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Politics / Re: Team New Nigeria Behind Jonathan’s 2027 Campaign Posters In Kano by ify2016: 7:37pm On Dec 05 |
God1000: GEJ cannot control the cabals |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester City Vs Nottingham Forest (3 - 0) On 4th December 2024 by ify2016: 7:13pm On Dec 04 |
Man city will win this. Man U will win or it will end in draw. 2 Likes |
Properties / Re: Olukayode Olusanya, Oak Homes Face Trial Over Alleged ₦152 Million Fraud by ify2016: 10:37am On Dec 03 |
Developers dey everywhere ni o. Nobody is above the law 2 Likes |
Business / Re: ₦50 Electronic Levy Deductions On Transactions Start Across Fintech Platforms by ify2016: 2:33pm On Dec 02 |
jmoore: Ha. Oil dey your head. I don learn new thing 10 Likes |
Business / Re: ₦50 Electronic Levy Deductions On Transactions Start Across Fintech Platforms by ify2016: 2:28pm On Dec 02 |
Have observed it since yesterday on my Palmpay account. élĕyi ló far. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Do You Remember This Electric Boiler by ify2016: 1:55pm On Dec 02 |
Zonefree:Comedians plenty for this nairaland . Una no go kill me with laugh 5 Likes |
Family / Re: Do You Remember This Electric Boiler by ify2016: 1:51pm On Dec 02 |
Homeboiy:You no well aje. You're so funny 1 Like |
Food / Re: 10 Most Expensive Foods In Nigeria For October 2024 by ify2016: 12:39pm On Dec 02 |
Very interesting |
Politics / Re: Tax Reform Bills: I Know You Can Have Your Way – Zulum To Tinubu by ify2016: 12:36pm On Dec 02 |
“We know the power of the president. I’m a system man; I respect him. “If the president wants to use his power to pass the tax bill, he may have his way, but it has its consequences for the people.” They are truly having sleepless night 16 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / 6 MANIPULATIVE Tactics Women Use To CONTROL You by ify2016: 5:38am On Dec 02 |
Women by nature are very manipulative. For ages women have used various weapons to bring great men up or down including the likes of, Solomon, Samson and the rest. However, studies have shown that women possess these tactics when they're faced with challenges and in most cases comes out victorious in such situations. 1. The emotional victim trap She has mastered the art of emotional manipulation by positioning herself as the perpetual victim. Every argument, every disagreement - somehow it always comes back to her pain, her suffering, and how you're responsible for it. It's a subtle but powerful tactic that plays on your empathy. She knows that by presenting herself as the innocent party, you'll feel guilty enough to give in to her demands or neglect your own feelings. It's a method designed to handcuff you emotionally and make you doubt your actions while she quietly pulls the strings. What makes this tactic so effective is the way she encourages you to become her emotional guardian. She doesn't need to ask you directly to do things for her; instead, she creates a narrative in which you feel obliged to meet her needs because she's been through so much. You become the fixer, constantly trying to repair her emotional state while she sits back and reaps the benefits. This is manipulation, but it disguises it as vulnerability, making it hard to spot unless you're really paying attention. 2. The silent treatment Sometimes the most powerful words are the ones you don't say. Women who use the silent treatment know exactly what they're doing. By ceasing to communicate with you and leaving you in the dark, they create a psychological storm that leaves you uncomfortable, uncertain and desperate for a solution. This tactic plays on your natural desire for harmony and stability in relationships. When she falls silent, you begin to question yourself, rethinking every conversation, wondering where you went wrong. It's a deliberate maneuver to take control without uttering a single word. This silence can last for hours, even days, until you go back, trying to make things right - and that's exactly what she wants. The more you try to bridge the gap, the more she takes control of the situation. It's all about making you uncomfortable enough to come to her on her terms, even if she's the one who caused the problem in the first place. You may not realize it, but during these periods of silence, she's waiting for you to take the lead, knowing that every second of silence erodes your trust. 3. The gaslighting technique Gaslighting is one of the most insidious tactics of manipulation. It involves making you doubt your own reality, your own perceptions. She distorts conversations, denies what she has said and manipulates situations so that you question your memory and judgment. You'll begin to wonder if you're the one who's crazy, even though you know deep down that something doesn't add up. This tactic makes you constantly doubt yourself, which gives it the edge in every situation, because you're no longer sure what's real and what's not. The intelligence of gaslighting lies in its subtlety. It doesn't need to lie overtly; it just needs to sow enough doubt. It's in the little comments, the shrugging conversations, the way she brushes off your concerns as if they weren't important. Over time, these little manipulations build up until you're questioning your own sanity, and that's when she wins. Once you've lost confidence in your own mind, she can dictate the reality of the relationship, spinning things in her favor while you struggle to make sense of it all. You'll end up apologizing for things you didn't even do, or accepting blame for situations you know weren't your fault. This is the ultimate goal of gaslighting: to make you doubt yourself to the point of ceding control to it, while believing that it's you who's at fault. The longer the situation goes on, the harder it is to untangle the web of lies and regain your self-esteem. 4. Manipulating your social circle A woman who knows how to manipulate will use your social circle against you. She'll subtly sow doubt and discontent among your friends, family or colleagues, leading them to question your decisions, your character or even your relationship. She may do this under the guise of worry or concern, but her aim is to isolate you from people who might support or validate your point of view. By sowing discord in your network, she weakens your support system, making you more dependent on her for approval and affirmation. She often starts in small ways: mentioning to your friend that you're distant, or hinting to your family that she's worried about your behavior. It's all done with a smile and a soft voice, but the implications are powerful. Over time, you'll notice that your loved ones start to treat you differently, question your decisions, even side with her in times of conflict. And the worst part? You may not realize it until it's too late, because his manipulation is so subtle, so well disguised, that it goes unnoticed. 5. The damsel in distress power play The damsel in distress routine isn't about helplessness, it's about power. Women who use this tactic know that by appearing vulnerable and in need of rescuing, they can trigger your protective instincts. You rush to help her, to solve her problems and, in doing so, you become more invested in her. The more you invest in her, the more weight she carries. It's a classic manipulative tactic that plays on your desire to be the hero, but what you may not realize is that she's orchestrating the whole scenario to her advantage. Every time you rescue her, whether from a financial problem, an emotional crisis or a conflict with someone else, you're not just helping her; you're deepening your emotional and psychological ties with her, and she knows it. The more you help her, the more you feel responsible for her well-being. She's not just playing the victim; she's reinforcing your role as savior and making sure you come back, even if it's at your expense. 6. "You're overreacting" rejection. This is a classic deflection tactic used to invalidate your feelings and prevent you from addressing the real issues. When you express your concerns or frustrations, she's quick to put a stop to them by saying you're overreacting or being too sensitive. The aim is to make you doubt your own emotional reactions, forcing you to repress your feelings to avoid conflict. This keeps the relationship on its terms, as your feelings are never fully acknowledged or taken into account. Over time, this tactic can give you the impression that your emotions don't matter. You begin to internalize the idea that your concerns are irrational and stop bringing them up. This not only gives him greater control over the dynamics of the relationship, but also allows him to silence you, ensuring that any problems are swept under the carpet before they disrupt his control. The longer this goes on, the more power she has over your emotional state. You're trained to minimize your own feelings and prioritize hers, even when your concerns are valid. It's a slow erosion of your emotional autonomy and, by the time you realize it, you're already immersed in a cycle of manipulation where her feelings take precedence over everything else. Copied 2 Likes
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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Liverpool Vs Manchester City (2 - 0) On 1st December 2024 by ify2016: 5:28pm On Dec 01 |
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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Liverpool Vs Manchester City (2 - 0) On 1st December 2024 by ify2016: 5:24pm On Dec 01 |
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Politics / Re: LP Chair Abure Asks Peter Obi, Alex Otti, Aggrieved Members To Return by ify2016: 9:56am On Nov 30 |
Lamidi Apapa nko. Haven't heard about him for a while now |
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: Justin Sun Eats Banana Art He Bought For $6.2M And Reveals How It Tastes by ify2016: 9:41am On Nov 30 |
Awo ni werey. For the purpose of interpretation, what i mean is oyibo people are rich 7 Likes 1 Share |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Can We Speak In The Bathroom? by ify2016: 11:08am On Nov 29 |
Lordbinsmar:Aswear 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Politics / Re: Trucks Ready To Load Products At Port Harcourt Refinery (Video) by ify2016: 4:51pm On Nov 26 |
Yourprick:. Good news. Let the price of Fuel( diesel, kerosene and gas) start coming down. Let there be massive reflection of refineries on the poor masses. Nice one from the administration . |
Politics / Re: LP Rep, Attah Thaddeus Spotted Wearing Cap With Tinubu's Logo by ify2016: 7:55am On Nov 25 |
Cap wey anybody can easily remove and Photoshop. Nigerians are funny. The day i saw my picture standing in the midst of 4 lions was the day i knew computer can lie against you and you would be so speechless. 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Crime / Suspected Smugglers In Ogun Brutalise 3 Informants Who Alerted Nigeria Custom by ify2016: 3:41pm On Nov 19 |
Investigative journalist, Fisayo Soyombo, revealed the disturbing incident on his social media platform on Tuesday, where he raised questions about the security of informants working with the law enforcement service. Three men who reportedly served as informants to the Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) have been apprehended, beaten, and dehumanised by suspected smugglers in the Oja-Odan area of Ogun State. It was gathered that the three men (name withheld) had provided crucial information about smuggling activities to the operatives of Nigeria Customs Service before being targeted by the criminals. Investigative journalist, Fisayo Soyombo, revealed the disturbing incident on his social media platform on Tuesday, where he raised questions about the security of informants working with the law enforcement service. Soyombo expressed concerns over how the identities of the informants — who had provided crucial information to the NCS —were leaked. He challenged the Nigeria Customs Service to explain how the identities of the informants were leaked to the smugglers, leading to the abduction and attack on the informants. According to Soyombo, the three men were involved in alerting Nigeria Customs Service to the smuggled rice and petrol seized by operatives overnight last Tuesday to Wednesday in Oja-Odan. "Can you then explain how the identities of these men who tipped you off about the crime became known to smugglers, consequently earning them the beating of their lives? "What does it say about your supposed anti-smuggling war that tipping you off is no different from tipping smugglers off? He said, "Who are the Customs officers who snitched on their colleagues and on these men? "Will you ever find the thugs who dehumanised and tortured their fellow humans in this manner or will they go scot-free? "Not like we don’t know the answers; there’s a reason I rechristened you the Nigeria Customs Smuggling!," he added. Meanwhile, in the video posted by the investigative journalist, the three men were seen being beaten mercilessly with wood on their heads and other parts of their bodies.https://saharareporters.com/2024/11/19/suspected-smugglers-ogun-brutalise-three-informants-who-alerted-nigeria-customs
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Celebrities / Blessing CEO Mocks Saidaboj As She Was Beaten At Lagos Island by ify2016: 2:20pm On Nov 18 |
Moment Blessed CEO was making mockery of popular tiktok influencer Saidaboj over wrong purchase of bone straight Wig at Lagos Island. Watch the video.https://www.facebook.com/share/v/Hj8mLhkMpUtMjeJo/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TL2uwc7v5_U?si=tCJgXLXH3Xq0SwtX 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Man Wearing Army T-shirt Arrested For Impersonation In Lagos (photos & Video) by ify2016: 9:38am On Nov 18 |
You dey form strong man for wetin you no be. Wearing military or paramilitary uniform as a civilian is a crime. Desist from such act. Body go tell you when you're through with the mending. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Labour Party’s Votes In The Last 5 Governorship Elections Held by ify2016: 9:28am On Nov 18 |
Trouble dey sleep, iyanga go dey wake am ? No be palaba e dey find ? My observation about LP is that they have more national support more than grassroot support. Your indices is wacky. 1 Like 1 Share |
Politics / APC Sweeps Ogun LG Poll, Wins All Chairmanship, Councillorship Seats by ify2016: 12:38am On Nov 18 |
The Chairman of the Ogun State Independent Electoral Commission, Babatunde Osibodu, declared the All Progressives Congress the winner of the Saturday Local Government elections in the state in the early hours of Sunday.https://punchng.com/apc-sweeps-ogun-lg-poll-wins-all-chairmanship-councillorship-seats/ 3 Likes
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Fashion / South Africans React After Chidimma Adetshina Misses Out On The Miss Universe by ify2016: 12:02am On Nov 18 |
South Africans react after Chidimma Adetshina misses out on the Miss Universe 2024 crown #Instablog9jaGists #TrendingStory #Awareness #StayUpdated https://www.facebook.com/100064751497117/posts/pfbid0kyX1PzzApH67DY1efj8p5pjYerAsVSWn9f2BwWChniDzSFiyStfWaWm3CXQSuPrLl/?app=fbl
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Politics / Re: Nigeria’s External Debt May Hit $45bn Before January by ify2016: 12:53pm On Nov 17 |
adenigga:But one of the headlines read " Tinubu Determined To Change Nigeria’s Fortunes – Shettima" |
Fashion / Re: At My Lowest, You Picked Me Up, Adetshina Thanks To Nigerians by ify2016: 12:22pm On Nov 17 |
Large percentage of Enugu women are wife materials. They're So down to earth. Beauty with brain 57 Likes 5 Shares |
Fashion / Re: Nigeria’s Chidimma Adetshina Emerges Second At Miss Universe 2024 by ify2016: 6:55am On Nov 17 |
Congratulations to her. South Africa go rest now. Kilode. They used pressure to remove their own candidate from Miss Universe 280 Likes 22 Shares |
Crime / Re: Bobrisky Sues EFCC, N/Assembly, Demands ₦1.2 Billion, Addresses Leaked Audio by ify2016: 5:30am On Nov 17 |
Trump is waiting for you. That your big mouth go soon put you for another wahala. 9 Likes |
Music/Radio / Re: Wizkid Breaks Record As “kese” Released 24 Hours Ago Surpasses 1.5 Million by ify2016: 9:37pm On Nov 16 |
Naughty boy 150 Likes 4 Shares |
Sports / Re: 27-Year-Old Jake Paul Defeats 58-Year-Old Old Mike Tyson by ify2016: 7:34am On Nov 16 |
Upper cut on agbaya. Lesson learnt.: No do pass yourself. NB: if you know your age bracket is from 40 and above, no go dey throw blow on angry youth because you self go shock about the outcome when your neighbour start gossiping how Daddy Buky or Chukwudi take dropped like pack of sardine. Person never fight since 2005 and suddenly you wan use Gen Z boy shine. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Sports / Re: 27-Year-Old Jake Paul Defeats 58-Year-Old Old Mike Tyson by ify2016: 7:33am On Nov 16 |
Lol |
Travel / Re: A Little Boy Doing Conductor In Ikeja, Lagos(pix,vid) by ify2016: 4:46pm On Nov 15 |
Is normal thing nah for children. You saw a boy repeating a word familiar with the environment where his mother is selling something and you termed it nonsense. Op you supposed collect better koboko 2 Likes |
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