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Education › Re: The Miracle Tree In FUTO, Federal University Of Technology Owerri (PHOTO) by hismond(m): 5:18pm On Feb 11, 2015
bunch of ignoramus africanus.

africans can't stop having a spiritual attachment to everything, look beyond your noses and reason with the God given IQ
Romance › How To Test-drive Your Man Before Marriage by hismond(op): 10:57am On Feb 09, 2015
I just saw this article in punch newspaper, what's your take on this


The article, last week, was a runaway success and it engaged over 20,000
readers. There were many online comments and emails debating and
discussing the topic: ‘Why you should test- drive your partner before
marriage.’

On analysis, the people who wrote in would be single, married, separated,
divorced or widowed. Of the single people, some would be virgins and the
majority would be sexually active (engaging in premarital sex, of course!).
Of the married people who commented, some would have married without
engaging in premarital sex. It would be nice to get their opinions. The
remainder would have engaged in premarital sex before marriage. It would
be great to conduct a survey to find the hypocrite among these. We did!
Anyway, this article is focused entirely on women and will show you exactly
how to put men through a test drive before marriage. Obviously, women
and men see things through different prisms. Women should realise that
what they want and what a man wants are two very different things.

Simply put, most men just want sex, regular sex, without necessarily
paying cash for it! Responsible men will try to cope with the result of
their particular choice: be it marriage or a pregnancy (whichever comes
first). An irresponsible man will look for an excuse!

Finally, our previous dalliances, experiences, family and religion colour what
we do and how we approach the issue of relationships. Some rely on their
family or friends to choose a partner for them, while some listen to the
pastor! However, if you have a mind of your own and are responsible for
your heart’s desires, please read on.

Let me also make a clarification: This article is for women of marrying
age (above 18 years of age) who are looking for or have found the right
man. If you have the man of your dreams in your sights, then you should
definitely test-drive him through these stages.

The initial stage
Physical attraction is important and is perhaps the first thing in the start
of a relationship. If you are not attracted to him, this may cause problems
later. You need to also evaluate whether he is fun and makes you laugh. Is
the man of your dream good company or just an ass? Is he mental,
aggressive, clingy and immature? Do you have similar interests and
common goals? Can you spend a whole day in his company and not be bored
to death? If you do not like him that much, leave him by the roadside.

The second stage
Evaluate where he is coming from and where he is going. What are his
values? What are his dreams and aspirations? Is he describing the kind of
life you want for yourself and your future family? What type of man is
he? Is he a liar, unserious and cannot be trusted with your friends? A
friend of mine was always farting in public. His girlfriend could not
tolerate this. They still got married, regardless, but the farting, snoring
and, of course, other disrespectful behaviour eventually destroyed the
marriage: after three children!
You now also need to define what you want from the relationship. Is
marriage an investment? Do you want the so-called mysterious happiness,
emotional and financial security and that ephemeral love? Can he provide
these for you and the family? Is he doing that right now? Are you
employed and he is not? If he is always asking you for money and is not
pulling his weight, he may be a dud after marriage. Is he rich and
famous? Could you afford to get lost in his shadow or do you want a life
of your own? Can you stand on your own? Would he be able to live with a
successful wife? Can he live in your shadow?

The third stage
How old is he exactly? Is he in good health? Are there any medical issues
that you should know about? Are there any family genetic diseases such
as sickle cell disease or other rare killers? Be sure to ask and talk to his
friends and family openly. What about his HIV or Hepatitis status? Have
you asked and checked? You should, before moving things further.

Now, the good stuff
We conducted a survey here in Nigeria to determine attitudes towards
premarital sex. We asked 100 consecutive unselected adults and the
following is the result of the survey.

What is your age? Our respondents were aged 20 to 40 years.
Are you male or female? Fifty-two per cent were males
Are you single, separated, divorced, married or widowed? Most were single:
78 per cent and 20 per cent were married and a tiny number divorced.
If single, are you sexually active? Of the single people, 50 per cent are
sexually active.

If divorced, widowed or married, did you engage in premarital sex? 60 per
cent engaged in premarital sex.
What is your view on premarital sex: Okay or not okay? Forty-eight per
cent said it was not okay, 32 per cent said it was okay and 20 per cent did
not commit either way. Interestingly, a few married individuals who had
engaged in premarital sex and some sexually active single persons felt it
was wrong!


source - http://www.punchng.com/health/healthwise/how-to-test-drive-your-man-before-marriage/

Romance › Re: Why You Should Test-Drive Your Partner Before Marriage by hismond(op): 6:08pm On Feb 02, 2015
DuchessLily:
smiley Chai! Na waooo...human beings don turn cars.

Well I no blame dem guys sha... Girls have lost it. They allow every tom, dick and harry to test-drive dem. Even d ones dey r certain won't marry them, plus pple's husbands sef.

Issioritt!
why do you still have that thought that men are not cheated as well, don't we have a stake in the whole thing too?
Romance › Re: Why You Should Test-Drive Your Partner Before Marriage by hismond(op): 2:35pm On Feb 02, 2015
xtervaganza:
One thing is 100% certain to me, I'll never marry a lady I haven't had sex with
How many are you planning to test my guy
Romance › Re: Why You Should Test-Drive Your Partner Before Marriage by hismond(op): 1:49pm On Feb 02, 2015
ArchEnemy:
You ll explain that to God on judgement day
I didn't write the article, I'm only asking for your take on it
Romance › Why You Should Test-Drive Your Partner Before Marriage by hismond(op): 12:57pm On Feb 02, 2015
I’m gonna marry her anyway

(Marry that girl) Marry her anyway

(Marry that girl) Yeah no matter what you say

(Marry that girl) And we’ll be a family: Magic! — Rude Lyrics


First kiss

When I had my first kiss with my girlfriend number one, I could still feel the tingling on my lips hours later. It was like a million exploding stars. I swear I did not eat that night and did not wash my face the next day. I was in love for sure!

First slap

When I met number 2, I was smitten with her seemingly timeless beauty. I was in love and I thought she felt the same at that time. I tried to kiss her but got a slap for my efforts. It stung but I laughed it off. I was in love, regardless!

But I did not marry either of them. Number One was interested in a rich, older, sophisticated man: her college lecturer. She knew I was not the one and I was downhearted for a long time. The wounds were healed by Number Two till we both realised that we could not be happy together, not if we want it forever. You see, no matter how hard we tried, I could not take her to heaven. You know what I mean!

First love

Real love is mutual, reciprocal and fulfilling. So, when I met my wife, I knew what love was and how it should be. I knew exactly what I wanted and knew not to settle for less. A woman who ticked all the boxes and more was exactly the woman of my dreams. I was not about to settle for less or compromise on any aspects. As they say, life is like a bus-stop. If you board a bus, you can get off, at, or even before the final destination. The journey is what you make of it and the company you keep on the bus sure helps.

A partner that makes the journey exciting and exhilarating keeps you on the bus till the very end. Choosing the right partner is therefore vital. Do not settle for less than you deserve: not for fame or for all the money in the world! As Oprah Winfrey says, “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

Teenage sex

Almost all Americans have sex before marrying, according to premarital sex research that shows such behaviour is the norm in the U.S. and has been for the past 50 years. The new study shows that by age 20, 75 per cent of Americans have had pre-marital sex. That number rises to 95 per cent by age 44. These statistics are, perhaps, significantly different for Nigeria. However, there should be a clear distinction between teenage sex and pre-marital sex. This article is not about teenage sex!

Pre-marital sex

For those who are of age and ready for a serious relationship with a view to marriage, test- driving your partner and ironing out the kinks may save a time of misery. Many people today feel that you should try out your partner before marriage. ‘Pre-marital sex is normal behaviour and has been for decades,’ says researcher Lawrence Finer, director of domestic research at the Guttmacher Institute.

One important reason for marriage is the sex. It has got to be great for both partners. This can keep you on the bus for life! Sexual compatibility and satisfying sex is vital in relationships. You need a partner who makes you smile in anticipation in the afternoon (when life is stressful) and who you can turn to at night for endless pleasure. If it is not happening (if you are not happy at night), it is not going to be long-lasting, as frustration builds up and explosions occur in the divorce courts.

Women are from Venus

We asked some women to debate the value of pre-marital sex recently. All of them have heard or know someone who is unhappy in their marriage. They are sexually frustrated either because of the size of the man’s member (usually too small!), erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or just plain poor performance in bed. ‘A man who does not know how to bring out the fireworks is not going to be around for long,’ said one.

Men are from Mars


We asked some men about the same and their thoughts were completely different. They would want to check that the woman is fertile and able to bear children before marriage. So for many, it is not the sex so much as the ability to procreate. Similarly, a man with poor sperm count and infertility can be difficult for some women to tolerate.

Test-drive your partner

One way to avoid it is to know your partner intimately, know that you can achieve great sex together and know that you are compatible: able to live together happily ever after. Sharing time with your partner and seeing that you are a perfect fit is desirable before marriage.

Okay, this is not even my opinion but it’s open to debate!
http://www.punchng.com/health/healthwise/why-you-should-test-drive-your-partner-before-marriage/

Romance › Re: 10 Things Most Guys Do When Expecting Their Girlfriends by hismond(m): 8:33pm On Jan 23, 2015
@Tosyne2much, u spilled way too much!

y will u open ur fellow men yansh in public?

now those babes will stat hyping their commodities since they know all these
Romance › Re: Self Defense For Ladies In Picture. by hismond(m): 11:07pm On Jan 19, 2015
major466:
Haven't you heard of ladies who beat up men like no man business? Strong women dey dis country o! grin
Bros, no vex!

are u speaking from experience?
Romance › Re: Self Defense For Ladies In Picture. by hismond(m): 8:19pm On Jan 19, 2015
the Op don watch too many action film, few african girls can do this because most of them have big back sides & can't raise their legs
Jokes Etc › Re: Photo Of The Day: Why They Say Men Can’t Cook by hismond(m): 10:31pm On Jan 10, 2015
the appropriate title is

Joke Of The Day: Why They Say Men Can’t Cook
Romance › Re: 3 Ways To Know When A Woman Is Sexually Attracted To You by hismond(m): 11:02pm On Jan 06, 2015
dey der dey hope, she wan carry u go their meeting be dat
Romance › Re: 5 Unfair Situations Girls Get Guys Into. by hismond(m): 9:23am On Jan 05, 2015
on a first working day in a new year, all NL has to offer on fp is a dating list crap, quite disappointing I must confess

What we expect to see are things that add value to the lives of people, things people can learn from positively or better still, news

I hope the fp won't be messed up with all these nonsense love stories all through this year
Romance › Re: Seven Unfair Situations Guys Get Ladies Into. by hismond(m): 11:15pm On Jan 04, 2015
to every action, there is an equal or opposite reaction. some girls bought it all on themselves, no need to feel bad for them.

Haba! guys don't promise marriage when you are sure u can't have it with her, dem go use una names do science
Education › Re: OPINION: 8 Reasons Why Bsc Is Superior To HND by hismond(m): 2:23pm On Jan 03, 2015
assuming I agreed with your points, I can never accept the Low Self Esteem part, that is an individual xtic. I'm an hnd holder from Yabatech, I have been to several interviews and I have met with a lot of university graduates, when I meet some, I conclude why some coys would say some graduates are half baked, some of those so called university graduates don't even know how to stand up to defend their years in school not to talk of composing good sentences.

I know there is discrimination because I have not only heard of it but seen it and gone through it, but if you are intelligent and sound, certificates won't define you at all

Nice one Op
Romance › Re: 5 Thing Ladies Do That Makes Them Look Cheap To Guys by hismond(m): 2:11pm On Jan 03, 2015
Nl babes too dey lie, a lot of dem do all des but they will neva want to accept it. The painful tin is they see it as their right.

For guys wey dey nack on d first date, broses, abeg, it is not really cool, winchies re on a rampage, try to know the kinda gal u ve before straffing, if a girl offers me on the first date, I will reject except we ve been in d friend zone for a while
Nairaland General › Re: Here’s How Kano State Counted Down To The New Year In Style (PHOTOS) by hismond(m): 11:25pm On Jan 01, 2015
mmmnnn, not bad
Romance › Re: Your Thought On LADIES Who Smoke Or Take Alcohol. by hismond(m): 12:03pm On Dec 30, 2014
an average girl who doesn't smoke or drink reasons with their hearts, but if a girl smokes & drinks, she reasons with her head, tho I can allow my gf drink in moderation in case she has to carry our baby
Celebrities › Re: Pains Behind The Fame: Price Nigerian Celebs Pay For Stardom by hismond(m): 11:55am On Dec 30, 2014
I wan do ftc, but some winchi dey sleep for NL, anyway d fake life attracts dos supermarket girls to dem, enuf kpansh for dem FOC
Romance › Re: 5 Words To Make Her Fall Madly In Love With You by hismond(m): 11:44am On Dec 30, 2014
Lala247:
I know but dey seem not to know that
we used to cherish love more than Indians until most girls turned themselves to supermarkets
Romance › Re: 5 Words To Make Her Fall Madly In Love With You by hismond(m): 11:37am On Dec 30, 2014
Lala247:
Lol u guys should leave me lol go and serenade those Naija babes with words lol
Lets see if you manage to put ring on her finger


Infact how many of u are married
didn't u learn that naija men are best at hit & run Olympics
Romance › Re: 5 Words To Make Her Fall Madly In Love With You by hismond(m): 11:36am On Dec 30, 2014
if a girl tanks u on her bbm status always, it means u re paying well. guys, pay more & talk less, all dis 5 na for secondary school girls
Culture › Re: Some Superstitious Beliefs In A Typical Nigerian Traditional Society by hismond(m): 7:11pm On Dec 28, 2014
eating by the door entrance won't make u get filled up

as children, showing ur toothless gum to a lizard won't make d teeth grow

BIG LIE!!!!

I did all these, nothing happened
Romance › Re: What Else Will A Guy Gain From A Girl That Says "No Sex" In The Relationship? by hismond(m): 11:31pm On Dec 27, 2014
badoolee:
Like seriously what's d importance of sex in a relationship?
have u tried google?
Romance › Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by hismond(m): 9:12am On Dec 25, 2014
ladymichael:
No dear, she's really nice and calm. Always keep to her self.

In the 2 years I have known her,have never had an issue with her
that might seem correct because u re a friend n not dating. wait to u date her to know her real self. she has been easy going cuz she is yet to be happy and trying to draw gud attention to herself
Education › Re: Easy Ways To Stay Awake While Studying At Night (FOR STUDENTS) by hismond(m): 8:40pm On Dec 24, 2014
true, all des worked for me & I also add black nescafe & alabukun, dnt try des tho
Crime › Re: Photos Of Alleged Nigerians Languishing In Prisons In Angola by hismond(m): 10:06pm On Dec 23, 2014
The rate at which some nigerians commit crimes abroad is so alarming, later they will complain about embassies denying us visas

btw, wetin dem go do for angola, na only olosho I fit find go dat kain country, lol
Business › Re: 10 Lies About Money. by hismond(m): 1:05pm On Dec 21, 2014
klem93:
Money make someone proud
Pride is human nature, u could be proud & still ve notin, but money will give u confidence, correct 1
Business › Re: 10 Lies About Money. by hismond(m): 1:04pm On Dec 21, 2014
Being dead broke is the root of all evil.

If it ain't making money, it's not making sense!
Health › Re: Top-7 Crazy Things That Happen While You Sleep by hismond(m): 12:41pm On Dec 21, 2014
ise aiye

this one is STRONG!!!
Romance › Re: 15 Ways To Know If You're Not Ready For Marriage by hismond(m): 4:04pm On Dec 20, 2014
Moderrator:
23. If you still eye women's boobs and bumbums when they pass, nada, you aint ready yet.
same Nairaland told us that starring at bosoms is healthy, which I have been doing very well now

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