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bunch of ignoramus africanus. africans can't stop having a spiritual attachment to everything, look beyond your noses and reason with the God given IQ |
I just saw this article in punch newspaper, what's your take on this The article, last week, was a runaway success and it engaged over 20,000 readers. There were many online comments and emails debating and discussing the topic: ‘Why you should test- drive your partner before marriage.’ On analysis, the people who wrote in would be single, married, separated, divorced or widowed. Of the single people, some would be virgins and the majority would be sexually active (engaging in premarital sex, of course!). Of the married people who commented, some would have married without engaging in premarital sex. It would be nice to get their opinions. The remainder would have engaged in premarital sex before marriage. It would be great to conduct a survey to find the hypocrite among these. We did! Anyway, this article is focused entirely on women and will show you exactly how to put men through a test drive before marriage. Obviously, women and men see things through different prisms. Women should realise that what they want and what a man wants are two very different things. Simply put, most men just want sex, regular sex, without necessarily paying cash for it! Responsible men will try to cope with the result of their particular choice: be it marriage or a pregnancy (whichever comes first). An irresponsible man will look for an excuse! Finally, our previous dalliances, experiences, family and religion colour what we do and how we approach the issue of relationships. Some rely on their family or friends to choose a partner for them, while some listen to the pastor! However, if you have a mind of your own and are responsible for your heart’s desires, please read on. Let me also make a clarification: This article is for women of marrying age (above 18 years of age) who are looking for or have found the right man. If you have the man of your dreams in your sights, then you should definitely test-drive him through these stages. The initial stage Physical attraction is important and is perhaps the first thing in the start of a relationship. If you are not attracted to him, this may cause problems later. You need to also evaluate whether he is fun and makes you laugh. Is the man of your dream good company or just an ass? Is he mental, aggressive, clingy and immature? Do you have similar interests and common goals? Can you spend a whole day in his company and not be bored to death? If you do not like him that much, leave him by the roadside. The second stage Evaluate where he is coming from and where he is going. What are his values? What are his dreams and aspirations? Is he describing the kind of life you want for yourself and your future family? What type of man is he? Is he a liar, unserious and cannot be trusted with your friends? A friend of mine was always farting in public. His girlfriend could not tolerate this. They still got married, regardless, but the farting, snoring and, of course, other disrespectful behaviour eventually destroyed the marriage: after three children! You now also need to define what you want from the relationship. Is marriage an investment? Do you want the so-called mysterious happiness, emotional and financial security and that ephemeral love? Can he provide these for you and the family? Is he doing that right now? Are you employed and he is not? If he is always asking you for money and is not pulling his weight, he may be a dud after marriage. Is he rich and famous? Could you afford to get lost in his shadow or do you want a life of your own? Can you stand on your own? Would he be able to live with a successful wife? Can he live in your shadow? The third stage How old is he exactly? Is he in good health? Are there any medical issues that you should know about? Are there any family genetic diseases such as sickle cell disease or other rare killers? Be sure to ask and talk to his friends and family openly. What about his HIV or Hepatitis status? Have you asked and checked? You should, before moving things further. Now, the good stuff We conducted a survey here in Nigeria to determine attitudes towards premarital sex. We asked 100 consecutive unselected adults and the following is the result of the survey. What is your age? Our respondents were aged 20 to 40 years. Are you male or female? Fifty-two per cent were males Are you single, separated, divorced, married or widowed? Most were single: 78 per cent and 20 per cent were married and a tiny number divorced. If single, are you sexually active? Of the single people, 50 per cent are sexually active. If divorced, widowed or married, did you engage in premarital sex? 60 per cent engaged in premarital sex. What is your view on premarital sex: Okay or not okay? Forty-eight per cent said it was not okay, 32 per cent said it was okay and 20 per cent did not commit either way. Interestingly, a few married individuals who had engaged in premarital sex and some sexually active single persons felt it was wrong! source - http://www.punchng.com/health/healthwise/how-to-test-drive-your-man-before-marriage/
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DuchessLily:why do you still have that thought that men are not cheated as well, don't we have a stake in the whole thing too? |
xtervaganza:How many are you planning to test my guy |
ArchEnemy:I didn't write the article, I'm only asking for your take on it |
I’m gonna marry her anywayhttp://www.punchng.com/health/healthwise/why-you-should-test-drive-your-partner-before-marriage/
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@Tosyne2much, u spilled way too much! y will u open ur fellow men yansh in public? now those babes will stat hyping their commodities since they know all these |
major466:Bros, no vex! are u speaking from experience? |
the Op don watch too many action film, few african girls can do this because most of them have big back sides & can't raise their legs |
the appropriate title is Joke Of The Day: Why They Say Men Can’t Cook |
dey der dey hope, she wan carry u go their meeting be dat |
on a first working day in a new year, all NL has to offer on fp is a dating list crap, quite disappointing I must confess What we expect to see are things that add value to the lives of people, things people can learn from positively or better still, news I hope the fp won't be messed up with all these nonsense love stories all through this year |
to every action, there is an equal or opposite reaction. some girls bought it all on themselves, no need to feel bad for them. Haba! guys don't promise marriage when you are sure u can't have it with her, dem go use una names do science |
assuming I agreed with your points, I can never accept the Low Self Esteem part, that is an individual xtic. I'm an hnd holder from Yabatech, I have been to several interviews and I have met with a lot of university graduates, when I meet some, I conclude why some coys would say some graduates are half baked, some of those so called university graduates don't even know how to stand up to defend their years in school not to talk of composing good sentences. I know there is discrimination because I have not only heard of it but seen it and gone through it, but if you are intelligent and sound, certificates won't define you at all Nice one Op |
Nl babes too dey lie, a lot of dem do all des but they will neva want to accept it. The painful tin is they see it as their right. For guys wey dey nack on d first date, broses, abeg, it is not really cool, winchies re on a rampage, try to know the kinda gal u ve before straffing, if a girl offers me on the first date, I will reject except we ve been in d friend zone for a while |
mmmnnn, not bad |
an average girl who doesn't smoke or drink reasons with their hearts, but if a girl smokes & drinks, she reasons with her head, tho I can allow my gf drink in moderation in case she has to carry our baby |
I wan do ftc, but some winchi dey sleep for NL, anyway d fake life attracts dos supermarket girls to dem, enuf kpansh for dem FOC |
Lala247:we used to cherish love more than Indians until most girls turned themselves to supermarkets |
Lala247:didn't u learn that naija men are best at hit & run Olympics |
if a girl tanks u on her bbm status always, it means u re paying well. guys, pay more & talk less, all dis 5 na for secondary school girls |
eating by the door entrance won't make u get filled up as children, showing ur toothless gum to a lizard won't make d teeth grow BIG LIE!!!! I did all these, nothing happened |
badoolee:have u tried google? |
ladymichael:that might seem correct because u re a friend n not dating. wait to u date her to know her real self. she has been easy going cuz she is yet to be happy and trying to draw gud attention to herself |
true, all des worked for me & I also add black nescafe & alabukun, dnt try des tho |
The rate at which some nigerians commit crimes abroad is so alarming, later they will complain about embassies denying us visas btw, wetin dem go do for angola, na only olosho I fit find go dat kain country, lol |
klem93:Pride is human nature, u could be proud & still ve notin, but money will give u confidence, correct 1 |
Being dead broke is the root of all evil. If it ain't making money, it's not making sense! |
ise aiye this one is STRONG!!! |
Moderrator:same Nairaland told us that starring at bosoms is healthy, which I have been doing very well now |
Chai! Na waooo...human beings don turn cars.