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so u think inviting a bunch of total strangers to ur party is d way to go?

i think i might knw what might work for u. . .

I take it u like comfort but would still like to appear somewhat feminine and fashinable? if thats d case, i'll need sometime to put ome ideas together

hav u ever considered layers? and what r ur feelings on ethnic styles?

MrCrackles:
Chei Topup don come back with essays!

lol

the point of this thread was to fig out what i wanted but a few good points hav been made

@ cayon,
d only reason i hav this problem is that i havnt knwn him long and well getting to knw him was where d big issues were. . .


@proo212
i kind of came to those conclusions myself and decided to play it his way. . . i'm not ready for anything long term at d moment and i kind of freaked out when i thot my emotions were getting d best of me.

i guess d point of this thread was just to vent. . . its all under control now. even tho i still don't knw where all this is heading or even if its heading anywhere, i'm resigned to just enjoying myself like i always do and even enjoying my emotional conflict

ok, this is an area i do have some experience in!

I take it u r definitely sure u want more? becos if u dont, my advise will be useless to u. if u only think u like him then this isnt d step for u but if u r, then u hav to decide for urself first of all if u r willing to settle for less. . . u shd first make d decision wether u r willing to continue hanging around if he doesnt want more! u r basically going to put him in an either or situation and u shd be fully prepared to walk if it doesnt go ur way.

that decided, u r going to hav a long chat with him. if u r really good friends like u say then this shdnt be a problem. sit him down and tell him how u feel, let him knw u r not satisfied with ur relationship at d moment and want more. . . u shd gauge his reaction and being as close as u say u r, u shd knw when he feels uncomfortable with the direction this is going. if he does feel uncomfortable, u shd prepare urself for the worst but go ahead (sometimes a guy panics anyway when put in that situation). what i am trying to say is u ask him out! pls note that u shd make no mention of love or get overly emotional, u shd approach this very rationally. . . u get along great, d sex is good and u see no reason why both of u shdnt be mutually exclusive.

if he takes a cue and opens up, u r home free, even if he says no, he'll at least let u knw what he feels and u can take it frm there. . . if he however squirms, u shd be prepared to accept that he viewed u as another convenient lay, u r not satisfied with that so ur friendship will be majorly jeopardised!

it is a brave step but one i hav taken twice myself, i lost once but i never regretted d decision. . . afterall i'd rather knw ther isnt any hope than stay there pining for what might never be

keep on dreaming bruv

yes. . .

as long as u go about it sensibly. . . not starting i "can i meet u?" threads and stalking

davidylan:
best movie ever - games men play (nollywood)

u're kidding right?

4 Play:
It's a well written movie about a love affair in a disaster that had historical basis. Yes, I agree they laid on the cheese a bit too much - particularly the end - but it will move any person that is in touch with their emotion.

thats precisely d reason i wldnt be moved to tears! i save my tears for more realistic tales

4 Play:
But saying it's a movie you loath, that's going too far.

and how is that?

pray tell how the fact that i really detest over hyped, overly dramatic, fantasy cheese-fests is going too far

4 Play:
Excuse me young lady but I found the ending of the movie a bit too soppy.

Karma, you see am? Someone who has a heart, even if she likes the movie a bit too much.

since when has a persons ownership of a heart been determined by thier luv for titanic?  

KarmaMod:
I don't want a heart.

I want violence and crass jokes

throw in some high speed special effects, some blood and gore and u will make me a really happy camper  

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=206172.msg3250977#msg3250977 date=1229820675]Iron man was crap. I was forced to see this. . . .didn't know which part of the movie I started sleeping, but boring[/quote]Excuse me?  
Ok so it isnt everyones cup of tea, but crap, it definitely was not!

As for titanic, i found d whole thing too soppy for my tastes. . .  all my friends were gushing over Leo and i cldnt help thinking how skinny and pre-pubescent he looked

KarmaMod:
Meaning you watched the movie

ofcourse i did!
I am a die hard sex and d city fan. . .  i just didnt subject myself to watching it at d cinema. . .  i got a very impressive knock off and watched it in d comfort of my home, eacting popcorn and making rude comments  

4 Play:
The person who dragged me there didn't enjoy it either. Always best for a man to select the movie.

Awwww. . . lol. I'm sure u'll get over it soon enough 

KarmaMod:
oh shush 4Play. Not like you watch better movies either way. Bet you played dress up right after

Anyway for the most part the series is still better than the movie

The series was def better than d movie. . .  it ended perfectly if u ask me!

4 Play:
Thank God nobody added Sex and the City, I had the misfortune of going to the cinema to watch that. Only male in the whole place, was ashamed of myself but I was coerced to go.

LMAO!
I'm a girl and i refused to get caught by d hype

that crap sounds cheesy. . .

no wonder d number of guys coming here to look for love is on d increase

imitation, they say, is the sincerest form of flattery

Cayon:
Her Royal Hotness:

This is just a test but only if you are single:

Question: When you are around him -does your heart start beating faster, making your body work harder as well as pump blood faster and therefore you breathe faster to get more oxygen and it becomes hard to catch your breath

well it does. . . particularly after certain activites

Cayon:
Also do you get shaky (nervous) when you're around him

I haave to know b/4 i can say what i have to say

Peace

I dont get shaky or nervous, but that doesnt mean my mind is not in havoc


B.T.W I am single. . . so what was it u had to say?

doyin13:
Heavy metal ko

kpangolo ni

no need to b so nasty about it. . .  not everyone likes that ancient high life music u listen to 



@ post

I am a metal head as well and i favour gothic rock, some punk rock and a whole lot of alternative rock. . . recently tho, i find that i'd pretty much listen to anything as long as its got an interesting rhythm and/or beat

Its not my cup of tea in terms of music genre, but i hav been made to listen to it against my will for d past coupe of days and a numbr of track HAVE grown on me.

u both r in way over ur heads. . . u shdnt be worried about such major issues at this age

funny how people r more preoccupied by his feelings or lack of them (even tho no reference was made to this) rather than d problem stated. . .

blush:
@HR
the sex can't be THAAAAT good?

I totally agree. . . with most things anyway

assignment:
If we are emotionally honest with others, it may encourage them to be more emotionally honest. When we are emotionally honest we are more likely not to be asked or pressured to do things which we do not want to do. We will also find out sooner who respects our feelings.

I hav been called all kinds of crazy just becos i let pple knw what i feel. . . I am yet to meet someone who can handle it and appreciates it. . . i ususally get one or d other, and even then i can still see d struggle to accept it as d way i am.

they ususally either brush it aside as d rantings of an insane person or basically not take it seriously. . . it takes some getting used to!

Uncircumcised willies r so hideous. . . if it dont look good, how d hell am i spsd to play with it?

theres nothin more to say really, just remember to stay calm. . . he called, he wants to talk, that is a good thing.

try not to hav any preconceptions or expectations about this meeting, u wont believe the power of preconceived notions and how often they ruin relationships. keep an open mind and be totally honest with ur answers and ur emotions. . . its all about him now, u need to be patient!

he is still dealing and u want it to be as easy as possible so he can move on. don't be tempted to give unnecessary explanations, just tell him what he wants to knw. . . tell him how much he means to u but don't over emphasise it, he'll need to understand for himself how diff it was for u to do this.

i can't think of anything else to add except, goodluck babes. . . i'm hoping it all works out for u 

KarmaMod:
I think jaunty scarves look nice on some people depending on the outfit

in NY you see alot of people wearing sneakers with officewear, of course that's until they actually get into the office hence the huge ass bags.

alot of pple do d sneakers on suit thing here too. . . esp those with crazy commutes. . . u dont want to run in and out of d subway in heels

did he hav to post it twice?

If u work at a bank or somether equally boring establishment. . .  yes
also wher u are and what kind of work u do counts a great deal

i do disagree with a number of these tho,

1. fishnest stockings do add spice to a boring outfit, say a drab dull skirt suit  some are more slutty than others thob

2.  City shorts r increasingly popular theses days, admittedly not suited for everyone, they r increadibly comfy and can be dressed up or down depending on where u work

3. the scarf, altho not a favorite of mine, believe it or not do add colour and feminity to a working girls uniform. . .  just because women r taking on roles in male dominated environment, doesnt mean we hav to loose our feminity and colour in the name of looking professional (i do find that idea rather sexist). again, some people tend to get to d extreme, but really no one should tell us how to dress dammit!

truth is fashion is evolving and no longer do we havto wear a severly strict, dull boring suit in order to look professional. . .  we don't hav to compromise our feminity in order to gain respect. there is nothing wrong in embracing ur sexuality even at work, i don't mean a show of skin and curves, but by dressing up as d woman that u r. 

seriously if i hav to sit behind a desk all day doing boring work, d least i cld do is look good while doing it.