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Politics / Re: Timi Frank Advises Saraki: "Watch Your Back While Relating With Oyegun" by IAmOged(f): 4:50pm On Dec 08, 2016
Politics / Re: Mega Party: Saraki Now Apc’s Beautiful Bride by IAmOged(f): 11:55am On Dec 08, 2016
Politics / Re: Ayade Vs Agi: Supreme Court Delivers Judgment Friday by IAmOged(f): 8:08am On Dec 08, 2016
which politician age correct for dis naija? which kain nosense perjury be that? Buhari was accused of perjury...wetin court do?
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could smell the background power play of the APC here.
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An assignment given by the APC powerbrokers to Agi so he could later decamp to APC...a fighting foothold to launch APC conquest attacks into the deltan heartlands.
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Or Ayade suspicious move of future decamping to APC has been detected hence the gangup conspiracy against him even by his party.
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Romance / Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by IAmOged(f): 10:33pm On Dec 07, 2016
HARDDON:


grin @ suggested name change.

Nairaland's PUA's Lounge.

As sleek as it sounds, it defeats our purpose here.

PUAs are nothing but Gamers( Players) n as we all know, game played over a period of time gets boring n loses itz fevor n flavour.
Players lose essence of the game n stale out. Leaving so many ladies' hearts shattered beyond repair.

I would not be a party nor advocate of that.


But everything you have up here are pure Red Pills by PUAs- though channelled on the noble path by you.
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just like going monk mode,abundance mentality,negging,SMV,Nexting..etc
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"in taking red pills of d PUAs,men are developed"
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Nevertheless its all joy when all these doest noth centered only on women-its all about men's development...

more power to your elbow

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Politics / Re: Resource Control Bill Passes Second Reading by IAmOged(f): 9:59pm On Dec 07, 2016
Business / Re: Football (+Other Sports) Betting Season 10 by IAmOged(f): 10:27pm On Dec 06, 2016
rostov abeg no score oo


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benfica shey dem hold una legs ni?

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man city god wan punish una abi?..una no fit kill small celtic ni..


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atletico oya tear bayern one goal jor..
Politics / [NL48 Days Of Power] Day 4 - "Always Say Less Than Necessary." by IAmOged(f): 9:33pm On Dec 06, 2016
[Nairalanders 48 Days of Power] Day 4 - "Always say less than necessary."

Law #4
"Always say less than necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
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Let's hear your criticism,chipins, transgressions, observances, and reversals.
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Here are the previous day of power links...


Understanding Laws Of Power.
www.nairaland.com/3498985/understanding-48-laws-power
Introduction.
www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day
Day1.
www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day

Day2
www.nairaland.com/3498955/nl48-days-power-day-2

Day3
www.nairaland.com/3501167/nl48-days-power-day-3
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Cc:Wildflame
Romance / Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by IAmOged(f): 7:13pm On Dec 06, 2016
Nairaland PUAs LOGDE....

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The thread should be renamed(suggestion)
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And A shadow elected to Lord Harddon
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Its time the skill sets of PUAs here are displayed on all ladies on dis forum..(na suggestion)

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Politics / Re: NL48 Days Of Power Day 3-"Conceal Your Intentions." by IAmOged(f): 9:09pm On Dec 05, 2016
Culture / Re: Ooni Ogunwusi And Olugbo Akinruntan In Supremacy Battle by IAmOged(f): 9:39am On Dec 05, 2016
perryy:


Ifa is a blind god who sees nothing but talks too much

And What do barbarians toYoruba Cultures and traditions like you know about IFA?
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Go and sit down joor....

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Culture / Re: Ooni Ogunwusi And Olugbo Akinruntan In Supremacy Battle by IAmOged(f): 9:10am On Dec 05, 2016
Oduduwa was the first man to institute the monarch throne ruling system of government in ile ife rivalry to oba tala...they both fought for the stool but odua became victorious..
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odua is an ife indigene..he is from ife.
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its true since events documentations took long to be discovered in ife..reason for all dis mix up...
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historical facts is different from Myth
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but one thing that we should all know is no history is accurate....
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history are written by victors..
by the powerfuls...

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and we all know Ooni is a son from an illegitimate wife...
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oranyan should have been ife king if his father okanbi had waited for his arrival from the journey to bring healing water for the kings ailment.

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solution..

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the real history of yoruba is with IFA
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the history book of yoruba is IFA..
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if you want the fact....consult IFA

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Business / Re: Football (+Other Sports) Betting Season 10 by IAmOged(f): 3:49am On Dec 05, 2016
k2wise is back...good to hear that
Politics / NL48 Days Of Power Day 3-"Conceal Your Intentions." by IAmOged(f): 5:04pm On Dec 04, 2016
Nairalanders 48 Days of Power] Day 3- "Conceal Your Intentions."
Law #3
"Conceal your intentions"

Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelop them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.
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Let's hear your criticism,chipins, transgressions, observances, and reversals.
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Here are the previous day of power link...


Understanding Laws Of Power.
www.nairaland.com/3498985/understanding-48-laws-power
Introduction.
www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day
Day1.
www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day

Day2
www.nairaland.com/3498955/nl48-days-power-day-2
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Cc:Wildflame
Politics / Re: [ NLs "48 Days Of Power"] Day 1-"Never Outshine The Master" by IAmOged(f): 6:51am On Dec 03, 2016
WiLdFLame:
nice one semmyk
Cl:HSP

Observance
I once worked for a prestigious awards organization in the entertainment industry. I was a behind-the-scenes technical manager and assistant project manager, so my job was to handle most of the technology-related aspects of our day-to-day operations - and, on occasion, to design and develop presentations that our president and other executives would give to prospective new corporate members.
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High-level executives of these prospective companies would always come by for business meetings, and they frequently complimented my boss on the quality of his presentations. I would always chime in with them, telling them how hard our president worked and how thorough he was (all the while knowing it was my work they were commenting on). My boss would frequently shoot me subtle, appreciative grins.
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After only my first year of working for the company, I was promoted to project lead, given a 15% pay raise, and entrusted with the company's expense account for the purposes of "expanding our technological outreach" - which included buying a brand new 50" flat-screen television for my office.
All this, and all I had to do was let him take credit for some of my work.
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Forget your personal pride and your out-dated notions of fair credit. Make your bosses look good, and the rewards will flow like honey. Increase your boss' power, because the more he can do, then the more he can do
for you.

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Likewise, when you're a boss, be sure to reward your subordinates for making you look good. It's hard to let someone else take credit for your work, so let them know you appreciate it by being generous. If they feel acknowledged and valued, they'll work even better for you.
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Cld:HSP
cc:sarrki(a case study of Fayemi,Amosun and co, outshining their master Tinubu),tonyebarcanista

Cl:onenif
Increase your boss' power, because the more he can do, then the more he can do for you.
I think this is the most succinct way of putting this.
Politics / NL48 Days Of Power Day 2-"Never Put Too Much Trust In Friends,Learn How To Use.. by IAmOged(f): 6:41am On Dec 03, 2016
Nairalanders 48 Days of Power] Day 2 - "Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies."

Law #2
"Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies".

Be wary of friends - they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
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Let's hear your criticism,chipins, transgressions, observances, and reversals.
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Here is the previous day of power link...


Understanding Laws Of Power.
www.nairaland.com/3498985/understanding-48-laws-power
Introduction.
www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day
Day1.
www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day
Fashion / Re: Gym Photos Of Mr. Tourism Nigeria 2016 Finalist by IAmOged(f): 10:40pm On Dec 02, 2016
yomibelle:




ayam not understanding wia ondo dey for d thread
More still cuming...huh?
Fashion / Re: Gym Photos Of Mr. Tourism Nigeria 2016 Finalist by IAmOged(f): 10:07pm On Dec 02, 2016
The second to the First..
Ondo state Mr Tourism should beat them all ..
Other States Mr Tourism just be like HyEna wey hunger dey catch.....

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Politics / Re: [ NLs "48 Days Of Power"] Day 1-"Never Outshine The Master" by IAmOged(f): 11:26pm On Dec 01, 2016
This law is relatively easy to follow because if you are doing things correctly in your life,
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chances are your superior knows a lot more than you do anyway so unless you are arrogant thinking you know everything, it will be unlikely that you break this law.
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Though there could be one or two things you would know more than your superior.
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And then people can tell the difference between respecting someones opinion/expertise and trying to stay close learning from somebody in other to get ahead of the mentor.
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Also its important to never take credit for your work at the start if you are doing your work alongside your mentor.

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Cc.:Dturewa

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Literature / Re: Nairalanders "48 Days Of Power" by IAmOged(f): 10:57pm On Dec 01, 2016
NAIRALADERS "48 DAYS OF POWER" DAY 1
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#Law 1

~"NEVER OUTSHINE THE MASTER"

www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day
Literature / Nairalanders "48 Days Of Power" by IAmOged(f): 10:49pm On Dec 01, 2016
Welcome to Nigerians/Nairalanders "48 Days of Power" a forty-eight day series to discuss each power of Robert Greene's "48 Laws of Power."
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I enjoin all and Sundry,Versatile Students of Law/Versed Historians/Diplomats/Psychologist/Philosophers/Conservatists/Progressives/Liberals/Political/ security experts/modern-Traditionists/Professionals/PUAs/DT-Feminists/Sage Men and Women across all sections of this great Naija forum.
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Come....
Let's hear your new model of/on Personal/Social/Organization Power Development,Thoughts,Rascalities,"Chip ins", Observations,faults/Criticisms/Transgressions, and
"Bullshits".

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How this laws play out in our State-FG politics, everyday life,in our career,relationships, etc....
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Subsequent links on each day Power Laws will be posted here
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This is no substitute for actually reading the book and is meant as a place to discuss.


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Cc:Seun,Mynd44,Lalasticlala,Wildflame,TV01....
Politics / [ NLs "48 Days Of Power"] Day 1-"Never Outshine The Master" by IAmOged(f): 10:17pm On Dec 01, 2016
Welcome to Day 1 of Nigerians/Nairalanders "48 Days of Power" a forty-eight day series to discuss each power of Robert Greene's "48 Laws of Power."

Law #1
"Never Outshine The Master"
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please and impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite - inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
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Lets hear your opinions,observations,thoughts,real life examples,faults/criticism and "Bullshits".
Again,this is no substitute to studying the actual book and is meant as a thread of discuss.


subsequent links
Understanding Laws Of Power.
www.nairaland.com/3498985/understanding-48-laws-power
Introduction.
www.nairaland.com/3496900/nls-48-days-power-day
Day2.
www.nairaland.com/3498955/nl48-days-power-day-2#51589358

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Family / Re: Pyramid Of Love by IAmOged(f): 6:24pm On Dec 01, 2016
mukhcech:
I am in love with the writeup ( I hope em right!!)

talking bout women who are too self-aware. @ Op, do you consider yourself as a woman who is too self-aware?(No pun intent)
sniff the answer out?
Business / Re: An Overview Of The Oil Market, OPEC, USA And Global Recession (pic) by IAmOged(f): 8:48am On Dec 01, 2016
Russia FX is not about oil alone though oil and gas takes 50%
the USA shale oil is not that widely in demand, as the naturally pure oil from OpEC countries...
with the southeast asian sea, China should be able to start oil exploitation-thats if they havent started already...
the USA,Saudi and Russia are three main parties to this Oil War....so far i think Russia had been able to achieve her aims with the OPEC while SAUDI take the "big hits"

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Politics / Re: The Injustice Of Revenue Allocation In Nigeria by IAmOged(f): 12:56am On Dec 01, 2016
the question is how are we going to correct this injustice?

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Business / Re: Football (+Other Sports) Betting Season 10 by IAmOged(f): 5:45pm On Nov 30, 2016
detailsOfBet
typeOfBet: Accumulator
totalBettingAmount: 500.00
Bonus: 1980.82
Possible win: 8992.82
Won: 0.00
1. 30.11.16 17:30
CSKA Moscow - FC Gazovik Orenburg (Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: CSKA Moscow/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.20
Result:
2. 30.11.16 17:00
FC Rubin Kazan - Arsenal Tula
(Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: Rubin Kazan/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.25
Result:
3. 30.11.16 18:00
NK Olimpija Ljubljana - NK Mik Cm Celje (Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: NK Olimpija Ljubljana/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.25
Result:
4. 30.11.16 18:00
NK Domzale - Kalcer Radomlje
(Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: NK Domzale/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.40
Result:
5. 30.11.16 20:15
NK Maribor - FC Koper (Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: NK Maribor Piv Lasko/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.30
Result:
6. 30.11.16 21:00
UC Sampdoria - Cagliari Calcio
(Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: UC Sampdoria/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.40
Result:
7. 30.11.16 18:00
Atalanta Bergamasca Calcio - Pescara Calcio (Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: Atalanta Bergamasca Calcio/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.30
Result:
8. 30.11.16 17:00
Nea Salamina Famagusta FC - Paeek (1X2)
Customer type: Nea Salamina Famagusta FC @ 1.18
Result:
9. 30.11.16 20:45
KAA Gent - Sporting Lokeren (Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: KAA Gent/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.35
Result:
10. 30.11.16 18:30
Fenerbahce - Genclerbirligi (Double chance and Under/Over 4.5 goals)
Customer type: Fenerbahce/X and Under 4.5 goals @ 1.35
Result:
11. 30.11.16 16:30
Galatasaray Istanbul - S. B. Elazigspor (Double Chance)
Customer type: Galatasaray Istanbul/X @ 1.05
Result:
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Family / Re: You Are Superior To Her by IAmOged(f): 11:39am On Nov 30, 2016
purple3091:

am replying you,since you are the OP,with the tv guy,i have closed the subject with him.
such replies(this one am quoting) from a bi-sexual 'woman' who apparently believes in patriachy yet contradicts his-herself AHAHAHAHAHAH (possibly a man pretending to be a woman grin very pathetic...) isn't suprising!! undecided ..let me be clearer to you:when one cheats on her husband,it doesn't mean she doesn't love him,it simply means she has(like any woman out there) many options for physical intimacy,if she so desires,she chooses which ones when the 'need' to be filled comes,and anyway since you keep going on about offtopic,why ask questions that are off-topic?

abeg wu be dis? so a lady wus a bi, cant believe in patriarchy? olodo...go and study more on bi-sexuality before talking about my contradictions?
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[b]firstly, i think you have eyes to see d f on that monic and no where on dis forum have i displaced from being she....
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have been deliberately ignoring you cos you came here deflecting the whole topic and arguments to ur paranoid avows...why?for all glaring this topic is majorly between men and women, whats with all dis pedophilia,cheating jargons you saying?
since its cut across both gender.so take pedophile away from dis matter pls.
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and what brings about cheating into dis? are you in contrast feeling guilty?
so people could know u cheat?
is dre anything sensible and noble in cheating?
do your cockolded sissy beta husband knows u get fvcked and creamped/seeded by cave/alfa men at his back?
if yes and you proud of this model u crusading....den u have have to give us more insight into dis.....
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you are just feeling guilty woman.
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ashewo joint dey here ooo...you can as well go have fun with dem...sogbo?
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above all...why i didnt even try to reason with all your abominable, jargons confessions is that i sensed, the person behind this purpleslut or wetin? monicker is paranoid/bi-polar or not normal....why would i argue with an abnormal woman? i resemble mad woman for ur face.
abeg free me jare...i no fit laff ooo
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ma regards your love ones
bye bye...am out....
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Family / Pyramid Of Love by IAmOged(f): 10:00am On Nov 30, 2016
“Women don't love, they only care for themselves.” This is a comment from a gentleman I came across recently that made me stop to give pause.
After some pondering,I must conclude that I disagree with the statement that inspired this article. I do suspect that the gentleman who said what he said felt it to be true with every inch of his fiber, but I do not believe the assertion to be right. Nevertheless, I am sympathetic to his sentiment, for although he is wrong, he is not entirely. It is, at least among the old guard of the century community, an established truth that women do not love men in the way that man wants to be loved.

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Inharmonious Love:[
The problem is contingent on not only the way in which man craves to be loved, but likewise the way in which woman is capable of loving. Man desires a sacrificial love, sacrifice implies loyalty and connection. What men want from love, and what woman's love amounts to is fundamentally irreconcilable.
In matters of love (and not simply lust,) man is an optimistic egalitarian. He loves as he wishes to be loved. In matters of love, when man is young and oblivious to the ways of women, he is a true adherent of the golden rule.

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[b]The folly of man’s nature lies in the belief that the loyalty quintessential to woman's maternal instinct will be available within a romantic context. He believes rather foolishly, that as his mother loved him, the idealised girlfriend could. He sees how women love their children, and upon making such an observation concludes that women are capable of great love. This is true, they are. Only sadly, this great love is a love reserved solely for children, it extends not to man. As such, man has an idealisation of woman's love, not a realisation.
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Man desires that which is unattainable to him, unaware the love he desires is maternal in nature, unable to be felt for him. Nature plays a cruel trick on the psychology of man. It gives him a very pure, high quality love in his childhood. It gives him a template for woman's love that he comes to expect as standard of all women.
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He is taught by his mother's love that unconditional loyalty, noble character, gentleness, sacrifice and trust are intrinsic of the feminine essence. And so as he grows from a boy into a man he comes to the rather logical conclusion that if he is “a good man,” he can expect to be loved by his lover in much the same way. His mother, well-meant but quite incorrectly likewise affirms this notion to him. This is a wicked lie, but a man whose heart is yet to be broken does not realise this.
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He thinks woman's love is immutable. He knows not that her love for child is different from that of her love for him.
And so man longs to be loved like a child, not realising such a love is reserved for children. Believing that the love he covets is romantic love, when truly it is maternal love.
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Such a man of course lacks the experience or nuance of mind to make this distinction. And so the tragedy for this man is learning that women do not love men like they love children. The unconditional loyalty inherent to the maternal bond is all but absent from the mating bond. Most men do not realise this. They love wholesomely right up until they are emotionally blind-sided by a woman in the most violable of ways, forced to re-evaluate their opinion of female nature. This is not a hypothetical so much as it is an eventuality.
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From there on, man can learn to re-evaluate his notion of woman's capacity to love. He will come to learn woman's love for her mate is of vastly reduced moral and psychological quality than that of her love for her child. How he responds to such powerful knowledge will ultimately shape what kind of man he decides to become.
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Be it a man going his own way, a disillusioned bachelor looking to use women for nothing but sex, or a Patriarch who runs his house like a business, aware of the risk, but acting in all his power to mitigate it.
However cruel as it may seem, women are incapable of reciprocating man's love.
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We women love differently. There is a pyramid of love that trickles down. Man sacrifices for woman, and woman, for child. Rarely does the river flow upward. As such, if man is to believe that women can love to the same extent as he, then he is doomed to disappointment and misery when she invariably acts within accordance of her nature rather than his idealisation.

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Woman's Love Defined:
[b]The epitome of a woman's love is infatuation. To define it, this is a lust for your power and an obsession with how your character makes her feel, secondary to your power. It is put crudely: OPPORTUNISM and emotional self-appeasement alchemised with lust.
Man oft forgets that love does not flow upward in the sacrificial sense. He makes the mistake of thinking that because he can love a woman without lusting for her, that a woman can do the same.
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She cannot, because her love is not based on sacrifice, it is based on the appreciation of man's sacrifice met with lust. The more man sacrifices for a woman, the more likely he is to fall in love with his investment. The more a woman sacrifices for man absent of animal lust, the more repulsion she feels for him, interpreting her need for investment as a shortcoming on his part. And so there it is, unspoken in word but detected in sentiment; woman expects man to love her more than she loves him, reinforcing the hierarchy of love. Female sacrifice is predicated on lust and mental entrapment. Male sacrifice is expected, and freely given.[/b]

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Love And Female Self-Deception:
A woman who does not lust for you cannot love you as you wish to be loved. Lust is the basis for her love, absent of lust you have “like” rather than “love.” Such a woman can do naught but use you and lie to you both that she is in love when she isn't. If it is convenient for a woman to be in love, she will convince herself she is in love so that she may convince you of it. We Women are masters of self-deception, so one must be extremely cautious in assigning any substance to our convictions. Treat such earnest emotional conviction as sophistry.
Women are generally speaking, emotionally neurotic. Women who become too self-aware can end up hating themselves because they cannot overcome their animal elements. They can't make themselves love you in the way you want them to, even if they tried to. To do so would ravage them with immeasurable misery. So as unfair as you may think it is that your girlfriend can never love you the same way your mother did, it is likewise unfair to expect her to do so if you wish her happiness. I am of the belief that this is why society has collectively lied to itself for generations.[/b]

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Conclusion:
As i do emphasize ....Women are what they are; your perception of women no matter what that might be is powerless to change their fundamental nature. You can, with the knowledge you have acquired, learn to accept them, or you may, reject them out of unappeasable disappointment predicated on the idea that “woman's love just isn't worth it.”
We can argue about what is right for society, what is right for your personal situation and all the rest, as many of you like to do, but ultimately this is a personal choice to be taken by our men.


#CAVEAT

CC:ILTM

#EMOTIONAL DIFFERENCES

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“When a woman marries again, it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs.”Oscar Wilde

Romance / Re: Maternal Love Vs Romantic Love-Pyramid Of Love by IAmOged(f): 9:16am On Nov 30, 2016
joespiceman:
Omoh dis note to long na
You still come quote am....witchkain person u be sef.....smh.. .. ogbeni..u berra read it...its good for your mind
Romance / Maternal Love Vs Romantic Love-Pyramid Of Love by IAmOged(f): 9:06am On Nov 30, 2016
“Women don't love, they only care for themselves.” This is a comment from a gentleman I came across recently that made me stop to give pause.
After some pondering,I must conclude that I disagree with the statement that inspired this article. I do suspect that the gentleman who said what he said felt it to be true with every inch of his fiber, but I do not believe the assertion to be right. Nevertheless, I am sympathetic to his sentiment, for although he is wrong, he is not entirely. It is, at least among the old guard of the century community, an established truth that women do not love men in the way that man wants to be loved.

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Inharmonious Love:[
The problem is contingent on not only the way in which man craves to be loved, but likewise the way in which woman is capable of loving. Man desires a sacrificial love, sacrifice implies loyalty and connection. What men want from love, and what woman's love amounts to is fundamentally irreconcilable.
In matters of love (and not simply lust,) man is an optimistic egalitarian. He loves as he wishes to be loved. In matters of love, when man is young and oblivious to the ways of women, he is a true adherent of the golden rule.

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[b]The folly of man’s nature lies in the belief that the loyalty quintessential to woman's maternal instinct will be available within a romantic context. He believes rather foolishly, that as his mother loved him, the idealised girlfriend could. He sees how women love their children, and upon making such an observation concludes that women are capable of great love. This is true, they are. Only sadly, this great love is a love reserved solely for children, it extends not to man. As such, man has an idealisation of woman's love, not a realisation.
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Man desires that which is unattainable to him, unaware the love he desires is maternal in nature, unable to be felt for him. Nature plays a cruel trick on the psychology of man. It gives him a very pure, high quality love in his childhood. It gives him a template for woman's love that he comes to expect as standard of all women.
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He is taught by his mother's love that unconditional loyalty, noble character, gentleness, sacrifice and trust are intrinsic of the feminine essence. And so as he grows from a boy into a man he comes to the rather logical conclusion that if he is “a good man,” he can expect to be loved by his lover in much the same way. His mother, well-meant but quite incorrectly likewise affirms this notion to him. This is a wicked lie, but a man whose heart is yet to be broken does not realise this.
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He thinks woman's love is immutable. He knows not that her love for child is different from that of her love for him.
And so man longs to be loved like a child, not realising such a love is reserved for children. Believing that the love he covets is romantic love, when truly it is maternal love.
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Such a man of course lacks the experience or nuance of mind to make this distinction. And so the tragedy for this man is learning that women do not love men like they love children. The unconditional loyalty inherent to the maternal bond is all but absent from the mating bond. Most men do not realise this. They love wholesomely right up until they are emotionally blind-sided by a woman in the most violable of ways, forced to re-evaluate their opinion of female nature. This is not a hypothetical so much as it is an eventuality.
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From there on, man can learn to re-evaluate his notion of woman's capacity to love. He will come to learn woman's love for her mate is of vastly reduced moral and psychological quality than that of her love for her child. How he responds to such powerful knowledge will ultimately shape what kind of man he decides to become.
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Be it a man going his own way, a disillusioned bachelor looking to use women for nothing but sex, or a Patriarch who runs his house like a business, aware of the risk, but acting in all his power to mitigate it.
However cruel as it may seem, women are incapable of reciprocating man's love.
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We women love differently. There is a pyramid of love that trickles down. Man sacrifices for woman, and woman, for child. Rarely does the river flow upward. As such, if man is to believe that women can love to the same extent as he, then he is doomed to disappointment and misery when she invariably acts within accordance of her nature rather than his idealisation.

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Woman's Love Defined:
[b]The epitome of a woman's love is infatuation. To define it, this is a lust for your power and an obsession with how your character makes her feel, secondary to your power. It is put crudely: OPPORTUNISM and emotional self-appeasement alchemised with lust.
Man oft forgets that love does not flow upward in the sacrificial sense. He makes the mistake of thinking that because he can love a woman without lusting for her, that a woman can do the same.
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She cannot, because her love is not based on sacrifice, it is based on the appreciation of man's sacrifice met with lust. The more man sacrifices for a woman, the more likely he is to fall in love with his investment. The more a woman sacrifices for man absent of animal lust, the more repulsion she feels for him, interpreting her need for investment as a shortcoming on his part. And so there it is, unspoken in word but detected in sentiment; woman expects man to love her more than she loves him, reinforcing the hierarchy of love. Female sacrifice is predicated on lust and mental entrapment. Male sacrifice is expected, and freely given.[/b]

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Love And Female Self-Deception:
A woman who does not lust for you cannot love you as you wish to be loved. Lust is the basis for her love, absent of lust you have “like” rather than “love.” Such a woman can do naught but use you and lie to you both that she is in love when she isn't. If it is convenient for a woman to be in love, she will convince herself she is in love so that she may convince you of it. We Women are masters of self-deception, so one must be extremely cautious in assigning any substance to our convictions. Treat such earnest emotional conviction as sophistry.
Women are generally speaking, emotionally neurotic. Women who become too self-aware can end up hating themselves because they cannot overcome their animal elements. They can't make themselves love you in the way you want them to, even if they tried to. To do so would ravage them with immeasurable misery. So as unfair as you may think it is that your girlfriend can never love you the same way your mother did, it is likewise unfair to expect her to do so if you wish her happiness. I am of the belief that this is why society has collectively lied to itself for generations.[/b]

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Conclusion:
As i do emphasize ....Women are what they are; your perception of women no matter what that might be is powerless to change their fundamental nature. You can, with the knowledge you have acquired, learn to accept them, or you may, reject them out of unappeasable disappointment predicated on the idea that “woman's love just isn't worth it.”
We can argue about what is right for society, what is right for your personal situation and all the rest, as many of you like to do, but ultimately this is a personal choice to be taken by our men.


#CAVEAT

CC:ILTM

#EMOTIONAL DIFFERENCES

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“When a woman marries again, it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs.”Oscar Wilde

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