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Hahahaha. Another table to be shaken. Modern wannabe feminists only want equality where it is convenient and beneficial to them.

This is why we don't see women fighting for equality in hard labor jobs like Mason, Car Mechanics, Miners, War Front soldiers, etc.

In the US for example, there's a law called "military draft" for only men to be sent to wars, modern feminists all over the US never fight that law to be equitable.

Fountainofyouth:
So how does that affect you people's existence if she faces similar hurdle? Why does her life after divorce matter to y'all? Even if she remains single or she sleeps with whoever it is none of your business, keep your tales by moonlight stories of gaslighting and manipulation to yourselves, and accept the fact that women will continue to divorce their cheat of a husband because THEY CAN, very simple common sense.

I have sisters. So I will advise them accordingly if they face that situation. Yes, the decision is theirs but I will tell them the truth which is this reality.

GloriousGbola:
another made up story

you think in this decade i need to go to my ex house to know he/she is married? when we have facebook, instagram whatsapp status?

and you want to give us the bs story of a kind step mother

in this nigeria??

there is only one real moreal to your made up story - and that is that a woman should ensure she is not financially dependent on her husband

as for the husband - if he actually now has four children - he is not smart at all in this decade. na the first two pikins go suffer am pass

The story might be made up but it's also a very common reality.

And the main moral of the story is that divorced women with children find it difficult to get another single man/ never married men to date or remarry them.

That doesn't mean a woman should not divorce her husband for whatever reasons that suit her. It just means that she has a very high chance of facing similar hurdle.

The story is a very common scenario for majority of women that divorced their husbands with children just because of cheating.

Though they hide it but unfortunately it's what it's.

Is this why majority of Nigerian toxic feminists are Igbo ladies??

I am just asking based on my observations.

I wanted to call the story a lie until I saw "his American wife".

She is just a Maga to the young man.

Angiewhite:
Nope, It’s the other way round, I just don’t want to dwell on that so it doesn’t seem I’m boastful, o just want to focus on the matter on hand, why will a guy in a relationship set up his girlfriend for theft,that’s all.

The guy wanted to get rid of you. He had insulted you, called you another woman's name and probably did other things to get you out but you refused to get the message. That's why he didn't apologize to you on this.

Has he called you since the incident last week?

pocohantas:
Yes. Thankfully you can keep your more stupid congrats and well wishes to yourself. It made my skin crawl. Thanks

I am not surprised. A snake will always be a snake. You will always reveal who you really are anytime you are comfortable.

jasent:
Bro,I non understand your comment o

He is trying to wake you up. A broke girl that didn't really like you. Just came to give you opueh when she needed someone to rent house for her and her sister.

Just know that red flags are all over that your narration.

Spend only what you can afford to lose on that girl. Otherwise, you might regret it later.

pocohantas:
What did you do to her, Sir?

You were given an 18yo beautiful virgin and you turned her into a drug addict.

Like Ned, like Tuface. Only two of you can tell us what you did to your wives.

I bet you will use this drug abuse accusation to have full custody of the kids. Typical!

You Don start again with all these your stupid feminism comments even when it doesn't make sense.

Kobojunkie:
. Getting a master's degree is levelling up one's credentials.

2. Having absolute control over her finances is not really the issue here. The issue is more about how much she makes compared to how much she is responsible for. If she makes minimum wage, she may not be able to meet so many of her bills and also have enough left over to handle her leveling up needs, etc.

I guess I should ask what exactly you intend to get from this woman, who made it clear that she is unable to pay the $900 at this point. Why was your main intention behind creating this thread?

She says she does not have it and you two are not looking to go your separate ways, so what exactly do you want to gain from us?

The issue in that marriage is deeper than 900 dollars. There is a bigger issue in that marriage beyond the 900, the house rent etc. If they don't retrace very quickly, if not already too late, they will soon be involving authorities and the courts.

yottravels:
The husband came in on F1 visa. Filed for the wife and son to come in on F2 visa. The husband took student loan to complete school. After graduation, the husband also spent a lot of money to get approved for the employment based green card petition and made the wife and son beneficiaries. They filed for PR when their priority date became current. The husband gathered money including credit cards to file the application (about $4000) while the wife promised to pay the $900 so that some of the credit cards could be paid

Very familiar story. Why did the husband continue to include her on the EB petition and adjustment of Status since the wife had started showing these signs of non supporting wife?

The signs would have been there since Nigeria but the moment she started showing that sign in the US, the husband is supposed not to include her in green card application.

The matter now is that the woman is just waiting for that green card to come out to let all hell lose on the man

What most of these women don't realize is that America is built for two family incomes, most especially with children.

When she eventually get out of that marriage, she will still pay all those bills by herself or eventually share them with another man that will never marry her.

That's if she will not end up with a married man outside as many of them do.

yottravels:
Thanks for your response. For now, I will prefer to be gender neutral in order to avoid skewed opinions. I will appreciate independent opinions on the personalities of the couple

I am seeing what is very common with Nigerian made marriages taken to America. Same story everywhere with these marriages.

Nigerian women have mentality that their husbands should treat them like his "adopted daughter" when he is spending on them and the family but he should respect and treat them as a "queen" they are.

When they get to America, they will quickly take the the American culture of man and woman are equal in marriage where it suits them but they still want the man to continue to shoulder all their financial responsibilities alone. If the man cannot or he refuses to shoulder all financial responsibilities like he did in Nigeria, they will start withholding affection and even brake up the marriage.

Even when they are working in America, many of them still have the mentality of "my money is my money and his money is our money".

In this case though, the woman here is trying to support with financial responsibilities but there are tensions in the marriage already. Most likely due to change in financial dynamics in the family as the man cannot shoulder all financial responsibilities as he did in Nigeria.

FaAbData:
Who noticed it's the man in all the stores doing the risk and sacrifices?

For Evey successful story are read above they're 5 unsuccessful- that the sacrifices weren't appreciated or reciprocated

We saw that but still dey look whether they will post stories of women doing the sacrifice for love and marriage.

Harddiskng:
Why are these stories about the man solving a major problem in the woman’s life, then her “falling in love” based on that

I wanted to read i love him with all my heart just because i do

😀😀😀😀😀 let's still be observing my guy. Maybe the real love story without "anything" attached from the man will be posted.

pocohantas:
Can you show any comment of me reasoning otherwise on a similar topic? Keep your congratulations. I will be waiting...

I be old timer here. No need to open all those old wounds. I wish you all the best.

pocohantas:
Very important!!
I keep praying for the wisdom to please Mine.
He has his occasional moments, who doesn't?
But in all, he is a great guy and I am super proud of him.




There should be.
The story cannot end like that.
Please go check again. 😂

Wow! Is this same Poco of those days

So,marriage can make you reason like this??

I have been observing your comments lately and I knew something had changed.

Congratulations!!! I am happy for you.

ObaKlaz:
Most of my buddies are married. One of my unmarried buddies in Baltimore sought my advice today. He confided in me that he would break up with this girl he used to regard as 'his serious girlfriend' by month

What y'all think?

As a guy man, if I see that, I will just pretend like I saw nothing.

The game just starts at that point. I will lower her rank totally to "choppings" level. I will chop her so tey, she will eventually run on her own.

Feminists research. 😀😀😀😀😀

That doesn't remove the fact that it's highly very very very difficult for 99pct of women to get pregnant at age of 45. And 99.999999pct for any woman to get pregnant at age of 50.

It's this same marriage that is already showing signs of no affection from the woman.

This is another proof that a Virgin, a well behaved woman is not enough to be a good wife to a man. The woman must also like or love the man.

Someone that's already been dating married men since she left her husband.

It's normal. Single divorced mothers are only meant for married men.

The children should stay with who is more capable of taking good care of them. Emotion should not be used to determine that.

AND be very careful to judge based on a woman's tears. It's manipulation.

2mch:
Leave kids with their mother. Except she is mentally incapable. There is no woman on earth willing to raise another persons 5 kids in love. His new woman will poison all of them. Just send their mother money for upkeep if you are going to move on. For the safety of the lives of your kid. No woman want to raise another woman’s kids.

And there are men willing to train another man's 5 children??

Samantha125:
Well, he also has a child from his previous relationship.

That doesn't still justify why he should settle for such woman. Or is your sister feeding him and paying his bills??

I only blame the mu.mu man that saw an old woman with 2 children from 2 different men and still became over serious with her. I am not blaming the woman at all.

If she is just a jewel of a woman, she will not be outside with 2 kids from 2 different men.

Maga must always learn the hard way.

chidiokay:
hormonal changes at what time .... they had sex for just 10days before pregnancy ... instant hormonal change na waa o !

Honestly I am suspecting the woman no love am. But since he said he confirmed the woman loves him, I don't know what else can cause this in less than 2 months of marriage.

Ozzyk:
We were in love with each other really....
It was obvious
This whole thing is making us become mere housemates who only share thesame bed....
No connection, no bond

Then you might not have a big problem if it was obvious you love each other. It might be hormonal changes due to early stage of pregnancy.

Just be patient. I know by second and even third trimester, same pregnancy hormone cause women to want it more and even be more soaking down there.

Another question I have is this. Do you learn how to pleasure a woman very well or did you also marry as a Virgin with no experience? You will need that experience when she is ready for you. A no-experience man in that business is also a turn off for them.

Ozzyk:
It's not long distance we were like 30 minutes drive away from each other
We see anytime we want to
She just decided no sex before marriage
Perhaps we do kiss, smooch and all sorts except penetration

Good. Do you think she loves or likes you as a person? Not just because of comfort, provision you bring or can bring in future?

Emmanuel30a:
How can I know if a woman loves me...? Kobojunkie...

It is very easy for a financially struggling man to know a woman that loves him. This is because women avoid poor men like a disease. If you are financially struggling, any woman that stays with you even when she has other better men loves you.

It's more difficult for a financially stable man to know a woman that truly loves him because all women want a financially stable man. These are some tips

1. She must not be very low compared to you financially or in status.
2. Get to know her perspectives, personality through her social media or forums comments and activities, compare those to your personality.
3. Don't spend money on her. Even if you have, starve her of the money to see her reactions.
5. Fake financial troubles to see her reactions to you and the relationship.
6. Fake other life problems to see how she treats you or supports you.
7. Watch her behavior to you when you have misunderstanding or she is angry. Anger takes away pretense.
8. Bring difficult life stories up as discussion, don't judge her comments or reactions to her face. Just observe her reactions and comments.
9. Watch her body language, happiness or sadness around you, when you touch her, when you talk to her etc.