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Ozzyk:
Thank you... The regular sex was only for 10 days before she missed her period
And ever since then there has been nothing like that

Distance relationship of 2 years? No touching or anything in those 2 years. I hope you didn't marry "I settle" woman.

Do you think she loves or likes you? How was her behavior towards you during the wedding planning, wedding and after the wedding?

How was the 10 day kna.ck? Did it show that she loves you?

And you still carry the woman go UK with all the troubles she was giving you in Nigeria?

Anyway, start preparing for divorce. Talk to men that have done divorce in the UK on how to minimize your financial loss during the process.

dipset01:
I honestly feel very frustrated and just need to get this off my chest. I now understand what people mean when they say, “Don’t marry the wrong spouse.”

At this point, I just needed to vent. Maybe someone out there has gone through something similar and found a way forward.

I have seen very similar stories among Nigerian Marriages. The verdict in all those cases is this. THE WOMAN DID NOT LIKE THE MAN PHYSICALLY and PERSONALITY WISE.

This woman never loved you, she doesn't love you and she will NEVER love you.

Nothing you will do to change it. You can even kill yourself for her, she will not still love you.

Solution: Forget the marriage, forget the woman, prepare for divorce, because it is coming. Enjoy your life, get a side chick if you want and live your life to the fullest. It is only one life.

Update: I had to go over your past posts to profile you financially. You were well okay financially in Nigeria and relatively okay in the UK too.

Based on this, I can tell you for sure, that woman NEVER loved you. She only married you because of financial benefits you bring. Many of such marriages are common in Nigeria. Financial marriages. The women loved another man that is not ready or not interested in marrying them and they will settle for a nice and financially capable man for "taking care" of them in the name of marriage.

Once in the loveless marriage, they behave exactly the way your wife behaves.

There is a woman in Houston that a pastor has tried to talk to several times to stay in her marriage. She refused and always coming up with flimsy excuses about her husband.

The day she asked for my advise about her marriage was the day she got it.

I just told her "men go knack you tire for this Houston if you become a single mother".

And that one asking "if they can start from this humble beginning with a man" might not have an apartment, a mattress to her name.

It's amazing how a broke a.ssl.s woman will be looking down on a broke man.

Here we go again. This same old story of " I suffered with him when he had nothing".

Did you have better men richer than him that wanted you then and you refused all of them to stay with this man

2. What was your own financial status then? Were you better than him financially when you stayed with him??

Women always stay with or marry the man that presents them the best offer they can get.

ednut1:
This narrative has no statistical backing. Naso una go just dey lie. Most cheating married men prefer young smallies abeg

Yes. Most married men prefer younger women but most younger women don't want married men.

Most single men don't want divorced women too.

So you see why married men and divorced women are matches in the dating market?

This is not new na. Matured People on the street know this na.

Most especially in diaspora. Some of the reasons are the following

1. Most divorced women are mostly 35 years and above. So, majority of them will be looking to date men of 35 years and above. Majority of men of that age are married.

2. Most divorced married women already have children. Most single men without children don't want to date single mothers. These men have better offers from younger women without children.

3. Most divorced women are still looking for men that will pay their bills or support as much as possible. In other words, most divorced single mothers are expensive to maintain. They are not good reasons for a single man to invest on.

In summary, based on demands and supply rules, most divorced women end up with married men. It's the truth,statistics or otherwise. I have plenty of personal experiences of this.

OP, don't let "jealous" people spoil your joy.

Stop listening to people that cannot maintain a relationship, not to talk of a marriage to tell you that your man is not special.

Continue to cherish your home, your man and your family as you have been doing. God will continue to bless your home.

If it's easy, they should run am.

They are not looking for husbands. They are looking for sponsors. All men that full Nigeria, they didn't see anyone they like

That banner is actually "God send my sponsor, I am tired of spending alone"

As a man, before you listen to this advice just remember that when a woman makes money, she tells herself she doesn't need a man. Don't dig your own grave with your "investment".

MsJackson:
Hello guys. The new wife just gave birth some days ago. It is well.

Stop stalking the man you called "a bad man" and you paint yourself a saint.

The man is now living with another woman and you are still bitter.

Face your life. AND MAKE SURE YOU CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE GOING INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP because I can see from your writing that you have a problem as a woman.

MsJackson:
Hello guys. The new wife just gave birth some days ago. It is well.

Stop stalking them. Face your life and let them be.

According to you, the man is a bad person. Now the "bad man" is living with another wife and you are still stalking them. Leave the "bad man" alone.

Gosh!

isyourboy:
Lol 😂 this guy.. looks like you know women way. Wotgoor revealing too much, I know of women (very close ones for that matter) that successfuly carry out this type of trick. Use the man japa go USA, the man filled affidavit of support during green card stage so he can’t bail out now that the lady is fcvking other men in the US. Some even go to the extent of having baby with him before the man take them away from Nigeria cuz they know child support is guaranteed in the US when they decide to bail out and marry a man they want in the US. Lol these are just open trick tho


Not just Nigerian women.. this is for women generally .. the moment they get their green card in the US, they divorce you and leave ur ass, leaving u with financial wreck, you still go Dey pay her monthly cuz she’ll take ur ass to court (most US court award alimony even for marriage less than 5yrs, exception is Texas), and if you have a child together, you’re doom, they slash you with CS.

To enjoy women in the western world;

(1) make sure you don’t take any woman there (don’t sponsor any woman). Marry in Nigeria and have babies. Never take her there.

(2) when you get to the US, if you’re good looking, yu get options. But make sure you don’t procreate with them (there are tricks wise men use for this one), you can marry them if you want but ensure u protect ur properties (have offshore account in case things go south

Personal and other men experiences around women have taught me a lot.

I concur 💯pct to your submission up there.

Women are always in business while men are in love.

American medical and pharmaceutical industry will hate this.

A patient cured in the US is a customer lost. That's their mantra.

Hahahaha. Gehgeh needs to give that guy a special admission to his university.

The guy needs it desperately.

OsinAmaka:
She is a working class and is occupying a very good position in her place of work.

This and the fact that the bride is insisting that it is the man's responsibility are red flags.

I pray for that man in that marriage.

This is the smallest of issues to have between 36 and 42 year old working class bride and groom.

You don't know what you're talking about.

All women are selfish. Take the truth and have peace. Including my mama and sisters.

The only woman that truly loves me are my mama and my sisters. These same women, my mama and sisters didn't and are not treating their husbands like they treat me.

It is a fact. Go and ask your sisters and mother about this. They will tell you it's true nature of women

Good one from Traore. Bill Gates wants to reduce world population. He cannot be trusted.

The movement don enter naija. And it has come to stay.

There are many people saying what gehgeh is saying on social media in naija today.

Men must get sense by force. And if you are a man and you still refuse to get sense with women, no problem. Continue, they will soon serve you hot breakfast.

Sonnobax15:

I pity guys who takes gehgeh's words serious.....He's my bro,from the same tribe and local government but the truth is that we all know the guy's only catching cruise......

But hey,who are those applying such doctrines into their lives when in actual sense,they are common things every sensible man ought to have known already.

So you know he is saying the truth but you said he is catching cruise.

Men are men problems I swear.

If men continue to accommodate this mentality of the modern women, their behavior will not improve.

Experienced men know that gehgeh is right about what he says about how women see men.

Only women and inexperienced men are against gehgeh.

0.0001 pct. It only happens alot in movies.

Women are naturally hypergamous.

M.umu post. The only men a woman can love are in this order, her biological son 💯, her brother and father 50pct chance.

Apart from those, women cannot love any other man.

It's like women never show this one their true identity.

It's your decision. Stick to it if you can't handle marriage.

Go ahead and discuss with right hospitals and legal advisers.

And the woman too was jobless or earning very low too. What's the big deal?

Poor woman met a poor man and married with helps of family and friends.

As usual, she is looking for sympathy or validation to dump the man she used to japa.

In the whole of UK with power given to women legally, a man will be punching you and you didn't call the police.

She didn't, never loved the white man to begin with. She just used him to escape Nigerian poverty

If truly you are depressed, please don't add a woman to it. They will only add to your depression and make it worst, especially if you are broke.

But I believe na konji dey worry you.

Guys are wiser now. He might have sensed that she is a liability or "almajiri" according to Ma_kan_juola on Instagram.

My brother, all I will tell you is DON'T MARRY A LIABILITY FOR A WIFE.

This is 2025. It's not 1900. Wise up.

This story smells of a liability situation. Both man and woman must struggle to improve their finances in this current world. The time when a woman depends on a man solely is gone.

Any rich man that is faithful to one woman is a dund.dee. Same woman will not look you when you are broke or if you become broke tomorrow.

Until women stop looking down on broke men, they don't deserve faithfulness from a successful man.