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ElonEmpire:
Greetings all .
I'm having a serious issue in my home and I need to listen to other peoples options and advise.
Please this might be abit long, try and read to end.
Brief summary about me.
I'm 38 years old man, married for close for 6 years now but no child.
We have done everything possible, go to many hospitals and do all kinds of test no way.
I Love my wife so very much and am willing to travel that path with her as long as it takes ,even though our problem is; well, am not and have never blamed her, I believe God is God of miracles.
I have 2 girls..I ..

Oga Ade, please man up. You are sounding like a sisi.

How can you use your money to marry and care for a liability and a jezebel you call a wife and she will not give you peace. Throw that woman out of your life.

Your children are your number 1 priority. If that liability you call a wife cannot give you peace and love your children, throw her out to the street. Do it as FAST as possible.

There are more women than men in Nigeria

You want to keep your Blood, your children in a getto, in a room "face me I slap you", when you can afford a better life and place for them because of one street liability that could not even give you a child for the past 6 years

AND don't ever leave any of your daughters with that thing you call a wife oooo. SHE CAN POISON OR KILL THEM.

budaatum:
Yes we should. We should ask if he is mad and couldn't control himself, especially when he ends up sitting in a jail cell for life!

We'd after all be asking the same of a stupïd woman who gets a gun to shoot her husband, which this woman has very wisely not done.

Exactly. Why the logic of tit for tat doesn't make sense.

The logic of "he did me wrong in Nigeria, but I will wait for him to end his life savings and take me abroad then pay back" that you are pushing will end up destroying both the man and woman.

budaatum:
In Yoruba we say, don't ask who killed our father until we get our hands on the cutlass. You have dominance over me in Nigeria, so I bide my time until we cross the ocean and you lose your powers and I gain mine.

Unless you believe I am an evil person who pays kindness with ungratitude, you'd perhaps ask why I changed before judging me.

Hmmmm. That's interesting. So we should apply this logic also if the man decides to end the wife's life too when he gets a gun?? We should also be asking what the woman did to him for him to snap up to that level and give him a pass??

budaatum:
Who knows how you treated her before she relocated and gained freedom from you?

It's not like you'd have invested in her as you claim if she never had a brain.

Exactly . Let's still blame the victims naaa.

If he treated her badly, why she took the sponsorship from him to go to UK??

He hated her and treated her badly but still used his sweat or probably life savings to sponsor her to UK and through school in the UK??m

Again irrespective of the opinion you go with, I want you to note that there's 90pct chance that any Nigerian MADE marriage will tumble in a western society.

It's just because the foundational and sustaining factors of marriages are different in Nigerian society compared to western societies.

Most especially, if you’re already having quarrel, disagreement, issues with your wife in Nigeria, abort this mission, because it will eventually end your marriage in a location where you are disadvantaged as a man and the woman has more rights than you.

NEVER upgrade a wife or girlfriend beyond yourself.

NEVER close the gap between you and your woman while you don't further upgrade yourself. The spirit of HYPERGAMY lives in every woman DNA.

REMEMBER no matter what you do for a wife or girlfriend, it will ALWAYS end in "What have you done for me? from her.

Now to you question. I will advise you go with option of MSc for yourself if you want to risk taking a woman to the UK. It's a lesser risk option for you for that woman to show you shege in the UK.

The other option of you sponsoring her to upgrade to practice in the UK is way too risky for you.

Women majorly divorce or jail or make life of their men miserable when they get to western countries for several reasons. You are not better than those men this had happened to and your wife is not better than those women.

Based on experiences, stories about family japa to all these western countries, I Generally advise men against taking Nigerian wives to these countries. If you must do it, let her sponsor the relocation for the family. She might still show you shege over there ooo, but at least your loss is minimal.

FromZeroToHero:
Hello good people, my wife is a registered Nurse with over 10 years of experience. She's currently working at a government owned hospital but I am planning to sponsor her to pursue her Nursing career abroad probably in the UK or US.

Considering her age, can she still cope with the rigorous process of migrating abroad and what is her chances of getting a job abroad because i heard they mostly employ younger people between 25yrs to 30yrs.

I am not saying you should not sponsor your wife to practice abroad as a Nurse. The final decision is yours.

I will just advise you to research, read stories, ask around what happens to marriages and families with this your plan.

And if you think your woman in Nigeria is different, just send an abroad based guy (black or white, naija or Ghanaian, it doesn't matter) to her, you will be amazed.

Nothing special in what he achieved with those women when you understands women.

Women have no class when you dangle their price in front of them. It's the hypergamy in the DNA.

In this guy case, all those women were seeing foreign japa, papers and foreign passport. That's what he dangled in front of them. Its not sweet talk, handsomeness or anything more.

Even IJGB boys kna.ck women anyhow in Naija when we come home. All because they think you will help them japa.

I don't even know why women believe natural pri...ck should be free to them. Even the artificial one they use on themselves, they paid for it.

Why is she crying Is she not a strong woman again?? I thought they are all strong women.

When they bill men, it's being responsible but when men bill them, they call it different bad names and start crying all over the world

TotoSuckker:
You will be getting towtow everyday

A man does not need a marriage to get this everyday.

In Nigeria, a man gains emotional and financial troubles.

In western countries, he gains emotional, financial and legal troubles.

LUAN:
what would you have to offer a woman that would be enough

Nothing can be enough for a woman. You can NEVER satisfy them. Eve had everything in eden but was still going after a fruit.

Where there is no love, there can NEVER be a satisfaction.

Love don't exist in women dictionary when it comes to relationship or marriages.

So short and fair skin men will get them once he has "things" to offer them.

letskeeptalking:
I'm not sure what is making all the men here angry!

😀😀😀😀 so they are now angry because they can see through your manipulation right??m

They have not even heard from your man, and they have seen that you are the problem.

If you can be trying to manipulate strangers on a faceless forum, I wonder what that man had gone through in your hand.

letskeeptalking:
Thank you . . I'm not even going to deny that I am deeply resentful and I had to work out why during therapy . . It's why I feel I can't go on . . because the reason behind my resentment has not changed. I don't want to end up being bitter for life.

Like I mentioned earlier, I think he's fighting some really bad demons, and trying to help him was literally drowning me! I became the worst version of myself, trying to be supportive of the kind of life he wanted.

From what you have said so far. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM OF THAT MARRIAGE.

Go ahead and file for divorce, free that man from this miserable union.

As per what you should expect to happen to you after the divorce, you know it already but you are just looking for contrary validation of the opposite you hope for.

Amotolongbo:
The pregnancy wasn’t her first, so where is the baby?
This is the second pregnancy but where are the baby and the mother?

“If that pregnancy is what she wanted”?
For someone like Ajara, pregnancy is suicidal. If someone wants suicide, would you kill the person because he wants suicide?
Obviously she is not mentally efficient and capable enough to solely decide going and handling pregnancy, the reason she has to be properly guided by experts (gynaecologists, physiotherapists and psychologists), if she decided taking the risk of pregnancy, under very close monitoring so they can act fast if there is any threat to her life or the baby.

You need help with this nonsense you type here

Does she or her family has GOOD money To compensate for all your sacrifice. Wise up oooo.

If she is poor or from a poor Background, LEAVE her.

If you are poor and have that disease, the girl will not even talk to you, not to talk of having a relationship with you.

WOMEN ARE ALWAYS IN BUSINESS WHILE MEN ARE IN LOVE.

Marriage is not her next priority if she cannot afford to pay bike man 600 naira.

She should go and hustle first. Yes she should cancel the wedding.

After she has used him to escape naija problems, she should come back that time to show us the "love".

Rich4god:
Then over time, you upgrade her to any standard you want. If it's skill, enrol her. If it's education plan and send her to school.

This is not a good advice to give any man. It has NEVER worked well for men. It will only end in "what have you done for me?" "Did I force you to do it?"

Anytime a man upgrade a woman, he is only closing the gap that attracted the woman to him in the first instance. The woman will finally grow distant from him and look higher. HYPERGAMY is in every woman DNA. They can't even help themselves to beat the HYPERGAMY.

Amotolongbo:
To the man that impregnated Aunty Ajara, your judgement is near and will surely face the consequences. Oh, you are a coward and not man enough.

And who told you the man forced the pregnancy on her Some of you will just open mouth waaaaa.

What off if she actually wanted the pregnancy

Iran is just "enforcing it's trade sanctions". To "stop flow of stolen oil".

King of the feminists has been humbled by the street.

Congratulations to their son.

It's not a good idea. In fact, it's a terrible idea.

All men that I know that did it, later regret it.

In all cases, the women never loved them. They just married the men for survival.

Kanwulia:
I am only in marriage for “the certificate” and sperm-donorship to shut people up!🥰

😀😀😀😀Interesting. Madam, please show your husband this your comment. Because this is how you people say one thing on the internet but do otherwise with men offline.

Every woman always blame the man when the relationship or marriages didn't work

They will never say what they did wrong in that relationship.

In women's world, every one of them is a saint while all men are evil.

In the current naija economy, if this is what is giving you sleepless nights, I don't know what to say.

Good luck.

gracey22:
Hi. Please, for an adult who only has court affidavit for the declaration of age and never had a birth certificate issued. Or probably issued to parents, but lost and he has never used a real Nigerian issued birth certificate, what is the way forward or how to handle this when the NVC center rejected the affidavit uploaded? Thank you.

Go to any local government HQ close to you, ask for National Populations office where they give birth certificate, ask them for Attestation of Birth. NVC accepts this for Nigeria.

essentialone:
If there were no SIMPs, there will be no dating, no marriage, & no family

There will be dating, there will be s.ex and there will be children. Those are natural traits of humans.

In fact, there are all these in western countries today where men are no more simping since women changed the rules.

Yes. There will be no marriage and family being together.