First off, I want to apologise for resurrecting this thread,

i just wanted to point out that whoever is behind that "Hotmess" handle IS NOT ME OHHHH!!!!!!

I dont talk like that na _{(or do i? i hope not sha)} i cldnt even understand what the person was on about sef, and i am hurt that Jenny wld believe that I wld use such a disgusting handle.

It is also quite hurtful to see that spikedcylinder has no qualms using stuff i told her in confidence as ammo in her very public attack, name calling only hurts when the person under attack is ashamed of who they are. I am over all that drama anyways, i made a mistake, fixed it as best i could and moved on, simples!

again, that Hotmess person isnt me plix,

as you were

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you'll need to modify them for nigerian climate,  materials most especially. . . it sickens me when pple import designs that were specificaly designed for other regions, materials and all, with no regard for wether they work, are actually livable or not.

YAY!!! this thread has ben resumed

Busy_body:

Happy new year sis, where have you been

Happy new yr to u too. . . been around, real life just got in the way of everything for a bit

I cant be bothered with d askin. . . d only person i ask anything is d person in question, i take his word. . . that is until i catch him in a lie, then we hav a problem

I think people fall inlove with the idea of such a person. . . if u r lucky, ur idea and reality will be a match. If not, a meeting is all dat is required to destroy that idea and extinguish d love

To each his own

it depends on what is being vesseled  

spoilt:

I don't blame the men, i blame the women who enable them. You really can't change a person with such views but you can stay the hell away from them. Rather Seek out those who have the virtues you desire.

some women believe they will cure o change them, all d while letting themselves to be uses. . . it can happen and u dont even knw its happening till its too late

its nuthin new or particuarly special. . . did she expect him to dump his wife and marry her. . . i cant believe women still fall for that trick.

she's old enough to raise a child so she shd go for it. . . she isnt getting any younger and d guy might hav a change of heart, or not.

it is easy to say stuff like "an ex is ex for a reason" but in reality it would depend largely on why u broke up in d first place and how much individual growth and the changes that hav occured.

sometimes its a case of just not being ready. . . i hav seen situations where breakups hav actually help relationships grow stronger. . .  ofcourse when u hav to breakup more than once, then d writing is on d wall

Busy_body:

What is the point of seeking closure in order to understand what went wrong in order to accept what happened, if like Sisi Jinx rightly said that finding out what led to the breakup will not reduce the pain, which if i might add might even intensify the pain.

and i repeat, closure isnt about reducing the pain. . . getting to d point where u r seeking for closure means u knw its all over, closure is about moving on and not having those unanswered, whys? ifs? and whats?. some people like to knw! its just so u'll hav peace knwing nothing else cld hav been done

Sisi Jinx:

. . . . is this closure?! Is it? Is it?

Isn't the actual BREAKUP CLOSURE IN ITSELF??!!!!

Being hurt after a breakup is perfectly human. . . . but let's do away with the illusion that finding out what lead to the breakup will reduce the pain.

closure isnt about reducing the pain, its about understanding what went wrong in order to accept what has happened.

depending on the kind of breakup, there a almost always unaswered questions. . . most espeially in scnarios where it came eas a surprise. its finding satisfaction in knowing u did ur best and even if u didnt, u'll knw where u went wrong.

topup:

I'm weird, I don't mind crying, it's a form of relief. Preventing unecessary grieving. . what is unecessary grieving, it's all relative? Am I the onl one who finds trying to put up a defense and protecting myself from all the what ifs in the world, quite a lot of work, and would rather invest in learning how give my all and accept whatever comes afterwards. Not trying to predict a thing but to enter into everything with hope and with a little naivety.

cldnt hav said it better myself, worrying is too much stress jare. . . i'd rather risk it and give my all. . . it feels all d better when it goes right!

there r guy like that oh. . .  my friend, married her 23 yr old bf, she is 2 yrs older and has 2 kids now (she just turned 27). they were both still in sch, his father bought them a house and they were on an allowance.

some pple r more comfortable expressing themsleves in writing. . . mayb if u give him more time, plus rather than replying his text with a text, u cld call him instead and help him get comfortable talking to u

annekix:

aww men,

don't u hate it when radio stations play songs and don't announce the titles at the end!!!!!!

i'm like ''Cmon !!!! whats tha frigging name !!!!! damn u radio dj!!!!, damn u!!!''


i take God beg una, make u una try harder, for the love of music!

LMAO. . . I knw how u feel jare . . . googling d chorus cld help if u knew d exacvct words, i do that sometimes

i love my food super spicy. . . my pepper tolerance is very high and i love that bruning sensation.

that said, not all food r meant to be spicy, there is an annoying habit by alot of nigerians to just pour pepper into anything they r eatng which is very wrong. some foods need no spice at all and adding anything will kill d natural flavours

Don_Ese125:

@hot,when u say ethnic styles,do you mean natives?

not natives. . . i mean styles inspired by ethnic clothng. . . they r usually quite loose and comfy without being too boyish, stuff that look like caftans, tunics, kimonos etc. u dont feel too dressed up in them, but they look unique giving u ur own personal style.

for jeans, u cld try slouch/boyfriend jeans (a personal favorite). . . they r d best of both worlds really. . . they feel rather baggy and comfy but r flattering to d female form.

u can keep ur baggy tshirts but u shd be pairing them with pedal pushers and fitted cargo pants

Muza:

u gurls need to understand that this guy is not just like another guy,he is a close family friend,
and she wouldn't want to see him ruined.

If she see that her friend is not good enough or doesn't deserve him,
she should just spill the beans.

that doesnt give her d right to butt into 2 pples relationship. . .  he needs to stay out of it.

at best, she shd try to convince her friend to come clean, but it really has nothin to do with her!

whatever u do, stay out of it!

its not ur secret to tell

Pataki:

Guy your excesses is seriously enough. You can throw your punchlines as much as you want, but never look down on a person simply because of their body weight.

It is totally wrong and callous to do such.

Kindly curb your excesses.

it is eh?

to trap girls eh?
u wonder why u r still single. . .

if u consider the fact that a gift was picked out especially for u and the thot behind it. . . giving it away signifies that u didnt appreciate d effort. . .  thats why regifting is seen as such a taboo.

but when u also consider that not much thot is put into gift buying these days anyways, u cld justify regfting. . . i do it, as long as no one can tell and i am sure the gift giver wld not notice that i dont hav it anymore.

i wldnt advise it if it was, say a lamp given by ur mum. . . she obviously wld notice if it wasnt in ur house and worse still, if she recognises it in someone elses.

alot of thot needs to go into regifting, many feelings cld be hurt if it isnt done properly

Tom Cruise lost credibility with d whole scientology-Katie Holmes-couch jumping debacle. . . he's more of a joke now while will has been making mor serious movies