Hmmmm this is really serious, your son learnt that behavior from your housemaid, you and your wife should called both of them, i mean your house maid and son ask them questions, ground your son, let him feel sorry for what he did and send the housemaid away.

Your boy need a Therapist

crazygod:
Dude e be like say u wan spoil d boy. Na naija u dey o not abroad. By the way, how can an 8 year old boy not bath himself

My brother na where the thing start be that. 14 yrs bathing an 8 yr old haba , that's were it all started from it's not even the issue of him watching movies. The girl in question has already reached puberty so why allow her to bath a male child who is already having strong erection when touched .

Freehuman:


This is my story and I'm literally laughing out loud right now.
I can't type everything so I'll give you a summary of my experience and arrange it from number 1 to 13.

1. My Dad is a legal practitioner, now a Judge, and my Mum is a medical practitioner. I'm their first son as well. I do not intend to glorify myself but I'm intelligent. I cheated other pupils during end of term awards as they barely got any of those awards. I considered my most formidable opponents in such award ceremonies as unintelligent. That's the level of my mental ability.

2. When I was five, Dad picked me to his office after school as was the daily tradition, a Law Firm I now preside over, and left me with his secretary. A woman in her mid twenties ,I presume, since she married while I was still in Nursery School. I attended an expensive private school.

3. The secretary took me to the restroom when I requested to ease myself. She took out the most important organ which was needed for the easing and after I urinated she robbed it till it became erect and told me "that's how to charge my battery". She told me it would charge naturally when I see a girl I love. I became fond of her.

4. I returned home and my Mum always had to stay in the hospital some days because of her night schedule. Those days Dad would join her there because she was a resident doctor. We had a maid , she always prepared us (me and my brothers) for school. She always bathed us and after the incidence with my father's secretary my "battery would charge" when she baths me. She was 10 years older than I am. 15-16 years should have been her age that period and she was very brilliant that my parents would later sponsor her university education.

5. She was in her penultimate class in secondary school after she earned the prize of overall best in her class, Mum and Dad praised her. She took me to my Dad's room because she wanted to make bed. That day my parents were at home. She pulled me to herself kissed me and took off her bra and panties. I really fondled her breasts but I was scared of what was revealed when she did let go her panties. She told me to put my finger inside her...... but I thought it was disgusting. I just kept handling her breasts. Till today I love a lady's breasts more than anything and get a little bit scared of the opening within two thighs.

6. This relationship continued for years as my parents sponsored her Tertiary education and gave her more freedom. She taught me how to write poems ,how to draw and how to appreciate nature.


7. She graduated and my parents didn't allow her to go for NYSC . I was in secondary school then. She got a job and now she was more of a Personal Assistant to my mother.

8. Men began giving her gifts and despite everything I still had access to her boobs. I slept in her room for siesta and my parents didn't suspect anything. She changed her clothes before me without wearing anything. We were that close. I still think about it today how she still allowed me to play intimately with her even after she graduated and suitors were after her.

9. She got married, my parents still love her and call her first daughter. A younger doctor Who is a family friend actually married her.

10. When she left, I took to pornography and had my first wet dream. I'm glad I didn't see my semen when she was still around.

11. I excelled in academics and was one of the best graduating students from the faculty of Law.

12. My parents are ministers in the church but I don't even believe in the supernatural. I think religion is a joke despite years of Bible practice from childhood.

13. I'm under 23 and I look forward to being a billionaire by 25. I talked with her this night and she is happy with her marriage and she thinks kids are difficult to raise because she has gotten two now. That's the statement a career woman makes and you know she wants a house keeper to assist her. Everything just flashed into my memory now. So many questions in my space. Will she find a maid who will repeat the cycle? Will she notice it? Will she allow her maid to love her own son the way she loves me? Will she even forgive the maid if the "evitable" happens? Did she even molest me or it was just a strong example of a teenager and kid in love?

I haven't told you guys why I want to be a billionaire. I want to be a billionaire to fulfill my sexual fantasies of having sex in a plane, in a yatch, an underwater boat. I want to be mild in my bondage and discipline escapades, tying that ribbon around the eyes of my wife and thrusting her till she yells to the mounts of Lebanon and beg the forces of the Universe for the permanence of such moments.

A beast was created in me but I have been celibate and intend to remain so till the one comes around.

He should not touch his Young Boy. He knows what adults know and he will never "unknow" it. He should Concentrate on building a young man who will be the head of a corporation or government and lead a good cause for the benefit of our human race.

Oh dear... That ex-maid of yours needs to be jailed. She messed you up.

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

I am sorry about this misfortune. You have not failed as a father. All you need to do henceforth is take charge of your home. You can reshape his life, he is less than 10 years old. He has over 60 years ahead going by our life expectancy.

I don't wish for this kind of exploitation to any child, New parents must put every measure in place to curtail this abnormality. Use every technology to track and deal with them. New parents don't be comfortable with total strangers.

GrabHisBalls:
Before sending the girl away, you should question her. The information you get from her would help in knowing how all this started and from there, you'll definitely know how to approach it. One thing is certain, he's likely to practice whatever he's into now with other kids. Act fast before it's too late.

Hmmm, truly fantastic advice coming from GrabHisBalls

Freehuman:


This is my story and I'm literally laughing out loud right now.
I can't type everything so I'll give you a summary of my experience and arrange it from number 1 to 13.

1. My Dad is a legal practitioner, now a Judge, and my Mum is a medical practitioner. I'm their first son as well. I do not intend to glorify myself but I'm intelligent. I cheated other pupils during end of term awards as they barely got any of those awards. I considered my most formidable opponents in such award ceremonies as unintelligent. That's the level of my mental ability.

2. When I was five, Dad picked me to his office after school as was the daily tradition, a Law Firm I now preside over, and left me with his secretary. A woman in her mid twenties ,I presume, since she married while I was still in Nursery School. I attended an expensive private school.

3. The secretary took me to the restroom when I requested to ease myself. She took out the most important organ which was needed for the easing and after I urinated she robbed it till it became erect and told me "that's how to charge my battery". She told me it would charge naturally when I see a girl I love. I became fond of her.

4. I returned home and my Mum always had to stay in the hospital some days because of her night schedule. Those days Dad would join her there because she was a resident doctor. We had a maid , she always prepared us (me and my brothers) for school. She always bathed us and after the incidence with my father's secretary my "battery would charge" when she baths me. She was 10 years older than I am. 15-16 years should have been her age that period and she was very brilliant that my parents would later sponsor her university education.

5. She was in her penultimate class in secondary school after she earned the prize of overall best in her class, Mum and Dad praised her. She took me to my Dad's room because she wanted to make bed. That day my parents were at home. She pulled me to herself kissed me and took off her bra and panties. I really fondled her breasts but I was scared of what was revealed when she did let go her panties. She told me to put my finger inside her...... but I thought it was disgusting. I just kept handling her breasts. Till today I love a lady's breasts more than anything and get a little bit scared of the opening within two thighs.

6. This relationship continued for years as my parents sponsored her Tertiary education and gave her more freedom. She taught me how to write poems ,how to draw and how to appreciate nature.


7. She graduated and my parents didn't allow her to go for NYSC . I was in secondary school then. She got a job and now she was more of a Personal Assistant to my mother.

8. Men began giving her gifts and despite everything I still had access to her boobs. I slept in her room for siesta and my parents didn't suspect anything. She changed her clothes before me without wearing anything. We were that close. I still think about it today how she still allowed me to play intimately with her even after she graduated and suitors were after her.

9. She got married, my parents still love her and call her first daughter. A younger doctor Who is a family friend actually married her.

10. When she left, I took to pornography and had my first wet dream. I'm glad I didn't see my semen when she was still around.

11. I excelled in academics and was one of the best graduating students from the faculty of Law.

12. My parents are ministers in the church but I don't even believe in the supernatural. I think religion is a joke despite years of Bible practice from childhood.

13. I'm under 23 and I look forward to being a billionaire by 25. I talked with her this night and she is happy with her marriage and she thinks kids are difficult to raise because she has gotten two now. That's the statement a career woman makes and you know she wants a house keeper to assist her. Everything just flashed into my memory now. So many questions in my space. Will she find a maid who will repeat the cycle? Will she notice it? Will she allow her maid to love her own son the way she loves me? Will she even forgive the maid if the "evitable" happens? Did she even molest me or it was just a strong example of a teenager and kid in love?

I haven't told you guys why I want to be a billionaire. I want to be a billionaire to fulfill my sexual fantasies of having sex in a plane, in a yatch, an underwater boat. I want to be mild in my bondage and discipline escapades, tying that ribbon around the eyes of my wife and thrusting her till she yells to the mounts of Lebanon and beg the forces of the Universe for the permanence of such moments.

A beast was created in me but I have been celibate and intend to remain so till the one comes around.

Do not touch your Young Boy. He knows what adults know and he will never "unknow" it. Concentrate on building a young man who will be the head of a corporation or government and lead a good cause for the benefit of our human race.

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I remember when I was alittle boy, one Aunty thought she could enjoy me and escape, turned out I was the freak in the relationship, she created a monster good times

Timih:

She's not... We didn't have maid before.. We just employed this maid because she just gave birth and we just relocated few months ago....our plan is when the baby is old enough, the maid will go.. The maid's work is limited

You employed a child to take care of your child? That is also child abuse, you know? That was your first mistake. I believe the age of the girl has something to do with it.

Spare the rod and spoil the child the child needs serious beating,he won't understand what you are saying now Cox he's not grown probably after beating you can then talk to him and let him know what is wrong

Throw that dog into a Juvenile home.

ImaIma1:


They are quick to say that women are lazy. One person made a comment saying "you married a lazy wife".

My child is also 1 plus. I work on the Island and live on the mainland and I don't have a maid. The reason we are even coping without a maid is because my husband is very hands on and supportive. I can say that for many Nigerian men.

Having a maid is just extra help. People here need to stop shaming people that have one

So true. Most people saying these have no clue, they probably haven't started a family to know how challenging it is. You're blessed to have a husband who understands that raising a kid is both parents' responsibility. Easy for typical Naija people to say "your wife is lazy" etc because they think the woman is a machine and can/should do it all; when they live abroad they'll find out that the mentality is wrong. Whatever will happen will always happen one way or another. A child can be exposed to negative stuff by househelps or not. One can protect a child from househelps and other things they assume is evil but the child could still go out and learn bad stuff whether in school or anywhere else. May God protect us and our kids from evil and grant us wisdom to do our utmost best raising them.

Oga,a 7year old Nigerian kid,that's smart should be able to take his bath,wash plates, sweep his room, dress his bed and dress himself to school or church (he may need the mum to select his wears though).

He's not your nigga as well because he kept secret not just the act you saw.

You saw him in control (in the act), so there's a probability the maid didn't influence him.Be firm and punish your son get needed information from the maid before sending her away.

genq:
I don't mean to gloat over your son's misfortune but this is what happens when a mother leaves the raising of her children to outsiders. Let me guess your wife is too busy to take care of the kids right? Because shes a "modern working class woman".

Go and ask women abroad how they manage to work full time and still raise their own children without househelp. Unlike these ones in Nigeria who after just one child, they can't do chores again. House helps are then put in place to assume the duties of a wife and mother.
Your son is one of many children out there suffering the consequences of these lifestyle choices.

The truth is that most women in Europe and US cannot AFFORD to pay a caregiver $800- $1000/month or $1500 in a creche, so quit sounding like all women living in Nigeria are all LAZY. A number of you will commit suicide if living in Nigeria where work schedule is not flexible for home makers.
@poster, I feel your pain. Let no one push you into explaining how you and your spouse have decided to make things work. A number of valuable suggestions has been given to you here, try them.

Phew!!!
This wan weak me o.
But may I point out that at 7/8yrs he should be able to bath himself.

Ishilove:

Oh dear... That ex-maid of yours needs to be jailed. She messed you up.

the story is very very prevalent in houses with live in maids.
for whatever reason, someone is getting it on with the maid. maybe the master of the house, maybe one of the sons, or maybe maiguard.

someone somewhere said its not a good idea to basically take a young lady and cage her in your house.

Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

I wanted to also chip in about telling his teachers to help you monitor his behavior in school. In fact they should have your contact and from time to time recharge their phones. It helps.

Is maid he or she .I can understood your emotional ..let girl leave before she would cause damages..for DStv those channels you feel not good for your family lock out without the code any one

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

Bro we are in digital age, the things you knew at 20 is what a child knows at 5.

They all know this sex stuff but just pretending, in fact your boy is the one that would have initiated it with the girl trust me.

The things they get to know from school, age group, you can't control what he sees outside, the music video and content they dance to everywhere is all about sex these days

Your boy don dey straff already best thing is to call him guyman to guyman and say I know you go don dey do certain things, just chat with him that you too did certain things when you were his age he would be free and explain the extent.

Then try to make him understand why such would damage his future, explain the future for him.


Trust me their is nothing that can change him now unless he has the understanding that this would damage his life in future

Ishilove:
Kweeeke! Epechime...

Owù āsú!!! dè êlè.

ornicus:


the story is very very prevalent in houses with live in maids.
for whatever reason, someone is getting it on with the maid. maybe the master of the house, maybe one of the sons, or maybe maiguard.

someone somewhere said its not a good idea to basically take a young lady and cage her in your house.

Or maybe the maid came with her "madness". So, whoever introduced her to it, is in wherever she came from.

Stories like this scares me. We didn't have maids growing up, but we had an aunt and the highest she did was beat us A LOT.

When would Nigerians stop using kids as maids? Not is is a case of two kids.

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

Also make sure that you're not careless with your sexual activities with your wife. You said your son is smart. May be the two are just copying you!

You're a bad father. I wonder why no one is saying it. You caught your 7y/o son doing rubbish and couldn't barge in and scold/beat them?

Continue like this and your son will grow up to be the predator in future, raping little girls and preying on them.

If it were your 7y/o daughter who you saw a 14y/o boy molesting would you have kept shut about it? But you do so now because you don't see a problem because it's your male child involved, lol.

If you think not beating kids is working out for westerners and want to emulate them then I really do pity you. You don't know what you're doing to that boy. You wanna give a 7y/o sex education? Lmao. Then what will you do when he turns 13 or 14? At this age all he needs to know is that touching a girl is bad. Fullstop.

Your son is so smart yet he is being bathed by a kid. I was sexually molested at a younger age than your son is currently so I know what I'm saying.

AntiBrutus:


Or maybe the maid came with her "madness". So, whoever introduced her to it, is in wherever she came from.

Stories like this scares me. We didn't have maids growing up, but we had an aunt and the highest she did was beat us A LOT.

When would Nigerians stop using kids as maids? Not is is a case of two kids.

how do you KNOW for sure she did not have anything with any of your brothers?

you may be from a buta background where parents try to hide sex in some way. most of these maids etal are from backgrounds where they have been exposed to sex from day one. a small boy is to put it crudely, a prick totally within their control, and one that will not get them pregnant

Timih:

To beat him is not the issue.. My fear is what has been deposited in him.

oga don't ever try to beat him, you would drive him from you and he would hide to do more.


You can chat him up one or one (no be small pikin e be o forget age) tell him things that were trending when you were his age and what you did with your friends.

Then tell him what you notice is trending with his age now, what they consider as cool, he would tell you everything, if he doesn't just tell him you have already seen him with the maid and didn't tell his mom.


Guy man go open up gist you every, it is then you can make him understand that it would damage his destiny as well as the nice things as benefit when he grows up as a man

Ishilove:

Beating is part of the remedy. It should be part of the rehabilitation process.

onye-UNO. The days of beating are over... parental counselling and a little punishment will do.

God will give you the needed wisdom to handle the issue. The boy is still tender and is still very easy to worked on.

Ishilove:
Kweeeke! Epechime...

Onye Amai

Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

Please don't tell his teacher except he doesn't change .

Since he sleeps in the same room with you and your wife, hope he does see when you guys make love. He is old enough to sleep in a separate room.

Or you and wifey can use a separate room when you want to make love

zeb04:


I will call both of them together and threatened to lock them up if they don’t tell me who taught the other this nonsense. I will embarrass them in the presence of her parent and my partner.

If she taught my child this nonsense, by God, I am beating her ass.

Next I will take them for counseling everyday. Either ways, my child isn’t escaping some serious punishment.

3rd Class mum.