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DeclanR:
Can I ever own a car in this life ?,🥲🥲

I've never seen a Million Naira in my life except whenever I go to the Bank. I've only had/made a quarter of it just once.

Since this year, I've not touched twentykay

This is hell

adamkkk:
People still dey marry ?


I nor remember d last tym I hear marriage planning


People lyk us don run comot, and some people wan enter


Note, Nor be money issue, my wife earns times 3 of her salary... Bt my peace of mind pass dey more important than any marriage

The thing still dey shock me say people still dey marry... They are not aware that marriage is now obsolete.

Fiscus105:
You think the way your fire father treated stark illiterate in the past, you can treat Morden ladies, who are educated as you do and earning income just like you do, to make worse, taken care of kids are joint venture between husband and wife.

If you don't change your mind and start leaving in today's world instead of in the past, you will end like baba n dagbe(old cargo bachelor)

Na mumu still dey marry. I am not willing to be a mumu to keep any woman at home. I value my peace of mind more than the validation men get from marriage.

Skepticus:
Go MGTOW

Do not get married guys, do not get married!!

It serves little or no purpose for you outside passing your genes to the next generation!

I have been preaching this too. Mgtow is the way to go. These modern women aren't worth the stress.

Una still dey marry?

Na mumu still Dey study to get degree in Nigeria.once you are done with high school,you are good to go. Degree in Nigeria is a total waste of time, energy and resources.

Pictures or I don't believe it

Malagans:
I was sleeping in a male cousin's house, then his sister came in, she thought I was deeply asleep cos I was snoring.
She told the brother, so this guy never go back to him house, he still dey run from landlord. Better pursue am commot before he go pack all him things come dey live with you o..

Hearing this made me even more depressed. It almost a month now, but Till today, I no longer see them as my cousins.

In this life, if only we could read People's hearts, hmmmmm. You think you have a good friend or brother? Wait until you hear what he says about you behind your back, then you'll know howfa

The bolded is very true...ever since I fully honed my mind reading ability,I stopped going close to people...They are all the same,some are good pretenders but deep down they don't like you.Na mumu still dey believe say people like am.

bestman09:
I got married at 29 in the year 2000 and my wife was 26. Like I said earlier, marriage is not for Children but imperfect adults who are ready to overlook their partners mistakes. The man in question here acted very immature. I believe he must have known the intended wife for some time and should have acted based on her behavior, not her mother's own.

just dey play. everything you see in your mother-in-law would be manifested in your wife. Na just time but you would surely see those traits in her...If you can not marry her mother,do not marry her.

Inspirer1:
Clothes, makeups, smiles are cover ups for the struggles we pass through

Life is full of struggles. Nobody has it all figured out.

Anonimoux:
These days I prefer to chat with ChatGPT abeg

same here...I learn a lot of new stuffs chatting with chatgpt than chatting with women.

Times have changed...wetin you want dey follow woman dey talk self if no be come make we knack?women that can't hold intellectual conversations,you are there wasting your time with them. If no be come make we knack I no get anything to tell any woman.

Mullermuller:
If I choose to stay at home most people thinks I'm the most wicked person on earth

Na you still dey send people na...as for me,I don't give a fvck what anyone thinks about me.

Bros leave woman and battle for your life...you are still young,now is time to focus on your life. No go complicate things by entangling yourself with woman wahala.

Truthseeker10:
so what happens to all the things that money brings at death?

money is only useful when Alife,once one is dead, it's useless.

Truthseeker10:
So both rich and poor people end up in non existence after death? If yes, what is the purpose of getting rich since both poor and rich will end up the same way?

get money because money brings respect, options,comfort and power. In this life,money should be your number 1 goal...money stops nonsense. You no fit live and enjoy life without money,make we no deceive ourselves.

MaxInDHouse:
Of course politicians and pastors are not Christians nah, so true believers don't expect them to have faith!🙂

Just dey play...so you are a better Christian than Tinubu's wife that is a pastor? Dem don really do damage to Nigeria with Religion.

Truthseeker10:
So where do rich and poor people go after they die?

they would not go to hell or heaven after death...alot of people have been brainwashed with this heaven and hell bullshit so they can be easily controlled. Free yourself from mental slavery. Check your politicians and top rich people,you think they believe they would go to hell after they die?No. Even your pastors don't believe in heaven and hell after death,they just use that idea to induce fear in their members and then manipulate them.

Truthseeker10:
can you support this from the Bible?

Bros leave bible,face reality...with the way everything set for Nigeria now,person when no get money,how e go take dey cope...which hell reach that one...or you think say hell na the one person dey go after e die, think again...Heaven and hell are right here in our daily life experiences.

SeriouslySense:
We need each other, the poor need the rich and the rich need the poor. If we stopped caring for the poor, we wont survive.

Na you dey reason like that...the world no send poor people. Know this and know peace.

erad:
Why do the poor keep going to where they are not appreciate?

Thank you for this question. Why are poor people still going to places where they are treated like thrash...they should have some self respect and stop going there. It's as simple as that.

MaxInDHouse:
That is not the case among true disciples of Christ:

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A church is a brainwashing and business centre. The owner of business wants to make profit at all cost...The poor members are more like liability to him cos they don't have money to donate as much as the rich members. They just come to make up numbers in the church,so they are not his target. Nobody should even be going to church if he is not getting business deals or connection there. It's a waste of time and resources going to church cos you are just there to promote another man's business.

SeriouslySense:
True wealth is not the amount of money or possession acquired, but it is character. We wont carry this wealth to the beyond.

Na your own you dey talk...the world no dey reason like you. No get money,even your family fit reject you self.

As a poor man,you have no business being in the church,if you value your mental health. You would be treated with disdain everywhere in the world,not just in church. A poor man is on his own in this cold world.

ufotunang:
Na Tinubu renewed shege hard economy cause am

This one no be tinubu matter ooo...Na so the life just be. Porverty is never celebrated.

Truthseeker10:
You mean poor people are next to hell?

Porverty is even hell itself.

GboyegaD:
Is life really this hard? I guess you may need to read more on the value and power of relationships.

life is Very much easier without fake people.I don't need to read anything.people and time have taught me what no book can.

You have made vital points....I don't blame the USA for our problems as much as I would blame our own people selling us out.Our leaders are very much the people to blame in all these. They have proven repeatedly that they don't care about us,now the citizens out of desperation are left with no choice than to expect help from outside. Imagine when one is not shown love at home,an outsider only needs to do little to convince the person that they care.

For some years now,I have stopped calling anyone my friend...The highest I can call anyone,no matter how close we are is acquaintance. Na una dey give people title when dem never earn. People are selfish and opportunistic,they only come around when there is something to benefit. Once benefit stops,they vanish. For years now,I have never met anyone worth calling my friend...I have very high standards now and you have to prove it before earning my friendship.

I believe this your story die. Human being dey very unpredictable

Oracleee:
Peter comes to mind.


Early 2000s. We were kids close childhood friends. Our mums worked at the same place. We spent alternating weekends in each other’s houses. Him and his brothers would stay with us, we’d stay with them. We attended the same primary school. It was that kind of bond family-level closeness.
Then his mum got the opportunity to relocate to greater London. This was even before the whole japa wave became a thing. While she was sorting herself out, they stayed with us. Eventually she came back for her husband and kids, and off to London they went.
We lost contact for about a year.
One day, my mum said, “You people want to speak with the Babatopes?” We were excited me and my siblings. Childhood friends reconnecting after relocation? Sweet moment, right?
Wrong.
Peter and his siblings denied knowing us.
Flat out.
Asking “Who is this?” When I tried explaining, he acted like he had no idea who I was. My mum was shocked. I was a boy almost entering my teenage years, and my supposed best friend more like a brother that I already used to brag to my friends around erased me like I never existed.







That day stayed with me.
Fast forward about 15 years later. He wanted to come to Nigeria for something and needed help with security and accommodation. He reached out through my mum.
At that time, I was in the UK on course at Sandhurst.
I took my pound of flesh.
I feigned complete ignorance. Said I wasn’t even in the country. His mum called, acting surprised that I didn’t “know” them. The irony was loud.
Eventually I returned to Nigeria after my program. He was still around and tried reaching out to meet up. But that childhood hurt stuck with me. I cut ties completely.
Maybe people change. Maybe kids do silly things. But one thing I know is this if he had met me in a place where I wasn’t doing well, I doubt he would’ve wanted to reconnect.
Some people remember you only when you’re useful or successful.
I don’t hate him. I just believe in energy matching energy.

1MILLIONLiGHTS:
My problem is not the women. IF ONLY HER AND MY FAMILY,FRIENDS, NEIGHBOURS, CHURCH, WORK PLACE, RELATIVES AND COUSINS CAN LEAVE US ALONE, MARRIAGE WOULD HAVE BEEN SWEET TO ENTER. EVERY BODY WANTS TO CONTROL AND PILOT. NA WOMAN I MARRY ABI NA PEOPLE? MCHEW! AFRICA? HMM! EXTERNAL DISTURBANCES ARE THE GREATEST DISCOURAGEMENT TO MARRIAGE FOR ME. I PREFER TO MARRY IN OYINBO LAND SHA!

my brother,thanks for bringing up this point... ordinary relationship with a Nigerian gal;mama,friends, siblings,pastor,neighbours go want influence the relationship...you go come dey wonder wether na full community you dey do relationship with. Come imagine say you marry that kind person,na outsiders go dey control your marriage for you.