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This is why you were giving 20pct of your earnings to a girl that doesn't even send you as monthly allowance

Twenty8:
Why do some people give one-word replies during conversations? Do they think it makes them seem cool or superior, or is it simply poor communication or a lack of interest in the conversation?

If a woman, she doesn't like you. DON'T force it because it will only end in premium tears for you. Just delete her and her number from your memory.

If others, they are not interested in the conversation.

That's Venezuela army US media are calling militia.

They are setting up the new scheme to invade the country.

DONT FALL FOR IT.

Buratashi:
Amen

Oh boy, if you said she was pregnant for you while dating and you are sure you and her are fertile.

And you have been lashing very often while you pour inside, then that woman is on contraceptives.

I have heard of many stories when women go to clinic to insert contraceptives into their womb without husband knowledge.

Kobojunkie:
I hope she learns to love herself before that day so she knows to put herself first, realizing that she and that baby(whenever she decides to have one) will ultimately not be happy if she loses her career and/or progress in the process. 🥱🥱🥱

2. You calling yourself her backbone while blatantly trying each time to get her pregnant to destroy her career is what is a big deal.

This woman eh. He hates his wife and sponsored her through school??

pozehnani:
Yes dear it's me Judith

Same as Mercychen aka Erimma aka Juwessgratitude aka Ahni aka Channah1 aka Oldnairalanderb aka Mariangeles aka channel1 aka juwessgratitud aka jewessgratitud3 aka Calidora1 aka Blessedchen aka DivinegiftofGod aka Ashiraweathy

Mikedel80:
There is nothing as powerful as a woman in her feminine state. No be to dey do gra gra.

1. Be careful of advise you take from here. Because most of the people here are inexperienced in marriages, very young, old but never married, have problems with "marriage" as an institution.

2. You are truly inexperienced with women and marriages based on all you have revealed.

3. I think you should look for experienced married men who have lived happily with their wives for years to gain knowledge of how to handle a woman In a marriage. Look for experienced married ones ooo.

4. Note that what you are facing now is common to many marriages, most especially new marriages, until both parties become experienced. If you scatter this marriage and fail to learn from elders and make yourself better, you might face similar challenges in any other woman you will marry in future. So go and learn.

The only deterrent America understands.

Yes and yes. How many women today you hear talk about who disvirgined them??

This is beyond terrorism.

Removing a democratically elected president just to have access to country's resources.

Who is the terrorist now??

Using military to topple a democratically elected government to steal the country oil and land is highest terrorism.

Ilekokonit:
Nairaland is no longer worth my while.

Bros, you are not new here na. Why will you allow some people insane comments get to you??

As par the issue you are going through, please take it easy on yourself. They are both adults now. You can only advise them, you cannot live their life for them

What I see very deep in this is that you are not in good relationship with your children. That's why they will travel to Nigeria without telling you. That is a big thing you should work on.

Start looking for ways to improve this relationship, irrespective of the situation between you and their mother. The children are your family, your blood and you must make sure you enjoy close and good relationships with them.

By the way, drinking and going to bar is not a solution to this. Look for your good friends to speak to, about it to lift up your spirit and work on your family relationship.

This is an annoying simpleton story.

You are giving a girl that doesn't feel anything for you a whole 20pct of your earning.

Is this a movies??m

This is why Nigerian women misbehave and turn relationships to serious business because of men like you.

You don't have family that needs help Or no more motherless baby homes in Nigeria again

EndBuhariNow:
that 2 years absence gave her the luxury she's enjoying today, so do you think abroad is easy you go and return every six months it doesn't work that way, only if you can see the pain ,the suffering, the frustration, meeting unknown rude colleagues, challenges, loneliness men face abroad so they can provide for the family, can she live the luxury shes enjoying today so the husband will stay back in because she can abstain from sex for long... 90% of men abroad celibate, and believe me all masturbate to keep pressure off their neck, U think sex is cheap here... If the he can hold on for long as a man , why can't she do the same ... Is not easy bro because relationship here is expensive, if U check how much U will spend , U go know the money fit buy bags of cement, what every her husband owns the man is her Loyalty...

I agree. I know and understand all the challenges men face abroad as I am also based abroad. But I also know the challenges women face when leaving apart from their husbands. Yes I agree they should be faithful to their husbands, and that's the least they can do to show appreciation for the man's sacrifice. BUT they are also humans and no human is perfect most especially in face of temptations. This is why open communication is key between couples.

Both husband and wife should be free and open to discuss their sexual needs with no judgement or dismissal from either party. Wife should be free to call her husband "o boy I am hornieee today, I miss your odogwu...". But that's not the case with lots of couples.

Libido levels are also different in people. You need to know the libido of your partner. Some people can stay for only weeks, some for months and some for years.

In open communication, and if you know either party
cannot stay for long, the best solution is to shorten the length of absence or relocate the family (if the woman is good ooo because that's another risk to the man, when she gets abroad).

EndBuhariNow:
he said all the flat have seperate chambers, 🤣 bro the thing is from the guy's apartment, because all the chambers are separate

Hhm. Boys have been weeding in your guy's farm. He should do DNA test to be sure of his children if they don't resemble him.

She is wrong to give her maid only legs and heads.

She must have really challenged her husband for matter to esacalate to slaps.

She must be acting "na me dey in charge" in front of oga. That's a disrespect to her husband in front of the maid too.

EndBuhariNow:
bro are you suggesting he stay back because he married a young ovulating wife . Me I left mine immediately after marriage, she insisted I stay back but I told her can U manage any amount I brought home at the end of the month she allow me to go.. it's now easy men here are faithful but U don't have such time to start flirting around and moreover it's too expensive here.. why can't she zip up sexxxxx it not everything

No I am not suggesting he should stay back home since he is based abroad. What I am saying is that 2 years is too long to leave a young woman without intimacy. And I am speaking from experiences around me.

Husband and wife leaving apart must make alternative arrangements to spend time together more often than that. It could be once in 2 or 3 months or maximum 6 months. They can rotate who travels to see each other if that's more convenient.

I have lots of bad stories of women messing around if their husbands are abroad and stayed too long to see them. In fact, most of these women are decent ladies ooo. It's just nature calling and they answered.

It also happens to some of my friends in Nigeria that keep their wives and kids abroad for too long. Most of those wives are sleeping with another men abroad. In fact, some of those marriages are broken now.

EndBuhariNow:
yes they open the chamber and clear everything, now this is the second time she complained

Okay. The thing to confirm now is whether any other apartment is also using the same chamber.

OKOATA:
Women are like kids, you correct them the way you correct a child. Whether hardly or subtly. You said it yourself someone is influencing her. And from your write up you didn't even tell her your reasons for ghosting her. As a man try to be matured, you said shes an orphan so she also wants the best for herself.

If you talked to her about it and she didn't listen then you can bounce but you just don't bounce on someone you can still correct. If a girl dips her hand in your wallet. Tell her straight up you don't like it. Thats how Alphas do, if she does it again then you have the right to end it. Everything no be to dey show muscle and power on top women.

Those people influencing her can now help her financially. Or is it only to influence her to bite the finger that feeds her they know how to do

The girl no love the man.

Someone has asked if the apartment has been used by another tenants before. I ask that same question.

The first time the wife complained that toilet is blocked, was the chamber opened, cleaned and what was found then?

When he gets home, he should call his own plumber to open that chamber in his presence to double check that it's not linked to another apartment.

Finally, your friend was wrong for leaving a young ovulating, menstruating woman alone in Nigeria for 2 years without k.nack.

JO01:
Good day to all.
Good responses @horlahsunbo225. Please, just an enquiry. Is there organization that supports EB1 or 2 applicants with loans and repayment plan, just like Empower for F1 students.

Hmmm. I never heard of that. Maybe in IT fields and those Indian companies gaming the H1b and EB visas

dest4real:
Thank you.
Please, with 520 citations, over 45 published articles in local and international journals, Fellow Royal Society of Biology (UK), external examiner for about three different Universities in Nigeria, Reviewer for journal bodies (about 3), published work about me ( 3 international magazine; 2 Locals), Won grant from TETFUND Nigeria, served as HOD, University e-Exam Chairman, Deputy Director Research and Innovations. Which category can this profile apply for? EB1A or EB2 (NIW).

Thank you.

Congratulations. You are qualified for both. Now the ball is in your court. You decide how you want to play it.

petengine:
As a Nigerian student currently in the US on an F1 visa, is it advisable to travel to the UK and return to the USA on 30/12/2025 before the proclamation takes effect on 1/1/2026?

If I were you, I will not risk it.

zinachidi:
Please o, does anyone have any idea if this ban will also affect Nigerian permanent residents in Canada?

Getting a US visa as a Canadian PR from Nigeria used to be easy, but now idk again

Yes. It should affect it since a Nigerian with Canadian PR usually needs a valid visa to visit the US.

Court system will reset all nonsense going on in Nigeria social media space with time.

If you have a case against anyone, go to Court and stop cheap social media blackmailing.

Enddy50ty:
This pastor go provoke VDM to release him nudles now everywhere go scatter

And he will be sued again.

Glotrade:
What would you do if you discovered your girlfriend Is on badoo app

Why would she join the app

I will not even ask any questions. I will just lower her rank from girlfriend to knacking friend.

Na she go tire.

What is all these arguments na

Reality is more real than ranting online.

People should practice what they rant about online abeg.

If your odogwu husband cheats after taking care of you and your 3 to 5 children very well, divorce him and go hope for another woman's odogwu husband to elevate you. Your eye go clear.

Who is now the terrorist now

Even Libya, Iraq, Iran, Palestine also stole American oil and land. No be so?

Ewedegubbler:
My friend from Enugu married a big politicians daughter, brought her to South Africa but the gal and her mother so badly undermined this guy.

She decided to leave the marriage and moved back
To naija with their only Child

Fast forward it today, this ex wife of his is now his sidechick while he is happily to another humble gal.

Life no balance ooo

Hahahaha. Some women are better kept as side chick. While some are better not touched at all, like those stupid toxic feminists.

saphiere:
So a lady promises a guy she was going to visit him. She later didn't go and was sued and made to pay damages.

On the other hand, a guy promises a lady marriage and did not marry her and she cannot sue him. Like seriously?.

You can only sue and win if an element of fraud is proven.

A lady that collected money for visit and didn't visit, didn't refund the money and block the man is sounding like a fraud.

Same way a married or engaged man that promises another woman marriage just to swindle her money, cars or property can be sued for fraud/ damages.

Unless you are able to prove that they purposely deceived you with that promise.

2. That you survived a tangible loss as result of the deciet.

For example, a person who is already married or has a fiance promised another person marriage and the other person bought a house or cars for them thinking they have a future together.

If you cannot prove they purposely deceived you or some sort of fraud. You have no case.

Anyone can genuinely promised you marriage and later changed their mind for whatever reasons.