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This is an annoying simpleton story.

You are giving a girl that doesn't feel anything for you a whole 20pct of your earning.

Is this a movies??m

This is why Nigerian women misbehave and turn relationships to serious business because of men like you.

You don't have family that needs help Or no more motherless baby homes in Nigeria again

EndBuhariNow:
that 2 years absence gave her the luxury she's enjoying today, so do you think abroad is easy you go and return every six months it doesn't work that way, only if you can see the pain ,the suffering, the frustration, meeting unknown rude colleagues, challenges, loneliness men face abroad so they can provide for the family, can she live the luxury shes enjoying today so the husband will stay back in because she can abstain from sex for long... 90% of men abroad celibate, and believe me all masturbate to keep pressure off their neck, U think sex is cheap here... If the he can hold on for long as a man , why can't she do the same ... Is not easy bro because relationship here is expensive, if U check how much U will spend , U go know the money fit buy bags of cement, what every her husband owns the man is her Loyalty...

I agree. I know and understand all the challenges men face abroad as I am also based abroad. But I also know the challenges women face when leaving apart from their husbands. Yes I agree they should be faithful to their husbands, and that's the least they can do to show appreciation for the man's sacrifice. BUT they are also humans and no human is perfect most especially in face of temptations. This is why open communication is key between couples.

Both husband and wife should be free and open to discuss their sexual needs with no judgement or dismissal from either party. Wife should be free to call her husband "o boy I am hornieee today, I miss your odogwu...". But that's not the case with lots of couples.

Libido levels are also different in people. You need to know the libido of your partner. Some people can stay for only weeks, some for months and some for years.

In open communication, and if you know either party
cannot stay for long, the best solution is to shorten the length of absence or relocate the family (if the woman is good ooo because that's another risk to the man, when she gets abroad).

EndBuhariNow:
he said all the flat have seperate chambers, 🤣 bro the thing is from the guy's apartment, because all the chambers are separate

Hhm. Boys have been weeding in your guy's farm. He should do DNA test to be sure of his children if they don't resemble him.

She is wrong to give her maid only legs and heads.

She must have really challenged her husband for matter to esacalate to slaps.

She must be acting "na me dey in charge" in front of oga. That's a disrespect to her husband in front of the maid too.

EndBuhariNow:
bro are you suggesting he stay back because he married a young ovulating wife . Me I left mine immediately after marriage, she insisted I stay back but I told her can U manage any amount I brought home at the end of the month she allow me to go.. it's now easy men here are faithful but U don't have such time to start flirting around and moreover it's too expensive here.. why can't she zip up sexxxxx it not everything

No I am not suggesting he should stay back home since he is based abroad. What I am saying is that 2 years is too long to leave a young woman without intimacy. And I am speaking from experiences around me.

Husband and wife leaving apart must make alternative arrangements to spend time together more often than that. It could be once in 2 or 3 months or maximum 6 months. They can rotate who travels to see each other if that's more convenient.

I have lots of bad stories of women messing around if their husbands are abroad and stayed too long to see them. In fact, most of these women are decent ladies ooo. It's just nature calling and they answered.

It also happens to some of my friends in Nigeria that keep their wives and kids abroad for too long. Most of those wives are sleeping with another men abroad. In fact, some of those marriages are broken now.

EndBuhariNow:
yes they open the chamber and clear everything, now this is the second time she complained

Okay. The thing to confirm now is whether any other apartment is also using the same chamber.

OKOATA:
Women are like kids, you correct them the way you correct a child. Whether hardly or subtly. You said it yourself someone is influencing her. And from your write up you didn't even tell her your reasons for ghosting her. As a man try to be matured, you said shes an orphan so she also wants the best for herself.

If you talked to her about it and she didn't listen then you can bounce but you just don't bounce on someone you can still correct. If a girl dips her hand in your wallet. Tell her straight up you don't like it. Thats how Alphas do, if she does it again then you have the right to end it. Everything no be to dey show muscle and power on top women.

Those people influencing her can now help her financially. Or is it only to influence her to bite the finger that feeds her they know how to do

The girl no love the man.

Someone has asked if the apartment has been used by another tenants before. I ask that same question.

The first time the wife complained that toilet is blocked, was the chamber opened, cleaned and what was found then?

When he gets home, he should call his own plumber to open that chamber in his presence to double check that it's not linked to another apartment.

Finally, your friend was wrong for leaving a young ovulating, menstruating woman alone in Nigeria for 2 years without k.nack.

JO01:
Good day to all.
Good responses @horlahsunbo225. Please, just an enquiry. Is there organization that supports EB1 or 2 applicants with loans and repayment plan, just like Empower for F1 students.

Hmmm. I never heard of that. Maybe in IT fields and those Indian companies gaming the H1b and EB visas

dest4real:
Thank you.
Please, with 520 citations, over 45 published articles in local and international journals, Fellow Royal Society of Biology (UK), external examiner for about three different Universities in Nigeria, Reviewer for journal bodies (about 3), published work about me ( 3 international magazine; 2 Locals), Won grant from TETFUND Nigeria, served as HOD, University e-Exam Chairman, Deputy Director Research and Innovations. Which category can this profile apply for? EB1A or EB2 (NIW).

Thank you.

Congratulations. You are qualified for both. Now the ball is in your court. You decide how you want to play it.

petengine:
As a Nigerian student currently in the US on an F1 visa, is it advisable to travel to the UK and return to the USA on 30/12/2025 before the proclamation takes effect on 1/1/2026?

If I were you, I will not risk it.

zinachidi:
Please o, does anyone have any idea if this ban will also affect Nigerian permanent residents in Canada?

Getting a US visa as a Canadian PR from Nigeria used to be easy, but now idk again

Yes. It should affect it since a Nigerian with Canadian PR usually needs a valid visa to visit the US.

Court system will reset all nonsense going on in Nigeria social media space with time.

If you have a case against anyone, go to Court and stop cheap social media blackmailing.

Enddy50ty:
This pastor go provoke VDM to release him nudles now everywhere go scatter

And he will be sued again.

Glotrade:
What would you do if you discovered your girlfriend Is on badoo app

Why would she join the app

I will not even ask any questions. I will just lower her rank from girlfriend to knacking friend.

Na she go tire.

What is all these arguments na

Reality is more real than ranting online.

People should practice what they rant about online abeg.

If your odogwu husband cheats after taking care of you and your 3 to 5 children very well, divorce him and go hope for another woman's odogwu husband to elevate you. Your eye go clear.

Who is now the terrorist now

Even Libya, Iraq, Iran, Palestine also stole American oil and land. No be so?

Ewedegubbler:
My friend from Enugu married a big politicians daughter, brought her to South Africa but the gal and her mother so badly undermined this guy.

She decided to leave the marriage and moved back
To naija with their only Child

Fast forward it today, this ex wife of his is now his sidechick while he is happily to another humble gal.

Life no balance ooo

Hahahaha. Some women are better kept as side chick. While some are better not touched at all, like those stupid toxic feminists.

saphiere:
So a lady promises a guy she was going to visit him. She later didn't go and was sued and made to pay damages.

On the other hand, a guy promises a lady marriage and did not marry her and she cannot sue him. Like seriously?.

You can only sue and win if an element of fraud is proven.

A lady that collected money for visit and didn't visit, didn't refund the money and block the man is sounding like a fraud.

Same way a married or engaged man that promises another woman marriage just to swindle her money, cars or property can be sued for fraud/ damages.

Unless you are able to prove that they purposely deceived you with that promise.

2. That you survived a tangible loss as result of the deciet.

For example, a person who is already married or has a fiance promised another person marriage and the other person bought a house or cars for them thinking they have a future together.

If you cannot prove they purposely deceived you or some sort of fraud. You have no case.

Anyone can genuinely promised you marriage and later changed their mind for whatever reasons.

Mistersolar:
yeah she do cook on some occasion and other one is fantastic ...but hey hows dat important

It's the segs she is using to confuse your head. It's a trap.

The ashy woman deserves the karma. She got served the same breakfast she served her husband.

The man should not be called a pastor.

Ibtxxo:
Wetin I no go see for igbo land.
My girl mum , him husband no pay her pride price and now the ndi inchie told me I must pay her mum own before I pay my girl.
Who does that?

Run fast. You go see shege

Not a good reason to cheat or scatter your home as a man.

Husband and wife are partners and they are to support each other during thick and thin in all aspects including where one is lacking.

My advise for you are these.

1. You need to stop complaining or reduce your complaints. The man's psychology is seeing them as nagging. Those complaints will not solve anything. You need to start showing him that you are his partner. You understand his challenges and both of you are one in this.

2. Continue to support the family as you can. It's still your family. The children are yours too.

3. Have a complete rethink to heal any negative grudge you might have on him.

4. Have a heart to heart discussion with him for both of you to forgive each other, rebuild your relationship.

5. I want you to know there is very little chance that you will get to marry another better man if you leave your husband of 15 years with 3 children. You might have some man friends that will spend some little money on you just to sleep with you and move on. They will not marry you. You will still have to carry those responsibilities by yourself while outside while messing yourself up with different men.

6. The time to complain or nagg has passed for both of you honestly. You are both old and have grown up children in the family that can understand fully the disunity in the family. It's time to be thinking of how to build a strong loving big family together with your children and grand children that will soon be coming in few years from now.

7. Every marriage has problems. No marriage without issues. If you hear other people problems, you will reconcile with your husband today.

So in summary, from the piece meal information you have given so far.

A 15 year old marriage with 3 children. Woman is now 45 and man is 46 years old. Woman loved the man genuinely at the start of the relationship. She shouldered some family responsibilities (though she thought those responsibilities are not hers).

No physical abuse but man threaten physical arm of recent due to constant complaints from the wife.

Man does not shoulder the family responsibilities as Woman wants him to. The woman thinks it's an abuse. Therefore she is tired of the marriage but she is also not doing well financially to afford to rent a room for herself.

dollytino4real:
i really loved him b4 because he was handsome and hardworking but tins changed wen we stayed together as husband n wife fully

Very good that you truly loved him. But is he still hardworking now or is he now lazy?

With heavy make up, camera filters and camera angle and perfect pictures lighting, plastic breast, plastic skin, chemicals in face and lips ba?

I have not noticed the divorce rate and I will be observing that going forward.

BUT I can confirm that majority of toxic feminists or misandrists are igbo women on the internet.

Mistersolar:
hello guys,omo my strong guy don turn weak guy,i dey weep sleep,sleep self no dey come,i don free girl wey don travel enter cairo wey won marry me,even girl wey her papa get hotel,i mean even a 33plus lady whose father left a house for her....i no still gree marry dem oo......na one single mother of one wey no get anything i come still dey beg dey pursue even as shes cheating on me rubbing it on my face..now if i vex mute,maximum 4days i don dey run after her.....now i had to speak up to my mum cos i don lose weight from sleepless night,cant eat even declined some some work,30 yr old single mother ooo imagine...now my mum took me to an alfa, na there it was revealed the girl used spirituality...mind u d girl is cherubim and seraphim attendee..im just forming strong man here, cant even focus at work
So the issue is how do i break free..in between our relationship ,she bought waist bead and i asked her where she got it, she said nearby market..now im thinking dat bead wasnt ordinary ....the issue now is shes very very rude and disrespectful, shes not even adding anything to me,if i sleep it has to be her dream...imagine ur fiancee cheating and still rubbing it in ur face but u still wouldn't let her go..what wrong guyz

I just have some questions to ask you first

1. How is kn.cking with her?
2. Does she cook for you? How is the food?

dollytino4real:
no, we started with me shouldering his responsibilities like nothing, i was tod dat he not be responsible later in life i taught dey were just joking na is to late 4 him to carry the load alone

So what is the main problem you have with him? Did you really love this man before marriage, and do you still love him?

Good test. Move on. And continue to test them oo. It's better you remain single than to marry someone that don't like you or that will not be loyal to you.