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1. It is possible to be hardworking yet, disorganized. In fact being disorganized makes u work harder than necessary.

If u find it difficult achieving ur results and targets most times despite ur hard work, it may be an indication u are not very organized.

u must learn to plan ur work, prioritize ur tasks and follow through until u finish each task.

Being organized helps u achieve more results with ease, it also takes unnecessary stress off u and puts ur life in order. It guides ur energy deployment and enhance ur sense of responsibility and subject u to proper performance.

2. Speed – Time is short, relative to the number of things begging for attention every day.

ur ability to work very fast on any task is a needed advantage.

u must keep training urself to improve ur speed and accuracy on any task.
Try and speed up the pace of doing things without letting go, accuracy and excellence.

Working faster and more accurately is a capacity u must keep building on a continuous basis.


3. People management – The ability to achieve results through people is one of the most difficult tasks in business and in life.

Understanding people considering their nature, nurture, temperament, exposure and experience is quite key for leadership.

If u can’t lead people, u can’t rise fast in business and career. Maturity, psychology, discipline and objectivity are key elements required to manage people successfully.
These traits u must acquire and keep developing.


4. Communication – The ability to say what u mean and have people understand it as u intended is very important in career and business.
If u’re frequently misunderstood because u are not articulate or eloquent in speech, u will struggle hard to lead.
Learn to speak well, intelligently and clearly.

5. Work-life balance – lastly u must manage ur official and personal life effectively.

It is possible to pass on aggression and frustration from ur personal life to ur official space and vice versa.

Manage ur home well, manage ur work well. Separate both and keep both balanced, this requires training as well, it’s not just by saying.

Dear friend, are u busy building up urself, or u assume it will just happen automatically?

Working hard on urself is the desire and attempt to develop a superior u by learning new things, acquiring new skills and obtaining superior knowledge above what u already have and know.

Doing what u have already mastered efficiently does not empower u with what u do not know and can’t do yet.

u see, many people are too busy with their jobs they neglect to work effectively on themselves.

Working hard on urself is identifying the qualities and capacities required for ur next level and going out of ur way to learn them and master them before it’s time to take on ur next level.

Knowledge is not capacity, reading and mastering from a book how to drive a car for example does not mean u can drive one without the process of acquiring the capacity to drive.

If u truly want to grow in career and exhibit excellent at every stage, it is time to get busy on urself.

In order to qualify for ur next level in career, there are some personal attributes u may need to work on so as not to fail when u eventually apprehend the elevation......

Dear friend, if u live in denial over a weakness or a habit or a flaw, or u're justifying it with an excuse; I'm afraid u will keep losing very good, useful and needed friends.

Dear friends, what we all need right now is a mirror. If u're someone who can't keep good friends, I encourage u today to go seek a mirror. 

A mirror is someone who's quite familiar with u, have been around u a while and u know will not lie to u
about ur person, ur weaknesses and ur mess.

Let that person shine the light through ur blind spot. Listen to objectivity, be willing to accept the truth and have the desire to make a change.

Being subjective and living in denial will eventually mess u up, no one else but u will pay for it, hence it's in ur
interest to find a solution.

Tell urself the truth today, what exactly is ur weakness?

Confront ur weakness and seek help in dealing with it, don't tolerate and excuse a weakness, take responsibility and find real help in dealing with and overcoming the weakness. 

u need good people and useful friends in ur life. 

u definitely can't do it all alone by urself. Chose to enjoy ur journey through life, Do the right thing.

U see, people don't judge u by ur motivation and reasons for a bad habit or behaviour, they judge u and react to u based on how ur bad habit and behaviour
is impacting and affecting them.

When ur bad habit or weakness make u hurt a friend, that friend hardly see a weakness, the friend just sees a cruel person.

People don't judge u by ur motive, intention or weakness, they judge u by the impact and consequence of ur action on them.

They don't see or understand the why, all they see is what u did and how it made them feel.

Let me explain this further, u see good friends don't walk away from someone who told a lie, they run away from a habitual liar.

This is because every one of us, even the best of us, bend the truth once in a while. So people don't avoid people who once in a while bend the truth, they run away from habitual liars.

Good friends don't run away from a friend who betrayed, we sometimes betray trust unknowingly especially when under pressure, people run away from people who are traitors by nature.

Good friends don't avoid friends who drink, many people drink and they are great people, civil people avoid friends who have become drunkards; irresponsible drinkers. There is a difference.

In fact, your lover may not walk out on your relationship if you got distracted and made a mistake at a point, you may actually be forgiven; lovers walk out on relationships when you're a perpetual cheat.

A good friend my not mind if you're a bit frugal with cash and don't like to spend, but they'll run away from you if you still will not spend in matters of threat to life and wellbeing.

People don't run from friends who love to gist and are strongly opinionated, they run away from people who love to argue over every tiny, little unnecessary issue.....

Dear friends, in most cases, people don't just treat people in nasty ways without any reason.

When people are nasty, unfriendly, avoid or disdain u, most times there must be reason for it.

Many times a nasty treatment from a supposed loved one is a reaction not an action.

It may even be based on a character or personality flaw that u have and such a person can't tolerate.

generally in life people love to associate,
we are social creatures, hence, our crave for association is natural.

As true as this is,
people love to associate not with everyone,
but with those that make them comfortable and happy.

We don't just become friends with everyone, we cautiously select those we want to be close to, based on careful selection.

Has it occurred to u there may be a main reason people don't want to be ur friend?

Have u thought of the possibility of it being ur fault people walk out on friendship with u?

Are u consoling urself people leave u because they are jealous of u and can't stand ur good looks, charm or success? 

Maybe it's time to actually relax and try to find out why it seems u can't hold on to any friend or friendships.

When we keep struggling to overcome a weakness and we keep failing, we may eventually become frustrated.

Now instead of seeking for help and support in overcoming it,

many of us give up and suddenly begin to live in denial or make excuses for that weakness. 

We can chose to blame it on anyone or anything;

we reject the responsibility and by doing this, we find that bad habit and personality defect easier to live with simply because we've convinced ourselves it is not our fault.

rejecting responsibility for our bad habit and behaviours simply puts us in the "blind spot zone".

The blind spot zone is when u refuse to see ur fault or take
responsibility for a bad behaviour or habit.

The moment u become indifferent and care free about a nasty habit that can be hurtful to people around

u've zoomed into the blind spot zone.

When ur bad habit of
slander,
gossip,
betrayal,
treachery,
lies,
deceit,
pretence,
cheating,
stealing,
selfishness,
pride,
verbal abuse,
oppression,
suppression,
malice,
greed,
insincerity,
insensitivity,
callousness,
bitterness,
envy,
addiction,
infidelity,
laziness,
profanity
become something u've accepted; and u don't mind, care or try to work on it, u have inadvertently
parked in the blind spot zone......

Ladies and gentlemen,
I'd like to share with u a defect many don't reckon with that is so powerful in frustrating potentially wonderful and rewarding friendships. 

This flaw is what I call "blind spot".
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Using the natural eye as illustration;
A blind spot is an area where a person's view is obstructed. It is that point where an individual finds it very difficult to see.
it is the part of the eye that light cannot penetrate hence, vision is impaired.

As humans, we all have weaknesses, bad habits that can be a turn off, irritating or outright dangerous to the people around us.

These are the questions we keep asking....
Why do some people succeed at what u fail at, .....more popular and loved than u, ...accepted where u were rejected?
Why do u lose friends and loved ones to other people?
Why is ur subordinate been promoted over u to become a boss?

In ur opinion;
u're the best friend anyone could ever have, so why do friends keep rejecting u?

u're a great wife, u love ur husband to pieces, so
why can't he appreciate and reciprocate?

u're the best husband any woman could dream of, so why can't ur wife respect or appreciate anything u do?

u're the best boss any employee should want to work with, so why are ur subordinates full of complaints?

u're the best subordinate any boss should desire, so why are u always having problems with ur superiors?

u're doing the best u can, yet life keep hurting u.

People pick on u easily, they antagonise, criticise and judge u.

They re hardly patient with u and u feel disrespected and disdained on most occasions.

some, its silent treatment, they just keep looking at u, no matter what u say or do, they hardly react or respond. They are comfortable ignoring u.

u can hardly tell where they stand when it comes to u or ur matter.

U re now confused, unsure and exasperated.
Ultimately, u become tired of trying to make people love/appreciate or accept u.
u chose to just ignore and be by urself. Hmmm......

Swinger60:
No, no emotional attachment.

A petty person is petty person. irrespective of gender.

like I said before, I have seen a man stripped his wife of her wrapper in full glare of everybody, in the name of he bought it for her.

when I gift someone something, I don't care how you use it.

You said she is a hoe? for a date in an eatery center? was she caught smooching the guy in the eatery? So, eatery center is now a hotel in Nigeria?

According to the bolds....

The one petty here is the lady in question from a logical stand point

Common, you won't give a gift of food that is well prpared by you to someone you know will dump it in a bin right in present or spread seeds on a rock simply because you want to sow plants and you don't care where they fall. What happens to giving wisely?

From the guy's act, it might be a reaction rather than an action

like an earlier poster said, she lacks respect and petty at the same time.

TysonsCorner:
The OP is a very big foooool!!!! There is noting like "drove the military Aircraft"

Must you insult to correct.....? Nawa for u o.

Annogbe:
runs plus yahoo equals death

How could you ascribe her death to runs.. ...after reading she left home so early cos of her exam?
Fear God o.....

CalliDora1:
That's just the truth. Once you observe she's not into you, make a U-turn because there's always that person she's wishing it were. As for you, you'll never enjoy your being with her.

I agreed in totality.

think the lady in question likes him more than love.....

Let me explain this....

It is possible to be in LOVE with someone and dont LIKE the person and vice versa. you can also have both for the same person

LOVE is powerful hence it has the power to override LIKE or DISLIKE.

For example; it is possible to dislike someone because you think he/she is loquacious, that trait you dislike base on your personality type maybe what aonther person love and appreciate about him/her.


LOVE comes from the heart.
LIKE or DISLIKE comes from logical conclusion. Is more of consequences of interpretation of what the person do or don't do, behaviour, tendecies and reputation.

LOVE is absolute.
LIKE/DISLIKE subjective.

My opinion.

CalliDora1:
There must have been somethings you observed that made you conclude she doesn't really love you as much you love her and she also confirmed it by this statement. To me this is a huge red flag and you should tread with caution.

As a woman I can tell you that if a womans love is less, she'll treat you anyhow in marriage. Take it from me. That is why I can't afford to marry a man I don't love 100%. Ill treat him anyhow and i'm being sincere here.

conspicous truth from a lady

Ushiesunday:
This boat capsized on Sunday.... On their way for a church program.
And nairaland are reporting it today.

The eldest person among them Sani Shadrach was a coursemate and a friend.

A graduate of History and diplomatic studies federal University wukari. Served in Ondo state.

Can't stop crying for your demise Shedy. We love you but God love you most.

RIP
from Ushie Sunday A. Your coursemate and a friend.

eya sori

RIP to the dead

this is evil

illiteratepmb:
She may be carrying bomb under the hijab.

guy, you funny o

illiteratepmb:
She may be carrying bomb under the hijab.

guy, you funny o

MariaLavina:
Not the typical Nigerian Man.

ok. good morning

MariaLavina:
By self esteem you mean ego right?

Many Nigerian men have nothing to offer in a relationship aside Money.You want to make a Nigerian man feel worthless, then don't ask him for anything , spend your own money. He either accuse you of cheating, not loving, not being submissive and then breaks up with you for a depending leech.These ladies they can easily control to do their will by restraining financial flows.

Most Nigerian men feel threatened by independent /successful women because they have their own money to spend.You can't tell them what to do you can only admonish. A typical Nigerian Man is a power drunk egoistic fool.

is your dad not a Nigerian man?

Burger01:
Police Arrested You And Collected Your Phone, A Text Message Came In Saying; "Abeg If You Dey Come... Buy Me One AK-47 And 4-Bullets Make We Take Do Night Things".

How Do You Explain To The Police That Your Friend Meant A Vodka(AK-47) And 4-Energy Drinks (Bullets).

To Make Matters Worse, Your Friend's Name Is ROBERT But You Saved It As ROB-1
What Will You Do To Convince A Nigerian Policeman

the guy don enter one chance bi that o!

spirul77:
may we never be at the right place the wrong time

amen!

congrats