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Crime / Re: Man Arrested For Touching Girl’s Breast In Lagos by hvq229(m): 6:00am On Aug 21, 2015 |
boboLIL: touching the girl's breast doesn't make him a pedophile. This is not just true in Nigeria but everywhere if we want to do something seriously about rape and child molestation we need to stop labeling everybody a pedophile. Doesn't mean the man didn't do wrong and shouldn't be properly punished--but a pedophile -- probably not -- that's not how they operate. A rapist more likely but how rapists who prey on children and pedophiles operate are quite different. Pedophiles gain and then betray the trust of their victims-- rapists often don't bother with gaining the trust of their victims-- they just attack. Pedophiles don't see anything wrong with what they do -- it's society which has got in wrong and unlike rapists who seek power over their victims the pedophile sees himself as and identifies with his victims. Pedophiles identify with their victims and blame society. Rapists identify with society and blame their victims Can they be both? yes. but mostly they're of a different breed--both are evil but one tends to be more violent-- the rapist |
Family / Re: ''What Should I Do? My Child Steals From Everyone'' by hvq229(m): 9:26pm On Aug 19, 2015 |
Here is what I would do Let all past incidents go. don't punish him for them but make it clear to him stealing is morally wrong and if he steals again he will be punished Pray for him, provide him with guidance and counseling if would help him Let him know in return for meeting expectations which would include not stealing he will gain certain rewards such as more trust and privileges Inform him of consequences if he again steals-- which would include corporal punishment as well as loss of privileges and trust If you flog him combine it with other tools of discipline |
Celebrities / Re: Vivian Okyere: Pastor Advises Actress To Use Her Big Buttocks To Win Souls by hvq229(m): 7:37pm On Aug 17, 2015 |
if the girl feels guilty about men glaring at her buttocks maybe she should stop showing them off |
Romance / Re: Uncircumsed Ladies And Sex..truth Or Myth by hvq229(m): 3:51pm On Aug 17, 2015 |
been reading about this subject-- used to be in America a teenage girl caught self servicing would have her clitoris burned. But then I've also read removing the clit enhances sexual pleasure. |
Politics / Re: Photos Of Girls' Virginity Publicly Tested Before Choosing A Wife For Swaziland by hvq229(m): 3:40pm On Aug 17, 2015 |
plendil: I could deal with the screaming but would insist on the girl being held down and restrained so she couldn't move before cutting her. And I wouldn't have them lined up in plain sight of the woman getting her clit removed. they can't help hearing the screams but you don't have to make them watch it |
Romance / Re: Reasons Why Circumcised Ladies Do Not Enjoy Sex by hvq229(m): 7:51pm On Aug 16, 2015 |
afolwalex20: People who want to deal with this issue should understand it is deeply rooted in cultural tradition dating back-- perhaps 10,000 or more years- that the term female genital mutilation is extremely inflammatory and it is the description first adopted by radical American feminists back in the 1970s and has since been adopted by many Western governments and activists as a propaganda and fund raising device. Social scientists and other more objective observers prefer the phrase female genital cutting- a much less inflammatory description One of the current myths being perpetuated against the practice by both Islamophobes and radical Islamic clerics for substantially different reasons is that the practice is a tenet of Islamic faith. It's not. The practice predates Islam by thousands of years; it is not part of the cultural tradition in many Muslim territories outside of Africa. In Africa it's practice occurs fairly equally among Muslims, Roman Catholics, Protestant evangelicals, and indigenous religions. One area where there seems to be a substantial difference among the different faiths is among better educated and more affluent women. Among these women--Muslim women are much more likely to be circumcised. Among less educated and poor women there really isn't much difference between the different faiths That radical Muslim clerics and better educated and more affluent Muslim women are embracing female circumcision and again not entirely for the same reasons may be explained as a reaction to Western attacks on Islam I think the answer to this practice is increased education about the risks as well as the benefits (the risks are real-- the benefits mostly perceived What should be avoided is ethnocentrism and what should be embraced is a respect for self determination among the people of a community. If a community can be persuaded to and wants to ban cutting-- fine. If it wants to continue the practice then it should be made much safer then it currently is in most areas where it's practiced |
Crime / Re: My Cult Encounters –girl, 16, Recounts (Pictured) by hvq229(m): 2:55pm On Aug 16, 2015 |
Laurence1: because this child went there voluntarily and didn't report it to the police does not mean she wasn't raped. Even if she voluntarily opened her legs for one or more of the boys doesn't mean she wasn't raped by other boys And just because the girl committed a crime by being with the boys or more precisely by joining a cult is not a reason to excuse rape. Even if she had committed adultery and was scheduled to be stoned it doesn't mean another man couldn't have raped her. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: My Cult Encounters –girl, 16, Recounts (Pictured) by hvq229(m): 7:49pm On Aug 15, 2015 |
ignis: still can be rape |
Family / Re: What Age Did You Stop Bed Wetting? by hvq229(m): 11:36pm On Aug 13, 2015 |
YINKS89: when I was 18 and went away to university. I didn't want the other children in the dorm to ridicule me for it 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Lagos Primary School Proprietor Charged With Rape Of 2 Pupils. by hvq229(m): 11:08pm On Aug 13, 2015 |
easystudy101: If these girls are bearing false witness they each should be flogged |
Politics / Re: Lagos Primary School Proprietor Charged With Rape Of 2 Pupils. by hvq229(m): 10:46pm On Aug 13, 2015 |
We tell our girls their legs are to remain closed at all times until they are married and it's with their husband or when necessary for the purposes of examination, If the little girls are being raised, supervised, and cared for properly a pedophile will have to force them into being defiled--most pedophiles don't want to be bothered-- a rapist will find a challenge in it but not a pedophile-- they'd rather deal with the easy targets- the little girl who isn't getting proper training at home, not being supervised well, or cared for-- girls who will open their legs for the pedophile without being asked to These pedophiles operate too easily because the children aren't immunized properly against them--by not getting good training, guidance, supervision, and care from their parents and guardians. This pedophile if he's guilty should be hanged-- does the law allow it? but it's better for girls not to be defiled and to receive any necessary treatment, rehabilitation, and correction when they are defiled |
Romance / Re: (photos): King Of Swaziland Publicly Test Girls Virginity Before Choosing A Wife by hvq229(m): 8:43am On Aug 13, 2015 |
Crieff: the ceremony can be in public. The inspection of the women's genitals needs to be done in private |
Family / Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by hvq229(m): 6:10am On Aug 13, 2015 |
baloney: My wife tells me our oldest girl tells her the boy she's been opening her legs for is heavily into porn. I said to her that's a good reason we flogged her and why she's not going to the same university as the boy This boy got spanked and another boy led him into it-- sending him to a different school is a good idea |
Crime / Re: 15-year-old Loses Eye After Flogging By Step Mother (pictured) by hvq229(m): 10:59pm On Aug 12, 2015 |
Firevinci: that's what happens when you do something in anger and haste and without getting the child into the proper position to receive correction. |
Family / Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by hvq229(m): 11:23pm On Aug 11, 2015 |
ConfessionsNgr: I think you need to ignore his wishes and inform his father. You spanked him for it and took his laptop. Give it back to him. Set clear rules about how and for what he uses it. Supervise him when he uses it; monitor it and don't do it behind his back and as he gains your trust relax the level of supervision |
Family / Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by hvq229(m): 11:17pm On Aug 11, 2015 |
if this has been going on for some time and the child has been clearly warned about using the computer to look at porn and no other efforts at education, training, and guidance have been persuasive than a flogging may be required. Right now it doesn't seem quite the time yet to have to flog him. Probably now what is needed to take the computer away from and if he needs it for school-- supervise him while he is using it and do so until he shows he can be trusted One thing you must be careful of is that the spanking itself doesn't reinforce the child's attraction to porn. |
Crime / Re: Man Abducts And Rapes Neighbour 14years Old Girl For 3 Days by hvq229(m): 9:11pm On Aug 11, 2015 |
that she was abducted and was being held against her will even if she was an adult it would be hard to sustain a claim she had consented to the sex. Even if she did consent she would have to be seen as being under duress. And that is with an adult victim. With a child it's compounded and combined with her status as a minor If the elements for forcible rape can be proven combined with the fact the victim is a child under the age of 21 and under the age of 18 combined further by the fact she was abducted and held against her will-- which also should help corroborate forcible rape claim-- the man should be hanged 1 Like |
Family / Re: Pls Discuss. Does Beating A Child Make Them Live Right? by hvq229(m): 8:42pm On Aug 11, 2015 |
flogging, caning, spanking whatever it is or you call it-- it's not effective nor appropriate when it's all you rely on when training, guiding, educating, and raising a child. When we prepare a girl to be flogged we make sure she is made aware she is being punished for wrongful behavior-- behavior she knew was wrong but chose to do it anyway. It's not to teach her good behavior. She knows or should know what that is. We've trained and guided her on such things. It's punishment and it's sometimes necessary |
Family / Re: Pls Discuss. Does Beating A Child Make Them Live Right? by hvq229(m): 1:19am On Aug 11, 2015 |
cococandy: the reason it doesn't work is too many parents and guardians use corporal punishment inappropriately and/or ineffectively. I don't flog a child unless she has been willfully and wantonly engaging in immoral conduct; has been clearly told the rules and expectations for her to follow and has chosen to disobey them, or when other means of guidance and correction haven't worked. And when a child is flogged is told clearly and without doubt why she is to be punished 1 Like |
Family / Re: Pls Discuss. Does Beating A Child Make Them Live Right? by hvq229(m): 8:14pm On Aug 10, 2015 |
Pamelayoung: I have only had to deal with teenagers -- all of them girls. After you have provided them with instructions, guidance, education and with clear rules, boundaries, and expectations- and those things are clear and understandable-- and the teenager is willfully or habitually disobedient or engaging in behavior which puts her in moral or other danger then it's the guardian's duty to flog her It is important the girl knows and can understand why she is being flogged-- that when she cries from the pain of the lashes being laid on her back she'll associate it with the wrongful behavior for which she is being punished. After the flogging she will need additional instruction and guidance to lead her back to the proper behavior 2 Likes |
Crime / Re: Woman Declared Wanted For Lesbianism In Lagos by hvq229(m): 9:05pm On Aug 09, 2015 |
Emilokoiyawon: I much prefer to stone a woman for adultery then to punish her for being a lesbian |
Crime / Re: Woman Declared Wanted For Lesbianism In Lagos by hvq229(m): 8:53pm On Aug 09, 2015 |
as long as she is not doing it with a child-- a girl under the age of 21 then there should be no problem with it. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: SOME CULTURES? King Mswati Publicly Test Girls Virginity Before Choosing A Wife by hvq229(m): 7:34pm On Aug 08, 2015 |
niceprof: won't do any good. |
Family / Re: Swear If You Never Did This: Why Then Beating Ur Kid For It? by hvq229(m): 7:19pm On Aug 08, 2015 |
Circumstances have made it so I've only had to deal with teenage girls and there have been times when I've had to flog them. But I do believe children should be given space to experiment, to try things out, for discovery, to grow, and to mature. Most of the time when they stray too far away from what is acceptable and appropriate a child can be given guidance and advice. But there are times when a child strays too far, won't abide by the instructions of her guardian and places herself at serious and unacceptable physical and moral risk |
Family / Re: At What Age Is It Right For A Girl Child To Have Her Personal Phone? by hvq229(m): 7:37am On Aug 08, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: that's not the clinically correct definition of pedophilia. to label anyone who has sex with teenagers and adolescents as a pedophile is just perpetuating ignorance which isn't helpful. In fact not every man who has sex with a younger child is a pedophile. Doesn't mean I approve of an adult man have sex with a 13 year old girl--I just refuse to use prejudicial terms in a false and malicious way |
Family / Re: Spare The Rod - Spoil The Child by hvq229(m): 7:23am On Aug 08, 2015 |
winner01: I've dealt with teenagers all of them girls and they get flogged when they need to be |
Crime / Re: How Teenager Killed 4-year-old Boy In Lagos, Removed His Kidney And Intestine(ve by hvq229(m): 4:13am On Aug 08, 2015 |
will they hang him? They were going to hang a 14 year old girl a few months ago for poisoning 4 or 5 people |
Family / Re: At What Age Is It Right For A Girl Child To Have Her Personal Phone? by hvq229(m): 4:04am On Aug 08, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: no he's not-- pedophiles have no sexual attraction to 13 year old girls. The correct term for a man whose primary sexual attraction is to a 13 year old girl is HEBEPHILLIA-- a pedophile's interest in children ends when a child reaches puberty. A 50 year old man whose primary sexual attraction is to a 17 year old girl is a Ephebophillia. The media should start using the correct terms and stop stirring up hysteria |
Family / Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 6:22pm On Aug 07, 2015 |
themanderon: if the 13 year old girl knew she would be soundly flogged if she let a boy/man abuse her vagina she'll think a little harder before she opens her legs |
Family / Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 6:07pm On Aug 07, 2015 |
Filashade: You have set a goal for yourself. Complete your university training, and then to establish your own living situation away from your parents. that should be your parents goal for you as well and they're trying to help you get there. You should know what you need to do to achieve your goals as an adult. A child will want to move away from her parents just to get away from the parents and because she thinks she should be able to open her legs for any man she wants to. An adult will want to move out (from her parents house) because she is genuinely ready to. It sounds to me as if you are not quite grown up-nothing wrong with it. Most university students are still children and should be considered as such--even though they're labelled as adults they're not. |
Foreign Affairs / Re: ISIS Circulates Sex Slave Price List & Executes 19 Girls For Refusing Sex (PICS) by hvq229(m): 4:57pm On Aug 06, 2015 |
Doesn't sound very Islamic |
Family / Re: Spare The Rod - Spoil The Child by hvq229(m): 8:11pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
milychocs: That's because people have a taboo about using the rod of correction on a teenage girl even when her behavior requires it. |
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