₦airaland Forum

fulaniHERDSman:
jazzy is a jenius

See how dem dey control jobless youths mind dey collect their money on top am

Headies ni, beef ko!

kennygee:
Publicity stunt ni.

emeraldknytt:
pooshiit... Oshi!

Estharfabian:
You people Suck nah!


You all claim to be superior Buh can't approach a girl right?

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]I have the greatest smile in the history of nairaland?

Yes or Nay?[/color]

WARRIBLOOD:
It's almost like am scared of people...

I don't associate well with them... always alone.
For that people starts looking at me as if I got pride..


I hate my life..

Sincerely wish I could be THE FREE FLOWING DUDE EVERYWHERE I GO

But am not it's almost like am weird


Every time am always alone that's the only time I feel comfortable...

I hardly go out in the day... cus am scared off people looking at me...

daveyjay:
Pained

ronald4lif:
I find it ironic that you've asked same question I do quite often challenge myself with. I don't know why anyone would consider another arrogant just coz they usually don't share same views to life, similar ideas, character and approach to issues.

For all we know, it could be that they either don't want to embrace the fact that humans are wired differently or they feel intimidated by diverse attitude which isn't in tandem with theirs. Their inability to embrace divergent attitude should be their problem really, not yours or anyone else.

I'd say be you, don't be coerced and let anyone change you provided you know you're not pompous but same time do some soul searching and adjust some attitude of yours. Also, although you affirm you don't talk much, I'd suggest you don't always counter peoples argument even when you're convinced they're wrong and have a superior argument. Some people don't like to be corrected and see it as an affront to their prestige. So even if their arguments is glaringly erroneous, just let it slide.

Don't act like you know better than others, like you're superior or better than everyone else. Relate with everyone fairly like you'd want to be treated.

I had a colleague in my previous place of engagement who always had this mean, unsmiling and glum look and when I newly resume work everyone was murmuring how he's arrogant and suggesting I shouldn't attempt to be nice to him as it's futile. However, I wasn't having any of that and was determined to make an independent assessment of him while I keep extending cordial gestures his way. It didn't take long for me to realise that this guy was the most amazing, precocious and most interesting despite his seemingly taciturn nature.

In a nutshell you should be yourself and at same time be friendly and simplistic as not everyone have the patience to scratch beyond the surface and get to know the real you. This is the approach I've adopted and hope it helps. Cheers mate.