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Mistersolar:
yeah she do cook on some occasion and other one is fantastic ...but hey hows dat important

It's the segs she is using to confuse your head. It's a trap.

The ashy woman deserves the karma. She got served the same breakfast she served her husband.

The man should not be called a pastor.

Ibtxxo:
Wetin I no go see for igbo land.
My girl mum , him husband no pay her pride price and now the ndi inchie told me I must pay her mum own before I pay my girl.
Who does that?

Run fast. You go see shege

Not a good reason to cheat or scatter your home as a man.

Husband and wife are partners and they are to support each other during thick and thin in all aspects including where one is lacking.

My advise for you are these.

1. You need to stop complaining or reduce your complaints. The man's psychology is seeing them as nagging. Those complaints will not solve anything. You need to start showing him that you are his partner. You understand his challenges and both of you are one in this.

2. Continue to support the family as you can. It's still your family. The children are yours too.

3. Have a complete rethink to heal any negative grudge you might have on him.

4. Have a heart to heart discussion with him for both of you to forgive each other, rebuild your relationship.

5. I want you to know there is very little chance that you will get to marry another better man if you leave your husband of 15 years with 3 children. You might have some man friends that will spend some little money on you just to sleep with you and move on. They will not marry you. You will still have to carry those responsibilities by yourself while outside while messing yourself up with different men.

6. The time to complain or nagg has passed for both of you honestly. You are both old and have grown up children in the family that can understand fully the disunity in the family. It's time to be thinking of how to build a strong loving big family together with your children and grand children that will soon be coming in few years from now.

7. Every marriage has problems. No marriage without issues. If you hear other people problems, you will reconcile with your husband today.

So in summary, from the piece meal information you have given so far.

A 15 year old marriage with 3 children. Woman is now 45 and man is 46 years old. Woman loved the man genuinely at the start of the relationship. She shouldered some family responsibilities (though she thought those responsibilities are not hers).

No physical abuse but man threaten physical arm of recent due to constant complaints from the wife.

Man does not shoulder the family responsibilities as Woman wants him to. The woman thinks it's an abuse. Therefore she is tired of the marriage but she is also not doing well financially to afford to rent a room for herself.

dollytino4real:
i really loved him b4 because he was handsome and hardworking but tins changed wen we stayed together as husband n wife fully

Very good that you truly loved him. But is he still hardworking now or is he now lazy?

With heavy make up, camera filters and camera angle and perfect pictures lighting, plastic breast, plastic skin, chemicals in face and lips ba?

I have not noticed the divorce rate and I will be observing that going forward.

BUT I can confirm that majority of toxic feminists or misandrists are igbo women on the internet.

Mistersolar:
hello guys,omo my strong guy don turn weak guy,i dey weep sleep,sleep self no dey come,i don free girl wey don travel enter cairo wey won marry me,even girl wey her papa get hotel,i mean even a 33plus lady whose father left a house for her....i no still gree marry dem oo......na one single mother of one wey no get anything i come still dey beg dey pursue even as shes cheating on me rubbing it on my face..now if i vex mute,maximum 4days i don dey run after her.....now i had to speak up to my mum cos i don lose weight from sleepless night,cant eat even declined some some work,30 yr old single mother ooo imagine...now my mum took me to an alfa, na there it was revealed the girl used spirituality...mind u d girl is cherubim and seraphim attendee..im just forming strong man here, cant even focus at work
So the issue is how do i break free..in between our relationship ,she bought waist bead and i asked her where she got it, she said nearby market..now im thinking dat bead wasnt ordinary ....the issue now is shes very very rude and disrespectful, shes not even adding anything to me,if i sleep it has to be her dream...imagine ur fiancee cheating and still rubbing it in ur face but u still wouldn't let her go..what wrong guyz

I just have some questions to ask you first

1. How is kn.cking with her?
2. Does she cook for you? How is the food?

dollytino4real:
no, we started with me shouldering his responsibilities like nothing, i was tod dat he not be responsible later in life i taught dey were just joking na is to late 4 him to carry the load alone

So what is the main problem you have with him? Did you really love this man before marriage, and do you still love him?

Good test. Move on. And continue to test them oo. It's better you remain single than to marry someone that don't like you or that will not be loyal to you.

Eh yah. Our sister Don use am get palli

Sorry, just move on. You cannot get any refund.

Ask the woman where it's written in the Bible that husband should not sleep his wife with a condom.

Why should she or her husband has full custody?? Both parents are alive and well.

Rubbi.sh....

He should sue her into oblivion. This is how to treat these types of false accusations

pansophist:
...

Because it is the natural order of things.

Forget relationship, even in friendship. Will you help a friend that didn't helped you when you were in need?

The human mind always run a mental diagnostics when it is task with the responsibility of going far for someone. If your sibling or a friend ask you for a help, you will first access if it is genuine in nature and if the person will do same for you.

And as man who is a provided by default, you must have shown that you provided for her, then she can be sure she is not helping the wrong person.

But same woman will also help her siblings even before they helped her.

Women are in business when in sexual relationship with men. It's in their DNA.

It breaks heart to see how gullible naija youths can be on world affairs.

So, many naija youths actually believed this fake reports or lies from the west ??

He is right. Green card is a privilege. It can be revoked anytime you breach the terms and conditions.

pansophist:
Contrary to belief, women can actually do that. Infact lots of women do it.

But usually before a woman does that, the man should have been a provider and treated her well, before loosing his financial buoyancy.

You can’t reap where you did not sow. Only a man that has been good to a woman will deserve her kindness.

But men do it to women that have never been and will never be nice to them. Why some women must wait until the man has been nice to them before?

Savvy19:
I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. She is nice, caring, loving, homely and understanding lady. She has all the qualities I want in a woman. I love her but I’m concerned about the welfare of the kids afterwards in the relationship. She has been separated from the father of her kids for over a year now. She doesn’t demand money from me.
I don’t know if it is a good idea for me to continue with the relationship, or I just let it go . This lady has really been good to me.

How old are you? Are you a divorcee? How many children do you have with your former wife? Is she paying your bills and ready to continue to pay them?

I am asking these questions so that you can come back to your senses.

NurseSnowToYou:
May I ask what is the usual treatment for depression or mental health issues in Nigeria? I was just reading an article about migrant returnees that were trying to get to Europe but were sent back home and now felt ostracized and suicidal. IOM and the Nigerian govt said they'd be offering psychosocial support and it just made me curious as Im a Psych Nurse Practitioner in the US, how these things are handled there? Appreciate it!

Depression is not very common in Nigeria as it's in America. Reasons

1. Our lifestyle is void of loneliness like western countries.

2. We have sun 12 months of the year. No dark cold months where we will be lacking vitamin D

3. More family and friends supports available to us.

4. We consume natural foods and not processed and chemicalized foods that cause alot of health problems including mental health issues.

Sometimes people in Nigeria that are suffering from poverty think they are suffering from depression.

Canada2021:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a Nigerian based in the US. I grew up in one of the southern states in Nigeria. I met my fiancee who is based in Nigeria, Lagos to be precised. I came down to Nigeria for the introduction and we intend to do a small bride price payment due to the type of relocation path I want to use to bring her to the US which doesn’t require us to be legally married or even traditionally married.

Due to the nature of the visa type which I want to use to bring my wife to the US, I suggested to my fiancee and her family to do the bride price and a small igbankwu ceremony in Lagos where her parents reside. I also pleaded to them that i was ready to pay any fine from their village (Anambra State). This is because I am trying to control the number of persons that have knowledge of the ceremony because if I dont her visa will be denied because she is married to me.

Another reason why I suggested we do all of this in her fathers house in Lagos was because of the insecurity in the eastern part as I do not want to be liable for anybody’s death or kidnap in the event that this happens because they are coming to celebrate with me.

Sadly, her parents have refused to bulge as they are insisting that this must be done in the east. I am really worried and confused on what to do.

In 2025, you are still going to marry a stranger woman from Nigeria to take to America.

Red flags full that marriage already.

I pity you oooo.

Where are her evidences

She should publish them or give them to human rights activists or lawyers.

You knee down to beg a liability to come and give you troubles. You will even spend or take care of her while she is giving you the troubles.

Men are suffering walahi

The guy was a mu. Mu. How can he go and propose to a girl that has not even agreed to date him.

Yes, the girl showed a bad character by slapping him but he is an id.ioot

She should be given same sentence the court would have given the man if the accusation was true.

Diamond098454:
I feel your pain. Because if anything directly or indirectly bring your wife and her ex close again they will make love because the closeness , the communication and the feelings is still there.

Of course, the man might be planning dirty December on that woman already. And if so, the woman is already imagining their old sweet time together.

Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it. But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.
This doesn't sit well with me.
I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.

The ex and your wife still have feelings for each other. Your wife has told her parents the truth. They support it.

The ex might be having marital problems with his wife abroad and planning to marry your wife as his ex love. Your wife also will like to marry abroad man to japa from Nigeria.

Once that ex lands in Naija this December, he will k.nack your wife.


Just be prepared. It's coming.

Faith063:
Hello, Please advice needed on how do you complete W8-BEN form, i suddenly receive it in mail from my bank. Don't really know how to approach this.

Nothing special there. Fill it up or is there any specific questions you have on it?

Intelligence:
Anyone around Gainesville, Florida and looking to hangout?

I am not based in Gainesville but I visit from time to time.

There is a Nigerian small restaurant on 13th street, owned by a Nigerian man and his wife. I usually hangout with the man.

M&.D West African Cuisine
405 NW 13th street Gainesville FL.

NEVER ask a lady you want to marry those questions directly. She will only lie to you.

Do your own research on her, observe, read body languages, discuss similar topics freely, touch, test etc. to get your answers to them.