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If it was me,I will pay isale eko boys to beat the hell out of him, kidnap him and go n tie him up under an iroko tree in the igbo irunmolo(the evil forest) simples. Men that cheat are weak besterds. Or put magun(thunderbolt) on him

Hallelujah, after reading sooo many replies on here, i thought I was just being over emotional n being too sensitive, but i can now finally conclude that I am not, because the first son's wife and the 3rd son's wife just called me to complain about the same issue...phew...thanks for all the advice, i have taken the good ones

pslm23, God is your strenght, refugee and fortress. Life goes on no matter what happens. Trust in God that everything hsppens for a reason, and every dissapointment comes when you are about to be appointed by God. I know all these probably sound like garbage right now...but with time the wound will start to heal. Take time out, spend time with the important people in your life e.g. friends and family...

Remember WHAT DOESNT KILL YOU MAKE YOU STRONGER AND IT MAKES YOU A FIGHTER...

pslm23, God is your strenght, refugee and fortress. Life goes on no matter what happens. Trust in God that everything hsppens for a reason, and every dissapointment comes when you are about to be appointed by God. I know all these probably sound like garbage right now...but with time the wound will start to heal. Take time out, spend time with the important people in your life e.g. friends and family...

My own father is not a wimp, he respects people, which i know is a good attribute, and does not just talk tactlessly saying he will slap a married man (with kids)or beat them up...its people like you that are a wimp, what a crazy guy, please abeg do not bring my father into the conversation ooo...

Dede1: If your father is a bloody wimp, I guess you do not expect everybody’s father to be a wimp or a woman's rapper too. The man has every right to talk in any manner he chooses. I sense tendency of a bad wife from your post since you have indicated lack of respect for a man old enough to be your father not the wimpy one.

Thanks to everyone that replied with good advice, God bless you jare, just to clarify to people that assumed we live with my parents in law; we dont...and to also clarify to people that assumed i do not work n just live off my hubby's money; I am a full time working mother and rarely ever ask my hubby for any money...so to all you assumptious people quit assuming the worse in ppl

@ kobojunkie, thats why i posted this, thats why i am asking how to cope with it, he talks to everyone like this, but i find it shockingly annoying and i personally cannot tolerate it any longer, because owo die die laran n fe nau...it means everyone deserves a lil respect for none yoruba speakers

@ mowire, they just keep quiet(and then gossip about it behind him), cos apparently if they don't he will refuse to pay their school fees or will not give the wife any money. the way i was brought up in my own family, my father is a respecter of all n doesnt just talk anyhow to people, so that annoys me that the wife n the other kids cannot defend themselves cos they are solely dependent on him financialy, but since me n my hubby are not depending on him wetin be his problem?

An example of what happened: he sed i hadnt call him, i sed sorry I was at work and being so busy with work (at least we have bills to pay nau) he got angry and started teling me how much do i earn that i am feeling like somebody...

@ 2mch, we do not depend on him for anything as far as I am concern, maybe my husband is now taking stuffs from him behind my back oo, that one i dunno....

I know i probably should not say this as a repectful person, but I cannot contain it any longer as my FIL gets on my last nerves, he really winds me up. His manner of talking and behaviour gets on my last tits, and I feel he is the one running our family instead of my hubby. The man is soo pompous,rude and obnoxious. I knew this before i got married to my hubby but i tought I could handle it, but I cant. I have been trying to ignore him, but i think my hubby is suspecting that something is up, please any advice on how to deal with such people. The man talks just anyhow...the other day he was telling a grown man that he will slap him, i dont get how some people are like this ooo...

YEP, i have done it everytime my son has cold and running nose, it annoys my husband, but it has to be done...

what rubbish! what about we that are carrying the eggs about nko?? without the eggs we have been carrying from birth, what can your stupid sperms do?? nonsense and ingredients, mstcheeeeeeeeeew.... I feel like slapping the originator of this post swear down!!! RUBBISH!

aww, I know the feeling, I had to go back to work when my baby turned 4months and he wouldnt take the bottle, so we bought a beaker.If your baby is refusing bottle, try a beaker, tomme tippee and aventis are the one i bought and they worked particularly well. Foodwise, give him food to hold, e.g. let him hold a banana and instead of chewing his hands, he will chew on the banana. My little one who is a few weeks younger than yours is currently on heinz porridge, which he loves, has it twice a day, so you might wanna try that too. I'm still expressing about 8-9ounces of breastmilk for him when i go to work and i'm planning on breastfeeding until i no longer produce milk...you just have to do it gradually, cos these little people are quiet clever oo, if they know you wanna take breastmilk away from them just like that...ha! thats when they protest more...goodluck with the weaning.

how can you work around too short

olyivy: Because he was waiting for any of your relation to board first.

I do not blame you. You are obviously a mumu just like JEG...

Apparently he died in London...my home town is not far from Iloko we heard he died even before it was announced. Awa aye ma lo kan o si, oba waja! Sun re oo, Oladele Olashore!!!

May i ask why was JEG not on this flight?

Hi everyone, this is to share my good news. I had my wonderful bundle of joy last week. He is sooo gorgeous and i am soooooo besotted i cannot stop looking at his face. Im even enjoying the night feeds n the nappy changing. Thank God hubby wakes up as well to support me during the night. Thanks NL

I got married at 22 and I will say there is no ideal age for marriage as long as you have gone pass that teenage years. Marriage is all about maturity, which sumtyms doesnt actually come till yu are actually married. I must confess that before i got married I didnt act mature where as now I do. N also marriage is about determination and commitment n u have to b able to take sumones shit really.

@ chaircover, wow!!! You must share your life story to go to others as a lesson,cos to be honest with you, nowadays not many woman will stay with a husband that is not buoyant to suffer with them and until things are better.
@ OP, if u dnt turn n toss like me whilst sleeping, let the baby co share with you, if not there wud be family that have had a baby before that can give u a cot, or u can use moses basket, I'm expecting too n have decided to buy just a moses basket that the baby will use till maybe three months so that after that the baby will start co sharing with me.
Buying used clothes for babies is not a bad thing, but I personally won't do it, I will rather buy two/three new clothes n we manage that until he or she grows out of them

chaircover:
Awwwww wishing you a safe delivery 

I hate to tell you this, but its going to be very difficult to make that trip in jan wthout your baby

When you look into that 8 week old baby's face, It wll break your heart to leave him/her behind. You may want to defer your admission until 2013 and I dont mean any of what I am saying in a bad way

@ CC thanks, no one tells you pregnancy is this hard though, I wish someone had told me this the only reason I don't wanna defer my admission is looking at the way things are going in europe, the tuition fees might go up dramatically. I am researching all possible ways to take the baby with me, cos thinking about leaving him or her alone is soo daunting i cry @ the thought, but then again, this is a good opportunity that i really do not want to miss.

2mch:
So how come you are planning to travel for a program when your marriage is so young. Also with a small baby. for a first time mother i advise you stay where you can get a lot of help. Except if the whole family is relocating then its all good. I think its a bit too soon. But your life, your decision. Good luck, and good to hear it all worked out, as risky as it was.

When I applied to the MSc, i ddnt know a baby will be on his/her way, but I'm thinking since copenhagen is not too far away from home, maybe we can still make it work, as the MSc is only a year programme n time flies,

2mch thanks for asking, we got married . And the baby will be here soon, as tiring as it is,

Hello fellow nairalanders, I am going to Copenhagen in January for my MSc, and I would like to know how much the cost of living is over there. Tuition fees apart, how much is rent ~ per month and how much is transportation too, plus I have a small child as well. Please what is the childcare cost over there like? And also thinking if it will be sensible to leave my baby with the grandma until i finish (i really do not wanna leave my baby behind but I don't wanna uproot him from what he is used to). Any useful advice is welcome. Thanks guys!

@ kabukabu, I am using a handheld so can't really quote you. But oh please grow up!!!! Who says you cannot have a career and a family @ the same time?Females that actually think you cannot have boths @ the same time I'm sorry to say lack self discipline that is it! All the Females around me I thank God they are all good role models. They all have a job, a family with minimum of 3 kids each and most of them are still continually refreshing their brains in term of education. In some cases I know they now have 2MSc, so what are yu talking about I'm not saying its not hard, it is, but what comes easy in Life if not for God's grace? Life is definitely what you make it!

kabukabu:
and what if your parents did not "increase financialy" like many thousands of poor families in Nigeria, you would have been recycling bottles and aluminum scraps, or hawking groundnuts in the local market

Let us hear word, typical backward mentality, little wonder so many starving children everywhere because of attitudes like yours

N its attitude like yurs that will make you to be going to parents evening with your walking stick or on your mobility scooter, FYI not only my parents, its all other couples near them then and tbh all of them have strived really hard; by God's grace are financially increase and still increasing today

I reckon men are behind this 'getting married late' as the OP says, most men nowadays are like i wanna have a car, a mansion and the whole wide world before getting married and they expect women to wait for them endlessly. For example, look at all the I want to get married, but is 100k per month enuff to run a family posts, mscheew, . As i clearly remember Rome was not built in a day and in cases of our parents, many of them married young and had nothing when they got married, but as time progresses, they increased financially etc, I can imagine if my parents said he wanted all the wealth of this life before getting married, would i have existed, but I thank God for my parents life today, God has really blessed them,

cute baby

altho me n hubby has separate toothbrushes, but i still use my hubby's toothbrush n he uses mine sometimes too e.g. if we travel n like a num nut i forgot my brush,instead of rushing out to buy a new one i just use his own, no biggie,

I'm just wondering why some employers make things terribly hard for pregnant women in work places e.g concerning their antenatal appointments and maternity leave/pay. For example one of my friend is pregnant she lives in naija n she was only given 2months off (without pay as well!) to go have the baby n then either come back or resign. Another friend who leaves in the UK already secured a job, had a starting date, then when she informed the employer she is pregnant, they said she cannot start the job any longer due to health and safety reasons. Please is anyone facing or has faced such difficulties during their child bearing times, and also, what are womens maternity rights both in naija and the UK.