Iykoto86:
Buhari will keep happening to them forever and ever.

Mckennedy:


The First ship used for slave trade was named JESUS...do your research.

ha ha ha ha ha ha see this one writing pure garbage
i dont believe in jesus just like kanu
he stated the truth but of course black brains wont understand him will you?
lunatic everywhere
who is jesus?
is there J in Hebrew language which the original bible was written with?
how come those that brought Christianity to us used force? turned us to slaves and currently wed gay people in the church in the name of jesus?
until we dump white man Christianity and worship YHWH in the name of YESHUA just like we did in the olden days, until we start observing Saturday Sabbath and not sunday worship, we are not worshiping the true God but the fraud taught us via force by the white bastards who looted Africa dry
nonsense
my goodness me

antibullshit:

You're lucky that most people don't know their rights in nigeria. In some countries you have no right to just throw your wife out of the house unless by court order and if she must go , if you have children she will be likely to be given the house so she can live there with the kids . You would also be required to pay for the kids upkeep and pay her enough money to live at the same standard as when she was married to you. .Similar laws apply in nigeria but most people don't know . Ive seen a case where a man took his wife to court and told the court that he wanted her out so he could be with his girlfriend . That was his biggest mistake . The court ordered him not to go less than 100 metres from the house and to continue to pay the rent for the wife and their 2 kids. He wasn't even allowed to go back to the house to take his clothes . He ended up with whatever the wife chose to give him. This happened in Lagos .

Fahdiga:
But he can't score against Ghana

AntiChristian:


Waoh! Did Jesus too drank it?

AntiChristian:


So alcoholic wine is cool for Christianity. Jesus didn't put 18+.

AntiChristian:


The resurrection and death were false. That's why Israel where it all happened didn't believe it till today.

Jonah was saved alive from the belly of the fish and he never needs to resurrect.

AntiChristian:


The resurrection and death were false. That's why Israel where it all happened didn't believe it till today.

Jonah was saved alive from the belly of the fish and he never needs to resurrect.

lefemmechoclat:
All the people that. I know dont even stay at anyones home due to safety concerns. No one. And again he could have built but dont liento me whole you are actually doing it and 2. Denying me relief from house responsibilities. I am not workingnso your family can enjoy the best of everything. They had a comfortablehome. There are no other siblings. Again no one is saying dont built hut its the betrayal and everyone except me knowing. That meansyou could do anything behind my back. I dont know what to expect. One thing i have never done is do something for anyone and my husband not know. But i really havent had to do for anyone. You see your wife sweating working and you are building mansion. You see me carrying ny kids in run down car but you send car tonnigeria that could be sold to buy me a new one or pay down debt.no its unforgiveable. He prioritizes his parents. I would even ask he pit just 10.00 in his kids acct and he would get so angry...but never faults in sending monthly to his parents.
So you can send money to your parents monthly but you can't out even 10.00 in each kids acct every month?? Why don't they get that same dedication?? I stopped asking.

lefemmechoclat:
[Its not for me. Its for him and his parents.
My name isnt on it. 60k just to maybe go once a year for a week? That wasnt not an emergent thing to do. People stay in hotels to visit and go home. One of my best friends was like no when she and her hubby goes with their kids they stay in a secured hotel. Everyone i know does that. Later it will be another suprise in years time. Then i will be a fool. Again. I would never leave my kids and reture there or anything. I know that now he would love to and that is never for me
For what to party ? To exploit the poor? No im gonna be where my kids are which is the usa. I dont like being lied to i cant take it. To my face every one knew. His family even some friends knew and not me. Meanwhile i am helping you by working so hard so everything osnt on your back. Inregret i didnt say no to his proposal he could have married someone from there who will tolerate anything and not have theie life ruined. I ruined my life and im hurt for it. uote author=ifiokjohn post=111416150]nope. He didn't cheat on you with someone else's. He just built his own house.

You don't expect him when he come visitinf every year he will go to his parents 3, bedroom and stay with you and 4kids plus his other sibling(s). So that Mansion is for him, you and the kids...even if they won't come here to live but definitely they'll come for holiday to see where they come from. To know their culture and people. You don't expect them to come n stay in their grandparents house.
It's disgraceful.

I'm not justifying him not telling you but I'm saying just try to look at things from his point of view too.

Now is the time toe stand strong as a family.

lefemmechoclat:
Good for her. Inam not that woman. He had his cake and ate it to. Sure if it was the other way around he would have sent her packing.i wasnt taught to tolerate cos am a woman.men get beat up in haiti by a womans family if he commitsadultery. I am not building anymore i built and he took the bricks to someone else.

sonmvayina:


Seems you don't understand anything...

You are the type that believe blindly.

Christianity is false, that is my point. There was never any need for Jesus in the old testament.

Christianity originated in Egypt...it started as the worship of Serapis..

Read my thread..

lefemmechoclat:
Ms I understand you. I really do. But communicate with him. Tell him your anger with him. Divorce isn't the option but if divorcing him will bring sanity and joy into your life once more pls by all means do it . But I still stand by my conviction that if you give this marriage a last chance you'll be happy you did.

And about your loan, you and your husband can talk and have a payment plan on how to pay off the loan. You just have to communicate.


It is right you told your parents this... I hope they can also mediate between you both positively.

#DivorceIsNot an option.





You know one thing i live by is what isngood for the goose is good for the gander. Im sure if i was a woman that did this the advice would be different. For this man to literally lie to my face while it's ongoing is something that I s unforgiveable. Its like judas to jesus except b i am human. If he can do that to me knowing all i have donenin this home and for him. He can do anything to fulfill a desirenhe wants damned how i feel. Hard work i have sacrificied for. What i see on this board is similar to in haiti. If a man builds on his famiky land a woman cant inherit or sell it and get the money in case anything happens. That is money gone to his family. Later hisbextended family could take over. Its a sunken cost. We owe over 50k to the IRS. They could literally take our home in the usa if we dkntbpay that off soon and it accrues interest. I helped him get a car and helped him pay it with my credit. It is in nigeria right now being enjoyed. Ye declined to sell it to relieve some household debt. All the work I have done over the years all my money has went into our home. His to others pockets first building another home first. Everyone knew except me that's embarrassing. I would be working 2 jobs and still he couldn't cook the kids food cos that's a woman's job. I am not Tolerating anything. I am doing damage control at this point. He priorities his famiky before me and my kids future. That's painful. I could have remained single and now I have 4 kids to raise. He could in 25nyears say he is going back to Nigeria since all of a sudden he loves his country. If he was this foretelling I would have never married him. But he got what he wanted. I rather cut my losses now.im still young. I don't have time to be worried my husband will eventually go back and to do what It hurts to know that I could've not worked and helped him at all but that was used against me.

I told my parents this morning they were suprised and angry especially my father. That he didn't like I have been working 1 to up to 3 jobs at a time and had to be financial issue and why would he be building a house with me having to work so hard. My husband told me he won't be told he can't take care of his parents. So...
quote author=ifiokjohn post=111406359] I know it's hard for trust to be rebuild but if both of you work towards it...it's can work.
Have seen a woman forgive her husband who cheated on her and broke her trust. But in the long run, she chooses to work on her marriage, forgive her husband and today they're very happy. That trust has been rebuilt.

Your husband has a fault. He cheated on you by not telling you he was building a house. You're his partner in everything and he cheated by lying. Buts it's been two years( I guess he has apologize) now is the time to let it all go. Build a happy home again. You can if you both work on it.
Ask him if he's willing to help in building that home. Let him promise openness this time around..taking you in all his plans weather present or future. .and that you will put as much work on it as he will. NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS. let him know you doing this for your children and for the Love you had/have for him and cause you believe children grow better in a stable home.

Let him know you want to be in all major decision making.. from the money he is sending home to his parents or cousins...if you want him to stop sending money to his cousins except on dire situation then you can agree for him to send.

Marriage is all about understanding, communication, Tolerance and Trust.
I put tolerance there cause your partner will push you to your limit but your ability to Tolerate, smile and push forward helps keeps your marriage. It's both ways by the way.

Then Trust, yes marriage can not exist without trust but even trust can be built after it has been shattered. Though it will take awhile but you both are willing to work on it and from now on be straightforward with each other you can save this marriage and build a better future for yourself(Unity)

Advice him on business plans like the Real Estate and how you guys can setup in the USA.
It's possible. Make him understand it.
You guys can build a more secured future for your family.
I believe in you Guys.
I believe in marriage
I believe in tolerance
I believe in Trust
I believe in understanding
I believe in communication
A marriage can work with all this even without much love.. but where there's love and not all this...it's a recipe for disaster.

My fellow African sister, build your marriage again, your trust, your tolerance, your communication and your understanding again for the sake of your kids and the love you once had/have for him.


HAPPY SUNDAY TO YOU. MAY THE PEACE AND LOVE OF GOD THROUGH CHRIST STRENGTHEN YOU. ENJOY YOUR DAY AND SAY ME HI TO YOUR KIDS.

I'LL LOVE TO TELL YOU CONGRATULATIONS IF YOU DO MAKE IT WORK.

sonmvayina:


I am not a Muslim, neither a Christian..

You have to realize it is just a story. They are not eye witness accounts. The things the authors said happened those living at that time did not experience those thing. No historian wrote about them. Like the tomb being opened and dead bodies coming out or darkness covering the entire earth...
For one, baptism is not a Jewish ritual , it is a Mithrasic practice.
Carefully reading the old testament, will show you that there is no where it says God had a son he was sending as a sin sacrifice, those are pagan ideas. Christianity as a religion is not an offshot of the Jewish religion. That's why there is a tonne of conflict between the old testament and new testament...

They are different religion and Judaism came first....

yahmohy27:

They will never agree to your assertion, you know why?
Is because No crucifixion, No Christianity. So, do you want them to believe you?

lefemmechoclat:
I understand john. But fore apology is nothing if trust isnt there. I habe worked to the bone for his family to benefit..where is my benefit?ibak overworked. If i told my family harsh words would be said..i think if he wanted to reture there spend moeny on my sweat there he shouldve married a nigerian and not used me as a step stone

lefemmechoclat:


Of course but then the re comes a time when you are being used.

lefemmechoclat:
Yes and i cant take anymore surprisesand only GOD knows what thing can be hidden next i prefer to cut myoses now 10 years in. Sorry for ranting but i am not gonna be in debt or in the dark anymore. If a home there or a retirement is so importanthe shouldve been honest and i wouldve told him ti marry a nigerian andhone on my way. I dont do things deceptively to people and expect them to suck it up. No. Wjy would i retire in a 3rd world country? That the average lifespan is 55. When i have all the services here. My parenrs retired at 55. They travel, live life and are free .they have their homes paid off..they dont dare to go back to haiti and be a target and subjected to bad healthcare. I have a special need child and 3 others.i have no business in nugeria that would make me wanna leave here with my kids and live there. My parents didnt go back to haiti many do butmine help me with my kids.

lefemmechoclat:
He should have thought of saving his home. He should have thought of us firstml. He spoiled the home. How many women work 2 jobs for their men to send all rheir extra home and leave them with no savings ro fall back on. That poverty mentality. Im not gonna be guilted into my kids cos he didnt care about them habing 1 dollar for their future.no.

lefemmechoclat:
Have you read my original post? I have 4 kids one is special needs, why would i ever reture in a 3rd world country when my kid may need me. That was never a goal. Yes whats done is done my marriage is unfortunatedone because i was broken and used as a stepping stone. I am holding him accountable and he should have thougjt of his kids when i was working like a dog for 2 years while all these money transfers occurred. I am not gonna think of the kids cos he didnt. He didnt even think of their savings, or my welbeing 7nder all that stress cos all he could think of is a building. Maybe he thought i was a suffering head but no. We are divorcing on my owk initiative and he can think about what he did and enjoy his home there it isnt in my name and it doesnt benefit me or my kids.my swear built that. If yournwife did that to you whole you suffer and hid it am sure that would call for a family meeting.

No he can go. I am not gonna suffer being treated like a workaholic for others to gain. No I deserve more

lefemmechoclat:
Ok but that wasnt a discussion and anyone with good money management will say to pay down debt and have your own money saved for a period before investing.

But that is by the way. I shouldnt be the one working so you can invest as you please without telling me. quote author=ifiokjohn post=111394765]maybe you can have him put most of the property in both your name and his.

Years Real Estates here is not comparable to the US.. nevertheless it'd easier here. For eg with that 60k you can have few units of houses as yours down here in Nigeria but in US ...that's impossible.

lefemmechoclat:
Real estate is not booming there like it is here and you auto lose money as the naira is worth so much less. That is by the way though. You dont invest in debt and why would i give money into something and i have debrlt and my kids need savings? Doesnt make sense. You pay down things first. You he honest first! Also, i would not invest in anything if both are names are not on it its not my country and if something happens that estate his family would just take over . I dont trust it. Seen too many women who their husband died ajd the family takes everything. He should invest when it doesn't mean his wife is working to support it and kids don't have.

lefemmechoclat:

You Americans? Little? Working from 9am to 345a for 2 years with little to show for it while he builds a home without my knowledge isnt little.
Well yes because we don't believe in suffering. Funny you never mentioned how much I have sacrificed for him and worked tirelessly for 2 years cos all that matters is him building a house. Not my kids ,not my own comfort. Not the car I helped him get that someone else is enjoying there or the irs debt he left to accrue interest while he builds a mansion. I worked 16hr days for. None of that matters just a house

lefemmechoclat:


Well apart of that is deception. He did not state he ever wanted to go back or leave to retire there. it was after the marriage he only mentioned building after some years. He carries responsibility to be honest so I can have the option to say no from the beginning
Honestly he should have been more transparent from the beginning I would.have told him to go and marry a Nigerian
I wouldn't ever retire in a 3rd world country and especially with a child with special needs I can't take them there with all the services in the USA. He should keep that mind set what about the child that has higher needs it isn't all about him. It's deceptive to not be forthcoming about these things in the beginning. Ot isn't fair to me or my kids that I work so hard and while he squeezes that amount of money elsewhere. His parents had a comfortable home. I could even see 20 to 30k etc but 60k come on. While I'm working 16 hour days? Come on.

Maybe I should just go ahead with the initiative of divorce as in 20 years I won't be surprised if he says that. I really don't do good with lack of trust cos I am transparent. Marriage can't be just for one person's benefit. I am putting my kids as a priority a country isn't a priority

lefemmechoclat:


Well apart of that is deception. He did not state he ever wanted to go back or leave to retire there. it was after the marriage he only mentioned building after some years. He carries responsibility to be honest so I can have the option to say no from the beginning
Honestly he should have been more transparent from the beginning I would.have told him to go and marry a Nigerian
I wouldn't ever retire in a 3rd world country and especially with a child with special needs I can't take them there with all the services in the USA. He should keep that mind set what about the child that has higher needs it isn't all about him. It's deceptive to not be forthcoming about these things in the beginning. Ot isn't fair to me or my kids that I work so hard and while he squeezes that amount of money elsewhere. His parents had a comfortable home. I could even see 20 to 30k etc but 60k come on. While I'm working 16 hour days? Come on.

Maybe I should just go ahead with the initiative of divorce as in 20 years I won't be surprised if he says that. I really don't do good with lack of trust cos I am transparent. Marriage can't be just for one person's benefit. I am putting my kids as a priority a country isn't a priority

rampantlover:


What will you do if you win, it seems most mumugerians can't comprehend simple English. He said super chickens can never beat Ghana in their backyard. He never said super chickens can't qualify to the world cup. You won't qualify anyways because these donkeys you call players will not hit even one target in Lagos. It will be Tunisia all over again