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The situation is more complicated than that. My husband has a child outside and he's always flaunting both mother and daughter in my face at any given opportunity. I can't take that nonsense anymore. If it was just my husband and I no problem, I would have still managed the situation but with this other woman in the mix I don't know how long before my sanity gives way.

Lol I knew you must have known the other guy some how. How did you guys meet up again after so long? were you in contact with him when you were still with your hubby?who contacted who first?you contacted him didn't you?

We met on facebook about a year ago. He didnt say anything then as I was married but immediately I left the house and he had ascertained my mind was made up he made his move and I needed a shoulder to cry on, the rest is history.

My son must be a bit relieved because the fights were getting too much for a small child like that to handle. He's in the  boarding house, that's why the house became unbearable for me .

Actually I knew this new guy while in the university. We dated for close to 2 yrs then broke up. I now met up with him again and everything went roller coaster from there. Don't judge me too harshly when u didn't live the kind of life i lived with my husband who was always drinking, womanizing and inflicting all kinds of emotional distress. I only stayed long because of my child and in African context the woman makes the home and will be  blamed if anything goes wrong. A lot of married women suffer in silence because of this. When the gbege was too much I had to give way so as to retain my sanity. He behaved as though I was an enemy. I'm out of the house and he now wants reconciliation which I know very well wont last. Am I wrong in having second and third thoughts? . Pls this is a very serious issue. I need unbiased answers.

I have been married for about 12 years now. We are blessed with a child. For close to a year now my husband stopped performing his duties as a husband saying he is tired of the marriage and that I should leave his house. At first I refused but after much pressure, quarrels and fights I finally left his house. After about a month of my leaving , I  met a man who appreciates me and is ready to bring me the moon if I want and he is also ready to marry me. My question is how long should I wait before saying yes to the man of my dreams? or should I go back to my old husband as he has come begging for reconciliation which many friends are supporting because of my child. Shouldn't  my happiness count? Please help me sort out my emotions. Let me hear from you guys what you think I should do.

I wish my husband can be jealous of me. he has taken it for granted that i can't ever cheat on him. what do i do to reverse this trend of thought?

what about the police and govt officials that drive at break neck speed does these fines affect them? They are not going anywhere important but they want everybody to leave the road for them

We need seasoned writers like JIMI ODUMOSU, AMAKA IGWE and a selected few others to write master pieces for our movie industries and not anyhow people who are not script writers or good story tellers from burdening us with their low IQs and non existing immaginations. It is better to watch a good story withpoor actors than a bad story with good actors. Please consult with Amaka Igwe who wrote master pieces like checkmate and others for advice and maybe take crash programe on good storytelling.

The film lacked imagination. Imagine in Nigeria which single girl from that kind of rich background will decide to have a child for her big sister when technology today gives us better chances at having kids. Afterall did we not see a woman at 65 years of age having a child infact if not for her advanced age they would have been triplets. So how does a nigerian girl go through pregnancy and endure all that stress especially as she is single just to have a child for her sister and her useless husband. How come a father who has disowned his daughter then on hearing she is having a child for a useless husband suddenly forgives and then embrase her back into the family fold. Only people with no imagination will actually enjoy such rubbish. IN MY HUMBLE OPINION THE WRITER OF THIS MOVIE HAS NO IMAGINATION AND ONLY USED BIG NAMES IN NOLLYWOOD TO SHOWCASE HIS/HER RUBBISH.

Didnt know that visafone and bourdex are the same. My younger brother was using bourdex in calabar and he abandoned it because of their inefficieny. I thought of buying visafone but ias i now know their real name i have better uses for my hard earned cash.

who talks about the rich also cry, wild rose and no one but you. She should go and buy sebastine and catalina, the gardeners daughter etc. I love watching series these days. They are really awesome. I loved watching the following:

Prison break (VERY GOOD)

24 (Very good)

Heroes (Very good)

Supernatural (Good)

Criminal minds(Good)

The Supranoes(Good)

Greys anatomy (Okay)

Hustle (though is had only a few episodes in each season but it had some real master pieces)

Prison break is a master piece, i loved the plots, intrigues and the dialogue. kudos to the writers.  I need to see new ones. I mean the ones that will set one on the edge of their seats not like ugly betty or desperate housewives as one really has to be desperate to watch such stuff. My people any suggestions?
Am thinking  ROME, 6 FEET UNDER AND DEXTER. Will I get my money's worth?

Zandra is your hubby a full blooded "african man" more importantly a man born and bred in nigeria? if so you have to check him out well. 95% of nigerian men don't do that and those that do most often than not hide that fact from the whole world. For him to do that most likely you are newly wedded and hes trying to impress you. lets hope he can finish what he started. IF HE IS A FULL BLOODED NIGERIAN BEWAREBECAUSE HIS MOTHER IS NOT AWARE.

You would know there is a man in the house because he is very dependable and he is my backbone.

manta, i really loved your piece it made my day. i intend showing them to friends for a good laugh. hope you would in future share more of such cartoons with us in nairaland.

i travelled recently to uyo and as i entered i was very hungry as i left ph very late i now went into the mr biggs at ikot ekpene road to buy some snacks. the sales people there were so none chalant they just left us standing there and didnt even bother to let us know what was gwan. i was very made and complain ed to their manager who was busy jisting as if tomorrow never comes. i left them and went to the next one in town and their service was superb there and then i vowed never to go to ikot ekpene branch again.

ORIKINLA  who be dis oldies wey your dey touture us with?  e be like say this one don drop engine 2 times

are you now telling us that you are an AJEPAKO?
because here in naija you are either an AJEBOTA or an AJEPAKO

osisi no dey garden city thats why hes talking trash. innocent women and children that were cut down by these militants bullets hes not talking about them. these boys deserves to be treated worse than what the soldiers are doing riht now. port harcourt that was once peaceful is now one of the worst states in the federation no tanx to the politicians that are using these boys. government should not only stop at dealing with these militants but also with the politicians that are supporting them by providing them with arms and financial incentives

michelin obviously is single and doesnt know what marriage is all about or she is divorced and wants others to be like her. i dont advise any woman to leave her husband because of another woman. she can leave due to phy sical abuse, maltreatment but not becosof another women as an african man he can marry more than one wife so why give chance for the devil to off load his package in your home

Go back, the devil you know is better than the angel you dont know. how many naija men out there are better? afrian men are polgamous in nature so the next man might even do more than this .everyone telling you to bone the marriage if they were in your shoes would not give up the marriage. dont let another woman drive you from the home youve built with your husband. you are right to be angry but am telling you to forgive and forget

faze all the way. his songs are all ireally listen 2 cant wait for his next songs.

babe a bobo leaves you to marry another chick and you are still seeing him. na wah 4 u oh. dont u have any pride at all. so u are bedmatics material but not good enough for marriage. if i were u i will go for deliverance and get rid of any spirit of bedmatism that may be following you so that a correct G that respects you and also better in bed will come along.