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[quote author=j-girl link=topic=202720.msg3172506#msg3172506 date=1228249375]Abi o!
Oooooh! I just saw you have a different version of my siggy. Copycat!

It's sad. Parents should bring up their children with better morals. These days when divorce is too common, children go out seeking for love elsewhere and get themselves in all kinds of situations. [/quote]I think d major factor is that most nigerian parents tend to avoid d sex talk and leave their kids to learn frm tv, music and frm their equally ignorant friends. how many pple rember having d sex talk with theor parents? its not sumthin that sits well in our society creating d gap for all kinds of crap to get in

Quit trying and it will come. . .

if u keep focused on getting married is preventing u from having fun, relax. . . as cliche as it may sound, u find love whenu least expect it

Ben20001:
U mean Tgirl should change the topic to. . . Nairaland interwiews??

_{i can't stop laugheeeeen}

she knws what i mean

she's got issues with self confidence!

love or no love, no one shld be treated in such a manner

Janeesa:
ABSTINENCE IS THE KEY NOT CONDOMS!!!! CONDOMS don't DO SHIT, THEY ARENT EVEN 60 PERCENT SAFE TALK LESS OF 80!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


ORIKINLA, IS THERE ANYTHING I COULD DO TO HELP? I WANT TO GO TO NIGERIA AND SPEAK ABOUT ABSTINENCE!!!

talk is cheap!

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=202679.msg3172382#msg3172382 date=1228247488]If shes fine, abi?? Ofcourse I'll take her serious.
Infact I'll be very interested in a chick who is that bold.
As long as it is not all about a one night stand/quickie or for me to be her toyboy, then I am absolutely in.[/quote]If she is ugly nko?


@ topic
only real men can handle that scenario. . .

I like to make the first move, sometimes only to prove that i can. it makes things easier too because any man who can't handle it probably is narrow minded and suffers frm ignorance in d first place. . . saving us both d trouble of even trying

Deshannel:
@Hotness
If u two 're still so cool as Ex. Y did did u break up with him.

I understand being friends wit u ex but BESTFRIEND hmmmmm.

nuthin wrong with being best friends with d opposite sex or with ur ex. . . we were friends first and we got along great. . . we totally understand each other and hav d same interets, we can hang out with each other for days and not get bored. it is rare to find someone who u can be totally open with.

@ topic
say they were friends first befor d guy got into a relationship. . . u cant honestly expect him to end the friendship just like that. it is really rare to find someone who gets u completely and sometimes thats all it is, it doesnt always hav to get romantic and while i can understand how ur friend feels, she has to rember the best friend was there b4 she came into d picture

whatever happened to adoption?
ther r so many children without parents out there, this cld be a chance to make a difference

Akinagirl:
That statement right there got me thinking. Why can't he just hang out with his girlfriend like he does his best friend. When he said that, it almost means hes not even giving his girlfriend a chance to become compatible with him because hes too busy hanging out with his best friend. And sometimes that can lead to them being lovers. I believe to have a strong relationship, you need to be friends first, everything else is secondary. So your friends might want to check that. I would be kind of worried about his statement. Easy to drift when there is no friendship and no compatibility.

Absolutely. . . for me it is important that we r friends and can do stuff togther. . . if we cant hav fun, as in regular everyday fun and just hang out, then ther is no point in having a relationship. the sad part tho is that when such a relationship ends, the friendship and d closeness remains. . .

I am best friends with my ex and when he is a relationship we actaully make an effort to stay apart as much as possible as it makes it awkward, esp with his girlfriend. It is really hard to end or cool off on a friendship that has had ages to grow so it wld be almost unrealistic to expect him to end it. Ok d pose in d picture was a tad insensitive but d girlfriend isnt completely blameless, she shd at least make an effort to share in his interests, or these kinds of situation wld arise. she cant hoestly expect d guy to cut off his best friend without being available to taker her place?

the problem is that many pple dont understand a tattoo is a long term committment. . . u hav to be absolutely sure u want it and it has to mean sumthin (ur boyfirend deosnt count as relationships end)! the pple who end up regretting them r the ones who go and get them on a whim and/or just becos its in vogue. . .

are we still sticking to celebs here or its now down to anyone who gets bullied agrees to giving d interview? 

wow MC. . . great pics

i am all for d pixie myself. . . I had a disastrous cut about 2 months back. . . but with a few extensions, i look fab

smooooooth:
shegirl & h.r hotness

i think God got your specifications

he is moulding the men right away

i just hope you 2 wont be too old

by the time he is through with making the men

with all the specs you requested.

dont worry. . . i can be very patient when it comes to certain things

I found a list on d net ages ago which i adopted and modified. . . I think it covers all d bases 

1. God-fearing: Spiritual but not fanatic

2. Driven: Ambitious, focused

3. CHEMISTRY

4. Social: Friendly, not necessarily an extrovert, its ok if he's quiet too

5. Intelligent: Knowledgeable on wide range of subjects, searches to increase knowledge. . . I do hav a thing for geeky types

6. Professional: Succeeding and enjoying chosen career.

7. Tons of Character: Kind, humble, virtuous and honorable. Respectful.

8. Generous heart: Helps others, serves community

9. Sense of humour. Funny and fun-filled. Able to laugh at life.

10. Respectable: No shady bizness, aka Drugs, guns, gambling etc.

11. Healthy: D& free, tested for HIV and STDs

12. No kids from another. No baby mama drama. (I'm pretty flexible on this for d right guy tho)

14. Stimulating conversationalist

15. Income higher than my own (this is strangely important)

16. Supportive and inspiring

17. Romantic but not mushy. . . can't stand mush!

18. Loving: Capable of deep emotions. Loves me more than himself. (I know, this is a bit much but a girl can dream tho )

19. Passionate about life, I am so he has to be

20. Family Oriented

21. Can handle an opinionated woman and will not give in easily during an argument.

22. Adores and is adored and respected by my family (this is easy, my mum is a doll)

23. Enjoys music, the arts, activities and going out (its ok if he isnt crazy about it but he shdnt hate it either)

24. Enjoys playing vidoe games (i'm not willing to give up on that because i am in a relationship or get married)

25. Respects and treats women well. This includes, mom, sisters, me and others

26. Not given to irrational behavior, harsh words or deed. Not violent (I reserve the right to be irrational, he doesnt)

27. Very good at communicating his thoughts and feelings and all else (I don't read minds so i shdnt be expected to)

28. Can save and invest. Financially secure (important because i am shit at saving)

29. Can adapt, appreciate and accomodate the Nigerian community

30. Has realistic expectations for me and of me and helps me to reach them.(We r human with flaws, I can accept him he has to accept me)

31. Computer literate

32. Organized and neat (not anally so tho)

33. Knows how to cook more than pasta, fried eggs and plaintain. (I love to cook but its sexy if my man can surprise me with dinner)

35. Has his own place, seperate from family and friends living there

36. Enjoys travelling and meeting new people

37. Supports my hobbies, nurtures my talents, respects my decisions

38. Fantastic dresser and immaculate grooming

39. Notices and appreciative of the tiniest things

40. Independent

41. NOT GAY, undercover, in the closet, on the down low

42. NOT GAY, double check, just to be sure

43. Emotional baggage from previous relationships has been dealt with and is under control.

MrCrackles:
Dangle a recharge card or a Mr Biggs Turkey leg in her face!!!

_{Gauranteed Result}!!

errrrr. . .  u just made obvious d kinda girls u go for  

Cipriani:
@Tgirl,

Abeg, You don interview HR.Hotness, try make I sabi who she be. I want to hear from the flamingo's mouth.

Flamingo abi?

Classigal:
don't know what I was thinking but went to the gym wtout my sports bra even tho am really endowed in that area. The trainer started me on warm-ups and maybe realised after some jumps that I was jiggly and doubled my warm up time with more ups and downs. By this time I was gettn some excitd looks from guys and embarassd looks from the ladies. Didint know that the black area was visible through my shirt till I looked down Gosh. let me end by sayn I have more sports bra now than regular ones.

LOL

that has to be d most embarrassing one yet

ikamefa:
am talking about the weaves made from real human hair,its sold here per pound 'tis very expensive!

remi weaves r real human hair and very pricey too

myndofgold:
Yeah, i was going to say that too, i have used indie remi and all them $150 a pack weaves, but it still itches. Maybe it's because i sweat from my scalp (is that weird too? ) But that gold bond glue seems like it will do some serious damage to the scalp. Does it have its own remover?

yes it has its own remover, a kind of oil. . . d weird thing is since i started using liquid gold bond, my hair texture has been improved. . .

that black bond pulls at hair roots because it gets gluey when moist and starts pulling on stray strands. . . d gold bond drys up properly and sticks to what it should be sticking to

[quote author=Don_Ese125 link=topic=202409.msg3168446#msg3168446 date=1228173809]@Hr.Hotness,so what am i supposd to do? Walk up to him and say oh hey love,did u know i . . . ? And just to clarify things,i didnt keep a secret from him,i just didnt tell him.[/quote]not telling is keeping a secret. . . no matter how u choose to dress it up, its still d same thing.

consider  a scenario where he finds out about ur sordid past frm somewhere else outside this blackmail (ther is absolutely nothi that is hidden under d sun), do u think he'd ever forgive u. . . compare this to a situation where u come clean, he'll appreciate d fact that u came to him urself. . . if he really loves u, he'll forgive u. . . it might take a while for him to get over but he will.

u'll sleep better at night knowing u hav hidden nuthin, nuthin anyone can use against u. . . and he believ it or not, in due time he will trust u more knwing he has all d details of ur sordid past esp as u told him yourself.

as long as u r not tellin, ther is always a danger of him finding out anyways. . . plus if u give this guy d money now, u hav no guarantee he wont keep comin back for more or he wont spill d beans anyways

chamotex:
C string? no wonder

no wonder what?

iice:
[color=#9900ff][b]Hence why certain things you know that can come to light should first be illuminated by you.[/b]No i wouldn't.[/color]

I agree!

Only pple with secrets can be blackmailed. . . if u keep no secrets and own up to whatever horrible things u've done, u take away d ammunition.

spikedcylinder:
Darn it! I hate Christmas and and the whole paraphernalia!

me too!


@ post

I'll probably be at home watching a crappy movie/tv show and getting drunk or sumthin. . . like i do every yr

[quote author=Charles A. link=topic=201470.msg3157494#msg3157494 date=1227965591]bad girls don't really exist @ poster let me help you point out something you missed i.e "bad girls are big girls and big girls don't cry" well the irony of the quote is I have a lot of bad girl friends you know the typical hot bad girl who is will to ride with chu even when you tell them you are a player but just when I broke their heart they cryed,but I guess the bumping made us all be friends and keep the bumping going.now @ poster all that definition of yours about a bad girl is all wack to me alrite,now here is the deal a typical bad girl is one who's willing to ride with a player,a gangsta,a baron or a man who's illegal.(don't get it twisted)am out![/quote]and yet again another child who cant get over d fact that he can talk about sex without being reprimanded

bluespice:
so what am i?
ive always said it i never fit into stereotypes
not because I'm too odd
but because most stereotypes are borne out of ignorance
no disrespect to anyone please
now lets see?
according to this, i am bad
but these things also show an independent woman
so does being strong willed and independent also translate to being 'bad'?

someones starting to get the gist. . .

problem is whenever pple hear d term "bad girl" they immediately think of sex. . . a bad girl simply doesnt stick to conformity, who plays by her own rules and goes for what she wants. _{i dont even knw why i bother}

michelin89:
There is nothing bad in the bad girl's description if you noticed. It's just labelled so because it doesn't conform to the norm.

thank u

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=202144.msg3163691#msg3163691 date=1228091208]You are very stupid!![/quote]https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/24.gif

I touched a nerve didnt I?   . . . thats what d truth does to u

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=202144.msg3163657#msg3163657 date=1228090643]I expect my gurlfriend to FIGHT for me. . . .[/quote]ofcourse u wld. . . those r d kinds of girls u roll with, ghetto hoochies  


@ post

for two girls to fight in such a manner only shows how fragile their friendship was. . . there were prbly deep rooted insecurites and envy present b4 d guy came along. . . he just provided a reason for them to scratche each others eyes out. I can let myself get so low

bacterium:
Who is Brash? Freind of my baby Mr.Crackles? If so tell him so he will tell my baby #1!!!!!!

https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/24.gif Priceless!

The Police is ur friend!