Daboomb:




Thrity years down the line, the "Boys" would have become CEO's of Big Corporations and Presidential Aspirants, the "girls" would have become Actors and nobodys, ....then they would be shouting and accusing the Men of Rape, expecting they be destroyed and jailed or pay them to scurry-away!

Parents need to teach their male child, whats'gwan nowadays!
Dont let any cheap girl put your success and life on a leash from day one.
RAPE is a Weapon of Men's Destruction (WMD).

maybe the opposite, no one knows tomorrow

Peter and Paul haff suffered

Tunagee:


I must confess bro, I was totally abusive with my utterances cos I was usually provoked, and allowed my emotions to overwhelm me. A night before she left, I also scolded her angrily using phrases like ''hate you'' ''your mother killed her stepson'' and
that ''you have mouth odour''. I am 100% guilty of abuse cos of my business not doing well, and also cos she was no longer willing to discuss with me whenever I scolded her abusively. She only used the opportunity to leave since things were equally not picking up. My kinda person, I always say things the way they are, I don't paint blue, black. I always admit when am wrong, and very straightforward. The truth is, I did not have the emotional
intelligence to manage my home. Being a woman too, who could not manage or control her man, she left immaturely.

You told her that her mother killed her stepson and that you hate her? Your bad mouth no be here ooo

Tellemall:


You're verbally abusive and you wonder why she ran away. You even boldly say she's not intelligent. That's why you thought she would be stupid enough to continue taking insults from you. Now she's been intelligent enough to go away, and you're pursuing her and acting like the world is over. She has been through a lot.

Did you know that the best advice to a person who is abused is for the abused to leave the abuser? You're so horrible she had to leave. Process that.

You do not seem to get your problem. You are the problem. It's not her mother who is wise enough to know that an abusive marriage is not a marriage for her daughter . You are verbally abusive. Even if you follow the crooked advice to get another wife, the broom you used to chase your wife away will chase the next one, too. Your wife is there to teach you to be less abusive but you cannot even accept your faults and work on them.

You call yourself a Christian, but your attitude of verbal abuse is not Christ like. The Bible says you should make peace with all men, but your "pastor" told you to ignore your wife and because it is what you are made of you agreed with faulty advice. He's dictating terms for you. If your wife listened to her pastor the way you do, you would call her unintelligent and easily influenced by others, the way you claim her mother is doing. Is that how your uniq6ue brand of Christianity told you to live? Or is it that you have never read your Bible and what it said about living peacefully? Some Christian you are.

As your mother in law told you: go and make some money.

And in addition, learn to stop abusing your wife. That is never intelligent.

Don't mind him, too full of himself... He doesn't know that verbal abuse have the same effect as beating, if not worst.

He claimed the wife was lying against him to his in-law but from the look of things it's not true. He is shocked that his wife could open up to her family about his real character.

Op, you are a Narcissist ...you are the one with a problem . You make excuses of verbally abusing her but capitalize on the fact that she opened up to her family, what exactly do you want, for her to die silently while your unemployed self call her unintelligent and God knows what else you call her.

Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

Please don't tell his teacher except he doesn't change .

Since he sleeps in the same room with you and your wife, hope he does see when you guys make love. He is old enough to sleep in a separate room.

Or you and wifey can use a separate room when you want to make love

xyz123456:


Small Pikin too plenty for Nairaland. I don't cheat and pray never too cos of my Religion but it takes high religion level not to cheat. Women are just too selfish. I demand sex from my wife at leat 3 times every week. Most women cant cope with this rate especailly after giving birth to like 3 kids

Once you help your wife with the kids, she will have more time for you... women loves sex too. I have seen a couple that have sex everyday with more than 6 kids.

Some men expect their wives to work, cook, take care of the kids...etc all by herself and still be ready for sex.

sayoddy:
BS conclusion:
I was praying through each contraction, confessing God's promises. When the contraction was consistent, I told hubby to carry bag to head to hospital. Just then, mil, who was a retired midwife came in. While I was being helped to the door, water broke and I was having urge to push and feeling something between. I was returned back to bed, hubby called doctor and a nurse was sent. (hospital was 10 minutes drive away).
Mil took the delivery before nurse came.
Baby came out at past 9am after a push. Baby weighed 3.5 with no tear. While I didnt have any s*x during this pregnancy, God made a way.
I bless God for this blessing. I was calculating this labour by my previous birth that lasted 36hours but God made this easy for me..

May God visit gtc mothers and easy delivery to everyone.

Shoutout to March2018 and August2018 teams. The Lord has wiped away my tears.

Team June, we are mouthed! Easy delivery to the rest teamies.
Missyblissy bs submitted

God is ever faithful, congratulations dear. May this testimony be permanent.

airprinz:
Your name is Justice, right? You can figure out the last paragraph of your write-ups yourself to avoid unecessary argument with me

Simplep:
,someone like me might die of high bp niyen,cos i hate cheating,why should i be d only one who should be faithful?..
Las las,i won't marry if i don't see a faithful man,yes,that's how i hate being cheated on
@the bolden,i should beg him to cheat on me,wonderful!

Don't mind him, there are still men that respect their partners enough not to cheat. Ask God what you need, He never fails.

Some people just thinks because they lack self control, that everybody lacks it too

airprinz:
Oga, believe me, I know what I'm saying. It's just that you havn't seen many cases of women abandoning their husbands for a side bobo. Women are the most consistent as far as cheating is concern, and the most inconsistent in every relationship.

I am not arguing that some women don't leave their husbands for a side boo, I am saying that some men does it too. Both men and women cheats with emotions and both men and women cheats with their heads. You can't conclude and say men cheats with their heads and women cheats with emotions cos I have seen reverse cases..


I don't know who cheats more by the way

Daeylar:
There is nothing more irritating than Nigerian men who love to speak for Nigerian women on how they think or don't think .
A number of Nigerian men are nothing but misogynistic fools.
Like trapQ said these men who cheat on their wives and then start mistreating their wives and children, refusing to pay for their childs school fees and all that.
Cheating and beating her up or threatening to throw her out of the home if she speaks up? what happened to them in this your inane analysis. You left your fellow men who you should speak for alone. Started speaking for and trashing women and crowned it all with your gender equality trash


Look at the level of stupidity it takes to equate which gender cheats better to the reason why there should or shouldn't be gender equality.

Misogynistic Nairaland men will drop their brains in the trash (where it belongs tbh) take their empty skulls and start typing trash on FP. Then their fellow empty skulls will like and share their bullshit.
295 likes.
Showing that 295 people on nairaland are brain dead.

This is why we need to see who likes a post and we need a block button.
So we can see who makes and likes stupid posts and block accordingly.

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Don't mind them, when a man does it, it's juju, when a woman does it's, she is emotionally.

Toks2008:


Better stay single then.

Don't mind him, there are still men that respect their partners enough not to cheat. Ask God what you need, He never fails.

Some people just thinks because they lack self control, that everybody lacks it too

Xisnin:

That is bonker. It is more of a beer parlor gist school of thought.
Some women keep multiple partners does that mean they love them all?



What relationship are you talking about?
Sexual, financial, emotional?
Any Nigerian have probably seen examples of husbands being "snatched" or
dominated by mistress to the detriment of their family.
Are those men not men?
How come they are showing emotion?

Exactly, the truth is anybody that cheats can be dangerous whether male or female . All these one sex cheats with emotions and another cheats with their head is nonsense

airprinz:
No Bro the same scenario isn't possible with a cheating woman oooo. If a woman cheats in a relationship especially one that is married, it is often very dangerous than in men. It's either she run away, leave you and the children and folow bannana that is knacking her kpekus outside, or she kill you. But man won't do same after accomplishing the cheating, he'll always run back to his family.

I have seen many cases of men abandoning their wives for a side chic. There was this popular case of a woman with twins crying out of how her husband doesn't take care of her and their twins but went ahead to buy a car for his side chic.

It's same for both men and women, if not we won't have prostitutes and runs girls

masseratti:
oh ok my apologies... But the guy still try sha... Better than most others.

True

masseratti:
you must be joking right? Who you epp?

Because they said 3000+ will be selected

bibinwaka:
Lucky to be one of them!

Congratulations dear

Only 1000 names?

Jinoonline:


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I hope this helps. Time is of essence here, if you have more questions feel very free to ask.

Thanks alot, number 3 was the problem

Jinoonline:
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SmilingMary:


This is were I get mad, they keep packaging it like men don't fall victim to same. I am a testimony to that, and I believe women are growing in this act as well.

Like I replied the person you quoted, domestic violence can happen to a man, woman or child. I did not post that picture

it's a pity you went through one, I hope you heal

Elder001:


You said "battered wife" as if that's not enough you placed only pics of women there.

Are women the only ones suffering from domestic violence? Who told you that women don't carry out domestic violence on their husbands?

Read all my posts again, yes domestic violence can happen to a man and can happen to children too

I didn't post the picture, I guess the mods did

hopefulLandlord:


How does this verse you quoted prove the people of Jericho refused the Israelites passing through their city?

Joshua 6: 1
Now Jericho was straitly shut up because of the children of Israel: none went out, and none came in

hopefulLandlord:



SHOW THE BIBLE VERSE THAT SAID THIS!!!
Yahweh doesn't change, he remaineth same forever and ever


If Yahweh tells me to beat my wife, I'd beat her to coma.

Please dear, this post is to heal. I don't get why you sound bitter, does beating someone to coma sound right to you? Domestic violence can happen to a man too

Joshua 6:25
And Joshua saved Rahab the harlot alive, and her father's household, and all that she had; and she dwelleth in Israel even unto this day; because she hid the messengers, which Joshua sent to spy out Jericho

Luke 4 vs 18
The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised,


modified

Joshua 6: 1
Now Jericho was straitly shut up because of the children of Israel: none went out, and none came in

hopefulLandlord:



SHOW THE BIBLE VERSE THAT SAID THIS!!!
Yahweh doesn't change, he remaineth same forever and ever


If Yahweh tells me to beat my wife, I'd beat her to coma.

God can never tell you to beat your wife , He said in Genesis 2 that you are one with her.
Just like He can never tell you to hurt yourself.

modified
Joshua 6: 1
Now Jericho was straitly shut up because of the children of Israel: none went out, and none came in

hopefulLandlord:


"In times of war"? WHAT!!!! can you tell me what the people of Jericho did wrong? what war were they fighting with the Israelites?

about "Children", seems you haven't read the story of Canaanite and Midianite infants

The people of Jericho didn't allow them to pass through their country in order to get to the promised land

I'm talking about Christianity, which came when Jesus Christ sacrificed Himself for our redemption. Christ preached only Love

hopefulLandlord:


The Israelites, David, Moses, Samson, Saul, Joshua etc

Those were the times of war, God sent Christ to bring peace to us


Note: None of them were violent against their own people, partners and children.

hopefulLandlord:


What if Yahweh tells us to carry out violent acts? the bible is filled with such examples

such examples like?

Domestic violence is narrowly defined as an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in intimate relationship. The term domestic violence often brings to mind the concept of the “battered wife” or perhaps a married couple’s verbal argument escalating into physical assault. Domestic violence is also commonly linked to child abuse. Even if the children are not physically injured, watching or hearing a parent being abused can have severe psychological implications.

Domestic violence is about power and control. Though the term violence has physical connotations, domestic violence or abuse can occur in non-physical ways. For instance, abusers may manipulate their victims through emotional or economic means. Verbal abuse and sexual abuse are other forms. A person of any age, gender, socio-economic class, education level, or religion can be impacted by domestic violence.

Domestic abuse can be viewed in terms of a “cycle of violence.” Tension builds; the victim attempts to keep the abuser mollified; but, eventually, an incident occurs. The abuser apologizes and attempts to make it up to the victim, perhaps by promising it will never occur again or by lavishing the victim with gifts. Then comes a period of calm before the tension begins to build again. The stages of this cycle may take only minutes or may develop over years. Without intervention, the periods of “making up” and “calm” often disappear.
Domestic violence is in stark opposition to God’s plan for families.


Genesis 1 and 2 depict marriage as a one-flesh, helping relationship. Ephesians 5:21 talks about mutual submission. Ephesians 5:22–24 explains a wife’s submissiveness to her husband, while verses 25–33 talk about a husband’s self-sacrificial love for his wife. First Peter 3:1–7 gives similar instructions. First Corinthians 7:4 says, “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” The two belong to one another and are called to love one another as Christ loved us. Marriage is an image of Christ and the Church. Domestic violence is a far cry from the character of Jesus.

Domestic violence involving children is also condemned by God. Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” God entrusts parents with children, and those parents are to lovingly care for them and train them up. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (see also Colossians 3:21). Children are to obey their parents (Ephesians 6:1–3), and discipline is important. But discipline is distinctly different from violence and abuse.
Following God involves serving others, not manipulating and controlling them. Jesus told His disciples, “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:26–28). His command to us is to “love one another” (John 13:34). Ephesians 5:1–2 says, “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Christians are called to sacrificially love others, especially those in their own families.

Those who are currently in a domestic violence situation should do everything possible to get out safely. Often, the most dangerous time for a victim of domestic violence is when she or he leaves. Contacting the police may be in order, or there may be other local resources available to help.

When domestic violence is ongoing, safety is the first step.
Even after victims are physically safe and bodily wounds have healed, emotional and psychological scars run deep. Domestic violence can have severe spiritual implications as well. Victims may distrust God. Why would He allow such a thing to happen? Is He trustworthy? Does He really love me? Where was He when I was being abused? Walking through the healing process takes time. The emotional reaction to the situation must come. It is appropriate to express anger over the abuse. If we do not acknowledge the severity of the situation—the anger, the confusion, the hurt, the shame, etc.—we cannot heal from it. Too often, victims are prematurely hurried into forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiveness is the thing that will set a victim free. But true forgiveness cannot be extended if the scars of the abuse are not first acknowledged and dealt with. Victims of domestic violence will likely need the support of a well-trained Christian counselor to journey with them through the healing process.

We should not assume that abusers have no needs other than to stop abusing. There are likely unresolved issues that have led them to become abusive. If an abuser is willing to admit his or her culpability and desires help, there is hope. Again, Christian counseling can be of great value.

Each domestic violence story is different. The situations and people are so diverse that no one article can sufficiently handle the issue.
However, generally speaking, marriage counseling is not an appropriate solution—at least not until all abuse has stopped, both parties have undergone individual counseling, and both parties desire reconciliation. The same would be true for family therapy. Children should never be put into an abusive situation or be expected to remain in one while an abuser learns godly parenting.

Domestic violence hurts the heart of God. He is not unmoved by its victims, nor has He abandoned them. His plan for human relationships—particularly those among family—is a beautiful depiction of who He is. Family is meant to reflect God’s love. It saddens Him when a home turns into a place of pain. God’s desire for those involved with domestic violence—both victims and abusers—is healing and wholeness.

Culled from: https://www.gotquestions.org/domestic-violence.html

wittyt98:
The idiot was probably beaten, scolded for doing something wrong or maybe the boss treats her like shit is why she decided to kill her. Smh

Did you read the news?, according to her she was not treated badly

soberdrunk:
If these two homos get sense, with these pictures their Uk or Us citizenship is 95% certain.......

In this Trump's administration? I doubt