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I am genuinely searching for a serious-minded woman based in the UK or Canada, someone who desires a meaningful relationship that can lead to marriage. I am ready to commit fully, build a home anchored on love, respect, and understanding, and work hand-in-hand towards a stable and fulfilling future.

I am 35 years old, single, and currently based in Nigeria. I work as a contract staff with an international brewery, and I strongly believe in values such as honesty, loyalty, and true partnership.

If you also share the same vision of building a lasting relationship and future together, I would love to connect with you. You can reach me via email at sibukun05@gmail.com

Some people though… so just because you’re giving someone free money, you automatically expect her to help you in return? That’s not how it should work. True giving should come from a genuine place, not from expecting favors or benefits back. If you have strings attached, then it’s no longer kindness, it’s a transaction.

Feldie:
what if they keep throwing words at you, from their apartment, knowing fully well you will hear it. Saying bad things about you

Just keep ignoring it. I remember when my sister first got married, there was a woman in the same compound who had three children from different fathers. For no reason at all, she developed hatred towards my sister. She would constantly insult and abuse her, but my sister always turned a deaf ear to her provocations.

Things later took a darker turn when this woman decided to use juju against my sister. But as fate would have it, the charm backfired on her. Eventually, she started confessing everything she had done, and not long after, she gave up the ghost. This wasn’t a movie or a made-up story, it was a real-life experience that taught me a deep lesson: sometimes silence and patience is the best response to unnecessary hatred.

underpinna:
I lived 3 months alone before having a co tenant. We were fine until recently, she started behaving weird. Last night, I came back and noticed my tap turned off. At first, my woman told me that the water might have finished but I suspected that someone might have turned it off so I went outside and low and behold, the tap leading to my kitchen is turned off same as the one from the tank direct. I told my woman that my neighbor did that but my woman assumed neighboring children could be responsible. This morning I woke up to find the tap off again and I was like, na which pikin go come here this morning to disturb me, so I turned it back on. Within few minutes, I the tap was off again. I became angry and shouted to my neighbors hearing. We are just two in the compound. We do water pumping turn after the other and it's her turn now. The reason for her turning off my tap is very strange to me.

Some neighbors can be so wicked; they’ll dislike you for no reason or even without you ever offending them. The best thing you can do is to avoid unnecessary contact with them, keep your peace of mind intact, and focus on living your life happily without letting their negativity drain you.

Try run DNA, she knows she's not your daughter that was why she blocked you and ran away with her

Good evening house, please has anyone done with the application process, cos I'm finding it hard to print out anything since have submitted my application and three referees has uploaded attestation letter.. please help

FeliciaOja:
My roommate was arguing that in her secondary school a teacher ran mad after reading the book at night. Which I doubt

I have been hearing about this book for some years but can't find it online.

I know I'm a little curious but something tells me it's one of those fake books that are used to scare people.
Has anyone seen such a book if it actually exist

Yeah we have sixth and seventh book of Moses, I think sixth and seventh book of Moses isn't written in English, it's written German and occultic language, only those that understand German language can read but I'm surprised when some Nigerian guys said they've read it..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rZyjL8c0eNM

Magistrate court fines Jennifer N450k for collecting transport fare from a guy called Emmanuel and then refusing to show up in his house!

In a rather unusual case, a Magistrate Court sitting in Lagos has ordered a young lady identified as Jennifer to pay the sum of ₦450,000 in damages after she was found guilty of obtaining money under false pretenses.

According to court records, Jennifer allegedly collected ₦30,000 from a man named Emmanuel, who claimed he sent her the money for transport fare in anticipation of her visiting him. However, after receiving the funds, she reportedly failed to show up and subsequently cut off communication with him.

Emmanuel later filed a complaint, labeling the act as "fraudulent extortion." After reviewing the matter, the court ruled that Jennifer’s actions amounted to deception and financial exploitation, thereby awarding Emmanuel damages far exceeding the original transport fare.

The presiding Magistrate emphasized that cases of “transport fare fraud” are becoming alarmingly common and serve as a form of cyber-enabled extortion. The judgment, though surprising to many, was intended to serve as a deterrent to others engaging in similar practices.

Jennifer is now required to pay the ₦450,000 fine, failing which she risks further legal consequences.

https://www.instagram.com/p/DNuzwRgWDZ7/?igsh=cHN1amlzdDczOHg0

franugo:
She's obviously not one to waste time and you seem like a time waster from the chat, I find nothing wrong with her response, you goofed.

If you're still interested, you can chat her back and tell her you were only joking, make she no vex.

I see some people already saying she's materialistic like ibkay32, a woman looking to settle down will not be satisfied with someone who cannot take care of her or at least bring in something financially to the family. You guys like shaming people for their common_sense requests, I don't know why. Would you allow your sister marry a jobless man that will bring nothing to the home?

What's this one saying??
It seems you don't understand what the OP is trying to derive from the chat?

Julia25:
The world’s integrity seems to have gone on vacation, so the idea of ‘building together’ is a bit of a fantasy these days. 😔 Many have tried, worked hard for their ‘beaus,’ only to be tossed aside when a shiny new, younger ‘catch’ comes along. Classic! 💔 So, we’ve all kinda adapted to the game. If you’re trustworthy, great—we can build something solid. If not, well, maybe it’s time to already be ‘made.’ 🤷🏾‍♂️

True, the world feels like it’s lost a bit of its integrity, but building from scratch still has its unique beauty. When two people start small and grow together, the bond is usually deeper because every success carries both their fingerprints. You don’t just share the rewards, you share the sacrifices, lessons, and memories that shaped them.

A ready-made relationship might look attractive, but it often misses that foundation of loyalty, patience, and resilience. What you build together is harder to destroy, because both parties know the value of the journey. That’s why starting from scratch, though not easy, can create something more genuine and lasting.

Julia25:
Just moved myself to join of recent, any problem?

Oh I see! No problem you still look fresh anyway

july21st:
Pls wrong presentation how? I already lost interest because I felt it's proper to make introductions first before delving into such.
I introduced myself. She didn't say her name. She is asking what I do.
Of all the things to ask someone in the world of. Is my occupation she is interested in.

😂
Most girls nowadays believe relationships should be more of a transaction than a genuine connection. They don’t want to go through the process of building from scratch anymore; instead, they’re only interested in men who are already made. Sometimes you’d wonder if they think their parents had everything figured out and settled before they even came into existence.

The irony is that true growth and bonding often come from starting small together and watching things blossom. But many don’t want that patience, sacrifice, or shared journey anymore, they want the finished product without the process.

Julia25:
His presentation was wrong, although childish . He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"?

It seems you just join this forum?
Or you created a new account?

july21st:
So I chatted this person I met here in nl. She posted on a thread about relationship and marriage. This is someone that says she ready for marriage.
I blurred her name and contact to protect her privacy. I don't want to pre EMT what I feel that made me reply that way. But what do you think about this response?

I don’t think she’s really open to any relationship. She’s just looking for someone she can put her problem on to sponsor her business center and cover her bills, lol 😆

DanOkonkwo:
This is going to be a kinda long read but I would try to shorten it.

There's this cousin of mine,she had this young man she got engaged to and before we could say jack,she had a child for him.
Prior to that time,this my cousin absconded from home for a period of three months that nearly caused heart attack to her parents from when she eloped with this young man whom I would like to call X. When this thing happened was when she was just a teenager at the age of 15 years of age.
By the mercies of God the parents found her but she was already with Mr X,the parents pleaded with her to leave the young man and return home,she agreed to visit home but not to stay with the parents.
The young lady later got pregnant and under 3 years she had two more children and Mr X came to the home of my cousin to meet the family,but just as a form of introduction before Mr X was caught in armed robbery scandal that sent him to prison for a period of five years.
When Mr X was in prison, my cousin suffered a lot as she returned to the home of her parents,she swore never to do anything with Mr X,she later got another friend I will like to call Mr Y.
Mr Y developed interest in her and was kind to the children of Mr X,though Mr Y was very much older than my cousin, he had genuine interest to marry her,but my cousin kept posting him.
Mr Y's parents got wind of the information of Mr X and swore that Mr Y would never marry my cousin for the sake of his life.
Eventually Mr X came out from prison and wanted my cousin back,but she vehemently refused that he should just come to take care of his kids because she's no more interested in doing anything with him.
Mr X was furious suspecting that my cousin must have gotten another man,Mr Y on his own part swore to go contrary to what his parents say because he had real love for that my cousin.
The issue here now is,my cousin is doing fine business wise and both Mr X and Mr Y wants her,what would she do?
Cancel everything marriage or..?

This is really deep. Is that Mr. X’s image that’s attached to the quote? Because honestly, this malnutritious-looking picture seems like someone that has been caged in an isolated place for over 5 years, surviving only on watery beans filled with stones 😂.
Back to the OP, a minor of just 15 years left home to elope with a man, and her parents couldn’t really do anything about it? Omorr, that’s a serious red flag. No matter how you look at it, this boils down to bad parenting and lack of proper guidance. A child at that age should be under watchful care, not roaming around to the point of absconding for 3 months without trace
Well, I really don’t have much to say about this because the foundation has already been damaged and once the foundation is faulty, you already know what that means for the head. Everything built on it is bound to shake. At this point, no matter how much patching or corrections are tried, the cracks will always show.

Onegai:
Nope. I have a lot of consultants in my family, so I know about it. I personally am still thinking of Gardisil vaccine and talking and training about sex.x education, for my daughter (she's right now a low-risk tween).

That’s a really wise step. Preparing her early with the right knowledge and protection will make a huge difference as she grows. It’s admirable that you’re already thinking ahead for her wellbeing

Onegai:
Is Implanon recommended for teenagers? Because birth control inserted into the upper arm is usually Implanon. It's a long-term BC drug and would require a parent's permission to insert it.

My only worry is long term side effects of Progestin. But I believe it's safer than BC pills.

For the morality of this choice, it is really up to each family and each daughter. Some children respond to talks and will make good choices, others can't (environment, character, peer pressure).

I understand parents wanting to take this route, better to avoid teen pregnancy. But I would think it would be targeted more towards at-risk teenagers (usually low-income girls).

Are you a nurse or doctor?

We were brought up in different ways, so don’t be surprised if those girls’ parents are actually the ones behind the implants of these contraceptive devices. In this country, there are many parents like that. If you walk through towns and streets, you’ll see parents who take their children to herbalists for “yahoo plus,” just to make quick money. You’ll also find parents openly supporting their daughters to go into hookups, encouraging them instead of guiding them.

It’s sad because it shows how broken some values have become. Instead of teaching discipline, hard work, and dignity, many parents now push their children toward shortcuts and dangerous lifestyles. This is why society is getting worse because the very foundation, the home, is already compromised.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]When a man wants you to come so that you both take pictures or is it for something else?[/color]

Na pre wedding pictures
If you ask me, na who I go ask? 🤣

Nigerians will just relocate to the UK, work for 2 months, then rush to Amazon to order microphone 🎤 and ring light, suddenly they’ve turned to motivational speakers and immigration consultants overnight.

“7 steps to get UK visa.”
“If you have 30 million, don’t come to the UK.”
“How to use spouse visa to enter UK.”

My brother, my sister, you’ve not even spent up to 6 months in the country. You don’t know the system. You don’t know if your employer will even renew your visa after 3 years when it expires. You don’t know if you’ll even find job after the school you came for. You don’t even know how council tax works yet, but you’re online shouting advice like senior citizen.

Calm down. Focus on your life. Build stability first. Stop turning ring light on every evening to be saying “Guys, let me advise you.” Advise who? On what? Everyday ring light and cho-cho-cho.

Shey won fi shey yin ni? Or is it UK that sent you to be disturbing Nigerians back home? Some of you haven’t even collected your first winter jacket, but you’ve already crowned yourself immigration analyst.

Samueltemi337:
You threatened them to deactivate your account
They did
You still come back with your alternate
I really don't understand you boy

No be everyone dey okay for this country
We can see them here on nairaland
We just dey overlook

Wajubimps1:
I’m a warm-hearted, come‐as‐you‐are woman loving wife and mother, full of energy and laughter. I’m financially independent and emotionally strong, but I’ve found myself craving a thoughtful, engaging friend outside of family roles.

My vibe:
Independent & grounded—own my life, finances, and happiness.
Curious & conversational—love talking about everything from current events to cozy weekend reads.

I Love:
Striking up a good chat, sharing lighthearted banter, discovering new books or podcasts, and giggling over everyday silliness.

Seeking:
A respectful, friendly confidant, a buddy to chat with, share stories, laugh, and connect with, without pressure or drama. Please be older than 35

Please send a DM

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announcement:
Are NIMC customer care line staff not paid for the job they are suppose to do. Why are these people not picking customers call after hours of ringing or call going through?


Why is this country like this?

This is the number I have been calling for hours……07002255646. This the number on their website.

This is very frustrating!

Nothing seems to work well in this country anymore. It’s as if every organization is just useless. Only in Nigeria will you see a job advertisement, yet before you can even apply, you’ll be dragged through two to three weeks of unnecessary stress on their website just to complete registration. By the time you’re done, you’re already mentally exhausted, and that’s before the actual job process even begins.
May God heal this land

LivingEarthMan:
See this one. You admit that she acted unruly and you still end up blowing all the useless grammar there? Something must be wrong with the brain of the children of this generation.

I swear 😂😂😂
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Why you no con serve us photos now
We want to see how beautiful you look and the country

cjscon:
My own be say,why them go tear her blouse and naked her and still make a viral video of that is unprofessional from the airline crew irrespective of her offense,
She can sue them for that too

No body tear blouse
Na the style of blouse she wore
If you look clearly, you will see she did wear anything under
If you see clearly they later gave her a cloth to cover her unclothedness
And for the video I think it's an evidence to us