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dollytino4real:
In this spirit of Christmas who go do Christmas 🎄🎁 4 me

Come make I do Christmas for you 😀

Wetin be your problem gan gan?

ebubeson:
This year was mixed with join and painful times but thanks to God.

Please what is your rating about this year on a scale of 0% to 100%?

This year really dealt with me a lot. If I were to rate it, I would give it 40%. I lost so much in the year before this, especially around January, and ever since then I’ve been trying hard to get back on my feet. Unfortunately, most of my efforts ended woefully.
I submitted countless applications, received only a few interview calls, and even after those, I never heard back. It has been frustrating and emotionally draining.
In terms of finding a rightful partner to plan my life journey with, this year also failed woefully. I tried, I hoped, and I invested emotions, but nothing solid came out of it.
Overall, it has been a very tough season, one filled with losses, disappointments, and unanswered prayers but I’m still holding on, believing that this phase is not the end of my story and that better days and years will eventually come.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Has she told you about what is happening and you are telling her to run, do you know if she is the abuser? What kind of abuse is she talking about? Is it physical abuse or verbal abuse, is she the one dishing out the abuse or the other party? When people come out with vague story like this the first step is to know what's actually going on and not just rush to them to run when you don't even know the actual issue going on, this is how a lot of people are given half baked advice leading to their poor decision making.

It is pertinent to probe further before advising.

OP tell us what's going on , your information is vague

Ok Oga adviser, you fit carry on

Dtruthspeaker:
As u drive una vehicle na so e go take travel or una go crash am. Wetin be my own.

Drive your own the way u sabi drive am, make I drive my own as I sabi drive am too

Dtruthspeaker:
Marriage is a vehicle so it needs control. And 2 drivers cannot drive 1 vehicle. And from the tone he is not a dictator.

He just has a serious problem that has to be handled delicately

Make una dey deceived una self

Evangelisttj:
Thank you so much!
Appreciate the comment.

I get your point, and I respect your opinion too. But either married or not, let’s be realistic here. Oga, you’re the problem in this situation and there’s no shame in admitting it. Go and work on yourself.

If your wife decided not to discard those things, you could have done it yourself. Nothing spoils, nothing reduces your respect, and nothing takes away your manhood. Peace and understanding matter more than ego in a home.

Evangelisttj:
Not newlyweds, but we have had to manage several differences for years. We have gone through turbulence and still are, as is common with many marriages. Truth be told, the fear of God and accountability is what is keeping the marriage; otherwise, many in our position who consider themselves substantially incompatible would have hit rock bottom.

Now, while many marriages fail due to things I have often considered stupid, I have come to realize that he who wears the shoe knows where and how it hurts.

My wife, with whom I will not make any accusations or try to paint in a bad light, has a compulsion to keep things I consider useless—plastics, bags, nylons, clothes—things that could be thrown out or discarded. She may say she would need them and for months may not use them. I am more of a minimalist and I like to dispose of things that clutter the space, but she sees a need in all these things. Children’s clothes that should be worn will sometimes be kept until they are no longer their size. It has caused lots of quarrels, but I have come to terms with it. However, what I do is this: if it at least belongs to me or is something within my control, then I can discard it.

A simple example: I had just finished using a plastic container and asked her to please discard it. Maybe I mentioned it three to four times just so we were clear. Next thing, maybe after a few days, I realized she had kept that same thing I asked her to dispose of. This creates a bit of tension, and what surprises me the most is that she doesn’t see it as right that I am angry. She has never seen it as being wrong, where you could avoid trouble if you do what your husband has gently requested. The last time, I think I saw her crying just because I got upset about her keeping something I had asked her to discard.

I sometimes feel so frustrated the way you feel towards a child like; "Dont you understand that this tension was caused by you if you had only done what I requested"... "Like don you get it?"

Now I am starting to think I am the problem, as her inability to adjust makes me feel that maybe the problem is actually me. We have so many things that I consider useless that could create space, but she will have an explanation for everything. Please, how do you deal with this, and have you had similar issues?

Trust me, I expect that some people will say, “Why bring marriage issues here?” and it is something I would never have imagined I’d do, but I am happy to hear your perspectives and even insults. By the way, I will share this thread with her so we can both learn.

Many thanks.

If what you wrote up there is truly what called the issue between you and your wife, bro, I won’t lie to you — you have a problem. Some men, honestly, just like to dominate in every way. So because a woman refused to discard what you see as waste, that’s now an issue in your home?

That’s not leadership, that’s control. Marriage isn’t a dictatorship; it’s partnership. You don’t always have to have your way, and not every disagreement needs to turn into a power struggle.

dollytino4real:
no not his money, i don't have my own money is wat i meant

Okay good luck

dollytino4real:
ok, run with money or without money dat is y i want to stay

You mean you want to carry and run away with his money

AllBlack:
You started by saying HONESTLY as if you know the intricate details of the situation or you even know the person who posted it.

Can you vouch for the poster?
do you know if it is the other party that needs to RUN?

Honestly?

Ok

dollytino4real:
Pls house u guys in abusive marriage like mine how do u guys cope? The more i want tins to work the more it breaks. I came here to learn from ur own pls only matured mind advice . Happy Sunday

Honestly, anyone in this kind of situation should think deeply. Sometimes, you’re better off running for your dear life before your case becomes like those who decided to endure it, only for it to later turn into something far worse. No relationship or marriage is worth your life or sanity. Please RUN

I almost switched to bottled water this year and completely stopped drinking pure water. Na God save me, lol, the economy quickly reminded me to calm down and stay humble 😅

egalitarianism:
I wrote the test as well but for Academic Position.

I guess those shortlisted so far are Non-Academic applicants

Or have you heard or seen anyone who applied for academic position and has been invited for interview please?

Anyone

Yeah like the guy above

abeyluve:
Oh that is very unfortunate considering the money spent for transportation. Please, how was the crowd there? I sent them mail for reschedule but no response as I could not make it due to short notice period.

There wasn’t really a crowd, it was just the people who weren’t shortlisted that showed up to see if they could still take the interview. They were later told to go home. As for the mail, they won’t reply because everything wasn't properly organized on their end. I guess next time u just need to be more prepared so things won’t catch you off guard.

abeyluve:
What did you apply and what is the requirements for the position

I applied for laboratory scientists, I didn't notice it was for ND

gunners160:
INTERVIEW KE...... I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLINE TEST FIRST?

I wrote CBT test on 9th and I was scheduled for an interview the 2nd day

abeyluve:
I applied for Admin Officer I (Planning). They have sent me invite for interview today. The mail dropped about an hour ago.
The challange is that I am not closed to Ado Ekiti now. They supposed give space of 1 week na. Is that how urgent they are trying to fill the positions.

I did my own interview yesterday unfortunately they said my certificate is bigger than the position I applied for, omorr I wan craze after I spent almost 30k for transport to and fro

abeyluve:
I was able to write today. They sent reset details and it was successful. Even though the system flagged me when I didn't even move. All the best fellas!

What do you applied for?

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Please brother
Who are the technologist?
Cos I applied and I didn't get message

mamagee3:
Opinions on this photo, please…

We were in a celebratory mood.

Why are you using AI pictures, Mamágee? Aren’t you proud of your own beauty?

What name of the white one called?

Casalindal:
But Casalinda still blooms.
We’ve seen seasons come and go beauty rise and fade dreams pause, then breathe again. Through the silence, the waiting, and the lessons, one truth remains: what’s rooted in authenticity never dies.
Casalinda returns with deeper colors, stronger roots, and a story that speaks of resilience.
For every rose that wilted, a new bud has found its light.
For every sunflower that bowed, a new sun has risen.
We are back grounded, refined, and radiant.
Welcome to the new season of Casalinda where grace meets growth, and every comeback blooms brighter than before. 🌺

[b]Did you miss me? [/b]You did not miss anything can you all keep up. I will share my growth, all the drama and how I finally met Seun and he help resolved my marital problems. Th drama the sex tape of some Nairaland redpil, all the nude and asslickers I will not hold anything back this time.

Where have you been this time around, Casalina? You’re always on the move, if it’s not Canada today, it’s the UK tomorrow. You just can’t stay in one place for long with your Waka kuru kere 😂. Well, I really miss your amazing stories. I’ve missed your beautiful write-ups here; they always have a way of brightening my day. I hope you’re finally back with more of your fascinating tales and adventures, it’s been too quiet without you around.

Prettyjane234:
I’m joy base in Abuja dm me for more

Which one are you in for joy
Serious or hukup?

Gabrielshow24:
You should have tagged me so that I would have responded earlier. Your dream is straightforward, it has two subliminal messages, the first one appealing to your purity and the second offering assistance that affects this purity. Your dream is centred on your purity and avoiding associations that will taint it!

Good evening brother, sorry for disturbing you again this time, My mum had a dream where she saw herself, my eldest brother, and my late brother in an unfamiliar place. They were all searching for me, and even my late brother was calling out my name but they couldn't see me until she woke up, she was so disturbed since morning.. please help me with the meaning of this dream.. Gabrielshow24

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brain54:
Usually billing comes before the knacking nah...


And it's called bottom power!

Oh wisdom!!!
I guess that's why you're called BRAIN 😂

realitytrue:
Am a young educated female, need a genuine matured Christian man who is capable of settling down & starting a family soon. Preferably a man from the US, UK, Canada or any of the European Countries or who's desirous of moving abroad soon.

My whatsapp:
+2347054565836

A little brief about me.

Date of Birth: August 10

Am AA with blood group A+

From Edo State, my mum is igbo

Age: 32

Education: University Graduate

Am a genuine Christian from the pentecostal

I really want to settle down in marriage and start a beautiful family with a genuine Christian man that understands true love, commitment, communication, marriage, family, priorities, is emotionally intelligent and knows how to treat his woman..

If you can find me, you have found a good thing....

I would really prefer a genuine Christian man from the pentecostal as well....

Also one thing about me, I love deep & meaningful interesting conversation with my love one, I love to spend quality time with my love one....

If you are compatible with me, it could be you! Let's give us a chance...

I think na only men dey desperate for something good, see as you flood every section with your searching of Canadian or abroad base man post, you better go and work on yourself first

bogdaddy:
Hello everyone, I lost contact with a female friend in the year 2021, her name is BUKOLA and she used to sell material (cloth) at ABULE EGBA. We had something together which led to pregnancy and we lost contact along the line. I won’t say my name but I want her to email me and send her picture because I can still remember her vividly. Bukola if you are seeing this, do you remember the first time we met at COMMAND ? Please get in touch. I learnt you were pregnant then so am curious if you kept the pregnancy or aborted it like you said. Anyways it took me a while to be able to post this on my profile, I wanted to create a new profile to post this but I don’t care. LIFE GOES ON !!!

If you're BUKOLA abule egba, that used to sell in 2021, our here want to reconnect back with you again 😊