₦airaland Forum

diva90:
Deed is done. Just accept it and come to terms with it. The most important thing is that your husband has pledged his support. Imagine if the case was reverse. Every disappointment is a blessing. After this one, make sure you get actual birth control from a family planning center, withdrawal method is not reliable. If you don't, then don't come running to us when number 5 happens ... All the best

Thanks

jashar:
awwwhhhhhhh!!!!!! see the cutie
Congratulations ma'am. O ya come and borrow me her small, make I play with her for some time.

MAy God keep her and sustain her.

Hahahahahaa thanks bae.
And Amen to your prayers.

bukatyne:
@OP:

Congrats...
Your girl is also hotterthanfire.

God be with her.

Lol. Amen. Thanks dear.

Chiefpriest1:
Wow! Done and dusted. God bless the baby, God bless you and God bless your supportive husband.

Only those who haven't been been there will not understand how it feels to take in when you're not prepared,especially psychologically.

May the baby be a source of joy to the family

Amen to your prayers. Thanks.

gazilion:
We had ours, a baby girl too, 3 weeks ago. We thank God.

Ops congratulations.

Wao! This gladens my heart. Regards to mother and child. Mine was on 25th (good Friday) when was urs? Maybe they are bday mates oo.

Thanks all for your support. We will go for a more reliable method this time. I don learn hahahahahaa

TheArchangel:
God wants to balance your equation and you were feeling reluctant....
2 boys + 2 girls....mission accomplished.

Case closed!!!
Congrats.

Yes oo. Thanks dear

thorpido:
Congratulations Op
You and hubby should go for a more reliable FP method this time.

Thanks. We definitely will.

To all that were with with me on this I say a very BIG THANK YOU to you.
I have welcomed my baby girl to the glory of God.
She is worth every step of the journey.
God bless you all.

Hmmm... I even club with pregnancy. Hubby got my back. Nothing wrong with that at all. Its fun and adds spice to ur marriage.

I would have loved to have three but now am having four. 2 boys and 2 girls.

Worse things were said about GEJ, how many people were arrested for that? Nigerians you are sitting on a loooooooonnnnngggggg thing.
Keeping fingers crossed and mouth

Social Vice President
Only relevant at attending social functions on behalf of his 'oga at the top'
Fake party!
Fake Vice President!
Fake President!

Chaiiiii!!!!!! Naija my country. Booboo since u knew u benefited from the YAM you should have just let the sleeping GOAT lie.

Waiting for more names to come up. OBJ on ma mind

ogmaskman:
What exactly should the federal government do?
Grant their wish or disperse them?

Pls tell me I need to know.

JAMB question

asEdeyHOT:
You are liar and a jobless man

Stop spreading lies on NL

CC: Mynd44, Lalasticlala, seun

This man is spreading false rumors and inciting violence and hatred

Close the thread

This is absolutely true. It's not a lie. My hubby works at onitsha and right now he's stranded where he is. He can't even get home.

FG should quickly do something about this before it gets out of hand.

It's real ooo. They did it to my sister years back in Lagos. After buying Recharge cards worth of 15k plus and paid her in 1000 naira bills, the money turned out to be 10 naira bills. We couldn't believe it. I don't know how they do it oo. God save us from evil doers IJN, Amen.

Does he have friends? If he does, encourage him to go out more and associate with his fellow men. The time he spends with you at the salon can be used to hang out with the boys while probably waiting for you (if he must wait).
Sometimes allow him to take the wheel in terms of decision making, don't always tell him what to do, if he makes a mistake or fails as a result of the decision he took, he will definitely learn from it.
As per intimacy, he's not an exception to all men. They are all the same especially when they are crazy about you. My hubby does same, when it comes to sex, men are very childish, sometimes the type of question he asks, the care he shows, the way he behaves just to get that sex will begin to make you wonder if he's OK. Nevertheless, talk to him about interrupting your study time. Am sure he will understand.
Dear sis, don't get tired, in fact you should be happy and proud that you husband adores you so much, many women out there are praying and hoping to get at least 10% of their Hubby's love and attention, and here you are complaining.
You can shape him into the man you want him to become. It will only take patience and time.
Lastly keep family out of your relationship so they won't use it against any of you in the future.
Remain blessed.

TheMainMan:
why do i feel this biafra ish is pdp sponsored to frustrate buhari's government... ....

Just like Buhari sponsored bokoharam to frustrate Jonathan's government. Now it has backfired on him.

99.9% of MILs in Nigeria are selfish, domineering, and have this 'my son and my son's house, money, etc mentality' forgetting that the woman came from a family too and equally has a mother. If the girls mum should as much as interfere with her daughter's home all hell will break loose, but when its the mans mum, its OK and you are expected to take and swallow every rubbish pill forced down your throat.
Its best to have a cordial relationship with her, respect her, be available only when necessary, stop every form of unnecessary familiarity. I have to strongly disagree with those saying treat her like your own mother, I will rather you treat her like the mil that she is, cos the things your mum will accept and tolerate from you, I bet if you try them with her you are in for a long ish. Yes.
You guys are newly married , so don't expect her to start loving/liking you immediately, it will take years for both of you to come to that level of relationship.
Be patient, accommodating, see less and ignore more of her faults. Finally stop complaining to hubby about his mum, they don't like it, it will only convince him more that you don't like his mum, and even if you don't girl, don't show or tell your hubby. How would you feel if he continually complain about your mum or even tell you that he dislikes her
Above all be patient, prayerful and loving, she will come around.
Meanwhile enjoy your marriage!

Thank you guys for the support and words of encouragement. I haven't felt this light in week. Reading your comments makes me feel like pulling my own ear d way grandma does especially that of primadonna123. Sis your miracle is by your doorstep, if it's possible to trade places I would have gladly done that with you, it's well.
I have wholly accepted this wonderful gift from God and pray that He sees me thru this journey. For the wherewithal, I know He will always provide.

gidjah:
@hotter than fire, i decree twins fo this one o!take it take it take it!twins twins twins !

Hmmmm.... Thank you

[quote author=Chubhie post=36711619]You will have to come to terms with this your life Given. Yield and accept this. Look to the brighter side. Most times, we humans suffer based on perception. Be positive and work on your mind that this pregnancy is gonna be different. Be still some messages is being passed across to you.

Or what if those dreams you've laid down wasn't for your own greater good?I've come to appreciate that the best things in life are hidden and disguised while some are bitter.

Thank you. This truly lifts my soul. God bless you real good.

Thank you @soonest and estheremma. God bless you.

K9blunt:
Ok let me understand this.... What exactly do you want?

Do you want some abortion advise or just plain old "God is in control" advise cause to me from what you've listed abortion is the answer if I were in your shoes. But first how far off in pregnancy are you before you consider that option.

And biko why is it that inspite of all the education we got on biology in secondary school and then healthcare adverts on Tv most of us women still prefer the ancient method of contraception kwanu?
Someone just listed the options
Condom
Iud
Pills
Injection.
Aren't you educated?
Am so tired of people addicted to putting burdens on their head so they can feel pitied.

@ DEXTROVERT too, Thanks dear for the advice and 'insult'. I didn't put myself in this condition to get pity from anybody. I may not be as educated as you but am educated enough to be running a Ph.d programme. Am not a dunce.

I believe as a human being, not everything you planned worked out for you perfectly as you planned it.

We are humans that is why we make mistakes.

By the way am not contemplating abortion!

Thank you and remain blessed.

Blade21:
my love I understand how u feel just endure this may just be the greastest child u ever have and by the way 4kidss nor bad @ all na don't worry abt resources I assure u doors will open for u nd hubby let's toast tto de new angel CHEERSs

Thanks dear. God bless your kind heart.

Thank you so much ladies. Your words are a soothing balm to my nerves. Bless you.

Good day nairalanders, I had to hide behind a new moniker to post this for security reasons, pardon me please.

I've been married for five years and blessed with three great kids, 2 boys and a girl. My husband and I believed that our third child will be our last so we can take proper care of them in terms of quality education and other basic things of life. We both work and earn well, to an extent we are comfortable.

I got the shocker of my life two days ago when my PT test came out positive. I do not know how or when it happened, I have been very careful with my body system and DH cooperates very well, we have never had any issues with family planning, all our kids were well spaced, but this came as a very big shock to us.

Since then I've been so depressed and unhappy because this is not what I want or planned for, I have cried and cried and cried, I don't know what to do. Please don't get me wrong, children are blessings from God, I really appreciate that, but the timing for me is wrong. Right now I cannot do otherwise.

My biggest challenge is how to pull thru, how to carry the baby to term. Ever since I had my third child I've been battling severe waist pain, for which I've taken all manner of medication yet no relief. DH has been encouraging me, promising support and all that (though initially he didn't find the news funny), but that is the much he can do. The whole burden still falls on me.

Right now am frustrated, depressed, very unhappy because i know the goals I've set for my self. But with another baby on the way its like taking three steps backward and its really killing me.

Please words of encouragement, support and healing plus prayers is what I need from you my fellow Nlanders.

God bless you all.