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BUTCHCASSIDY:
Yes o U have to toughen up.
It comes down to what you want
Make it clear what you want from the partnership
If the other partner isnt giving you that then why are you together.. leave. No time dear

Hmm...so what advise would you give those that accept open relationships? You know people accept such for a reason best known to them. Just because it's frowned upon won't stop it. I feel this euphemistically issued advise if for them and not for those in a "defined" relationship. Just my opinion though...

BUTCHCASSIDY:
The way I see it is Ure either in or you're out.
If your man acts indifferent , leave .
Dont cry about lost investment shìt happens

Lol. That's the best option, I agree. If you are tough. The other approach is also cool to me if one isn't tough enough. People simply choose what works for them. A faint-hearted lady/man might choose the second approach to absorb his/her pains, summons the courage then leaves.

SmellingAnus:
yea and I am happy I did... Anyway, will miss you...

Lol. Thank you!

BUTCHCASSIDY:
Funny the same girls who advocate for this will cry foul when the man adopts a similar ideaology

Lol. No one is supporting unfaithfulness here, u know? We think this advise becomes an option when the partner involved especially men, realizes his woman is in love with him or has invested much in the relationship. If he begins to play the "indifference" card. Says he wants an "open" relationship. The lady here who isn't yet ready to move on because of the fear of heartbreak, could go on "casual" dates, just to prepare herself for the inevitable unless her man decides at this point to work on areas threatening their relationship.
I don't know if you get what I'm trying to say here. I don't think this is about "cheating" a partner. I think this is mostly a defense mechanism.

SmellingAnus:
I get you... Seems it's an open relationship, both parties are free to act as they deem fit even if it means withholding information... No p dear.... At least I enjoyed the conversation.... We may bump into each other another time, it's just that I am poor at remembering monikers but not the conversation

Lol. who knows? Me too...you totally understood my view on this. This situations only comes out of bad situations.

SmellingAnus:
hahhaha I dont think you really have to inform him, except he finds out or ask about what you have been up to lately with the opposite sex.... By the way, yes you sound very intelligent and I enjoyed this conversation, will like to know about you and your alternate, I don't mind having you on bbm if you don't as well... But happy to come across you...

Aww...thanks. Well, I enjoyed the conversation too. Lol! I said to tell the partner so as to eliminate terming it "cheating." If he knows what's about to happen and wasn't bothered, then it won't be used against the lady. A man that still wants his woman, would define "things" at this stage at least. That will determine what she does next.
Uhm... can't even remember my bbm, I hardly ever use it... Thanks though for asking.

Frolic:
It's logical but you gaz be smart and honest while at it. Something like being a good evil like you've said ... It's a complex matrix

Thank you! Exactly my point. One needs to be smart about it. Exhibit decorum during this dates...no intimacy. And be honest upfront with the said partner before making such move. This way, it won't be "cheating".

SmellingAnus:
Lol... In am not surprised dear... I perfectly agree with you in this scenario you painted... By the way you sound very intelligent.... It's as if we have communicated with each other before although I know that I have never seen this your moniker prior to our first conversation.... To the matter at hand... In such situations, I will also support the notion that says we shouldn't put all our eggs in one basket... My verdict.... It still amount to a certain degree of cheating although leaving the relationship would have been better but like you said earlier that its not easy to break up with someone when you have invested more in the relationship...

Lol. I'm flattered, thank you. However, I'm not sure whether, we 've communicated before or not, maybe not on this moniker. I'm glad you agree with me on the scenario painted over.

The thing is, if one wants to take this approach, see other people. It would be practical and wise to inform the partner before hand. If he was callous enough to "suggest" an open relationship. He shouldn't be bothered by his girl having dates. This might even make their separation easier. Lol.

SmellingAnus:
occasional dates with potential partners? You mean someone already in a relationship having occasional dates with potential partners?

Lol. Are you surprised? wow! Haven't you ever heard of a relationship where a guy might boldly tell his partner that he wants an "open" relationship? I believe this mostly happens when one of them is undecided while the other is probably very much in love. In a scenario like this, obviously her feelings isn't being considered nor the guy sensitive. I'd approve a girl in such situations going on dates. It would give her the courage to leave her toxic, time wasting current relationship.

Breakups aren't easy for anyone who has invested more in a relationship, u know? I think at this point leaving her options open is her best option.

SmellingAnus:
egg simply means your investment.... It could be your relationship... For example, putting all your eggs in one basket means that you don't have an alternative, you are not double dating, you only have one guy/lover/fuckmate etc

That's an apt explanation. But having occasional dates with potential partners...would that be lumped together as not having one "lover?" Must intimacy be involved while "dating?"

QueenSuccubus:
What's the meaning of the eggs OP was talking about?

This idiom seems so deep to understand..

Lol. All eggs in a basket in this context simply means staying with your man/lady whether the relationship is heading somewhere or not. Not putting your eggs in one basket is leaving your options open, especially in an " undefined" (open) relationship.

Davash222:
Seriously for. Do unto others before they do unto thee.

Lol. I take it you believe this advise is a realistic and good approach to relationships? At what point in your relationship would you consider this approach?

michaelwilli:
If e no sweet u again, brk up

Funny...it happens, you know? People do move on from dead end relationship even though they still love their partner. I guess what I'm saying is- these are defensive means to cushion heartbreaks. No one will contemplate moving on or going on other dates if his/her relationship is topnotch solid.

michaelwilli:
Seriously against. Do unto others what you want them to do unto you

what if the relationship hasn't been defined and the girl has been in it for over a year. would you advice her to stay put /breakup or accept other dates?

Goodday nairalanders...

This advise has been constantly dished out by the relationship experts, especially to the ladies most time due to age not being on our side. what's your view on this euphemistically issued advice?

Here's my thought on this- http://kareninspirational.com/2017/03/23/all-eggs-in-one-…u-for-or-against/

SBG04:
This is the point so many people are missing and its because you guys have refused to read!
Suleiman's spokesperson said they paid money to the girl several times between 2015 and now. It wasn't just a one off thing. The spokesperson said Suleiman helped her start a business to keep her off her supposed strip dancing job. There was a constant stream of cash from Suleiman!

Damning evidence, if true. For such law firm to pick interest in such case, the evidence in their possession could be overwhelming.

I hope I'm wrong...

kjhova:
Pay heed to the facts known so far:

1) One Miss Stephanie Otobo (f) is arrested by men of the Federal Criminal Investigations Department (FCID), Alagbon, for attempting to withdraw funds, believed to be proceeds of blackmail, from her account.

2) Festus Keyamo chambers issue a plea to the office of the IGP on behalf of this Stephanie Otobo (f) against one Apostle Johnson Suleiman (m) who is believed to have instigated Miss staphanie's arrest in order to silence her from revealing their existing raunchy relationship.

2) Apostle Suleiman's surrogates release a statement accussing the said Miss Otobo of attempted blackmail and terrorism affiliations.

3) Miss Otobo supposedly issue a statement to the police distancing herself from Festus Keyamo and declaring that she has no relationship of any type with Apostle Suleiman.

4) Sahara Reporters, an online publication, release a follow up story suggesting that they have more incriminating evidence (photos, bank receipts, short messages, 3rd parties) and shall release these in due course.

My take:

Pastor Suleiman has a huge storm in his barn yard and this is not going to go away easily. He needs Jesus now more than he has ever needed him. Above all, he needs a good lawyer quickly!

You just said my mind, especially your last paragraph. I followed it from d beginning too. This doesn't look good at all.
whomever brought the idea of paying some money into the said lady's account just escalated d whole thing. Sadly this won't go away easily.

May God help him if he's innocent.

Emzyme:
Jeez I got her back, I have been having double mindset about her now... been having sex like mad
I dunno, but these thoughts keep running through my head ...
If I could really trust her again, I kinda of hate her now
I read the chats btw her nd d guy n question
See chats xrated stuffs ... d guy don even chop wella sef
Come leave chaff for me ...

She didn't cheat on you. she moved on, yet in your selfishness you went back for her. what were you thinking? That she won't find someone else or will turn celibate?
If you can't move pass these images of her with this other guy in your " over active" mind. Let the girl be. Don't waste her time.

ladyF:
Lol... You don't miss her.

It just pains you that she's found someone else.

That's the naked truth.

ikbnice:
Here's my answer...

Lol. Are you speaking from experience or just something you read? Experience will open your eyes, u know...? I'm speaking from personal experience and my observations though.

A lot has been said over the years about this issue. There are some with unflinching stands on this issue. Some see the needs while others can't fathom why anyone will choose the opposite sex as best friend instead of his or her kind.

Well.. it's an interesting topic for discussion. what's your view? here's mine; http://kareninspirational.com/2016/12/23/platonic-friends…-possible-or-not/

Ladies, we are all born with intuition, instinct. Obey your Instincts while in a relationship. If your gut tells you, your current relationship is a total waste of time...
This is what to do...
http://kareninspirational.com/2016/06/20/follow-your-instincts-ladies/

GadgetsR:
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Amastermovic:
what do meant by ad control.. if am right ad placement via adsense and other ads services or u shed more light

from what I can see here ur blog is hosted for free on
U can move ur content and others to WordPress. org using hosting...
..
whatsapp me with this for me to explain better or get u better.. do you have a domain x

Ok. I will. On . WordPress apparently controls adverts placement on a purchased domain. In a situation where one uses free WordPress blog. They will still place ads of their choice but the site owner gets nothing from these ads till he/she either gets a premium or business WordPress plan, paid yearly by the blogger.

So I was hoping someone will suggest on which of their plans to upgrade to.

Amastermovic:
get a plan from domainking.ng it's what I am using so I recommend very cheap and u pay in naira if you don't know how to go about it just mail me I will set it up for u free like I said.. but u pay for the hosting on ur side but setting it up I might help visit my blog http://naijalane.com.ng

Thanks for this advice. I'm confused though, if I get a plan from domainking.ng, will I still not need to upgrade to either premium or business plan on WordPress. com? Throw more light please. I really want to retain the current blog but purchase a domain name via WordPress.
I'm hoping those that use WordPress can tell me which of the plans I should upgrade to, to be qualified to apply for Ad control.
Thanks a lot, I will check out your site

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Doubleoo:
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You have access to themes in via WordPress.org. You can blog without purchasing a domain name or hosting account with the help of .
If you hear people comparing WordPress and blogger, they are actually comparing and Google blogger.

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