SINZ:


And you're smart to top it up!

Errh... I would like a bôner from a brilliant super hot chic if you don't mind

The bo`ner might limp all d long run..dis chic is a badass

Divay22:
Hmm....i tried....
All this post,relationship advice are good,but one thing i noticed people don't really implement them,sometimes i wonder why relationships fail, even with the educative,good advice we see online 24/7...

Nice one OP

thanks you..wuojo

SINZ:

Wait, did you say you are super hot?

hmm..just hot enough to give you a boner and make u stutter....lolz

SINZ:
Okay.. I can't believe I just read all that.
This pïmp knowledge will do a lot of good to those hopeless romantics.

woah-intellectual you sir

skillz111:
Is it issue of love that caused a long write up like this love is indeed complicated

yeah..love is so complicated-it kills

PabloOmoEscobar:
It'd be easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than me reading this long epistle

okay

am shortening it..though d messages are repressed

Estharfabian:

Okay, I'll read this but girl, it's way too Long!


.Couldn't you like Cut off a few paragraphs? You'd scare potential readers.

i know only smart and good write up lovers like you wud develop interest in this....with that, am okay

Tiffbuxas:
no bother any bashers nobody will read it
......e 2 long

bookmark and read later....its good for you

Take ur time to read
solution to the conundrum that a lot of guys face: why does it look like girls like guys that don't give a shit about them?
The usual answers are simplistic: girls want what they can't have; aloof guys look like they have higher value; aloof guys seem more interesting or mysterious, etc… All of these answers are right to a degree, but they dont tell the whole story. So I came up with my own explanation:

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Needy Love: Our society exalts love as the greatest good, the pinnacle of human life, etc… But the problem is that our society sees “love” as purely an emotion.
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What our society calls love I call needy love, defined as a set of ultimately selfish emotions including the desire to have sex, the desire for physical affection, the desire for an ego boost, the desire for validation, etc… This is not a complete list, but the specific emotions are not important – the point is that these emotions are selfish in that they consist of YOU wanting something from the other person without regard for what they want.
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There are, of course, other conceptions of love: the Bible (and many other traditional societies) saw love as a contract between two parties that has little to do with emotion. But our society sees love as purely emotion without the accompanying obligation – when your “emotions” run out, you’ve “fallen out of love” and you can go find somebody else with no consequences.
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The emotions that make up “needy love” are our strongest emotions, so needy love hijacks our thoughts and convinces us we have a deep connection with the other person. People don’t think “Wow I am under the influence of a bunch of extremely strong chemicals in my brain” but instead think “this is my soulmate.”
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That is why “love” is the subject of countless poems, movies, love songs, etc… and an object of worship in our society.
Needy love emotions are different for men and women. Women, for example, feel a strong attraction to “confident” men, whereas men, although they like confident women, don’t have the same emotional reaction to confidence. Men, on the other hand, place more weight on physical appearance than women do. Overall, the checklist that has to be satisfied for women to fall into needy love is much longer than men’s, which is part of the reason women take longer to fall in love and are more“flaky".
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The reason relationships are so hard is that just because you feel needy love towards a woman doesnt mean she feels the same needy love back – they have a different process going on in their brain.
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One of men’s strongest needy love emotions is their overwhelming desire for sex right away, so men “fall in love” and emotionally over-invest in a relationship much quicker than women. Thats why men are a lot more likely to be “creepy” than women –their “needy love” emotions activate much quicker. However, the needy love emotions are much stronger in women and once a woman “falls in love” she is much more likely to become clingy and needy.
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Negative needy love: Here is the dark side of needy love: while the needy love emotions make you feel good for a while, they have an incredibly destructive negative component. Feelings of attachment, sexual desire, acceptance, etc…, can quickly change to neediness, depression, desperation, loneliness, anger, resentment, etc… if the person rejects you. Needy love is like crack – the highs are amazing, but the lows are terrible.
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The Greek philosopher Plato wrote that “erotic” love is ultimately dangerous because it makes you irrationally value a person when they like you, and then irrationally hate them when they don’t. As we all know, love can literally drive a person crazy and cause one to become violent, stalk somebody, fall into deep depression, etc… “Love” has ruined countless people’s lives.
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On a subconscious level everybody knows that a person in the grip of needy love is basically insane.
Vicarious emotions Human beings have a weird ability to feel emotions vicariously through other people. For example, if you see a guy get hit by a car, you feel “bad” for him because you FEEL as if you yourself got hit by a car,. You don’t logically think to yourself “oh that must suck to get hit by a car.”. The Scottish philosopher Adam Smith said the basis for human sympathy is the fact that we feel through the eyes of the others. Thats why you oftentimes don’t have sympathy for people experiencing problems you havent experienced.
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One reason needy love so intense is that you feel the other persons emotions vicariously: not only do you feel your own emotions towards them, but you also literally enter their mind and feel their emotions towards you, so being in love is like an infinite loop of emotions. You love them, you feel them loving you, you then feel them feeling you loving them, etc… It’s insane and part of the reason why “love” is such a complicated mindfuck. But beware: YOU CANNOT ACTUALLY READ THEIR MIND SO YOU PROJECT EMOTIONS ONTO THEIR BRAIN THAT THEY MAY NOT HAVE.
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The main point of this article and the reason why women like men who dont give a shit about them is this: Women are disgusted by needy love. If a woman sees a guy displaying the needy love emotions, she immediately become turned off because she vicariously feels that he is becoming crazy.
She knows that the man WANTS something (not just something, A LOT) from her. This puts pressure on her because now somebody's happiness is dependent on her. She knows that he is constantly thinking about her and if she bleeps up even a little (i.e., forgets to call him back, says something weird, etc…)
he will become angry and disappointed. The bleeped up thing is that we Ladies feel all this subconsciously, so they don’t really know why they are getting turned off: they just know that the guy is doing something that is repelling them.
All women have felt needy love before so when they sense it in somebody else they know exactly what is going on.
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However, women feel needy love on a much stronger level than men. One thing I have noticed is that the clingiest/neediest women oftentimes give out the harshest rejections – it makes sense: these women reject guys the hardest because they themselves know full well know what its like to be needy and they know its terrifying.
Also, because the needy love emotions are at the forefront of womens minds,
a woman can sense needy love in a guy when he himself doesnt even see it. Worse yet: super attractive women have so many men fall in love with them that they may assume a man is displaying needy love to them even if he isnt.

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Some women (especially women that get hit on a lot) interpret simple, everyday actions by the guy (having polite conversation, buying them a drink) as insane needy love – remember we said that vicariously feeling emotions doesn’t mean that you will actually know what they are feeling. If you're a super hot girl like me in Nigeria in 2016, you have tons and tons of people displaying needy love towards you: the cashier at the Mall,store, your 15 ex-boyfriends who can't get over you, other girls who are jealous of you/want to be you, etc… A person who is genuinely emotionless towards you is a breath of fresh air.
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Finally, beyond the subconscious level, women are turned off by needy love because needy people are just not fun to be around. They agree with everything you say, don’t say anything interesting/provocative, laugh at all your jokes, and don’t challenge you/call you out on your bullshit. Basically you are useless. Furthermore, people under the influence of needy love act irrationally, talk stupid, act creepy, and display more negative emotions (jealousy, disappointment) than positive ones.
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Please keep in mind that our brains can subconsciously pick up a person acting out of needy love, and the signs are often very subtle. Imagine a person saying “hey how are you”? A person can say those same words as a merely nice guy, but another person acting out of needy love will betray their neediness in their body language, tone of voice, eye contact, etc… On a logical level there is no difference, but your subconscious emotions will be able to pick up that the person is displaying needy love.
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That’s why a lot of guys fail when they pretend to not give a shit – they have to actually not give a shit. It is a very delicate dance to not display needy love – you need to carefully choose your words, and you need to monitor your subject closely to see if you are freaking her out. You can be having an amazing time all night but then the slightest nudge of needy love freaks her out and sends her running.
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The point remains: sometimes even a subtle, slight bit of neediness puts the subject on the defensive. Remember, freaking out over needy love is a subconscious process so she may THINK she like you but she feel revulsion if you are being needy.
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DONT GIRLS WANT TO BE LOVED?
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Well… Not exactly. What women really want is a guy THEY CAN LOVE.As a guy, you need to just get out of the way and let her love you and not say or do anything to Bleep it up. Remember, needy love emotions are selfish, so a girl will send needy love to you all day but then freak out when you send that same needy love back. Of course, girls want certain things from guys, like attention, somebody who will listen to them, sex, etc… Its ok to give those things in the right times and right amounts. But the full panoply of needy love emotions often freaks them out, especially if the guys needy love is stronger than theirs. Another way to put it is this: women want to be loved on a logical level: they want a guy who is attentive, cares about them, isnt needy, isnt selfish, and isnt an asshole.
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Ladies arent impressed with needy love. Also, girls know that the needy love emotions are temporary and wildly fluctuate, so a guy who is under the spell of needy love could easily fall in “love” with another girl tomorrow and leave alone.
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One thing I’ve noticed is that the most “slutty” girls post the most quotes about “love” on their Nairaland profile, Facebook page etc.
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Why is this? They can’t control their emotions and live in a world of needy love, and needy love doesnt actually care about the actual person you love. When somebody else tickles your emotions you move onto them and forget the first person you were needy loving. If you love a girl “logically” you are actually doing her more of a service than if you love her with needy love. Logical love is more solid and pure than needy love.
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So what should a man do? If you want to get a girl to like you, talk to her, be nice to her, joke with her, etc… But just don’t display the needy love emotions. Treat the girl like any other dude you know. Don’t say anything that implies that you “need” anything from her, don’t stare at her too long, don’t follow her around, don’t demand her attention, dont do things for her, etc… If you're out with her, dont make her feel “responsible” for you – make her feel like you could totally walk away and do your own thing and it wouldnt bother you.
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In fact, you should err on the side of slightly being a “dick” because a lot of really hot girls will interpret normal behavior as needy love. It will be hard, because you’ve been taught by society (i.e.,telemundo, romantic comedies and Disney movies) that the way to court girls is to kiss their ass and tell them all about your deep and passionate needy love. And of course your emotions are going to want to make you act needy. Control your emotions! Another danger is that the girl will start showing interest so you will think “its ok for me to start showing needy love now.” No!! Needy love is always bad, and just because you've been making out and staring into each other's eyes doesnt mean its ok to bring out your needy love.
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After some practice, you will be able to snap out of it..
But wont I friendzone myself?
Good question.
Yes, if you completely act emotionless around a girl, we may think you are uninterested. So you need to do 2 things:
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1) Tell Us you are interested. Ask us on a date. A lot of guys are afraid of asking girls on dates because they don’t want to look needy, but if you can ask a girl on a date without displaying needy love you will intrigue and excite her. Its a great deal for her! She can get all the fun and excitement of a date without the burden of dealing with a guy that wants a bunch of shit from her, and
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2) Do all the things you've learned on Nairaland romance section, ashewo bear parlor thread/harddon thread: eye contact, deep, intelligent conversations, kino, escalate, etc… It is possible to do all these things without showing needy love. You may ask: how can one escalate with we ladies sexually without making it look like you want to Bleep Us … well, its an art...sortta push-pull method.
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bashers should backoff....

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googlepikins:
once the North discover reasonable oil, they will kick yorubbers out of their life. It's obvious. By the way, why didn't thiefnubuu meet with buhari yesterday? Oh I forgot Fulanis have taken over government, yorubbers are not allowed in this government

Yoruphobia Patient spotted

princejr:


I have a land opposite Mobil filling station, Fiwasaye round about in Akure. It's about 8 plots in total. It is on d main road.

If u re in Akure, call me: 09028973484

okay, i will get back to you sir

Abimloaded:
Architects, TPLs , Surveyors in the house kindly help with the total number of plots of Land in the survey plan.
Location :- Akure, Ondo state.
cc 5p1naz
Kkonsults
shegzy14
ihebrooke
hurricaneChris et all.
Thanks in anticipation.

Op pls where in ak?

Alabi be like this.. .. Gunnig down ticket#Ticketslaughtering.

xtreme07:
drmikeadams pls i need some wrap of igbo to calm my nerves.

Fvcking Lols..
I don die for dis thread

izzou:

Yes oh
How did your slips go?

didnt play

izzou:
K2wise

DrWise

Viking007


Yorke1

Despite the fact that I played your games and all the tickets caught fire, I still wanna say thank you. I am more than depressed after Chelsea broke my heart. E pain me well and this is my worst weekend this year

I will be back on Friday
Abeg keep the good work.

Gracias

better days ahead
bless up

so na dortmund dem send gimme today again abi?

DancingSkeleton:
either home to score or win either half

thanku sir

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In 1974, a North Korean sympathizer tries to assassinate the dictator of South Korea but misses and kills his wife instead
A preacher/cult leader, Choi Tae-min, contacts the Park Gun-hye (dictators daughter) and says she can communicate to her mother
He gains unlimited influence over her and earns huge sums for access to the dictator's daughter and in effect, the government
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The dictator is assassinated in 1979 and a military dictator takes over, thus the cult leader loses his influence, but still has control over Park Gun Hye
In 1990 Park Gun-hye's sister writes to the government asking them to save her sister from Choi Tae-min
Choi Tae-min dies in 1994 and his daughter Choi Sun-sil takes over, continuing to work with Park
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Park Gun Hye runs for office and becomes an elected official in 1998
In 2007 she runs for President, but loses her parties nomination. At this point the US embassy points out to the US government about her history with the cult leader, revealed in WikiLeaks cables.
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In 2012, she runs again and wins the election. Choi Sun-sil is in charge of producing the inauguration ceremony
Her public behavior as President is erratic and very rarely gives any press conferences. Her speeches are described as rambling and full of odd wording
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Fast forward to 2016 and there is a scandal about Choi Sun-sil's daughter getting in to a prestigious Korean university and preferential treatment despite not getting the grades or attending classes
Choi Sun-sil and her daughter flee to Germany to get away from the scandal
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The Korean cable TV network JTBC somehow got its hands on an 'abandoned tablet
' in Choi Sun-sil's former office which contains evidence that she was given confidential government files including upcoming speeches and government papers despite not being in public office
Park apologizes but says that she hasn't consulted with Choi since early days in her presidency
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More evidence comes out from the files and witnesses that Choi had complete influence over Park, from rewriting speeches to choosing/making her clothes for official engagements, and was doing so right up to earlier this year
Choi has strongarmed Korean conglomerates into donating money to her 'foundations', threatening them that their businesses will be harmed by the government if they don't (basically extortion)
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Choi apparently leads a select group of eight advisers including a gigolo and a K-pop video director who control everything Park does and shamanistic rituals regularly take place in government buildings
Protests have been raging for weeks about these revelations. Hundred's of thousands of South Koreans have been protesting and calling for her to quit.
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As of 4:10pm Seoul time, prime minister Hwang Kyo-ahn has become the acting president of South Korea as this vote still has to go through South Korea's constitutional court with a maximum of 180 days to decide impeachment.
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www.reuters.com/article/newsOne/idUSKBN13X2JS