ono:

I'm thinking, how would almondjoy be in person? - not typing away as she's doing here on Nairaland, but talking to people, friends etc. You strike me as one who'd be very active 'in real life'' Is that true?

Zandra1:

@ ono, thank u. A journey of a thousand miles starts with a step. Those that a married for 60 years started by being married for one day till . . . . We take each day one at a time as it comes. I would also want u to know that marriage has no formula. What works at Mr. A's house doesnt have to work for Mr. B. Anyways, with God, our love for each other and our determination, all is well  .

"At the initial stage (the first few weeks and months) you won't see much of the type of person you got married to".

I agree that marriage is d/f from r/ship but I don't agree with your statement above. Not much has changed from when we were dating till now except that the love is deeper cause he believes that we're one now. To him, I wont wake up one day and decide to leave unlike when people are dating that anything might happen. I[b] agree that one might change for the worse after marriage but there are people that don't.[/b] No one prays to have a bad marriage. Life is full of chances and if u don't try u wouldnt know if things would have been good or bad. If I didnt 'see' the type of person he was, I wouldnt be 20 years old and married.

Am at work so some of what am writing is . . . . .  .

Zandra1:

@ almondjoy, thank u very much. A huge amen to your prayer/wishes towards us. I really appreciate that . I strongly believe that we can make it. Am happy that I have a wonderful mother and aunty that can always guide and advice me on certain things. I also believe that God that joined us two together would always see us through.

@ ono, I'll be 21 this summer, and he's 8 years older than I am.

hope2007:

Zandra is your hubby a full blooded "african man" more importantly a man born and bred in nigeria? if so you have to check him out well. 95% of nigerian men don't do that and those that do most often than not hide that fact from the whole world. For him to do that most likely you are newly wedded and hes trying to impress you. lets hope he can finish what he started. IF HE IS A FULL BLOODED NIGERIAN BEWAREBECAUSE HIS MOTHER IS NOT AWARE.

ono:

@Zandra,
I can only wish you every success at this point. Amen to almondjoy's prayers.

@almondjoy,
How long have you been married?

fellybabe:

My hubby is a wonderful guy,so loveable,romantic,handsome.i love his kissable cute lips, infact i love everything about him, his looks,behaviour,character. What he is, Who he is and love how he is. He is the type that any woman would love to have as a husband or friend

Zandra1:

@ yomicious, don't worry. By God's grace u will get a wonderful guy.

@ ono, thanx for your good wishes.

@ almondjoy, thanx for your good wishes. Am glad your husband's name starts with an N and not an A cause only God knows what would've happened .

The age difference is really a big plus in our marriage cause he baby's me a lot. Also, he points out my mistake to me without being a father to me.

Tihehehe. . . am glad that he understands that he's not my father ooo and that am not his mother or daughter . I don't want that kind of marriage. You know that in some r/ships, when a guy is older than his lady with 6 years for e.g, the way they 'act' might cause an outsider to think that its a 'father and daughter' r/ship .

I[b] must confess that at first I was shy and a little bit nervous about being married at 20.[/b] Then, I used to tell my hubby that I still wanted to have 'fun' but he would be like "Nne, I would wait for u as long as u want but please know that married people do have fun" . In my sophomore year, I had a lebanese friend that was married at 20 and was shocked when she told me. I could never have imagined that I would join the band wagon a year later . All the same, we're very happy and blessed, and we pray that it lasts forever .