lobus:


This is a tough one. However note below concerns the VO may have;

- You are a single mum, your income isn't very sizable (going by what you said). This does not really represent sufficient ties to Nigeria to make you want to return after delivery.

- Only your husband/partner has the responsibility for catering for you. Your mum's step brother is under no obligation to pay your fees and may as well change his mind. What then happens when he changes his mind? You become stranded and opt for Medicaid?

- What is your travel history?

It is believed by the VO that everyone going to the US does not intend returning, so you must convince them beyond reasonable doubt.

My take:

Be prayerful as your case is quite tight.

Have the sponsor move the money to your account. If possible, he moves Naira to you, convert to USD and put in your dom acct. If it doesn't work out, you can convert back and give him Naira.

Be ready with strong reasons of why you cannot have the baby here in Nigeria.

Be ready to explain your present job function in an interesting way.

Have your burden of proof.

Hopefully you have travel history.

Ok thankyou. But can my partner tender his own statement of account. We are not yet married though so we do not have same surname. Will they ask for proof to show he is my partner? Thank you. I am starting the visa process this Jan so I want to get information I need before I book for an interview. Thnx

Happy holiday everyone. Pls i need to ask a question. My trip to go give birth in the US would be sponsored by my mum's step brother. We all do not have the same surname. Do you think they will accept his statement of account? He has the money as he is wealthy and his children are schooling abroad. So the money in the account would not be a problem but our different names. I am a single mum for now. I work but my money isn't enough oh. Pls advice me.

priscaver:
@ifylicious congrats dear, now God has wiped your humiliation! He works in mysterious ways! You are brave! For people like me I wonder if I would have being able to move on without self condemnation. May the Lord help soft hearts like mine.

It wasn't easy at first. But the support of family and friends kept me going and trusting someday it will get better. Kosisochukwu... that's how it pleases God. God will visit you soon. Amen

Adiahaakwaibom1:
@ lfylicious
Ur pregnancy story is a great one!
Teaches us all when we give in our BEST in d midst of all challenging odds & there never seem to be a break through; it might be God's own way of removing us from a toxic marriage. Am so.....happy 4 u, never met u or seen ur moniker b4 but I feel l do cos a close female friend have exactly d same testimony . And also ur testimony teaches us that d mystery of God's plan in our life is only known 2 HIM! Congrats darling

Tnx dear. Yes God has his reasons for everything. Tnk God he sent me out early not after menopause where I may never get the chance to be a mother. I will rejoice with you all soon on your BFPs

nneejima:
@ ma ifylicious, congratulations dearie. I remembered u now.i wish you healthy & happy journey ahead. God of justice has justified ur case, ttc z not i ll wish my worst enemy, if possible no fail to allow ur ex husband saw ur baby bump.

Tnx dear. God will.visit you soon. Off course he will see with his eye before his wicked mouth will say i bought the baby

fertilewomb:



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I replied ur mail

Redeemed:
@ifylicious/Cionnion, you brought me out from my peeping mode today, I'm shaking my bumbum for you. God be praised in your life, you shall carry to full term and deliver safely in Jesus name.

@all, it is well with our soul in Jesus name.

Make I go back to my siddon look mode, I don cry so tay my head don begin to ache me seriously when AF just showed up yesterday uninformed.
How I wish I could just sleep and wake up tomorrow and realise that this phase is over.
Oh Lord my God, when will you make my weeping come to an end and my morning come? Don't let me loose it completely, I'm just tired!

Redeemed how can i ever forget u. U email ijaw woman's contact to me and sent description though I couldn't make it cos that was wen my marriage broke down. I said no need. Pls cry no more. Your victory is very soon. Ladyguinverse was also helpful with her doctors contact. Couldn't even see that one too. Bought mumihaja ovulation kit. Didn't use it. The day God decides to visit you, it will be like those that dreamt. UR miracle babies are on their way to you. May God wipe ur tears soon and give u double 4 ur shame very soon

Hypraise:
Ifylicious I remember cinone well and how you told us early this year of how your marriage broke up cos of ttc. So all the while it was your dh causing it. See life!
You shall carry to term and deliver safely in Jesus Name . Amen

Loisemm remember how you encouraged us not to let anyone spoil our mood this season. God is still God of wonders and He'll certainly come through for us all

Beginning of d year was like a dream. No fight, no quarrel. Just leave my house. I m tired of this marriage. Called me barren. But God said no. U r not barren. I pray God elevates everyone here to the motherhood status.

afagha:
@ifylicious I celebrate you massively!!!!! See how God did 'shut up' to your enemies! Praaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiiisssssssseeeeeee the Lord!!!! when I read your story I jumped up and down and sharperly keyed into your testimony with one hot bout of prayer.
I'm now positive,even more than ever that with my 4 fibroids, there is nothing impossible for my God to do. I believe when God is ready,he can shift fibroids to one side and allow your LO to be conceived and carried to the 40th week without problems.
MIL started with me since my 3rd month in marriage o. SIL'S too.
I'm just here redirecting all to my God.
I know He alone will take all the glory at the end of the day.

Don't worry. God will rise up for ur sake. They r only challenging God and he will do it for you very soon to shut their mouth

FruitfulRay:
@ifylicious, God has truly vindicated you. Imagine oh, and if he was patient with you, one of his sperm for work oh, Lol, if the babe with him hears, she will leave him fast fast. Its not good to wish one bad oh, but he will feel the same pain and shame you once felt, what u sow you reap.

@Mamitwins, I haven't used m2tone before oh... Maybe you should reduce your dosage of vitb6. Maybe 50mg twice, so the total for a day is 100.

I love you all, God bless you all

Yes o he has. God has a way of paying back evil one has done. So even if we don't wish bad. He will one day get his karma. Tnx 4 rejoicing with me. We will rejoice with you soon

ogunbekun:
Wao. You cant imagine how this your story is sweeting my belle. Can you imagine some men! I am so happy for you. I wish you a H and H and event-free pregnancy.

Tnx dear. God will suprise everyone here very soon.

Ayauche:
Ifylicious: Cionon i remember u well and so happy that God has shown his might to all bad mouthers. Just as he did urs, he will also do ours in Jesus name. Happy bumping Sis.

Tnx dear. God will visit you all soon.

Mamitwins:

@Ifylicious congratulations dear. God will forever shame the devil in your life in Jesus name.

Tnx dear. God is faithful n he will prove himself faithful here again

favouredestiny:
Ifylicious, thank God for ur Bfp after the humiliation. You came out victorious and are a winner. Wishing u safe delivery.

Tnx dear and may God visit you soon

chypoo86500:
I key into your testimony in Jesus name Amen.

Amen so shall it be 4 u and everyone here.

Loisemm:

lolzz at tag even his ancestors.
Na her fiance wey don plan to marry her next year. She shared it on pregnancy thread.

Seriously, women in Nigeria are not having it easy. If its the man with the issue, people will expect the wife to stay n help out till the end. At most they go and adopt.
But if its the woman, nobody go hear word again. She is 'dispensable'. That's callous. Marriage is for life. Children or not.
That's why God chooses to shame them sometimes. Like in this case.
*dancing*

Tnx 4 sharing in my joy may God almighty do same 4 everyone here

mummykyrti:
ifylicious it's possible the fault was with ur ex, his sperm might have been agile but not agile enough for ur body, funny enough I know when everything was apunin u where asking God why, not knowing God was helping you so ul become a mother.
PS: na ur bf preggy u abi sorry 4 my tatafo...tag all his family even his ancestors..but in all please b prayerful

Yes na my bf preggy. We planned marrying next year. All for me to receive this news. Tnk u dear

Wifeysist:
I replied u dear, check your pm

I av replied you. Check ur mail

fertilewomb:
@Ifylicious I feel like giving you a very big hug . A big Congratulations to you. God has vindicated you. He has proven without doubt that you are not barren.

Chai ! Devil ntorrrr!. Pls guide your pregnancy jealously don't let your estranged husband know yet. Kai I'm just imagine the look of shame in his face when he hears that you have put to bed.

Thank you God for this testimony

Tnk u deariee. If u can remember cionon. I used to be active on this thread. Followed all the midnight prayers and the list prayer. I know you too well. Off course I will keep it away from him. Till I give birth. Will even tag all his friends so that he can see it. As he unfriended me on Facebook. God will do it for everybody on his waiting list. I av accepted ur pm

Loisemm:
My people, una thank you o. I am not so angry with her. She is a good woman but what I feel is embarrassment at her continual reference to my age and this feeling that she is subtly threatening the future of my marriage.

Some of my mates and aunties are yet to get married. I married on time to the glory of God and I am still young and fertile by His grace.

When she keeps saying men can reproduce at anytime but women are limited, I undastand but I feel she is also implying another woman will come and take my enemy's place since men are so 'fertile'. Smh. Abeg, I no want to dey hear all that kind talk. Its kind of insulting. We are yet to go for any comprehensive test so we dont even know where the issue is from. I have only done pelvic scan and all came out clear except tiny cyst that doc said may likely be functional cyst that comes with period.
If na her Son get issue nko? (God forbid), Wetin she go talk? No be to go silent and be encouraging me to try.
My mother calls too but doesn't make me feel tensed, afraid or insulted that I dey old. Old for which age?

I no vex cos I know she feels we are not serious on TTC matter but na we know ourself. Her son has urged me to not think about it and not allow myself to be pressured. Yesternyt, I wept when we made love. Imagine. Hubby talked and counselled me. Luv u guys. Take care.

You will smile soon and you won't believe that that's how God works. In my previous marriage, ex husband always threatened me with if he has given another woman the chance by now he would have been a father. I became scared dt any moment he may kick me out. I started running from pillar to post. Spent all my personal money on treatment . Even the ones described here. My family also supported with their own money. Nothing I did pleased him. My words were used against me. December 2015 the marriage came to an end. I moved on. After his mum started pressuring my father and uncles to return bride price since her son is no more interested in the marriage and we returned it in may. Already my neighbour has already told me February 2016 he brought in the babe dt made him divorce me and they are living together up till now. I started dating someone else. I didn't have sex until September of 2016. November/ December i couldn't find my period. Was still going about with work duties. I started falling sick. I said make i jejely do test and it was a BIG FAT POSITIVE. Mean while he has told pple i am barren after the marriage packed up jyst because i told him i had fibriods and wanted to operate on it. but he has been living with a babe since, no show yet. Relax in no time God will do it in ur marriage.

Did I also mention. His mother to will come to the house and be saying her own. I will be crying wen he says somethings. Every month I see my period back then, na so so cry cry that I won't be myself throughout dt day. Depression overtook me. Even with the four fibriods I have, I still conceived.

Wifeysist:
Hello ifylicious I'm an August mama, i want to know how soon I can start processing the visa too, can we talk via mail?

Tnk God I found a teammate here. Ok no problem. I will send you a pm

chibertha:
You can both start now especially if you have not gotten a US visa before so that you can get early appointment and start all the other preparations after your visa is issued.
August looks far but it is not.
My view though.

Tnk u. I appreciate your reply.

Dazzle86:




Wow congrats. God is indeed great, I remember you from ttc thread. We are team mates but you senior me small, I am 5weeks

Awwh. i also remember u. A big congrats to you too. Tnx deariee. My teammate o. Happy bumping.

Blessedmum:

Wow! I remember you am so happy for you. Congrats dear, God will perfect his work in your life.

Tnx deariee. Amen and you too

Itissettled3:
Cionon. I cried when I saw your post. Wowwww. I am extremely happy for you.

I remember you so well.

Congratulations mama. The rejected stone is now the corner stone. Heyyyyy. This life!! !!!

Awhhhh. I remember I once sent a mail to you. Chai tnk u deariee. God has been so good. May God bless you all

Any june- August mama in the house. Looking for who to share apartment with (Houston Texas) when I eventually get my Visa. Pls house how soon can one start the Visa processing? Thanks

iomoge2:


Yipeee....
I love new beginnings.
The God of second chance never fails.
Congratulations dearie....

I can guess why u singled me out.


We r still friends right?
Hugs....

Wishing you h n h 9months.

Yaayyy we are still friends tnx deariee. Hugs too

zaynie:





OMG!!!!!!
God is truly the Greatest!
I remember you! I still thought of you which day!!!!!
I Wish i could hug you right now!
Congrats! Congrats!! Congrats!!!

Shame on the devil and all who thought they could steal your joy

I dont do this anymore for you, abeg siddon on top the golden chair

You made me laugh so hard. Thankyou dearie. e-hugs. I don balance well for the golden chair

mum2bsoon:

Wow congratulations dear, yea i remember u 4rm d ttc thread. So happy 4 u, wishing u hnh 9 months.

Tnk u dear.

nicoleswizzi:

Congrats ooo d God DAT has finally shamed ur enemies will make ur miracle permanent in Jesus name amen!!

Thnx dear.

I am happy to be here. Got my BFP last week. I am a single mom for now as we planned doing wedding by next year. Happy with it as I was labelled barren by ex-husband and chased out. I used to be active on The TTC thread as cionon. De-activated my account cos I was ready to start afresh. I am just 6weeks gone. Its not been easy. Morning sickness and all but I m pushing through. congrats to all preggy mamas. Can see most of my mates from the TTC thread are pregnant while some have given birth. @ iomoge2 congrats