couples getting married tend to bite more than they can chew, spending money they don't have for an extravagant wedding.

So many couples in their desperation to have a perfect wedding will go to any length, even incur debt.

Sure, a lot of people wonder why people borrow money to get married and how they survive financially after the wedding is over.

Most people dream about having big weddings with lots of guest. This is a good way to celebrate but remember the cost that comes with it. Weddings are expensive and the cost runs into millions. If you've always dreamed of a big, fancy wedding, and you know you can't afford it, it's better to kill that dream of yours and cut your coat according to your cloth.

Borrowing to finance your wedding is dangerous and it is a wrong first move. There is nothing worse than starting off your married life with debt. Remember you are about to start a new life with your partner, which is supposed to be exciting, fun and stress-free. Why start your new life with decades of repaying debts?

Though some people borrow to finance their weddings, a number of Nigerians are against it and below are Some People I verified about this:

Toluwase Chosen Omole, a member of Winners church said: “Wedding is a maximum of two days while marriage is till death do us part. If I borrow for wedding will I borrow to sustain the marriage?

“That's the worst mistake to take, why borrow to feed people for one day then you begin your family with paying debts that you would have been enjoying with your wife. The best option is to have a cheap wedding do it at the government registry,” said Awimbo Evans.

Why get into debt and them start struggling and fighting over it after marriage?, asks De Sol. “I have heard of marriage crumbling because of finance issues and inability to pay back debts incurred due to the wedding. It's a wrong move in my opinion cos kids will start coming and you need money to take care of them too,” she added.

We all know you do not need to go overboard to have an amazing wedding. Who needs an extravagant wedding anyway? Just keep it small and simple and you'll be glad you did.

Here are a few things you could do to avoid borrowing for your wedding.

Keep it small. You don't need a large crowd of people who you don't know and who most of the time are just there to criticize. Only invite your close family and friends.

Once you have a planned budget, stick to it and don't spend any extra.

It is easy to get caught up with the extravagant celebrity wedding trend, but note that these celebrities have the money for these kind of weddings. You, on the other hand may not be able to afford such luxuries.

While borrowing to finance your wedding may seem like the best thing and a good way to save face, it's one of the biggest financial mistakes a couple can make. It wouldn't be nice for you to get married and then you can't afford food as you are paying debts

Being married is certainly not a life step that should be taken lightly. But often times, people do it for all the wrong reasons and it ends up leading to a bitter marriage or even divorce.

These reasons below are the worst reasons to settle down.

1. You Are Afraid To Lose Him/Her:

Using fear as a reason to get married is completely wrong. If you are that unsure of your relationship, then being apart is simply a better bet.

2. Friends And Family Pressure:

You will always have family members or friends that put pressure on you to to settle down because they think it is time.

You need to realize that these people would not be in the marriage with you and they certainly would not directly feel the consequences of a broken marriage. Only take this step because you think it is time.

3. You Are Getting Older:

Yes, yes, the infamous biological clock is ticking away and reminding you that you are running out of time.

But, you should know that once you are in a bad marriage, you would be so much worse off and wished you had waited for the right person as opposed to settling for the wrong person because you think time was running out.

4. You Feel You Owe Him/Her:

Did he pay your way through school? Did she hang in there through your strip club days and your cheating ways? Getting married because you feel you owe your partner a debt is also a terrible idea.

Get married because you absolutely and completely want to and you would feel much more satisfied with your choice.

5. For Material Security:

This does not just refer to women who settle down with rich men just because they do not want to worry about money.

These days, some men actually choose to go for women from rich homes/background, perhaps due to promises of wealth from the woman's parents or the feeling that the woman can solve any money-related problems that come up.

Such marriage would not work out because one person will no doubt feel used and might decide to act out or be disrespectful.

6. You Are Bored:

You should also not get married simply because you have nothing else going on in your life. Do not just assume that marriage would provide you all the companionship you need simply because you are uncomfortable with your own company.

Focus on your personal growth, find a hobby, start a business, grow your career, and when the time is right, you would meet your true partner.

7. To Get Over An Ex:

Did you just hear that your ex has gotten married? Did you just go through a terrible break-up and you think jumping into a lifetime commitment will heal your broken heart?

Well, this is really wrong. When you do eventually get over the ex (and you will) all you would be left with is a partner you do not love and the feeling of total regret.

8. Pregnancy:

Just because you are pregnant, or she is pregnant for you is not enough reason to commit to forever.

This might sound like a good solution at first but in the marriage, you would notice your partner is simply a mother/father to the child and not a wife/husband to you since the child is the only foundation of your relationship.

9. You Have Been Dating Forever:

So you have been together for years and years and tying the knots seems like the perfect solution. Sometimes, it isn't.

When it is time to decide marriage, take another look at your relationship and consider how it will change if you make it official and bring children into it.

Be as honest as possible with yourself and your partner. Do not just start planning a wedding because you think that is the next step.

10. All Your Friends Are Doing It:

As humans, we cannot help but compare ourselves to our mates as we progress. We worry about making sure we are where we think we are supposed to be because all our friends are already there. But marriage is a completely personal decision.

Just because everyone around you seem to be jumping in does not mean you should just close your eyes, pick someone and jump in too. Take your time and make sure you, and you alone feel you are ready for the step before taking it.

11. Your Families Get Along:

You might have started dating someone because he/she is a family friend or because your families get along perfectly, but this is no reason to make vows to be loyal and faithful to him/her forever. Make sure you are doing it because you both feel ready, in love, and connected with each other

12. You Think It Is The Next Step:

You just completed your education, or you just got that big promotion at work. You just bought your first home or you just hit a particular age. Whatever your reason, do not get married just because you think it is the next thing to do. Marriage should not be on some to-do list that you have.

A lot of individuals have married without being prepared emotionally, mentally, spiritually, psychologically and materially and as a result, marriage vows are not kept and thereby a collapse of the union.


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