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Eh yah. Our sister Don use am get palli

Sorry, just move on. You cannot get any refund.

Ask the woman where it's written in the Bible that husband should not sleep his wife with a condom.

Why should she or her husband has full custody?? Both parents are alive and well.

Rubbi.sh....

He should sue her into oblivion. This is how to treat these types of false accusations

pansophist:
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Because it is the natural order of things.

Forget relationship, even in friendship. Will you help a friend that didn't helped you when you were in need?

The human mind always run a mental diagnostics when it is task with the responsibility of going far for someone. If your sibling or a friend ask you for a help, you will first access if it is genuine in nature and if the person will do same for you.

And as man who is a provided by default, you must have shown that you provided for her, then she can be sure she is not helping the wrong person.

But same woman will also help her siblings even before they helped her.

Women are in business when in sexual relationship with men. It's in their DNA.

It breaks heart to see how gullible naija youths can be on world affairs.

So, many naija youths actually believed this fake reports or lies from the west ??

He is right. Green card is a privilege. It can be revoked anytime you breach the terms and conditions.

pansophist:
Contrary to belief, women can actually do that. Infact lots of women do it.

But usually before a woman does that, the man should have been a provider and treated her well, before loosing his financial buoyancy.

You can’t reap where you did not sow. Only a man that has been good to a woman will deserve her kindness.

But men do it to women that have never been and will never be nice to them. Why some women must wait until the man has been nice to them before?

Savvy19:
I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. She is nice, caring, loving, homely and understanding lady. She has all the qualities I want in a woman. I love her but I’m concerned about the welfare of the kids afterwards in the relationship. She has been separated from the father of her kids for over a year now. She doesn’t demand money from me.
I don’t know if it is a good idea for me to continue with the relationship, or I just let it go . This lady has really been good to me.

How old are you? Are you a divorcee? How many children do you have with your former wife? Is she paying your bills and ready to continue to pay them?

I am asking these questions so that you can come back to your senses.

NurseSnowToYou:
May I ask what is the usual treatment for depression or mental health issues in Nigeria? I was just reading an article about migrant returnees that were trying to get to Europe but were sent back home and now felt ostracized and suicidal. IOM and the Nigerian govt said they'd be offering psychosocial support and it just made me curious as Im a Psych Nurse Practitioner in the US, how these things are handled there? Appreciate it!

Depression is not very common in Nigeria as it's in America. Reasons

1. Our lifestyle is void of loneliness like western countries.

2. We have sun 12 months of the year. No dark cold months where we will be lacking vitamin D

3. More family and friends supports available to us.

4. We consume natural foods and not processed and chemicalized foods that cause alot of health problems including mental health issues.

Sometimes people in Nigeria that are suffering from poverty think they are suffering from depression.

Canada2021:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a Nigerian based in the US. I grew up in one of the southern states in Nigeria. I met my fiancee who is based in Nigeria, Lagos to be precised. I came down to Nigeria for the introduction and we intend to do a small bride price payment due to the type of relocation path I want to use to bring her to the US which doesn’t require us to be legally married or even traditionally married.

Due to the nature of the visa type which I want to use to bring my wife to the US, I suggested to my fiancee and her family to do the bride price and a small igbankwu ceremony in Lagos where her parents reside. I also pleaded to them that i was ready to pay any fine from their village (Anambra State). This is because I am trying to control the number of persons that have knowledge of the ceremony because if I dont her visa will be denied because she is married to me.

Another reason why I suggested we do all of this in her fathers house in Lagos was because of the insecurity in the eastern part as I do not want to be liable for anybody’s death or kidnap in the event that this happens because they are coming to celebrate with me.

Sadly, her parents have refused to bulge as they are insisting that this must be done in the east. I am really worried and confused on what to do.

In 2025, you are still going to marry a stranger woman from Nigeria to take to America.

Red flags full that marriage already.

I pity you oooo.

Where are her evidences

She should publish them or give them to human rights activists or lawyers.

You knee down to beg a liability to come and give you troubles. You will even spend or take care of her while she is giving you the troubles.

Men are suffering walahi

The guy was a mu. Mu. How can he go and propose to a girl that has not even agreed to date him.

Yes, the girl showed a bad character by slapping him but he is an id.ioot

She should be given same sentence the court would have given the man if the accusation was true.

Diamond098454:
I feel your pain. Because if anything directly or indirectly bring your wife and her ex close again they will make love because the closeness , the communication and the feelings is still there.

Of course, the man might be planning dirty December on that woman already. And if so, the woman is already imagining their old sweet time together.

Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it. But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.
This doesn't sit well with me.
I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.

The ex and your wife still have feelings for each other. Your wife has told her parents the truth. They support it.

The ex might be having marital problems with his wife abroad and planning to marry your wife as his ex love. Your wife also will like to marry abroad man to japa from Nigeria.

Once that ex lands in Naija this December, he will k.nack your wife.


Just be prepared. It's coming.

Faith063:
Hello, Please advice needed on how do you complete W8-BEN form, i suddenly receive it in mail from my bank. Don't really know how to approach this.

Nothing special there. Fill it up or is there any specific questions you have on it?

Intelligence:
Anyone around Gainesville, Florida and looking to hangout?

I am not based in Gainesville but I visit from time to time.

There is a Nigerian small restaurant on 13th street, owned by a Nigerian man and his wife. I usually hangout with the man.

M&.D West African Cuisine
405 NW 13th street Gainesville FL.

NEVER ask a lady you want to marry those questions directly. She will only lie to you.

Do your own research on her, observe, read body languages, discuss similar topics freely, touch, test etc. to get your answers to them.

Did this law factor in the following ?

What happens if the man truly doesn't want the child and the woman kept the child for herself? Because a woman has the rights to abort if she doesn't want the child and she will not be jailed.

A man should also be allowed to walk away from a child he doesn't want without a jail term.

He should be able to sign away his parental rights legally as part of the law

2. Also, is DNA testing part of the law so that the man can ask for a DNA test legally in cases when he is in doubt of parternity?

Redemption88:
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The answer to the question you asked me: "No, I haven't".

You are welcome. As I said earlier, you are thinking in the right direction.

You need to factor in how much she loves you to those good qualities of hers in your thinking and consideration because a bachelor medical doctor fits the profile of bachelors most women want to marry and they will pretend to love.

Also, remember that no one is perfect. You cannot see a 100pct perfect match to your want and situation. BUT you MUST understand the deficiency, the risks involved in the deficiency and determine if BOTH of you can overcome those risks in the marriage.

Some deficiency are not worth moving forward with the person, while some can be overcome with the right partner.

And to determine the good qualities and deficiency, you MUST do background checks, observe, test, read in-between the lines, etc to ensure you are getting the facts. DON'T rely solely on the woman's words or behaviors around you.

cutecommend:
It is possible to see the best spouse for you after you are Married, but you just have to love the one you are already married to and move on.

Not always true. It might be true only if you truly made a very terrible choice of a spouse.

Those people you see from afar as best might not the best when you go close to them, and when you marry them.

Redemption88:
Thanks for your input

Honestly I like your reasoning. I am not surprised since you are a doctor.

Background of anyone matters alot and most especially in marriages. It shapens all their reasoning and perspectives to life and challenges.

This is why most people from poor Background have poor people thinking, and vice versa for the rich.

Same way most ladies from single mothers end up becoming single mothers. Men from wife beating fathers end up beating their wives.

Back to this your case, the lady comes from a background of 4 people depending on her and they are already seeing you like their "savior". I see them seeing you as a savior as a red flag. I believe this is how your girlfriend is seeing you also. This is going to be the Genesis of your problems in the marriage if not well handled.

Let me ask, have you tested the love that girl has for you Is she really in love with you as a person or with you as a doctor savior for her family Remember that women are very good pretender and manipulator when they want to marry a man. You need to first test and confirm her love and loyalty to you in this situation.

You said "...The babe is perfect, 100% perfect, 100% God's babe, A VIRGIN...". You didn't mention how much the babe has been tested and confirmed to love you. She needs to still love you as a person in addition to those good qualities for you to enjoy a marriage with her.

Once you clear this, then you BOTH might be able to work together to overcome the challenges that her family background will bring to the marriage.

Fiscus105:
If you analysis is correct, the beautiful girl is supposed to go for guy with better income.

If the girl has another guy with better income, she will not be in that picture. You get it now?

Women stay with their highest offer or bidder.

Myrepublic:
.. can he allow his sister or daughter stay with a man in this condition?

God abeg o

But a girl can stay with her parents in this condition ba?

Fake story because if this is true, your parents need to take you to a spiritualist or to a doctor to examine your head.

Zelensky is using his country men to do play stupid games.

An award of the most stupid president of our time should be given to him.

Dtruthspeaker:
Yes.
Their men and their tradition made them like that. There is so much pain being an Ibo woman

Wow! I have been observing this. It's well with them.

Even here in Nairaland, it's same thing.

To be clear, the woman in this story was dating other men after divorcing her husband, but she was dating married men, Alhajis with multiple wives.

Do you think that's her choice of men The answer is obviously a NO. But that's what she got in the dating market being a divorcee with multiple kids.

That's the reality in life. It's not new and it will not end with her.

Towma:
This propaganda of trying to force women to forgive cheating husbands is nothing but pure evi.

Nobody forces or can force any woman to marry or stay in a marriage with this propaganda.

There's propaganda and there is reality. Anyone that's not stupid should be able to see reality.

This is one of them when you look around you. Divorced women with multiple children find it hard to date single men.

You can be emotional as you want to, but that doesn't change the reality.

It's same way women were using emotions to say men have same biological clock like women in the other thread. Reality in our lifes and surrounding says otherwise.