₦airaland Forum

Ijecs:
How dare u insult me ?i jus said my mind b/c u guys are sometimes dogs.60% of the ladies can't stay in a r/ship 4 two years and i still maintain my stand that there must be something she sensed in the r/ship that made her call off the r/ship.

Ivynwa:
Chinonye did she really tell you that to your face "that she used you and dumped you?" I know that we women do stuffs in relationship but I haven't seen any body saying that to another at the end of a relationship. Don't bemoan her too much okay Baby or hold it to her, we humans always gravitate to comfort, easy things. Even men do that too, some men will rather marry a lady because she is from a rich family and some people that are wealthy or famous most times gravitate to others they feel are as wealthy and famous as they are so its somehow part of our nature as humans. There are still good oones among us that don't measure people by the size of their pocket and bank account showing that we all are different, I myself I am not an angel and even you yourself so release her in your mind and forge ahead. I understood you loved her very much, someday you will look back and even be thankful it happened and enabled you meet a more wonderful person.
Have you done your youth service yet? Have you found a job to do or are you into business? If you are yet to find work let's see how we can all help about getting you a job so that you can keep busy and move on okay Baby.

Freiburger:
My reason of marrying initially was officialyn[b] FAKE [/b]. But reality knocked at my door when i had my first child. And today I'm happy with my marriage and[b] NO [/b]TURNING BACK.

Ijecs:
Ehn,everything i see here is she did this she did that, some are even saying that she is wicked i won't be suprised if this lady when being called up has a different story to tell.they must be a reason behind the act.

Ivynwa:
Great Lions and Lionesses! Great! (3x) Great-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t

Abeg Man Chinonye. I am sorry about your lost love sweetheart, if she is married that means she is way out of reach and is better forgotten okay Baby. It's going to be alright, infuse all your beautiful energy in making a good life for yourself and you can equally get another Adamma and give her all your love, Life goes on dear. An American musician who was jilted by his lover put in his energy into his career and during his interview after he became a star, he confessed that "His success is his sweetest revenge". You go boy! I wish you all the beautiful success of the world, go out there and do me proud. I bet by the time the lady sees you in the future she will not believe how successful you have become. I am not asking that you decide on a success-revenge-mission and go and overwork yourself or do stuffs to be successful and impress her. Just live your life, chill and work hard for yourself okay Baby and God will surely bless you beyond measure. Lots of hugs to you!

@Mobuch
That was sweet of you to come to the defense of your friend and to let us know the lady that left him. I hereby plead with you on the good spirit that unites all that passed thru our great alma mater that you please quickly remove that lady Ada's picture off Nairaland. I don't know her neither am I defending her, it's not nice showing the world her picture just because she let go of a relationship. We all have our lives to leave, she has chosen her path and the much you can do is comfort Chinonye and encourage him to find his as we are all doing. So do me a great favour sweetheart and do this for me. I hope you are smiling?

@Mobuch
Nnaa, did you really tell Chinonye all these? When did you move from a friend standing by his friend to this one now? Biko no talk to am like that o-o-o. O dika onwere ihe na eme gi n'isi? (Now smile----I am only playing big sister here). I promise to buy you something when you remove Ada's picture okay Baby.

onye_ngbu:
Objectivity abi?

Oga President abeg make sure you jail IBB by any means necessary even if its the last thing you did. That will go a long way in helping your ambition.

SA Lady:
@Poster I am very sorry. I hope you find healing sooner than later. Your story is very touching to be honest. Keep praying sometimes its the only thing we have. You are still young and have an advantage of time on your side, you can still build yourself and find the love you want again. Its hard to forget the first but hey some people come for a season not a lifetime and there's no way of knowing until we reach the end with them.

I wish you true love, joy and prosperity.

Macgreat:
Do you have her # ?

I'm very sure some guys will wanna taste her 'something' since she's good at collecting materials.

Abi?

facibabe:
D bible says luv your neighbor as your self nt more than your self. Instead of u to say to hell wit luv, luv is saying to hell wit u. Sorry bro, that's your exam, u failed study hard or take extra coaching so u can pass d next one. I feel your pain.

akwaowoudo:
Atä ima, ima ke ädo _ (real love).

mobuch:
Kodo of great Unec, why u dey fall hand?
I thought u have moved passed this tragedy.
when we your close friends back then in school were advising you against this bit****chy woman, u kicked us out of your life, now the naughty woman is married with a chubby looking baby boy. Guy, move on man.
Everybody, thats the bi***tch who ruined my guy's life.

amobi waz up,i wonder ow u got to find me here, am suprise ,
wat eva hapen in skul days re ova but i dont tink its wise to post her picture here 4wat eva reason, am couplin bak my life an by GODS grace i wud b great again i belive that, being a poor man today like she claim does not limit my life to succeed ok.
she mite used me an dump me but i belive i waz dumped in a beta side of life so u got that yeye

georgeiyke009:
@Poster: FIRST AND FOREMOST NICE GUYZ FINISH LAST. I will advice u to go skl urself on d psychology of women b4 venturn into any dealings with them. From day 1 till day last, u messed up big time and the end result wuz already a 4gone conclusion.Goin by d way u handled her, she would have left u anyway. Next time, put an aradite on your pocket and feelins/heart until u r rock sure of d way she feels about u.Want to know how REAL MEN handle women?? Checkout d James Bond xters. Personally I play them like a pack of cards.It aint fair but wht da heck? Somebody gotta do it anyway. For a parting shot I would say dt d gal is blameless.U were d cause of all dt has happened to you. U c women r like mirrows or computers : GARBAGE IN, GARBAGE OUT. TIGHT GAME IN, A LOYAL GALFRIEND OUT. It aint rocket science dude.Its an art. Learn it,

freedomfro:
Honestly, I do love my 9jaman. We're both in college, broke. have nothing but each other. We support and make each other laugh, and have AMAZING sex and we plan to live comfortably in a couple of years. My plan is to keep our life simple due to the fact that I know how money can destroy relationships. Money is not an issue, because I support myself, he supports himself, and even after marriage we intend for that to be the rule, until we have children and our whole priorities in life will change because all our money will go toward raising a healthy family. So no, money does not matter when two people love each other and want to build and share a life together. Simple as that.

amy.swet:
its a wonderful story but what a time you keep holding for your lost love if am you i will tell the naughty woman to hell with you,n pick up your picies and start life again,two years is no small joke here but sincerely not all babe are desame. i feel 4 you brother,but the way you sound tell us the truth do u still love this babe after everything

Girl846:
Poster sorry about your predicament.

I dont know what goes on in nigeria today, but over here, girls do not depend on their boyfriends for survival.
Its nice for a boyfriend to pay for dates and buy you presents once in a while, but girls dont expect them to do things like pay for school fees or give her money like she's earning a salary from you.
You were not married to the girl so she's not your total responsibility yet - doesn't she have a family?

True love remains irrespective of any material gain - the person should love you for YOU and not with conditions attached.
You will find a girl that would not be as materialistic, who will love you for who you are - that's the only kind of girl that should be worth your time.
Your ex lost out on a good guy!

james1:
@poster.serve's you right.you were such a dumbhead;when you were showing the gurl all the love and financial recklessness you kept away from people who mean well and could have advised you.
All those time,you did not notice any untoward character in her?you were so in love so much that you blocked out reality and ignored all the warning bell's?
A person that is anything but honest ocassionally make's mistake's that will give them away to the observant eye.people just choose not to see.
Weak man:all those money she is collecting from you she spends on some other guy.because there something you are not doing right and you did not stop to ask yourself.you were madly in love;see the result of loving with your eye's closed?am so mad at you,my finger's are itching to type insult's for you but I won't.

IbrahimB:
Question:

Answer:

You loved excessively and thus paid the price. In your own words, your love for her even rivalled the love you had for God. You were on a dangerous road. You gave her everything she asked for, and when you could no longer deliver, she left you. Some people's wives have deserted them when they ran into a "dry patch". This woman wasn't your wife, so things should be easier to bear. I believe you've learnt your lesson and wouldn't make the same mistake again.

Inked_Nerd:
Yes, "love" or temporary insanity as a I like to call it does matter. But I wouldn't say that money is the most important thing. I'm too independent to just sit around and have a man "take care of me". If we are in a relationship, then it is a partnership we both need to pull our own weight finacially. Even if I make more money than the man or the man isn't making as much as I am, it doesn't mean that he will always be like that. Are we as a couple not supposed to help build one another up? For me, money isn't a deciding factor in a relationship. And I know some of you may tell me that my way of thinking is a utopian way of thinking or that its unrealistic but it works for me. I have been with a guy who didn't have a lot of money, and we were fine. I had no problem with the fct that he couldn't afford certain things. I didn't make me like him any less. He was a good hard working man who was goal oriented and I was able appreciate him for who he was and what he had to offer.