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Skullano:
Throw this matter over the bar bros.

Done sir. Thanks.

Skullano:
Just forgive her and overlook her wrong doings please.

okay bro. Thanks. I have deleted her number and also informed her that I have done that so that she does not feel I would contact her again.

We all humans. we will all experienced up and down. What you will never see me do is mock anyone or use their predicament to mock them. I know what I was going through that period when she said those words to broke shame just because she desperately needed something and I could not do it as I had an even BIGGER challenge at that time. This she is very very AWARE OF Despite that, I was being optimistic and promised to fulfill it. I thank God I DIDN'T!

I am grateful I have overcome it and even grown bigger.

There is nothing wrong with rejecting a guy, guys have always been rejected it is nothing new. That was not where I have a problem with her. BUT even if you would turn down a guy, do it respectfully and don't go about saying I can't date you because you have one leg or one eye lol. Do you get it? it wreaks arrogance. Do you know whether you will become someone with one eye or one leg?

Thanks...

Butter12:
I’ve tried , you have no ideal of that boy. 2019 he brought his friends here to start war but I dogged. But how long will he keep harassing me everywhere ? I want him to leave me alone. I can’t be friends with him, is it by force ?

I can’t even create a thread he won’t come and put mouth, then follow up by sending phone sms.

How do you create a thread that hit front page, someone commented... and just because you had issues with him, you singled him out tried to rudely silence him? And in same vein, you cry cos he stood up against taking more of your bullshit. You should have quietly ignored me like I never existed... but you were the one that started quoting me.... then sent me a text to insult me. of course, I already vowed long time ago after that last straw i will never be gentle with you when you move mad. The days I used to that long gone...

Butter12:
Your head no correct too. Fake ass human being. Leave me alone and face your life . The image you presented was that who you are now? Pot calling kettle black .

My best friend has seen me in my worst and good, 6yrs is not 6days. Kind fuvk off. Fake ass. No wonder girls keep running away from you.

now that is funny

Skullano:
Wonderfullllll
Bros, so you know the Op in person..

No be small thing una dey do for this compound ooh

lol.. it was one of those threads where you talk about who like and all that. I no even know say the girl head no correct. the image she presents online is not who she is...

The bestie no know say him dey play with fire should he try to date her. it is best he remains just friend. I know what I am saying.

Butter12:
You have said let the past be the past but you have not let me rest .
Whatever you think I may have done to you I’m sorry and I forgive you too for whatever bad you have said to me.

You are not remorseful of what you said. You just screaming because I have chosen to hit you fire for fire. If I upload all the nonsense you said to me, men here will only blame me because I actually acted like an idiot by trying to be cool.

why don't you tell them that there were cases where I was literally begging you that it is enough. Like the one where we had issues, I apologized that it was enough but you wouldn't stop. You saw my pleading and suing for peace as a weakness... 3 DAYS after that incident, you attacked me again on WhatsApp.. as in 3 days after I had forgotten about it what happened and decided to stay away... you attacked me.

You attacked me because you saw my quietness as weakness, you saw it as a mean to bully me. From 4 pm to 9 pm you kept sending messages... and not once did I say a word on that day. I was just saving everything you said. The next day you used your WhatsApp status to attack me. I didn't say anything and all I did was screenshot everything and saved it.

The day you try to broke shame me was the day you crossed a line.

But same you are here screaming "leave me alone" cos you never imagined that a guy who was once cool could be this mad. This is a lesson to you so that next time you don't take a man's gentility for granted or interpret it as a weakness and have the boldness to insult him.

The weirdest thing is you go about this attitude, not because you have anything that a man can benefit from but just because you have asss boobs and pusssyyy...

How far with the stuff you broke shame me for? where is it? how is it going?

And you are not yet willing to change... are you not the same one planning to buy a 400k phone that I even tried to advise you that it is not the best even when you know your salary cant afford it? And there is a high possibility that it was what you wanted the money from me for which I declined because your desperation was very glaring.

You are uploading pics but you didn't upload one where you called me a fat pig I have never been fat to the point of looking like a pig. I was extremely skinny for most of my life. just small weight WEY I add, you thought it was ideal to use it to body-shame me. lol.. of course, I told you I have shed it off but the sad reality is that there is nothing you can do to increase your height! NOTHING!

Goodluck!

Butter12:
I never knew you are a big liar . Me went berserk for who? And when have I ever told you that I uploaded a pic of a guy cos of you?

You know I still have screenshot of those things you said right? You know I kept them right? AND the one you uploaded now is me referencing where you broke shame me, not the picture you are trying to paint. yes, it was hurtful cos I never believe someone I drew close to could you use such on my person....

And you said those words because I couldn't send money for what you requested for and another guy did it. But it is the same person you broke shame that you wrote long epistle in your bid to get something from him. I declined because I didn't want money to cause a problem between us. I remember also telling you that I can't even add to the long debt that people are owing me.

My friend get out.

Butter12:
All this your plenty post Na for government o. I said I don’t want you anymore , keep your so called friendliness to yourself.

Hope you guys can see he’s the one calling despite I’ve told him to leave me alone ? If you feel someone is after your money , do you call them and call their mother too?

What sort of friendliness is this ? I said I don’t want to be a friend , leave me alone .
The financial aspect isn’t on it cos if you feel a girl is after your money, then you won’t be stalking her. Period !

One: you are rude.

Two: you think being a gentleman is weakness which was why you would attack me for days without be saying anything hurtful in return.

Now unleashed a side of me that you never knew existed, and you called me vindictive.

Three: you love to rate a man based on money in his bank.

Four: you insult men who ask u out and ridicule them behind their back. Hope know you the guy whose picture you sent to me as a bid to inflate your fragile ego. You ridiculed him and his only crime was asking you out. His greatest mistake.

Five: You are a hypocrite. You can't take what you do to others. You forgot u told me that you uploaded pic of a guy cos of me cos u wanted to get at me. And when I did same to you with a girl who is far ahead of you in all ramifications , you went berserk lol. I had to show you your receipt to point out your hypocrisy. Cos u didn't know I kept receipts of all the rubbish u said to me.


No b only you dey mad. Some of us dey keep our own for cooler.

Butter12:
See eh, forget the financial aspect . We both know the reason for your pain was cos I rejected you. Despite the so called financial stuff you keep talking about , I kept rejecting you.

People of nairaland help me to ask him this question..

He said I requested financial help, why does he keep calling and stalking me despite I’ve warned him severally to leave me alone ?

Do you beg a girl who you feel she is after your money to keep in touch with you? To the extent you call her mother without requesting for your calls?

You see his pain? It was the rejections.

Despite it all, I’ve said ok!! I don’t want to be friends with you. Why can’t he leave me alone ?

Okay, when I made that call, did I ask you out again? Like we had quarrel and I came back to ask you out again? Am I mad?

What rejection? I keep harping in where I have a problem with u but you are trying divert attention.

How do you go about broke shaming someone that you are nowhere near financially?just how? And you still wanted to him to give you after doing that?

Why did you persist after he rejected the request and this went on for like 3 days until he told you he can't give to someone that broke shame him, which made you angry and you resorted to calling him vindictive.

You asked first, he rejected.

You asked again, he declined and he told you that money has caused problem which he doesn't want to repeat itself and you got angry...

I am not someone that keeps malice with people for long. I guess your interpretation is that I am trying to ask u out again.

Wrong!

God forbid I will repeat that mistake. God forbid I will want to have anything with any girl from your kind of life background. Cos Na una no get but Na una dey yab men pass.

Rubbish

The boldness though.

Butter12:
He’s forming a hard man here but he goes about begging me via text .
He said I ran. Lolllll.

If you say I ran, why do you still go begging someone who you said ran after your dealt with her ?
Easy with you lies . I have messages you sent me last week begging to talk to me.

I’ve been avoiding you since but it’s like this is how you want the Matter to end here .
Leave me alone . Stop calling and texting me . I use God to beg you.

Whoever sees this now will think I am begging you to date me. But you just want to lie.

You called me toxic when you are the toxic one until I decided to give you back in your own coin.

Butter12:
He’s basically looking for ways to drag up a dead matter here on nairaland.

Despite it all, all I want is peace . I’ve avoided him . I told him I don’t want to be friends with you , leave me alone . But he is going crazy with his obsession with me.

what obsession? Your post made front page, and I clicked to read and only to find out it was you. I commented like everyone else but you chose to be an idiot and insult me. I I already made it clear that I won't ever tolerate your insults anymore.

The day you tried to broke shame me was the day you cross the line. You insulted me for months, while I kept my cool.

You are mad!

Butter12:
Why don’t you tell them how you keep calling me begging me to talk to you?

I’ve rejected you so many times but you won’t leave me alone . Abeg Na only you be man wey dem don reject for this life ?

You didn’t call me names too? Nairaland should come and beg him to leave me alone o. I said I don’t want him as a friend or boyfriend too but he wants to die. He kept calling me and text me since yesterday and note that I’ve rejected him since 2019. He begged me to talk to him and I accepted but he’s a toxic person and I said I don’t want him.

Tell him to leave me alone . I don’t want him. No be by force .

No... stop the lies.

Yes I called, not to ask for anything but to keep a friend lines. Nothing more and there is nothing wrong about that.

Until you made a financial request which I gently declined and you kept pestering and pushing me. I told you how do you broke shame someone and still want them to lend you? Does it make sense?

You persisted cos in your mind, this guy is still a mumu and as such, you wanted to obtain from him cos u thought he still has that likeness that could be used to get things from him.

You didn't like the fact that I reminded you of your crime, you flared up and called me "vindictive"

Calling someone "vindictive" is an admittance that you did something wrong and they chose to revenge.

There is nothing wrong about asking but when you make it look like the other person is stupid, then there is a problem.

Skullano:
I no even reason her matter self

she attacked me after I made that comment. Sent SMS to insult me. I give am back. We have a history and I met her here.

She took my gentility for weakness and insulted me until the day I made sure it has to stop. Prior to that,There was one where she went from 4pm till 9pm sending me insulting messages. I didn't say a single word that day.

That is how crazy this girl is and the bestie does not know this side of her lol.

My crime? Say I ask her out o and was being a gentleman, which she interpreted as weakness and saw it as a privilege to insult me, even upto the point of trying to broke shame me. Why? She made a request that I could not leave my own problem to solve hers. And I made it clear.

So since I couldn't do it, I am automatically a broke guy that she does not want to have anything to do with. You see the kind of greed?

Well, I eventually took off that gentleman cloak and followed her like a thoroughly bred street guy. She ran!

Stupid girl who sees a guy liking her as means to Bill him, cunning thing.

looks like spam bot have you banned. Appeal to the mod and get your assss back in here. bye!

Ginaz:
My best friend is more IMPORTANT than anything you would ever think of in your life .

Important as per what you are gaining from him, right?

Ginaz:
Stalker !!! Leave me alone! I no open thread cos of you.

Like I said FLY... your father does not own Nairaland!

Ginaz:
Obsession is real, you need to see a doctor. Your comments of yesterday were not enough right? Your texts were not enough for you right ? This morning you continued and jumped on a quote that you were not called to say I know what I am doing. If you’re not obsessed, then I don’t know what you are doing which doesn’t make sense . Keep your advise to yourself , I don’t need it .

My bestie is more important to me right now , I don’t have time for dramatic obsession. Leave me alone and stay away from my thread.

What we should ask is, why did you pick me out of everyone giving their opinion and tried to talk me down? Your father does not own Nairaland and I can choose to comment on any topic I so desire you. Fvck OFF!

Ginaz:
Obsession is real, you need to see a doctor. Your comments of yesterday were not enough right? Your texts were not enough for you right ? This morning you continued and jumped on a quote that you were not called to say I know what I am doing. If you’re not obsessed, then I don’t know what you are doing which doesn’t make sense . Keep your advise to yourself , I don’t need it .

My bestie is more important to me right now , I don’t have time for dramatic obsession. Leave me alone and stay away from my thread.

You mean your maga is more important to you now?

Ginaz:
roll eyes
Obsession is real

lol.. fly!

Ginaz:
Kindly leave me alone. Biko. Why is it hard for you to do that ? Leave me alone and stop stalking my life .

who quoted me and tried to be rude on here? no one else but you! even though I ignored you and tried to be cool. And now you are hypocritically shouting "leave me alone" when you were the one that quoted with rudeness...

Your problem is, you always think gentility is a weakness... You think some people being tolerant is a sign of weakness and when the person you tried to bully stand up against you, you start crying.

Na who no know you go take you serious.

Ginaz:
Carry your fake concern somewhere else cos I don’t need it . And quit being a stalker and bothering my life. I’ve kept silent cos I like peace more than anything but it seems your head is blocked or shallow you don’t want to leave me alone .

Stop calling or texting , I don’t need it and I don’t care ,mind your business and stay away.

next time, don't come online to talk to me rudely. In reality you can't try that to my face.

What is my business with how you wish to live your life? I can only advise like everyone does on nairaland. I called cos I do not keep malice lol but you should be bold enough to tell this forum that you broke shame someone that you are no where near financially....

Be bold enough girl... I mean run your hands like you love to do. I intentionally ignored you on here but you chose to want to be arrogant...

i MEAN be bold to tell this forum what you once said to me...

Ginaz:
Your obsession with me is crazy. Leave me the hell alone! What can’t you understand? Should I put a gun to your head before you leave me alone ? All the comments of yesterday no reach you? You don start today for comment wey no concern you. Leave me alone o and stop bothering my life or anything that has to do with it .

Why would I be obsessed with a two face cunning person? For the life of me, the day you broke shame was the day I didn't want to have anything to do with you lol. You drew a line, you overstretch your luck the day you did that. And like you already know, I will never forget those words.

Ginaz:
Your obsession with me is crazy. Leave me the hell alone! What can’t you understand? Should I put a gun to your head before you leave me alone ? All the comments of yesterday no reach you? You don start today for comment wey no concern you. Leave me alone o and stop bothering my life or anything that has to do with it .

OldNairalander:
Dangote again??

lol...

Skullano:
You know him for six years now and you don't know your way around him..

Una two dey joke abeg.

Bros, leave that girl. she knows what she is doing and wants him exactly where she has him.

Women are not as confused we sometimes assume. They are often intentional about their missions in any man's life.

Ginaz:
roll eyes

Ginaz:
I don’t want to lose him as a friend .

Let him go then. He will be hurt for sure BUT he will get over it with time and then, he will never ask again.

cayorday89:
You are right, I was a victim, how she changed after a while I can't explain till today, reason why I asked Ginaz what she was scared of losing, they always feel they will be taking for granted but it's all in their head.. Too much romantic movies I guess despite telling her situations movie actors and actresses are is far from what they portray in movies..

nah.. it has nothing to do with romantic movies. Women are naturally built to be highly picky of whom they want. Most times, if you find out that which they want, it may not be anything that make sense to you.

For them, it often goes beyond being a responsible guy with this or that. You have all the niceness and responsible qualities and still not be what they want as she has clearly indicated.

Now, another guy might not be that responsible but have one thing she wants and she would choose that one over the responsible nice guy. It is how they are wired.

have a girl ever told you that she can't date someone that is does not beat her? lol... bros, it is crazy and you can never be sure of what they want at any given time because, if their emotion is not in sync with you, there is nothing you can do about it.

cayorday89:
And one thing she fails to realize is that, for the guy she is his go to lady, whom he trusts, very free with and someone he can confide in reason why after breaking up with his ex, he must have searched his life and come to the conclusion of dating her rather than looking for what is not lost.. If she had said 3 or 4 negative things about him now, it's a different case but it's all positivity.We could have concluded that he finally wants to reap all that he has sown so far.
@Ginaz,if at all you want to give him a chance it's best you ask pertinent question as to his commitments if it's gonna lead to marriage if you are in for that now or in the near future. You know him best than we all do, it's in your court.

I get but our worlds are different, I mean men and women. From experience, a girl in a platonic relationship can look so good in your eyes that you would think she would make a good partner, then you push your luck and you will see a stark opposite...

The reason is because women are wired different and this one might not be an exception.

cayorday89:
You are the confused one here, it's advisable you get married to your best friend due to so many positive reasons and you have known him for quite a while.. My question is what are you scared of, what will go wrong if you both consolidate the friendship with dating having marriage in view? The friendship has been flawless as you stated above taking it to the next level will make you guys to be able to communicate and trash things out in a friendly manner as it's expected in case of any flaws which is inevitable in every relationship, either friendly, communal,workplace, religious or dating and other forms of relationship.
Give him a chance and it's gonna be the best decision of your life with all the qualities you stated about him.
Except probably you are in a relationship with someone else which you already stated is complicated, try disentangle any complications, think through it all and make the decision which is best for you.
NOTE: You are already scared of losing him if you agree to date him which is like 20% lose, but the fact is if you refuse to date him, there is high chance of losing him 100%..

lol.. you really think it works that way for most women?

She won't listen until another girl that knows his worth snatch him off. Those kind guys wey HARD to find.

Ginaz:
Back off and stay off my thread ! Thanks ! *Roll eyes*

U should have just pretended like I never existed na.. BTW, I called u and u didn't answer. no wahala.

we dey always fight, I know...

Anyway, give the guy a chance. Your cocoant head still dey do this " I don't love easily"? na wa o. That kind man, another woman go just collect am and then guilt will start eating you up...

Jack005:
This guy is a very responsible guy from all what the Op has said.. But I thought we have always been encouraged to date our friends? What else do women want? Nawa

It does not always work. If you stay longer before opening up, you will end up losing.

The young man needs someone better to be candid. women love mystery... not someone they have "see finish".