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how do pple get themselves into weird situations like this?

thanks to u lot, i feel more in control of d situation. . . i hav snapped out of it and i guess venting on here has allowed me to calm down and look at things frm another perspective, i realise now that being foward is second nature to me but might hav put him in an awkward position. we hung out for a bit tonight and it suddenly dawned on me that HE must feel uncomfortable. . . i did continue probing but i wasnt so eager for answers, i guess he also realised i was willing to wait which helped him to loosen up a little i still dont knw if he is d man of my dreams and it is way too early to think about love or a relationship but i finally got a glimpse of d person underneath. . .

Tgirl4real:
Snap out of this girl.

I have a feeling you are loving this that is why u are allowing it to linger

It's like a challenge . . . you want to get to the end of it

i am enjoying it actually. . . and now that i am not freaked out about it so much, i plan to enjoy it alot more

Cayon:
@HR

I thought you were the Love Guru. Why? because you are sooo good on giving advise. Since you are so good in the love field. . . .follow your instinct

i was freaked out for a bit becos i didnt like what my instincts were sayin and i am used to being in control of these kinds of situations, it isnt easy to take ones own advise, but i did step back for a bit and i've figured out how to handle this. . .


thnx folks

I hav no idea why Eoghan is still in, his vocals arent all that. . .

was gutted when Diana was voted out, she was my fav, quirkiness and all. . . i guess d british public reckons she's already gotten a record deal anyways

i suspect Alex wld win, her vocals r amazing. . . she delivers an awesome performance every week!

JLS will do well wether they win or not. . . they r so likable

i get d heart racing, butterflies in d stomach thing with every crush i hav ever had. the difference with him is that we talk but i do all d talking and he says enough to keep me talking but not enough to give me anything to go on. so even tho we hav spent hrs talking, i stillf feel like we only met ystrday.

chamotex:
FAT ladies and ugly girls need more love.


[size=4pt]P-S: I don't discriminate[/size]

how will u discriminate b4? ashewo oshi  


@ topic
bigger girls, need bigger love  

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=205547.msg3201898#msg3201898 date=1228845175]In a few weeks you'll be back here telling us it was just a crush [/quote]I honestly hope so  


@ Jenny  
for d thousandth time, I am not inlove. . .  i knw this because i hav been inlove and it felt nicer than this!



[size=5pt]b.t.w. syphillis of all names[/size]

chika98:
My dear when you figure him out you will come to realize that there's nothing there. Start giving him monosyllabic answers as well and become distant. He is totally enjoying his "hold" on you right now.

i knw this and yet i cant help myself. . . which makes it worse

@ chika

i figured d only reason he gets under my skin is becos i cant figure him out. . . howerver i also feel if i do figure him out, his hold on me will be broken i guess thats why i am so eager to get to it!

I dont knw how not to chase. . . chasing is what i do. . .  I am appraoching distress (ok that was a tad dramatic   ) but i am very uncomfortable   I wld totally prefer if thsi was a crush, i can handle crushes. . . but i hav never crushed this bad befor  


@ Brash and Smurf. . .  
I am not inlove   I am actaully working hard at not being inlove esp with him  


@ iice and sistawoman

ignoring his game is roughly d plan at this point. . .  he sent me a very vague text msge a few minutes ago. . . i mean d man is so infurating.

@ Mitchelin
ur response was truely welcome but i'm not thinkin about love or a relationship at least not yet, i just want to knw d guy properly enough to decide if i really want more with him. . . we already hav a fling going and i feel like i want more. . . but i am not exactly sure if or why i wld ever want more. . . and WITH HIM?

SOJ:
methinks u already crazy about him!

wish someone culd be about me ^sighs!

ther lies my dilema. . . i don't knw if i am really crazy about him or just crazy about his sexy bod. . . and because i can't figure him out, i can't fig out which it really is 

Tgirl4real:
What is this I'm reading girl? Are u going soft on me?

Remember, bad girls don't. Bad girls don't whimp.

Call his bluff and tell him to start talking or u kick him out. Hehehe

Seriously girl, just take things slowly. Play his kind of game. There is no point nailing him as Mr.Right just yet.

can't do that because we already established that this was nuthin serious. . . only now i think i want it to be serious but i can't be sure


[size=5pt]i knw i am going soft  and its driving me insane  . . . i don't like being put in this position[/size]

nana:
Hmm,then the problem aint him. U just gotta sit down and ask yourself the question. What do u want in  man? Has he got it?
Do u see him as a potential boyfriend? What do u see/notice when with him? How do u feel? Providing answers to these questions would then lead u to the next stage which is to aask him what he really wants from u. i.e have a heart-heart talk with him. Am sure he would stop tormenting u.
And let me guess,u're the type that likes fonting for a guy before making ur feelings known to him,shey?

i hav asked myself all those questions but i don't hav d answers because he wont let me find out what d answers r. . .  I don't front! he knws exactly whats going on with me and he is enjoying d show 

I knw he likes me. . . d problem is really if "i like him" or "like him not"

SOJ:
that relationship must be boring,,,,or either party is HOLDING BACK on something= an addiction, bad habit ,,,or,oh gosh! worse still, someone's a serial killer!

LMAO

thats a tad dramatic innit? lol

I hav asked and constantly ask but all i get r oneliners and that stupid grin that gets me so hot and yet drives me mad becos he isnt giving me anything to work with. . . . arrrrgh!

i swear he is doing this to drive me crazy

woah. . . who said anything about love?

I am anything but d girl next door, i dont do mind games and i dont hav any particular principles except being upfront about everythng. problem is he is unresposnive to EVERYTHING. . . how do i evaluate everything he's said when he doesnt say much

wow. . . i'd give anything to be kissed like that!

Aunty Mary:
hahahahaaa


why don't you tell her about rev. e d's sermon?

exactly!

Moyola:
Uhmmn. . . .

very chatty today arent we?

this is way different. . .

he knws i like him and we r cool about it. . . but i really need to knw if i really like him or if i hav just developed a new addiction. i just need to get into his head and he isnt letting me 

I'm pretty good at getting what i want but i am not sure of what i want this time, i need to get into his head so i can establish if he really is what i want


[size=5pt]dunno if this makes any sense at all[/size]

So I recently met the man of my dreams. . .  the funny thing is I never knew I had a man of my dreams!

It is all supposed to be casual but i hav gone and developed a stupid crush on him, which makes it weird now because we hav already established d dynamics of d relationship.

thing is i am trying to get into his head to figure out if he really is my Mr. right and not just another lust, but i can't for d life of me figure him out.

he speaks in oneliners (which drives me mad b.t.w.) and he just watches me in an eerie way (which drives me even madder). I can't read him and that is really driving me up d wall (i think he's secretly enjoying my torment https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/39.gif)

usually with crushes i act on it until it goes away but it isnt going away because i still can't figure him out and its all getting me no where (i am d most impatient person in d world, i knw)

so i need help. . . i am way out of my element here, i usually don't bother with his type because its too much hassle but he really is too sexy to let go 

and yet another bozo who fancies himself as a relationship counselor. . . .

https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/41.gif OOOhhhhh its so lush. . . I'd definately live ther